nnewa:
Hello NLanders, please help advise me on how to counsel this brother of mine who lost his wife about 2 years ago during child birth.

Now the man wants to re marry and is considering his late wife's sister. (Whether out of true desire, wish that the sister can take better care of her late sisters baby or another reason) it's worthy to note also that the lady in question is also advancing in age and likely to settle with any available man.

Please is it morally, culturally or religiously permitted to do so, he has been asking me

There is nothing wrong if the in-laws permit,this type is called sororate family

I'm not trying to be ritualistic of some sort.
But believe me, this person in this situation is an IBO PERSON

IBO AMAKA!

There is no tradition or Religion against this. It's not incest cos they're not related. It's not adultery cos the wife is dead. They're good to go.

But to aproko people, E go come b lyk say dem been dey whisper in the shadows while the wife was alive.

and the king married two biological sisters!!!
that's alright abi?

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr

Hmmmm....here in the ancient city of Bini where the king is truly king......it is not alright

Do what is pleasing you ,do as your mine is directing you . she agrees ,her family agree than go ahead and marry her .

pozehnani:


What is wrong is wrong.

Fine. Instead of insults, big minds share ideas.
Just say your mind and stop the insult.

nnewa:
Hello NLanders, please help advise me on how to counsel this brother of mine who lost his wife about 2 years ago during child birth.

Now the man wants to re marry and is considering his late wife's sister. (Whether out of true desire, wish that the sister can take better care of her late sisters baby or another reason) it's worthy to note also that the lady in question is also advancing in age and likely to settle with any available man.

Please is it morally, culturally or religiously permitted to do so, he has been asking me

In Islam it's allowed, it's also allowed in our tradition/culture.
If i set both of them aside...
It's morally right so that she can take good care of her nephew.

Cuttycool:
It is totally wrong for him to marry his wifes sister, it is an abomination. The man deserves a sound slapp to bring him back to reality. He is wicked and has betrayed his wife.

Madam you can't just criminalize something without genuine reason

RisenPhoenix1:
It is even good to do so. He would have known her character for long, and she will take better care of her nephews and nieces than a complete stranger.

And maybe the family should give him discount on bride price, seeing as he's a long time customer.

Long time customers ?

NwaAmaikpe:




Well, it depends.

If he has been sleeping with his wife's sister when his wife was still alive, then I won't advice him to marry her because there will be no spark or excitement during sex again.

But if he has always fantasized about shagging her and never got to, then marrying her is his only legitimate way to bring his fantasies to reality.

Although it is the dream of every ambitious man to shag either his wife's sister, mother or friend, his best bet is to marry a new woman entirely while still retaining his wife's sister to genuinely cater to his kids as her own while still shagging her on the side in the guise of helping her bear her own kids before menopause arrives.

Ah aghn!!??

Awesome01:
And for all those women shouting betrayal, it is wrong, bla, bla, bla... Who would you prefer to take care of your child or children, in the event that you died? Your sister or one total stranger. Choose wisely

I'll choose my sister.

Take care of my children, yes,
Marry my husband, not advisable.

My sister and I are two different individuals with different personalities. Marrying my husband may not bring her happiness that it brought me.

You guys should stop seeing this from only the man's perspective. Does the lady in question want to marry the man even if they met under an entirely different scenario?

Lawalemi:
Once the in-laws are okay with it

But is the lady in question okay with it? Does she genuinely like the man and want to marry him, or is she doing it as some sort of duty to her late sister?

Newoldme:
He has been entering the place already.i dont support such act.

Which place do you mean abeg?

NwaAmaikpe:




Well, it depends.

If he has been sleeping with his wife's sister when his wife was still alive, then I won't advice him to marry her because there will be no spark or excitement during sex again.

But if he has always fantasized about shagging her and never got to, then marrying her is his only legitimate way to bring his fantasies to reality.

Although it is the dream of every ambitious man to shag either his wife's sister, mother or friend, his best bet is to marry a new woman entirely while still retaining his wife's sister to genuinely cater to his kids as her own while still shagging her on the side in the guise of helping her bear her own kids before menopause arrives.

lol