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|Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 12:15pm On Feb 22|
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.
Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.
1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.
It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.
People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.
3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.
You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.
4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.
Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.
5. Being real is more important than being posh.
“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.
Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships
6. Don't do drugs
Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.
Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.
7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.
Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.
8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.
You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.
9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.
A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.
10. The future is a reality.
You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.
11. Control your sexual urges
Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.
God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.
Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.
12. Your value is everything
I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.
The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.
13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties
Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.
Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.
14. Be careful with women
Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.
Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.
15. Give attention to your wife and children
Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.
Courtesy - Mikester
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by slawormiir: 12:17pm On Feb 22|
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Fahdiga(m): 12:21pm On Feb 22|
He must have shined kondo of at least 30 women before he turns 30
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by LIVINGICON: 12:40pm On Feb 22|
These stuffs are meant to be known before 20. Imagine a boy introduced to the red pill knowledge at age 15 and he applies it correctly in his daily living, such boy will definitely grow to become an alpha man/ red pill nigga
Catch dem young
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 12:46pm On Feb 22|
Upcoming thread - Things every lady should know before 30
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by LikeAking: 1:54pm On Feb 22|
That forgive part, no follow.
Its this forgivness msg that has messed up the wolr and lots of ppls life.
Dont Forgive anybody.
U no be Jesus.
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Polynek(m): 2:03pm On Feb 22|
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 2:14pm On Feb 22|
Don't forgive when you're exceptionally perfect
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 2:15pm On Feb 22|
Lalasticlala I don't know if this is front page worthy
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 2:16pm On Feb 22|
No be lie but "before 30" also include those in their teens
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by LikeAking: 2:19pm On Feb 22|
People will take you 4 granted when you forgive.
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 2:25pm On Feb 22|
Not really though. People will take you for granted when you forgive too easily.
If someone offends you, don't forgive so fast. Create an impression that you don't like what they did. Let them be aware that you don't appreciate their offense towards you.
Let them realise the gravity of their offence, shun it, then you forgive
We're all unique bro. I'm not an expert like I stated but I have an advice to give, an advice veritably true backed up with facts.
I'll advise you get rid of that delusion you're maintaining and you might find the sound advice or help that have always eluded you. Don't look down on anyone in life. No one knows everything but everyone knows something.
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by LikeAking: 2:29pm On Feb 22|
I mean real offence, not all those petty ones.
You no go understand.
This world is upside down.
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 2:35pm On Feb 22|
LikeAking:Someone hurt you bad?
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 2:39pm On Feb 22|
@ 21 you should be keeping quiet when elders over 30 is addressing this thread... u ought to have made a question out of the thread rather than providing unverified answers or opinions without any iota of reality or substantial claims and empirical evidence that supposedly should be born out of experience.
How can someone who is 21 possibly know a thing about life at 30??
would u preach to a married man about his marriage when u are still a bloody bachelor??
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by LikeAking: 2:40pm On Feb 22|
We live in a wicked world, for only the strong hearted.
Na the good dey die.
There is a tin line between been good and been foolish.
When you are good in this world as instructed by the society and religion.
You will surly become a victim.
The good people are always the victims.
This world bad, my guy.
A generation of monsters.
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 2:47pm On Feb 22|
Polynek:shameless. how can a boy of 21 know a thing about life @ 31
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Elmiguel(m): 2:48pm On Feb 22|
Great message OP. This is sure the most inspiring and wisdom filled post I have read this year.
Lemme add my own.
16. Stop sending money to broke ladies
For God sake, you don't owe any lady anything. You are not their father. No dey send money to these lazy entitled bitches else na you go cry last.
E don tey when I send even #100 to these broke ladies.
That's how one was asking me for 12k last week. Me that haven't even gotten a good job yet. I just tell her to get lost.
If you are a guy and you are still sending money like father christmas, my brother you are on your own o.
Mods help push to front page
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Elmiguel(m): 2:53pm On Feb 22|
Pls tag me when you deliver @Mikester
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Polynek(m): 2:59pm On Feb 22|
BadRadio:The wisdom of Solomon has nothing to do with the years Methuselah
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 2:59pm On Feb 22|
Observe my post Sir, contradict any of my points then we'll listen to you
Last i checked - I said men before 30 not at nor after
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 3:36pm On Feb 22|
Mikester:boy you have no point up there.
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 3:39pm On Feb 22|
Polynek:methuselah lived long, his experience guided him through... that cannot be said about ur wise Solomon who flabbergasted himself with wives and concubines beyond his control... Solomon was a bad student, he failed to listen to elders.
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 3:40pm On Feb 22|
I don't see it sir. Where have I gone wrong? Come on Sir, please show me
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 3:42pm On Feb 22|
Mikester:even if u must plagiarize, do it with some sense and caution... must you copy and paste everything??
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|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Adeniran906(m): 3:42pm On Feb 22|
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 3:45pm On Feb 22|
I believe bad things happen to people who are too nice and gullible. In this selfish world, people take advantage of very nice people but there is good news.
You can be nice and have a good heart and still say no. Setting standards is what makes you less likely to be controlled by people from my perspective
Self love is key.
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 3:48pm On Feb 22|
I'm sorry. I'm confused. Plagiarizm from my experience and information?
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 3:51pm On Feb 22|
Mikester:only a simp becomes sorry for what they know not...
confused? you've been confused since 2000, few days before they buried ur umbilical cord.
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 3:53pm On Feb 22|
You've no points, evidence or logic to argue with so you come up with conspiracy theories against me? That is but a poor way to defend yourself.
By the way I didn't apologise.
One word "sarcasm"
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 4:10pm On Feb 22|
Mikester:shut up ! I am one of the gatekeepers of nairaland... learn to watch your mouth before I kick your teeth down your throat.
|Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 4:33pm On Feb 22|
BadRadio:Feel free to leave sir
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