lekki1444:


so the question is am i tripping or are these women entitled ?

kingdman:
if any single girl ask you for money tell her to come to house...afterall nothing goes for nothing...

budaatum:

So, all this story for simple question?

Well you mentioned two women in your story above, and I'll assume there might be many more and you just needed two to be brief or you would not jump from two to "Nigerian women" because I hope you are smarter than that.

Do know that if they were entitled you would have given them what they asked you for, but because they are obviously not entitled you refused. I bet if you go giving men things in shops and spars they'd be the one's begging for more, but do let us know after you tried it please.

lekki1444:
you are correct the men are worse. i just seem to be focusing on the women here seeing as i am a man.

Teleprompter:
Begging is begging and no matter how it is garnished, only unfiltered girls do this.

Don't let any broke babe guilt trip you into making you feel stingy. Even if you are stingy, it's your right.

How does one live life with no close friends? When one is down, family or close friends should be sought first and not strangers.It is a bad habit and such people should be avoided. You might also have the look of a gullible guy and not know it but don't worry, do well to not give out your hard earned resources to beggars.

Even the genuine beggars in the street just and up procreating and reproducing more and more beggars.

When a person is genuinely in need and embarassed to ask, you would know.

budaatum:


Don't make it a woman problem when you know its more universal than that. You know how people here are, especially the men, criticising women for what they themselve do more.

I find Nigerians in general feel entitled. We pray to God for manna from heaven and pray to each other too, except with each other and unlike God, one must answer your prayer!

I'd get on my bike in the morning and go to my farm and no one will see me going. But when I'm returning with my bike full of food they all see and greet me and ask me what I brought back for them as if na dem send me.

Me, I'm bad. I can go in my kitchen and cook my food that I laboured for on my farm and sit at my table and eat it in front of you while your lazy ass looks on and I give you none. Next time, if you want to eat my food, come to my farm and grow it with me and you will most certainly not starve.

As far as I am concerned, you are not even entitled to me feeling guilty just because you are lazy and therefore starving! You are definitely not entitled to the fruit of my labours because I am most definitely not your slave!

Obviously, I do not mean you, op. Just saying. And I too give like you do.

aroundtheearth:
Because of Nigerian men. Some of you will spend all your money on a girl because you want to show her you have money or that you're Mr. Big Shot, like the OP in the following thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6429778/unnecessary-spending-girlfriend-making-me-broke

Why won't Nigerian girls feel entitled when y'all are the ones encouraging their entitlement?

cococandy:
This is not strictly a Nigerian woman issue. We Nigerians are generally entitled

mrgbenga1:
Help me tell them oooooooooooooo. Once you pack into a new neighborhood, they will try to make friends with you inorder for you to be a shareholder in their problem.

pozehnani:
You that keeps distributing your phone number like pure water, what do you want?

If you're truly a "Redpiller* then you shouldn't give out your contacts so cheaply and be coming here to form hard man. It simply shows you're confused and deceiving yourself at the same time. So, stop saying you don't have time for women cause you clearly do otherwise you wont give them your number and nobody will come feeling entitled to your "money".

pozehnani:
You that keeps distributing your phone number like pure water, what do you want?

If you're truly a "Redpiller* then you shouldn't give out your contacts so cheaply and be coming here to form hard man. It simply shows you're confused and deceiving yourself at the same time. So, stop saying you don't have time for women cause you clearly do otherwise you wont give them your number and nobody will come feeling entitled to your "money".

PrimadonnaO:
You were going to drive a young woman who you simply knew as a waitress to the mainland for her interview?

What form of familiarity do you develop with women that makes them feel at ease to ask for your number?

Weird.

budaatum:

So, all this story for simple question?

Well you mentioned two women in your story above, and I'll assume there might be many more and you just needed two to be brief or you would not jump from two to "Nigerian women" because I hope you are smarter than that.

Do know that if they were entitled you would have given them what they asked you for, but because they are obviously not entitled you refused. I bet if you go giving men things in shops and spars they'd be the one's begging for more, but do let us know after you tried it please.

budaatum:


Don't make it a woman problem when you know its more universal than that. You know how people here are, especially the men, criticising women for what they themselve do more.

I find Nigerians in general feel entitled. We pray to God for manna from heaven and pray to each other too, except with each other and unlike God, one must answer your prayer!

I'd get on my bike in the morning and go to my farm and no one will see me going. But when I'm returning with my bike full of food they all see and greet me and ask me what I brought back for them as if na dem send me.

Me, I'm bad. I can go in my kitchen and cook my food that I laboured for on my farm and sit at my table and eat it in front of you while your lazy ass looks on and I give you none. Next time, if you want to eat my food, come to my farm and grow it with me and you will most certainly not starve.

As far as I am concerned, you are not even entitled to me feeling guilty just because you are lazy and therefore starving! You are definitely not entitled to the fruit of my labours because I am most definitely not your slave!

Obviously, I do not mean you, op. Just saying. And I too give like you do.

lekki1444:
Well i have to admit giving out my phone number is silly but i am not the type to say no to poeple to their face, and no i am not a hard man, and no i am not a redpiller based on misogyny and bad experience with women, I am just someone seeking a higher spiritual path and i find being in relationships is hardwork in itself and i am just not ready for that kind of hardwork in my life. i love my own company and doing things at my own pace. i dont want to dance to another persons tune. yu get me ? so i am not one of these angry i hate women dudes. for me its just that my lifestyle as a solo guy is very convenient for me right now and i want to keep it like that for a while.

crackhaus:

I think you're explaining yourself a little too much.

What you described in your OP is nothing short of facts. Nigerian women are quite entitled when it comes to expected benevolence from men – whether in form of cash, gifts, or favours.

This is not a case of just saying that all Nigerians are entitled. As far as I know, all humans generally feel entitled to a certain extent... But like your story points out, these women simply take it to a whole other level when they make it seem like men owe them assistance or something.

Anyone who is honest with themselves and has lived/lives in Nigerian society can attest to the above. I myself have had more than a few experiences like yours, a lot actually, but it's not something I give too much thought to anymore as I am already used to them.

Now while some women like those in your example can be quite direct, the majority would usually employ more subtle means through jokes and hints, and once they discover you're not the type who gives freely, they'd quietly retreat and not make a fuss.

It's just what it is, and admitting that these things do happen has absolutely nothing to do with misogyny or TRP. It's just basic social awareness.
One doesn't need to be politically correct all the time just because we want to avoid hurting anyone's touchy feelings. LOL...

As an addendum, giving out your phone number is not silly in any way. I honestly don't get how exchanging contacts with ladies and helping them out one time should justify them asking for more favours from you...
I mean, isn't that the same entitlement mentality we were just talking about?

sisisioge:




OP, you too stop giving your number and money to women. If you insist on being generous still, try the men. Who knows, they might take only once and not come back for more. Great Nigerian Men

lekki1444:
no i was not. i said i wanted to test the legitimacy of her claim by saying i would drive her there. if she was desperate enough to goto an interview she wuld say YES please drive me thhere. then i would know she was genuine. but if she just wanted money and has no job interview she would say NO i want to go by myself. It was a test. No way am i driving a strange woman all the way to the mainland. i am not that crazy lol

PrimadonnaO:



Hmmm. That wasn't a good test, though. If even an acquaintance of mine offers to drive me from the island to the mainland, I'll decline... and find the money elsewhere.

lekki1444:
not if you are desperate and its a good job that you like