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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 10:29am On Feb 23
The suicide rates of men are 4 times higher than women due to the weakness and ignorance of some men.

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 10:30am On Feb 23
Pegi23:
I swear I was like this op have sense oo, mature guy at the age of 21 but your number 14 make you stupid and foolish..

Contradict it with facts to seal my stupidity else...

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by lalasticlala(m): 10:59am On Feb 23
CuteMike01:
Lalasticlala

Link to the original source or is the OP the original writer?

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 11:01am On Feb 23
lalasticlala:


Link to the original source or is the OP the original writer?

No link sir. That's my experience up there,also my research
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by MuchAdo: 11:06am On Feb 23
Nice write up!

It made sense!!
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Xavfra(m): 11:34am On Feb 23
Mikester:
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.

Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.


1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.

It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.

2. Forgive.

People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.

3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.

4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.

Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.

5. Being real is more important than being posh.

“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.

Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships

6. Don't do drugs

Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.

Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.

7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.

Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.

8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.

You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.

9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.

A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.

10. The future is a reality.

You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.

11. Control your sexual urges

Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.

God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.

Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.

12. Your value is everything

I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.

The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.

13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties

Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.

Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.

14. Be careful with women

Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.

Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.

15. Give attention to your wife and children

Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.

Don't know if I'm communicating

Cc Lalasticlala, Mynd44

Number 1 is totally correct.....

I made such mistakes
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 11:46am On Feb 23
MuchAdo:
Nice write up!
It made sense!!

Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by emerazz(m): 1:10pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
shut up ! I am one of the gatekeepers of nairaland... learn to watch your mouth before I kick your teeth down your throat.

With your acclaimed old age see how the young dude bamboozled and floored you with wisdom.. Truly age nobe sense.. Frustrated cargo..

Kudos op, you'll reach heights

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by BadRadio: 1:31pm On Feb 23
emerazz:


With your acclaimed old age see how the young dude bamboozled and floored you with wisdom.. Truly age nobe sense.. Frustrated cargo..

Kudos op, you'll reach heights
another possessed cadaver vibrating

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 1:55pm On Feb 23
emerazz:


With your acclaimed old age see how the young dude bamboozled and floored you with wisdom.. Truly age nobe sense.. Frustrated cargo..

Kudos op, you'll reach heights

Thanks bro

Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Felabrity: 4:06pm On Feb 23
16. Save money

17. Invest

18. Don't gamble

19. Don't get addicted

And 20. MAKE MONEY

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by slyfoxxjoe(m): 4:09pm On Feb 23
You should be giving advice to teenagers. You’re not old enough to advice men in their 30’s. So much you are yet to experience at this age yourself. Have you even been in the workforce yet?

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by paulemmy19(m): 4:10pm On Feb 23
Good write up
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by AnthonyAk(m): 4:12pm On Feb 23
Op is only 21, lol you know nothing

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 4:14pm On Feb 23
slyfoxxjoe:
You should be giving advice to teenagers. You’re not old enough to advice men in their 30’s. So much you are yet to experience at this age yourself. Have you even been in the workforce yet?

Jesus taught the people in the temple at age 12, Samuel was called by God when he was little, Josh was the youngest king in the Bible so under what principle am I forbidden to advise people older than me?

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Humanoid01(m): 4:14pm On Feb 23
LikeAking:
That forgive part, no follow.

Its this forgivness msg that has messed up the wolr and lots of ppls life.

Dont Forgive anybody.

U no be Jesus.
Jesus actually forgave not just because it's his nature to do so, but he also wants us to forgive. Forgiveness brings this kind of freedom that's difficult to understand. The fact that you have forgiven someone doesn't mean you should trust them again, neither is it a sign of weakness. It just means that you have accepted that no human being is beyond faults.

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by stanisbaratheon: 4:14pm On Feb 23
Mikester:
Upcoming thread - Things every lady should know before 30


80% of that thread will surely be about men. grin

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Mikester(m): 4:16pm On Feb 23
stanisbaratheon:

80% of that thread will surely be about men. grin
Smart thinking

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Humanoid01(m): 4:18pm On Feb 23
slyfoxxjoe:
You should be giving advice to teenagers. You’re not old enough to advice men in their 30’s. So much you are yet to experience at this age yourself. Have you even been in the workforce yet?
No one is an island of knowledge. So many "old men" today don't know half of what the young ones know. You don't have to experience something to know it, people learn by personal experiences or others' experiences. So be humble and strive to learn from anyone, both young and old.

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by nomenclature(m): 4:18pm On Feb 23
The major point I got from this write up is "dont settle for less when it comes to relationships#
Mikester:
I’m almost halfway through being 21, an age I’m legally an adult and a man. Having emerged from the tangled forest of adolescence I’ve learned many lessons. I learned a lot of them through watching other people. Some I just figured out through wisdom and insight and some were learned through trial and errors.

Not saying I'm an expert though but I want to pass this wisdom down to fellow young guys like me hopefully they have a bit more of a roadmap to help guide them than I did.


1. Some people should be kept at arm’s length.

It’s a good thing to show love and compassion to people. It's good to be friendly but it’s also important to understand who should be in your inner circle and who you should keep at a distance or even avoid. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.” Destructive people are out there. The sooner you spot who they are and where they should fit in your life the better.

2. Forgive.

People are going to do you wrong and hurt you. No matter what you do, you will be hurt by someone at some point and that’s often out of your control but what you do in the aftermath is entirely in your hands. Holding grudges never does anyone any good. It’s self destructive and can even seep over into relationships that have nothing to do with the person who hurt you. That said, that doesn’t mean that you should necessarily let them back into your life right after. Forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt and grudge, not about completely forgetting and pretending it didn’t happen.

3. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You only have a chance to make a good impression, so putting your mind toward it is always your best option. From dressing decently and speaking articulately to standing tall and making eye contact. The way you present yourself is the way people will see you and the way people see you will determine how they treat you and the opportunities they give you. Make sure you make a powerful impression.

4. It’s good to take risks and be bold.

Most of the best things in life usually comes with a risk. Know how and when to take risks. Be wise and strong enough to invest where necessary and be bold enough to take on challenges you encounter.

5. Being real is more important than being posh.

“You’re such a genuine guy,” is my favorite compliment. This to me is so much better than being told I’m posh. Real people see, recognize and are drawn to authenticity. Believe it or not, most people, especially girls, can tell exactly when you’re faking or trying too hard. If you want to draw the right people to you, then just be real with yourself and them, instead of putting up a facade in order to look cool or to be accepted. Being cool is for a moment, but authenticity lasts for a lifetime.

Simply put, don't chase people - man or woman, rather be yourself and invest more in yourself and the right people will come around you. Chasing people leads you to the wrong people and puts you at a huge loss.This also applies to relationships

6. Don't do drugs

Drugs make your mind perverted and your sense of judgement corrupted not to talk of the terrible health effects of drug intake. It's not for men with ambition to take drugs, give drugs to men who have decided to wallow in mediocrity and scornful living.

Moreover smoking causes impotence in men. Hope you quit smoking after reading this.

7. Other people can’t heal or fix you.

Your friends, family and romantic relationships can help you. They can speed up the healing process, support you when things are bad and guide you towards where you should go. They can reveal truths to you that maybe you couldn’t see. But in the end, when dealing with deep internal wounds and life establishment, no one can actually fix you. That part is on you and your God.

8. The world doesn’t owe you anything.

You’re not owed stuff and things simply by virtue of existence. Life tends to give back what you put into it. The people who always get the most seem to be in my experience, those who give the most freely. So, instead of walking around with an entitled mindset, try to figure out what you can contribute.

9. Just because it “feels right” doesn’t mean it is.

A lot of people will abandon their previously set moral boundaries because something “feels right.” Sometimes things feel right in the moment and are simply destructive in the long run. Feelings are important but acting out entirely on them is a path to destruction.

10. The future is a reality.

You’ll hear a lot about “live in the present,” and you definitely should, but living in the present also comes with the responsibility of making choices right now that will affect your tomorrow. Living in the present is not permission to live like tomorrow doesn’t exist because when it comes around, it can be a rude awakening.

11. Control your sexual urges

Sex isn't everything. It has no profit nor reward. Early and uncontrolled sex makes you inactive towards aspects of your life that needs your energy and attention and an inactive man is an unhappy man - a loser. It also makes you more liable to have an unhealthy marriage later in life.

God forbid we be counting sex partners while our mates are counting money.

Don't rush into sex or make it a priority else you will find it very difficult to attain greater heights in your life which will lead you into depression and regrets especially when you see your mates ahead of you. There is a lot of time for sex after marriage.

12. Your value is everything

I don't know much about ladies but for a guy, you're only followed, respected and regarded by your value - what you can offer. A man with less or no value is looked down by society. A man creates himself not finds himself. Daily exercise in self-control, knowledge and wealth acquisition gradually creates improvements in your worth. Don't underestimate that. You're meant to be a leader in your home so invest in yourself in order for you to lead well.

The lifestyle of a man largely depends on IQ and a higher level of intelligence leads to a better lifestyle for him. Your intelligence and energy is everything. Work on that.

13. You aren't the first to face your difficulties

Most men today think that they have it harder than previous generations did but it is not true. If you could make it to where you are now, you can still do better. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Through perseverance many people win success out of what seemed destined to be certain failure.

Be strong and keep hustling. Lessen your gratification and double your hustle. Remember energy and persistence conquers all things.

14. Be careful with women

Do not give your strength to women. Don't love women you can't trust. Study any woman you want to settle down with and don't ignore the red flags you find. You do this for the future you so that you won't find yourself in troubles you could have avoided.

Do not make your woman your superior rather see her as your daughter. Love her and correct her when she errs. Any woman who doesn't respect you shouldn't be in your life. You're the one marrying her and paying the bride price. Don't settle for less.

15. Give attention to your wife and children

Children turn out better when they have the attention of their parents - when they parents spend quality time with them. As children need mother's love and attention, they also need father's care and attention. Have time for them and converse with them. Sometimes children wish their parents had more open conversations with them. Same applies to your wife. Pay attention to her.


Courtesy - Mikester
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Tillatalk: 4:20pm On Feb 23
Always forgive but don't forget
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by mikmash(m): 4:20pm On Feb 23
LikeAking:
That forgive part, no follow.
Its this forgivness msg that has messed up the wolr and lots of ppls life.
Dont Forgive anybody.
U no be Jesus.

I had to laugh to this.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Carlyboi(m): 4:25pm On Feb 23
Cool.Most smart and intelligent people know this before they even smell age 30 tho!but I must say in your write-up there are some things that’s easier said than done and if you’re truly 21 like some people posited there are some things you’d only get a hang of when you get to your mid 20s and when you’re about 30.

Life they say is a great teacher and experience is the best teacher in life.On a parting note walk this talk and stay on this path it would surely serving you in good stead it’s nice to know there are still purposeful,smart and focused 21 year olds in this country.

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Dybala11(m): 4:26pm On Feb 23
Derare:


But nobody is forcing you to give a lady money or even aid her ,you have the power to say NO and still move on with your fucking life.Stop making it look like you are being forced or even under duress when it was all happening.
This particular gender will ,willing give a lady money and still come online to wail.haba!!!
Maybe, but have you ever been insulted/called names/ lied against because you refused to give a lady somewhere money when she asked for it, all because she believed that she's entitled to what you have even though the two of you are not married?
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by SureDan001(m): 4:27pm On Feb 23
What then can you say about a naturally gentle and nice person who's living with his benefactor?


I believe bad things happen to people who are too nice and gullible. In this selfish world, people take advantage of very nice people but there is good news.

You can be nice and have a good heart and still say no. Setting standards is what makes you less likely to be controlled by people from my perspective

Self love is key. [/size][/color][/b]

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Dybala11(m): 4:28pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
shut up ! I am one of the gatekeepers of nairaland... learn to watch your mouth before I kick your teeth down your throat.
So you're Nairaland's gateman employed to open the gate for all and sundry. Wetin Musa no go see for this forum o.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Dybala11(m): 4:28pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
shut up ! I am one of the gatekeepers of nairaland... learn to watch your mouth before I kick your teeth down your throat.
So you're Nairaland's gateman employed to open the gate for all and sundry. Wetin Musa no go see for this forum o. grin
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Serveyouright(m): 4:28pm On Feb 23
BadRadio:
boy you have no point up there.
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Inexperienced children coming online to advise elders. Get to 30 and above first before I'll consider your opinion about life. Young man, this life is deep. Just forget about what you read on your book.
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by simplesearch: 4:30pm On Feb 23
Sincerely this post is not for every guy, but for guys who want to grow the God way and do his will. Guys who want to act right in life at all times, guys who want to recreate the Joseph pattern in this present muddy world of physical and spiritual recklessness, guys who want to stand out. This post is for them.

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Monday60655(m): 4:32pm On Feb 23
Very interesting epistle, though all these should be known and put into action before 18 years of age.

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Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Liposure: 4:33pm On Feb 23
Meanwhile, the future is united
Re: Things Every Guy Should Know Before 30 by Dybala11(m): 4:33pm On Feb 23
slyfoxxjoe:
You should be giving advice to teenagers. You’re not old enough to advice men in their 30’s. So much you are yet to experience at this age yourself. Have you even been in the workforce yet?
Read through his write up again sir, it wasn't targeted at men in their 30s but rather those below 30

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