Slynation:
let's hope she change for her own good.... perhaps it's the kinda upbringing she had, she's already used to chronic village lifestyle and I don't care attitude, changing such fellow requires grace..... Something like incentive must be targeted in other to motivate such people

Danhoys:
I thought I knew what dirtiness was until my cousin's sister started living with us. We gave her a room, a roof over her head until she finds her bearing.

She's an orphan, almost going to 28 years, and sells food on Sundays for cash.

But, looking at her, she's the replica of the word 'unappealing.'

Her hair is always shabby, dirty, and she never attempt to even braid it to keep it in order. Black is beautiful, but hers comes in brown patches and acne.

She doesn't even care.

We have a water closet, and she's ready to keep popping without an attempt to flush. The last time I traveled and left the home for a week, the toilet was beyond what I could comprehend.

To the point I had to do renovation, repainted the wall, and had to hire a cleaner to help wash the toilet thoroughly.

I couldn't risk catching a disease doing it myself. That was how bad it was.

After doing all these, she stopped using the toilet, but would prefer to pop in the compound with a black nylon at night.

Sometimes, she even forget to throw them away. I had woke up very early in the morning. Saw her bucket and wanted to use it, what I saw changed my day.

I saw her feces, and since then I vowed never to touched a bucket that is isn't mine.

Aside from her protruding stomach which she does little to hide, the wrapper she wears every evening have never seen water in months.

Women are supposed to be conscious of their unclothedness, but not this cousin of mine.

She can avoid all the bathrooms, and choose to bathe outside in the open at night.

Like, around 8 to 9 pm when everyone is still very much awake.

Sometimes children will bump in on her unintentionally, and the kid will run away traumatized by what he or she have seen.

I dare not go into details to recount how she prepares the food she sales, and how dirty her coolers and kitchen utensils can swim with maggots for 6 days before she finally washes them on Saturday and prepares food on Sunday for her esteemed customers.

She's not beautiful facially, nor wear makeup or earrings since it's against her belief.

Doesn't wear clothes that suit her. If she dresses like an mbeke, that wouldn't be a problem. I just don't understand her dressing at all, coupled with her dirty look.

When it comes to religion, hers is the worse, jumping from one church to the other. And worse, we hardly sleepy at midnight.

She is always in battle with demons, with her speaking of tongues that don't just sound ridiculous, but deafening and irritating.

She's just 28, and I doubt if any man has ever stopped her on the road, and I still suspect she have never laid with a man before.

She's not mentally unstable if that is what most of you might think.

She's lively, knows how to joke and hold conversations like we all do. But when it comes to her body, grooming, overall cleaningness, she's zero.

There are grades of dirtiness, but when it comes to a stage where someone now dines and wines with feces, then there is a problem somewhere.

She's shapeless and doesn't want to do anything about it despite my numerous advise. She eats junk, like...

She runs to the backyard, gets some vegetables and fry it up with some concoctions and food is ready.

I know all their foods, and the things she cooks is nothing less than a concoction. I've eat her food once and my stomach testified.

A thoroughly analysis of her personality fascinates me to some extent. Is this her personality? Something that is genetically engineered into her that she has no control over?

Can she change?

Do you think I can help her, how?

Danhoys:


Not at all... She's not eating my food. Although her dirtiness makes others uncomfortable, but purpose of being here to find a way to help her.

And I can't get that help without painting a vivid picture of how she is...

Crunchyg3:

My man no vex, I have been so busy lately and when I come back from work I am so tired to type. I will write this weekend by God's grace

Danhoys:


I love her very much, no hatred toward her. I only wish there is a way to help her. She definitely could be going through a lot, who isn't.

I'm practically an orphan myself, and I know what it means to struggle alone from a tender age.

We all have our stories. But does it warrant this magnitude of dirtiness? Her only problem is marriage, and I don't think there is anything else.

gozzlin:


Really? At 28 she's much older than you? In your previous thread you said your son who watches hardcore porn is 17. If you're much younger than 28 then you prolly gave birth to the boy when you were 4 to 5 years old.

habsydiamond:
that's true... If she needs to be motivated in other to maintain good hygiene then that means she has lost it.

gozzlin:


Really? At 28 she's much older than you? In your previous thread you said your son who watches hardcore porn is 17. If you're much younger than 28 then you prolly gave birth to the boy when you were 4 to 5 years old.

Danhoys:
I thought I knew what dirtiness was until my cousin's sister started living with us. We gave her a room, a roof over her head until she finds her bearing.

She's an orphan, almost going to 28 years, and sells food on Sundays for cash.

But, looking at her, she's the replica of the word 'unappealing.'

Her hair is always shabby, dirty, and she never attempt to even braid it to keep it in order. Black is beautiful, but hers comes in brown patches and acne.

She doesn't even care.

We have a water closet, and she's ready to keep popping without an attempt to flush. The last time I traveled and left the home for a week, the toilet was beyond what I could comprehend.

To the point I had to do renovation, repainted the wall, and had to hire a cleaner to help wash the toilet thoroughly.

I couldn't risk catching a disease doing it myself. That was how bad it was.

After doing all these, she stopped using the toilet, but would prefer to pop in the compound with a black nylon at night.

Sometimes, she even forget to throw them away. I had woke up very early in the morning. Saw her bucket and wanted to use it, what I saw changed my day.

I saw her feces, and since then I vowed never to touched a bucket that is isn't mine.

Aside from her protruding stomach which she does little to hide, the wrapper she wears every evening have never seen water in months.

Women are supposed to be conscious of their unclothedness, but not this cousin of mine.

She can avoid all the bathrooms, and choose to bathe outside in the open at night.

Like, around 8 to 9 pm when everyone is still very much awake.

Sometimes children will bump in on her unintentionally, and the kid will run away traumatized by what he or she have seen.

I dare not go into details to recount how she prepares the food she sales, and how dirty her coolers and kitchen utensils can swim with maggots for 6 days before she finally washes them on Saturday and prepares food on Sunday for her esteemed customers.

She's not beautiful facially, nor wear makeup or earrings since it's against her belief.

Doesn't wear clothes that suit her. If she dresses like an mbeke, that wouldn't be a problem. I just don't understand her dressing at all, coupled with her dirty look.

When it comes to religion, hers is the worse, jumping from one church to the other. And worse, we hardly sleepy at midnight.

She is always in battle with demons, with her speaking of tongues that don't just sound ridiculous, but deafening and irritating.

She's just 28, and I doubt if any man has ever stopped her on the road, and I still suspect she have never laid with a man before.

She's not mentally unstable if that is what most of you might think.

She's lively, knows how to joke and hold conversations like we all do. But when it comes to her body, grooming, overall cleaningness, she's zero.

There are grades of dirtiness, but when it comes to a stage where someone now dines and wines with feces, then there is a problem somewhere.

She's shapeless and doesn't want to do anything about it despite my numerous advise. She eats junk, like...

She runs to the backyard, gets some vegetables and fry it up with some concoctions and food is ready.

I know all their foods, and the things she cooks is nothing less than a concoction. I've eat her food once and my stomach testified.

A thoroughly analysis of her personality fascinates me to some extent. Is this her personality? Something that is genetically engineered into her that she has no control over?

Can she change?

Do you think I can help her, how?

tbtosine:



what's her qualifications ? What have you done to help her get a better job ? Does she prefer selling food to other good job that can change her life and make her expose or mingle with other people ? If i must give u advice i will say you should let the lady see this post and the reaction of people. She only see herself in black and white. Thank you. My regards to her anyways.

Danhoys:


She has a tailoring skill, and a machine at home. But she stopped after getting numerous complaints from those she worked for.

Currently, she's attending a theology school, coupled with her food business.

She's a hustler, just that her dirtiness is what spoilt her beautiful personality. I've tried to talk to her, in a joking manner so she doesn't see it as an insult.

But I'm yet to see change.

Danhoys:


28 years? She's much older than me, though we might look like age mates. I've tried advising her but it doesn't yield any result.

tbtosine:




Alright. She still need someone like you to help her. Is she older than you ? You said "she started living with us " who are us ? Does that mean you are not the only one she stay wit ?

Dresses like mgbeke.

quickberry:


She is older than u, and u have a son who was 17 last year.....your story is fake.

Cc lalasticlala mynd44

This story is fake, take it down.

Slynation:
Lol....she lost it long time ago, so anything to change her is a welcome idea....

Danhoys:


Son doesn't have to be biological. He lost both parents at 7 years of age, and I'm the one taking care of him, both feeding, school, etc.

I do everything for him, just as a woman will to her son. When people ask me, I always refer to him as my son.

So, he's my son!!!

quickberry:


Bole nbe

Lori iro

Danhoys:

Whatever helps you sleep at night!!!

quickberry:


Stop it, you are fake.

Danhoys:


I live with my husband, and the house is quite big hence, some of my other sisters and cousins have their own room.

They don't have support, so we're trying to help in any way possible, even if it's a roof over their head.

She's independent. Makes her own money, feeds herself, and I only wish she can be more clean as it could be the reason I've never seen her with any man.

And she's wishing to get married too, due to her prayer points on marriage whenever she starts to disturb at midnight.

Danhoys:


Okay

tbtosine:


hmmmm.... Lol.
Sorry. Its really sounds funny. Well. She still need you like i said earlier. Help her. She might need to visit pshycologist. Arrange it as a plan if she will refuse to follow you. I think she need help psycologically from all you have said about her. She need someone to help her out. She attention. She needed to be care for. She might feel negleted and rejected. She might have feel she's not important to anyone around her. Am very sure that is not what she want for her self. She just need help. Please help her. Hope we can count on you tho. Be good and be safe.

Danhoys:


I brought this issue here to get a fresh perspective, and to help her. So far, I'm glad I did. I'll certainly help to the best of my ability.

Danhoys:


28 years? She's much older than me, though we might look like age mates. I've tried advising her but it doesn't yield any result.

Danhoys:


Can she change?

Do you think I can help her, how?

Danhoys:


Son doesn't have to be biological. He lost both parents at 7 years of age, and I'm the one taking care of him, both feeding, school, etc.

I do everything for him, just as a woman will to her son. When people ask me, I always refer to him as my son.

So, he's my son!!!