King44:
our kids bawo.... The uneducated pipu in the north and Niger are joining boko don't lump us together besides they are one of the reasons why we are backward, check every federal job positions they are there dominating and their goal steal the country blind and flex the power.

Whether you flog or not a child who would bring shame and dishonor to his or her family will surely do so it's a matter of time...

I would go with you last sentence... you say whether you flog your kid or not, he would be what he would be right? So why flog? Why the domestic violence? Flogging is a sign of a weak parent who has no control over his kids without the show of brutal force. When would africa grow pass that?

Tcwork:

I would go with you last sentence... you say whether you flog your kid or not, he would be what he would be right? So why flog? Why the domestic violence? Flogging is a sign of a weak parent who has no control over his kids without the show of brutal force. When would africa grow pass that?

flogging is not domestic violence, there is difference between discipline and domestic violence... Nowadays, we seems to have different English words to condemn things we feel are wrong.... Am I an African man I can use both the two ways of disciplinary when needed.... Do much talking and little bit of flogging when needed or astray... As long as it instill some sense I am cool.

King44:
flogging is not domestic violence, there is difference between discipline and domestic violence... Nowadays, we seems to have different English words to condemn things we feel are wrong.... Am I an African man I can use both the two ways of disciplinary when needed.... Do much talking and little bit of flogging when needed or astray... As long as it instill some sense I am cool.

First domestic violence has a simple meaning, 'Violence committed at home' This isn't controversial. Now I wouldn't teach you how to raise your children but then you shouldn't condemn how the British raise their kids like you did in your first post. Again you have refused to show me how Africans end up better from the beatings they get or how beating helps a child to get better.
The whites are so advanced, they don't even beat their cattle the way our fulanis do.
So are we saying a cattle in the UK is better than a kid in Nigeria? Think about it.

Tcwork:

First domestic violence has a simple meaning, 'Violence committed at home' This isn't controversial. Now I wouldn't teach you how to raise your children but then you shouldn't condemn how the British raise their kids like you did in your first post. Again you have refused to show me how Africans end up better from the beatings they get or how beating helps a child to get better.
The whites are so advanced, they don't even beat their cattle the way our fulanis do.
So are we saying a cattle in the UK is better than a kid in Nigeria? Think about it.

you with this your white superiority mentality sha...

Have you tried to ask your dad or mom how they were raised and they ended up a better person?

King44:
you with this your white superiority mentality sha...

Have you tried to ask your dad or mom how they were raised and they ended up a better person?

This isn't about mentality. I am a practical person. I go for results.
How do you expect me to raise my kids the same way my grandparents raised my parents. If after 2 generations, I still depend on my grandparents methods it means I have not learnt anything. We should be better than our grandparents and our parents, that is called growth.

Tcwork:

This isn't about mentality. I am a practical person. I go for results.
How do you expect me to raise my kids the same way my grandparents raised my parents. If after 2 generations, I still depend on my grandparents methods it means I have not learnt anything. We should be better than our grandparents and our parents, that is called growth.

a simple question you left unanswered.... How were they raised? How did their life turned out at the end? Do you think the method used while raising them has a negative effect on them your life? Until you answer these questions truthfully, I am done arguing.

King44:
a simple question you left unanswered.... How were they raised? How did their life turned out at the end? Do you think the method used while raising them has a negative effect on them your life? Until you answer these questions truthfully, I am done arguing.

In social sciences we begin by looking at a group not individual. I have made it a point not to answer personal questions on public forums. I believe it is basically unwise to do so. I won't be able to tell you how I was raised. But yes the negative effects of domestic violence can be seen all through africa.
We have a greater tolerance for violence. That is why we can burn suspected thieves in a market and everyone things it's fun.
We also have greater fear of the law and people in power. After a child has been tortured by his parents, he doesn't see why police should not harass him. We have been taught to accept pain.
We have also become a lot more wicked. And domestic violence has continued to grow.
You expect you child not to beat his wife but you beat him everyday, it does not work that way.
Like I said I can't teach you how to run your family but comparing the evil africa to the UK system is like comparing darkness to light.