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Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by wahoom(m): 2:39pm On Jan 22, 2021
Hi Fellow Nairalanders,

I have been trusting God for a spouse for a while now. I have prayed and fasted and even did all that is expected of me but unfortunately haven't been that lucky in relationships.

However, on the 1st of January, 2020,, I fell into a short trance where i saw myself with a lady in a thanksgivings procession in church. In that trance i felt an unspeakable joy and supernatural peace which lasted hours after the trance.

The lady in question was someone i met online but we had only met once prior to that time, however, we are very close as we chat almost every other day and had got to know a lot about each other online.

I wasn't too comfortable with the trance i had as i wasn't the physically attracted to the lady.

In April 2020, I had a dream where the lady visited me in my family house and my parents and siblings bonded well with her and in that dream my mum said quite a lot of postives about her and I also had that same supernatural peace I had in the trance even hours after waking up from sleep.

So, I started working on my emotions to like and accept her but each time i tried I hate her the more.

Recently, I told my mum about her and she said exactly everything she told me in the dream in verbatim. I was quite shocked and felt it could be divine and that got me working seriously through prayers and also trying to adjust my emotions to accommodate her but each time I see her, I just have hatred for her as I'm not in anyway attracted to her. I'm not feeling her, no excitement, no butterflies in the stomach, no longings to hang out with her, not even sexual attractions, everything is just flat.

So, I eventually decided to withdraw from her even though i felt there's this divine compulsion or better still divine leading that she's my wife.

Folks, please i need your help here.

Hence, this question, CAN GOD LEAD YOU TO MARRY SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE OR ATTEACTED TO?
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by EmmaNuella77(f): 2:43pm On Jan 22, 2021
Aw,
I feel for you.

I think you should take it to God in prayers.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Bola146(f): 2:49pm On Jan 22, 2021
Never sad I can't. But continue praying, she might have some spiritual attack that is delaying her to get someone to love and marry her.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by EmmaNuella77(f): 2:58pm On Jan 22, 2021
Bola146:
Never sad I can't. But continue praying, she might have some spiritual attack that is delaying her to get someone to love and marry her.

Well, true tho.
I don't think it has gotten to the extent of spiritual attack. She's just not his spec and doesn't even come close for him to not feel anything at all towards her.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by slawormiir: 3:03pm On Jan 22, 2021
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Blabbermouth: 3:26pm On Jan 22, 2021
wahoom:

Folks, please i need your help here.

Hence, this question, CAN GOD LEAD YOU TO MARRY SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE OR ATTEACTED TO?
If you are talking about YHWH, the God of Isreal, then the answer is NO.
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by mamaafrik(m): 3:34pm On Jan 22, 2021
God ways are not our ways,he chose the stammering Moses instead of Any eloquent one,he asked Prophet Hosea to marry an harlot,Ayo babalola refused to marry God chosen plan,who was said to be a mentally challenged woman that God used him to heal,he didn't like her and listened to The church elders who thought like "how can a whole you marry a heal madwoman", they found him a "good in the eye "woman who later became a witch and cut short his Great life mission,I will advice that you seek 3-4 Genuine men of God for confirmation,if it tallies,please forget spec,he may be seeing your future And averting you a misstep,Shalom

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Kapilta(m): 3:52pm On Jan 22, 2021
Yinmu. Trance ko, Trace TV ni. Life is for living, live it. I don't know who decieved you lots to keep disturbing God for everything. Na people like you dey turn atheist and then hate God for no reason. If God wants you to live solely on Him, He prolly won't give you brain.

Later now, after you eventually marry that lady you so much hate now just because you've seen her in some Trace musik TV and the marriage fail then God takes the blame and then you'll thus hate Him for no cause.

Stop disturbing God. Life is for living, live it and God is to be worshipped, worship.

Stop watching Trance tv and go get yourself a good woman to marry. Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and rest found their own wives. Go find yours. Trance tv is only in your head.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by wahoom(m): 3:59pm On Jan 22, 2021
Kapilta:
Yinmu. Trance ko, Trace TV ni. Life is for living, live it. I don't know who decieved you lots to keep disturbing God for everything. Na people like you dey turn atheist and then hate God for no reason. If God wants you to live solely on Him, He prolly won't give you brain...

They have come
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by IamRichards: 4:05pm On Jan 22, 2021
How do God talk?
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Kapilta(m): 4:06pm On Jan 22, 2021
wahoom:


They have come
Come from where. I'm only trying to save a believer here from becoming an atheist. Many of them in religion section started this way. From believing God owe them the world to wanting God to live their life for 'em. When they eventually wake up to reality, they'd be like God is this, God is that bla bla bla, before you know they be like God doesn't exist.
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by kalu61(m): 4:35pm On Jan 22, 2021
grin
Man and Religion

If you don't marry her and things goes south in the future. You cry had l know.

If you marry her and things still goes south, you blame God.

If you don't marry her and things goes well, you praise yourself or God

My friend, list your priorities in a woman, go for it and face the consequences.

Life will not always be juicy.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Ajibade123(m): 5:14pm On Jan 22, 2021
Trance KO track ni mtcheeew
Say no to being broke this year let me show you how you can make money with your mobile phone. Check my signature for my WhatsApp contact
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Sonnobax15(m): 5:18pm On Jan 22, 2021
shocked


The truth may always be bitter but I will always ensure I call a spade a spade even at the expense of my life...

You can feel free and call me a pagan anytime any day because I don't pretend to be a church goer,but please don't doubt me should I say I believe in the existence of a supernatural being called *God*....And whatever he says I should do,that I'll always do, Including the fact that when he chooses a partner for me,who am I to question him ?
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by elmagnifico411(m): 5:28pm On Jan 22, 2021
If everything you've written in your story is true, I think u should continue chatting with her and later bring her home to your mom. See ehn, God cannot be wrong lailai. Wateva He's done stays forever. If truly you've encountered Him like u said, I'd advice u trust him with everything. One thing I'm sure of is, the love, attraction, peace of mind, physical attractions and the rest, would walk in eventually. Remember He knows best? Don't loose this Bruv, you don't wanna be sorry all your life. Just keep praying (mostly thanking Him for what He's done) and trusting Him. You'd laugh well in d end.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by elmagnifico411(m): 5:34pm On Jan 22, 2021
Isaac did not find his own wife, Abraham asked one his workers to go find him a wife and it worked out eventually. Let the young man be.
Kapilta:
Yinmu. Trance ko, Trace TV ni. Life is for living, live it. I don't know who decieved you lots to keep disturbing God for everything. Na people like you dey turn atheist and then hate God for no reason. If God wants you to live solely on Him, He prolly won't give you brain.

Later now, after you eventually marry that lady you so much hate now just because you've seen her in some Trace musik TV and the marriage fail then God takes the blame and then you'll thus hate Him for no cause.

Stop disturbing God. Life is for living, live it and God is to be worshipped, worship.

Stop watching Trance tv and go get yourself a good woman to marry. Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and rest found their own wives. Go find yours. Trance tv is only in your head.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by baralatie(m): 5:38pm On Jan 22, 2021
God said he that find a wife and he said
he that seek shall find
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by extol1(m): 5:50pm On Jan 22, 2021
op, the last time God gave man a wife was the era of Adam and Eve. even God regretted giving him wife because he was trying to blame God for his misdeeds.
oga, forget that trance and go look for your wife, it is in the place of searching that God show you that this is your wife. haven't you wonder why Bible says he who finds a wife, in essence there is a doing

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by baralatie(m): 5:50pm On Jan 22, 2021
wahoom:
Hi Fellow Nairalanders,

I have been trusting God for a spouse for a while now. I have prayed and fasted and even did all that is expected of me but unfortunately haven't been that lucky in relationships.

However, on the[b] 1st of January, 2020,, I fell into a short trance where i saw myself with a lady in a thanksgivings procession in church[/b] . In that trance i felt an unspeakable joy and supernatural peace which lasted hours after the trance.

The[b] lady in question was someone i met online [/b] but we had only met once prior to that time, however, we are very close as we chat almost every other day and had got to know a lot about each other online.

I wasn't too comfortable with the trance i had as i wasn't the physically attracted to the lady.

In April 2020, I had a dream where the lady visited me in my family house and my parents and siblings bonded well with her and in that dream my mum said quite a lot of postives about her and I also had that same supernatural peace I had in the trance even hours after waking up from sleep.

So, I started working on my emotions to like and accept her but each time i tried I hate her the more.

Recently, I told my mum about her and she said exactly everything she told me in the dream in verbatim. I was quite shocked and felt it could be divine and that got me working seriously through prayers and also trying to adjust my emotions to accommodate her but each time I see her, I just have hatred for her as I'm not in anyway attracted to her. I'm not feeling her, no excitement, no butterflies in the stomach, no longings to hang out with her, not even sexual attractions, everything is just flat.

So, I eventually decided to withdraw from her even though i felt there's this divine compulsion or better still divine leading that she's my wife.

Folks, please i need your help here.

Hence, this question, CAN GOD LEAD YOU TO MARRY SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE OR ATTEACTED TO?
so you did prayer and fasting for church for wife

All the girls for choir,ushering,hospitality,evangelism,youth camp,holy ghost night no enter ya eye?

Na for online where olosho ya kpa like water your spirit lead you.okay!

in the bible ,samson had the same delima there was no girl sexy enough in the whole 12 tribes of israel.he found love in the valley residence of delilah.

so as you see am take am like that
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by mogbolade43693: 6:11pm On Jan 22, 2021
Aw,I feel for you.I think you should take it to God in prayers.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Derare(f): 6:14pm On Jan 22, 2021
wahoom:
Hi Fellow Nairalanders,

I have been trusting God for a spouse for a while now. I have prayed and fasted and even did all that is expected of me but unfortunately haven't been that lucky in relationships.

However, on the 1st of January, 2020,, I fell into a short trance where i saw myself with a lady in a thanksgivings procession in church. In that trance i felt an unspeakable joy and supernatural peace which lasted hours after the trance.

The lady in question was someone i met online but we had only met once prior to that time, however, we are very close as we chat almost every other day and had got to know a lot about each other online.

I wasn't too comfortable with the trance i had as i wasn't the physically attracted to the lady.

In April 2020, I had a dream where the lady visited me in my family house and my parents and siblings bonded well with her and in that dream my mum said quite a lot of postives about her and I also had that same supernatural peace I had in the trance even hours after waking up from sleep.

So, I started working on my emotions to like and accept her but each time i tried I hate her the more.

Recently, I told my mum about her and she said exactly everything she told me in the dream in verbatim. I was quite shocked and felt it could be divine and that got me working seriously through prayers and also trying to adjust my emotions to accommodate her but each time I see her, I just have hatred for her as I'm not in anyway attracted to her. I'm not feeling her, no excitement, no butterflies in the stomach, no longings to hang out with her, not even sexual attractions, everything is just flat.

So, I eventually decided to withdraw from her even though i felt there's this divine compulsion or better still divine leading that she's my wife.

Folks, please i need your help here.

Hence, this question, CAN GOD LEAD YOU TO MARRY SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE OR ATTEACTED TO?
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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Mikester(m): 6:38pm On Jan 22, 2021
Well, the brain cannot create faces so everyone you see in your dream are certainly people you've met in reality. I'm not saying that you haven't encountered God. Don't get me wrong. Dreams and visions are still ways God speaks to people but not all dreams are real. Just because you see one in the dream doesn't make them actual. Sometimes dreams come from our mere thoughts, feelings or moments. I'm just saying.
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Nobody: 6:54pm On Jan 22, 2021
Mikester:
Well, the brain cannot create faces so everyone you see in your dream are certainly people you've met in reality. I'm not saying that you haven't encountered God. Don't get me wrong. Dreams and visions are still ways God speaks to people but not all dreams are real. Just because you see one in the dream doesn't make them actual. Sometimes dreams come from our mere thoughts, feelings or moments. I'm just saying.
guy I need ur assistance pls
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Mikester(m): 7:01pm On Jan 22, 2021
SmellySperm:
guy I need ur assistance pls
Name it...
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Nobody: 7:03pm On Jan 22, 2021
Mikester:

Name it...
I'm on zeros rytnow,no hope of survival for the weekend, before i came up bold to ask for help i really need it pls namie
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Mikester(m): 7:08pm On Jan 22, 2021
SmellySperm:

I'm on zeros rytnow,no hope of survival for the weekend, before i came up bold to ask for help i really need it pls namie
Don't take this personal but.. Quit this habit. It's not cool


P. S. - I've known you before on this forum. Don't want to get into details
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Nobody: 7:11pm On Jan 22, 2021
Mikester:

Don't take this personal but.. Quit this habit. It's not cool


P. S. - I've known you before on this forum. Don't want to get into details
i don't do this on purpose but it's ok if u think I do it on purpose... thanks anyways
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Mikester(m): 7:13pm On Jan 22, 2021
SmellySperm:

i don't do this on purpose but it's ok if u think I do it on purpose... thanks anyways
You're welcome. Stay put
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by Adeesther56(f): 7:49pm On Jan 22, 2021
wahoom:
Hi Fellow Nairalanders,

I have been trusting God for a spouse for a while now. I have prayed and fasted and even did all that is expected of me but unfortunately haven't been that lucky in relationships.

However, on the 1st of January, 2020,, I fell into a short trance where i saw myself with a lady in a thanksgivings procession in church. In that trance i felt an unspeakable joy and supernatural peace which lasted hours after the trance.

The lady in question was someone i met online but we had only met once prior to that time, however, we are very close as we chat almost every other day and had got to know a lot about each other online.

I wasn't too comfortable with the trance i had as i wasn't the physically attracted to the lady.

In April 2020, I had a dream where the lady visited me in my family house and my parents and siblings bonded well with her and in that dream my mum said quite a lot of postives about her and I also had that same supernatural peace I had in the trance even hours after waking up from sleep.

So, I started working on my emotions to like and accept her but each time i tried I hate her the more.

Recently, I told my mum about her and she said exactly everything she told me in the dream in verbatim. I was quite shocked and felt it could be divine and that got me working seriously through prayers and also trying to adjust my emotions to accommodate her but each time I see her, I just have hatred for her as I'm not in anyway attracted to her. I'm not feeling her, no excitement, no butterflies in the stomach, no longings to hang out with her, not even sexual attractions, everything is just flat.

So, I eventually decided to withdraw from her even though i felt there's this divine compulsion or better still divine leading that she's my wife.

Folks, please i need your help here.

Hence, this question, CAN GOD LEAD YOU TO MARRY SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE OR ATTEACTED TO?
yes God can allow you marry who you don't love just like prophet hosea and gomer the prostitute
Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by dermmy(m): 8:09pm On Jan 22, 2021
Hmmmm. Yes God can lead you to marry someone you don't love. Yes! Capital YES

OK let me put it this way. God can lead you to someone your carnal nature does not love. And if you are in this situation you are still carnal. Carnality here does not mean you are a fornicator or pervert and the rest but you see we Christians who professed to be born again children of God still have some weakness and carnal expectations that manifest itself in this kind of scenario.

The time to choose your life partner is the time you yourself would know if you still crave for the things of the flesh or the will of God for your life

The will of God is to give you a partner that will give you peace in your marriage. A partner that will help you to serve God not a partner that I'll take your carnal cravings to the next level. Though I don't know what you want in a lady but what I know is the will of God at times doesn't always align with our own will because of our carnal nature.

It's so sad today that children of the most high God let their carnal nature to lead them. There are ladies in my church who want tall, 6 packs, rich and handsome guys. Guys want to marry busty, curvy and beautiful ladies too. These are children of God who claim to be walking in the spirit. I am not saying this is bad but these outside qualities we seek are not enough to give us good marital partners and it is so sad that we put these things first.

What if the guy does not know God. What if he is into alcohol, Indian hemp, womanizing and the rest. What if the lady is a LovePeddler. To us all that matters is the outside qualities. But all these outside qualities won't sustain your marriage. It is character.

You've prayed and fasted and God has given you confirmation yet your flesh is still going against the nudging of the Holy Ghost. Well, the will of God doesn't always go in line with our own will. In this case your flesh is still leading you but God won't force anyone on you. You have a free will in this regard so you can still go for your heart desire.

When it comes to marriage you have to accept some qualities about that lady/guy. For me all I want is a partner who loves God, a lady that will help my ministry and calling, a lady that will give me peace of mind and the bitter truth is her curves, big breast or beauty won't help my destiny but her character and the spirit of God in her.

That means purpose is what I seek in marriage not beauty that will fade one day.

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by merieam16(f): 8:15pm On Jan 22, 2021
Yes it very very possible cos we humans look outward while God look inward..The bible says "There is a way which look attractive in the sight of men buh the end is destruction"
so i believe God knows better and his thoughts towards us are good and nt for evil


If u dont want stress in ur marriage or paternity fraud later in life, go back to God and tell him to put the love of that girl in ur heart and u ll see hw u will enjoy ur marriage without opening thread up and down on nairaland abt marriage issues

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Re: Can God Ask You To Marry Someone You Don't Love by abimic(m): 10:42pm On Jan 22, 2021
beze992,what's your take on this?

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