anobscase:

@mizkay .A ready amde woman would buy herself husbands..

i feel you my brother - but i regret to say i have/and refuse to be in any market o!

lol.you are funny mizkay

i feel you my brother - but i regret to say i have/and refuse to be in any market o!

anobscase:

.you are funny mizkay

what's better than a good strong dose of infectious fun to spice up this hard-knock life?

i know dearie

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I`m not contradicting u lioness.But there is a time when a lady is desperate to get married,they don't look at the internal qualities.they look at outward qualities/quote]

its true o, definitely, the girls of nowadays are looking for ready-made men.......i really have no probs with that. The problem is in the xtreme, there are some money-wide-eyed babes out there, looking only for money. So guys, be careful.

The question to the guys is: put yourself in their shoes, which would you choose; a ready made man or one ramshackle fellow.

On the other hand, i dont expect that, (or perhaps there are) any guys in our present day will be waiting for a woman to come into his life before he "makes it". It is part of the pride and joy of been a man to "be already made" before getting married. Isnt it?

Lioness
I ain't a wife-beater and I detest any man that does that. I was only painting what the society tend to favour this days. I have been married for some years with kids.My wife and I met when I was virtually nobody. We grew together so therefore, for everything I have achieved, she has a hand in it and I value her tremendously. And for starters, I work in one of the best oil & gas companies in the world.
These days, a lot of girls in Nigeria are not patient. They want a readymade man and in most cases, these readymade men find it difficult to differentiate between true love and love for comfort. I have colleagues that are not married and some of them confess that its really difficult sustaining a relationship. Whenever they start one and the girl gets to know that the guy works in the oil sector, she tends to start acting LOVE. Any sane man can read in between the lines.
I had this friend who was working in one of the oil servicing companies in Port Harcourt whose wife left him after he was retrenched. She just couldn't imagine herself in the new situation. A little quarrel and she left after the guy could not secure another job for about 2 years. He was virtually a wretch, living on handouts until a miracle came. One of the oil companies he applied to for a job called him for an interview, etc and he got the job. The chap is in Houston now on cross-posting and the deserter-wife has been sending emissaries. SHE NOW WANTS TO COME BACK BECAUSE IT'S CONDUCIVE.

TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT, ANY RELATIONSHIP BUILT ON A FAKE FOUNDATION WILL NOT STAND WHENEVER 'MARITAL TURBULENCE' COMES.

hey Rottweiler

I wasnt gettin off on you bro.
I was just making a point and giving my opinion.

Geez! thats a good story. I personally dont prefer ready made guys.
I love to see my man grow through the phases of life.

Same goes for guys....well most of them...They have become lazy too. They wan make their wife get all the degrees and money before dem marry. They no wan spend their money on anything but  themselves.

My view on this issue is that these days everyone looks out for the best option for them. I won't say we look for men already made, we look for a man that is promising. Na garri we go dey chop in 5yrs? we look into the future.

Lioness,
Thanks. That's soothing
In one of your postings you said you met one Guy from Elf. I seem to know some guys in Elf Port Harcourt. Would I be too inquisitive asking what the guy's first name is (that only). May be someone I know.

Guys even marry already made girls too. They act LOVE when
the girl  is a citizen of another country -      free citizenship
the girl has a car      ------       free motor
girl's family is politicallly connected  ----- easy access, contract and job influence
the girl who has a good job  --------      no financial hassles on him

I mean it goes on. This thingy is everywhere

that would be so unfair. And its over 2 years

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Lioness,
Thanks. That's soothing
In one of your postings you said you met one Guy from Elf. I seem to know some guys in Elf Port Harcourt. Would I be too inquisitive asking what the guy's first name is (that only). May be someone I know. /quote]

OK lioness. It's a small world you know

Cheers.

My girl friend once told me ..... "Comfort is happiness"  I never forgot this.
What I kept wondering when she has all the comfort she needs ..... what else would she need.

I know women basically need security and comfort. But there is more to marriage than these....  Look around so people want to get rich but when they get rich they realiase it is not enough to be rich they will want to be richer and richer......  I keep wondering when she has all the comfort and security she needs would it equate happiness ?? Or if the man buys beauty with his wealth will it make him happy

It is not easy to live with any person no matter the love. Infact i think marring out of love is sheer STUPIDITY. when the problems set in it will always do then love will stop being blind.
9.5 out of 10 men hits their wife @ least once in 20 years

The choice of a wife is something that should be done with a clear head. Men should only marry a woman who brings SYNERGY to my life, a woman who compensates their weakness, a woman willing to live with their idiosycracies.

now let's see what really makes a guys ready made
is it the fact that he is wealthy?
or that he drives a Benz?
or he is a graduate?

for me i will pick a guy (when that time come)
who is mentally and emotional ready
not some wealthy fool.

what's up with guys and this their money
please give me a break from all this talk
about ladies being after your money
not all ladies are after your goddamned money
4 me what i want from a guy is for him to give me what money cant buy
and that is *LOVE*

DAMMYGLOW:

what's up with guys and this their money
please give me a break from all this talk
about ladies being after your money
not all ladies are after your goddamned money
4 me what i want from a guy is for him to give me what money can't buy
and that is *LOVE*

God bless you Dammyglow.

If I may ask who are these ready made men you are all talking about! Are they those who have good jobs and were able to get a comfortable house and a good car? Or are they those who are from rich home and have money has a result of that also or who is a ready made guy because all these ready made things are also owned by most ladies.

Who is a ready made guy?

@fancydiva, U have said it all.

Most girls are afte a rich girl but there r few that r willing to be with d one they love regardless of how rich/comfy he is. No one wants a church mouse...

SweetnSour:

@fancydiva, U have said it all.

Most girls are afte a rich girl but there r few that r willing to be with d one they love regardless of how rich/comfy he is. No one wants a church mouse...

Yes dear SweetnSour you dont want a church mouse, are u also among the "few that r willing to be with the one they love regardless ..." ??

In life transformations are everyday events... circumstances may force the rich to become poor overnight also it could make a church rat rich overnight or gradually. Never write someone off as a church rat. Especially if that person is under 32yrs

sometimes its better when a girl goes for a ready made guy.really what does aguy have to offer if not security, lets face it and stop being hypocritical,a made guy is it any day for me ,love does not have a nigerian face . simple

A ready made guy is 1000 times better than a guy who is still suffering to make ends meet but if we all fall for the ready made guys , who's gonna date the poor guys. We no get choice but to still date them. But most ready made guys end up being proud as in when they get angry , they abuse the lady and say where were u when l was suffering, but most times it's kinda better to suffer with a guy and make it together and the guy would always love u forever knowing that u were there when there was nothing and most times, the poor guys end up treating u 1000 times better than the readymade guys who end up cheating on the girl sef.

Why do most ladies want ready-made men? Simple. Because ready-made men ROCK!

disney:

But most ready made guys end up being proud as in when they get angry , they abuse the lady and say where were u when l was suffering,

I think a ready-made guy would only treat a lady this way if he picked her up from the gutter and dusted her up to his taste...and then maybe the girl offers nothing apart from kitchen & bedroom works. But if in a situation where the girl herself has things going for her, the guy no fit!

its a matter of choice and personal perception, but in anycase i'll only advice our single ladies to look beyond the ready-made thing .

pasoma (from birth)

like i said before, its all about choice and motive. If i were looking for a keeper, a ready - made guy would be like 4th on my list.
But if i were looking for fun or material acqusition, its definitely going to be a ready made guy and it sure is going to be a "fat-wallet" Frog...... oops guy

Like one of us already said: IT GOES BOTH WAYS

A girl could fall inlove with an "unmade" guy with prospects, invest emotionally and financially into the relationship, marriage being in the works and all. And what happens at the end of the day? He is cheating on her with another girl who is also probably giving him (financially) more than you are giving him. A typical gigolo living off women.

Personally I don't know how I'd cope in a relationship with the so called made man....even if I have sincere feelings for him, the guy will always think it's his money I'm after. And being independent having made my own dough, I don't think I'd be able to stand such a guy.

So you see it's a real dilemma.

the truth is that its not wrong for a woman now to want a ready made guy, i really agree that most women now want a ready made guy, though there are exceptions but i beg not to be the exception. the status of woment hese days would not allow them go for anything called guy, there is a standard, and the standard must be maintained,if as a single girl, i have a ride of my own now, so i give the car to a guy and hopp on okada becos he doesnt have his own car?, almost impossible!. babes are not lazy anymore so the guys have a lot of work to do.
a girl that is more comfortable than is guy is said to buy the man with her money, so wat the heck wen u kuku look for a comfortable man. i dont mean stinkingly rich, dont get me wrong, i mean comfortable, atleast to ur level.
lets even be factual, wen a woman is more comfortable than a man, it becomes a little difficult for the woman to be totally submissive to the man, and all that results in divorce, that is y we have an increase in the divorce rate the world over.

kimba, i agree with u 100%

The truth is that no one wants to suffer. Every woman wishes that she marries smone who can take care of her.

My thoughts on this matter ... and i am not refering to the scantily dressed girl who just wants to jump form one rich guy to another, with no intention of getting married.

The average intelligent woman has evolved. In past decades woman were not in the financial positions most of them are now. Most women married, straight out of secondary school or even university, to young hardworking men and it meant nothing to suffer and toil with said man.
Now women are furthering their education, getting powerful jobs and leaving marriage for later in life. i guess it is hard for a women, who by her own standards is made, to seek an up and coming young man...without being his sugar mummy that is.

At a certain age, your priorities are clearer and you have a short list of requirements (for some that is sadly money, but damn that the womans choice ok) and there is no need wasting anybodys time in a relationship when you know they don't meet your minimum spec.

Sad but true

another thing i see is that many-times we are too short-sighted.

If you were to see a lady going after a well-made guy, then we would say, eh, its because of his money that she likes him....blah..blah...blah

if its un-made guy going after the already made and ready made lady, we would tell the guy that he doesnt have shame...that his girl is rich and he is poor.....

wetin u wan people do sef.....

i thought that "love is blind"

love aint blind nada
its eyes are as wide as this .........

I need a man who can take care of me and my kids.
HE DOESNT HAVE TO BE ALREADY MADE but he must have the basic neccessities to keep me and our home comfortable. Above all, he must have something in his brains. *intelligence*

I suffer for 9jia finish, come jand come suffer small. Now you want me to suffer with one poor man again [na curse].
I will definitely marry a man who is either my class or a bit higher and if that man is termed "already made" Then be it.

you crack  me up lioness

[I suffer for 9jia finish, come jand come suffer small. Now you want me to suffer with one poor man again [na curse]./quote]

not necessarily true
i for one believe there cld be problems if things are done dat way. I wont deny the fact dat i dont want d guy to be comfortable, but a ready made...amma pass.
nothing wrong with it tho. Just bring in ur own into d r/ship.