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I Broke Up With Her by Nobody: 5:15am On Mar 04
I have a fiancée whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary. Each time we hanged out to just have fun, if we got to a place where prices were too expensive, I would say to her but this things are much cheaper elsewhere.

For example, we went to a place though inside the same premises, one part of the lounge sells bottled water for 250 while the other one sells bottled water for 500, she then suggested that we go to the part where water was sold for 500. Note that it was in the same premises and there was absolutely no difference between the two, it's not like one was VIP area and the other was not. We ended up going to the 500 naira side. All that we ate which of course was double the price, I paid.

Each time we went to the mall, we buy things normally. But there's something about malls which some of you may have noticed, certain things such as pots, plastic rubbers, electronics, and so on are usually unreasonably exorbitant. So I said it would be better for us not to buy things that were too expensive that we could get outside for cheaper prices, but we could buy other things whose prices were reasonable. The next thing she started saying was that I don't have class, it's classy people that buy such things.

So one day we went to a pharmacy in that same mall, because she wanted to get some drugs, the price they called for her was about three times what it was outside, so she said it was better to go outside to buy it. So I just told her that since she has class she should buy it now, the next thing she started insulting me, she gave me the insult of my life. That wasn't the only scenario, there were many other cases like that.

She had started to stay with me after a while. Every thing in the house belongs to me, and I made sure everywhere was conducive for us. Air conditioners every and so on, good house, good compound, surveillance cameras and so on. Initially I was shouldering all responsibilities like food, the car washer who washes the both of our cars, the security man, fuel in the generator, NEPA light, repairs in the house and so on.

Please note that we work in the same place and earn same amount. Sometimes when I was short of cash, since I knew that her own money would still be there, I would borrow from her to buy food stuffs and other miscellaneous, and pay back by next salary.

She contributed just about 10% of expenditures in the house which was majorly just food stuffs. Note that I buy much more foodstuffs 5 times more than what she buys.

That was not just it, the relationship was usually filled with arguments, I can hardly have a conversation with her, she would begin to argue.

I want to ask few questions here:
(1)please is there anyone who doesn't know that Egusi causes pimples for those who are prone to having pimples?
(2) Is there any one who doesn't know that if something is very hot, it is not advisable to put in the fridge?
(3) here anyone who doesn't know that garlic is medicinal?
(4) Is there any one who does not know that it is not advisable to put on a generator when it has been drenched by rain?

But this girl will argue with me, insisting that I must put on the gen when rain has beaten it, because apparently, it is not her property. And the fridge is also not hers which is why she won't care if it gets spoilt. In short there's usually too much argument over what is clear for everyone to see, thereby it is always difficult to have a conversation with her.

I was later transferred out of the state we were, so I decided that because of her, I won't take anything away from the house, I would buy everything I need in the new place I had been posted to. So I bought a bigger TV for the house we both shared and took the smaller one to my new place of posting. I bought my mattress, kitchen utensils, got an apartment, and bought every thing I needed in the new place. So now, I have most things in two pairs, just so she would be comfortable.

Please note that we aren't yet married, and I agreed to not having sex with her because that was she wanted, I respected that. The only thing I know we do was romance.

So I started insisting that it was high time for her to be responsible, that we can't both be working and she won't be buying reasonable amount of food stuff because I noticed that sometimes, she would go out and buy 3 packs of spaghetti, which doesn't make sense to me. She said her dad is the one that buys food stuffs in her house and her mum contributes for petty projects. But I am not her Dad, I have my own mind. Also note that she didn't volunteer to bring any amount for my project oo, because I won't want a woman to contribute 1 naira to the houses I am building. All I said was that she should be contributing reasonable amounts for food stuffs in the house. We hardly stay two weeks without fights, she must look for one insult or the other.

We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40. Please note that rent was not inclusive, as I volunteered to pay for the rent in the house we were and for my apartment in my new place of posting.
Later on, when she began to see the brunt of the responsibilities that I used to bear she started saying we (Me and the Pastors) are forcing her to contribute. But I didn't know these Pastors before, that was my first time of meeting them, she was the one who knew them before me. But simply because they told her the truth, she started saying we are forcing her.

Please I need your honest opinions on this issue.
Thank you.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by HarunaWest(m): 5:32am On Mar 04
It's obvious she's self centered.
She likes to reap and won't sow.
I don't understand the fact that you were transferred and instead of moving your belongings, you started purchasing new stuff.
Why are you trying so hard to please her when she doesn't really care @ all?
Don't marry a lady that insults you. That is the first sign of future trouble. I am very temperamental. If a lady insults me, she go collect.
So I avoid such ladies totally because their mouth wouldn't stop running. Very soon she will start fighting you. Na see finish cause all these cause she na your colleague so knows everything bout yah.
Buh whatever you decide, decide well.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Olunmercy56(f): 5:35am On Mar 04
wink It's better you go your separate ways, if she can't at least contribute to the relationship. If a courtship is like hell, only God knows what the marriage would be. It's better you marry someone exactly your friend no stranger embarassed Marriage is for enjoyment and not to endure. I like your courage

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Bola146(f): 5:55am On Mar 04
I always say this, not matter how little it is, a woman should be responsible in a relationship. If a man can be 90% responsible and caring, I'll definitely contribute my own responsibilities too. Some ladies believe that courtship and marriage are all men's wahala, yes and no. Contribute your own qoater and let God bless you too. That is why a jobless lady should not go into any relationship, go and hustle first, don't because a liability!!!!!

Thank God you ended the relationship, its better you don't start what you can't continue, it's very risky, insulting you is very bad lipsrsealed even if you endured till you get married, it will get worse. Na her type no dey use her money buy good things for the kids unless the husband give am money, I hate nonsense! God sees your heart, He will give you your heart desires very soon

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Bakare19: 6:03am On Mar 04
undecided

This sounds like the male version of Iamafinegirl's thread. Very striking storyline.

@OP, do what gives you peace.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by RunzMAN: 6:08am On Mar 04
angry



Those above my comments have said it all @oP.



She is a Manipulating type. I always say it, First impression matters most. i.e how you started with your relationship from the first day will go along way....



I noticed you were pleasing her from the very first day.


Now, nothing is too late....So many Men are dying before their time in marriage cuz they started acting like you.


What you need from a woman is respect not Love.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by MEGA4BILLION(m): 6:17am On Mar 04
If you continue with that lady, you will wallow in poverty, become hypertensive and eventually die before your time and she will move on to marry another.
Her type can be liken to cancerous cells, they destroy you gradually.

Receive sense.

Those Pastors that encourages you people to co-habitate, I feel like breaking bottles on their head

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Mindlog: 6:18am On Mar 04
"We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures. So me as the man would contribute 60 while she will contribute 40"...Still imagining the Pastors doing the counselling, counselling a married couple or 2 people co-habiting? If it were professional therapists no issue with co-habitation but Pastors? shocked shocked

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Anfield247(m): 6:20am On Mar 04
Bola146:
I always say this, not matter how little it is, a woman should be responsible in a relationship. If a man can be 90% responsible and caring, I'll definitely contribute my own responsibilities too. Some ladies believe that courtship and marriage are all men's wahala, yes and no. Contribute your own qoater and let God bless you too. That is why a jobless lady should not go into any relationship, go and hustle first, don't because a liability!!!!!

Thank God you ended the relationship, its better you don't start what you can't continue, it's very risky, insulting you is very bad lipsrsealed even if you endured till you get married, it will get worse. Na her type no dey use her money buy good things for the kids unless the husband give am money, I hate nonsense! God sees your heart, He will give you your heart desires very soon
Good morning bola146, I just pity for this guy! A prudent man sees danger and takes cover, but the simple keeps going and pays the penalty!

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Bola146(f): 6:27am On Mar 04
Anfield247:

Good morning bola146, I just pity for this guy! A prudent man sees danger and takes cover, but the simple keeps going and pays the penalty!

Good morning, thank God the man knew on time, broken relationship is better than broken marriage

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Anfield247(m): 6:37am On Mar 04
Bola146:


Good morning, thank God the man knew on time, broken relationship is better than broken marriage
The Op was busy dating a loan in the name of looking for a wife, hahahahaha...... Oh! to see better woman nowadays na prayer point!

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Kriss216: 6:50am On Mar 04
We went for counselling and the pastors said she has to be contributing for expenditures in the house, we agreed on 60% to 40% sharing formula for all expenditures.


Like, a man of God said this?

Why will he endorse co-habitation of two unmarried adults?





Just like my friend always say, a Nigerian girl in a relationship is automatically an orphan.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by harmargedon: 6:51am On Mar 04
good for you.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by CaveAdullam: 6:53am On Mar 04
Even if you break up with her, she still won the game because she has benefited greatly from the parasitic relationship you willingly and consciously accepted to be the robust host.
I'm not in great doubt, I'm very sure she has plan B, C... on the row that she can swing to when you eventually decide to put a halt to the relationship.

It is difficult for you to break up because you've fallen victim to the sunk cost fallacy: " I have spent and done so much in this relationship, if I should exit now it will not be too beneficial. Let me wait a little longer maybe things will change for the better, after all patience is needed in any relationship". This fallacy you proved greatly by seeking a pastor/counsellor.

Another rope still anchoring you to such catastrophic relationship is the "illusion of sex". Despite your great contributions she still dangles the carrot before your eyes, satisfying you with empty romance. Here, she truly discovered your vulnerabilities and exploited it to the fullest. (Except she's a virgin and of which you've physically determined to be true). If not, your simping knows no limit. Even if she's a virgin, that doesn't guarantee your typical foolishness in the relationship. Who knows if she's not giving it out freely to one alpha player.

My friend, elevate and look pass the sunk cost fallacy and put a away the bait of sex aside. Even if the sex is later granted it still won't worth the wait or the expenses you've incurred. Sex at this time will be a useful method to keep you in her tenterhooks. So, braze up and get out of that relationship. Let her exit your house and take all your belongings to your present location.

In any relationship, the one with power is the one with little investments. Let a woman show genuine desire for you and choose you and she will greatly invest in such relationship.

Let go off that leech!

Thanks.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Kondomatic(m): 6:56am On Mar 04
One thing I find very annoying is somebody telling me how to spend my own money that's right inside my pocket.

Boss, you fall hand.

You see that place you buy bottled water for twice the price? Nah slap you deserve.


There was a time I was in Lagos for a seminar, I hanged out with babe and I noticed something about her. She used to come in the evening and leave in the morning[that's actually how I prefer my woman, like the moon. Show up in the evening and disappear in the morning] because of her work but this time she was free.


She likes to show off with my money.


We go here to eat, she will be like TIP this guy.

We go another place, TIP that guy.


The girl is nice TIP her, the gate man is kind TIP him, I was just laughing inside while TIPPING them here and there like a TIMPER.


When it was time for her to go, I brought the amount I usually give her for tfare, counted it so she know it was complete and then removed all the tips.


That was the last time that nonsense happened.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by lilvicky68(m): 6:57am On Mar 04
Since Nigerian girls has turned relationship to hunger elevation and general well being program.. I'm happy you took the right decision..

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by eveninnewspaper: 7:01am On Mar 04
Why are you retaining your other apartment when you clearly will not be needing it(you don't have a family of your own yet that would warrant that)?

Is she an orphan??

Doesn't she have a house

Why do you lot like to shoulder another man's responsibilities

Who is the hypocritical pastor that endorsed you two(unmarried) to cohabit?

A girl who earns just as much you earn is living off you with no additional growth to you. I'm not sorry sir- you be ODE. undecided

Call it quits with her. She's bad news if all you elaborated here is true, except of course, you owe her family.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by femi4: 7:06am On Mar 04
Honest opinion in few words:

1. She's not a wife material

2. The relationship lack respect ( See finish don enter, probably cos you work in the same place and earn same salary)

3. She's wasteful with resources, women like this will bring you down financially if you are not careful

The future is full of trouble with her. Quit now and save your future

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by punisha: 7:15am On Mar 04
if u have broken up with her go and do thanksgiving next Sunday.
these r attributes of a woman who isn't ready to settle down yet.
a woman is prudent not foolish.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Regex: 7:19am On Mar 04
You swallowed all these for 2yrs for a pussy you could get elsewhere? It's not like her pussy is gold. Damn bro! Damn!

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by angelfallz(m): 7:21am On Mar 04
CaveAdullam:
Even if you break up with her, she still won the game because she has benefited greatly from the parasitic relationship you willingly and consciously accepted to be the robust host.
I'm not in great doubt, I'm very sure she has plan B, C... on the row that she can swing to when you eventually decide to put a halt to the relationship.

It is difficult for you to break up because you've fallen victim to the sunk cost fallacy: " I have spent and done so much in this relationship, if I should exit now it will not be too beneficial. Let me wait a little longer maybe things will change for the better, after all patience is needed in any relationship". This fallacy you proved greatly by seeking a pastor/counsellor.

Another rope still anchoring you to such catastrophic relationship is the "illusion of sex". Despite your great contributions she still dangles the carrot before your eyes, satisfying you with empty romance. Here, she truly discovered your vulnerabilities and exploited it to the fullest. (Except she's a virgin and of which you've physically determined to be true). If not, your simping knows no limit. Even if she's a virgin, that doesn't guarantee your typical foolishness in the relationship. Who knows if she's not giving it out freely to one alpha player.

My friend, elevate and look pass the sunk cost fallacy and put a away the bait of sex aside. Even if the sex is later granted it still won't worth the wait or the expenses you've incurred. Sex at this time will be a useful method to keep you in her tenterhooks. So, braze up and get out of that relationship. Let her exit your house and take all your belongings to your present location.

In any relationship, the one with power is the one with little investments. Let a woman show genuine desire for you and choose you and she will greatly invest in such relationship.

Let go off that leech!

Thanks.

the bolded,
too many men think with their penis.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by angelfallz(m): 7:23am On Mar 04
You started insisting that it is high time she became responsible.
You met a woman that is not responsible and you want to convert her to a woman that is responsible? You have time grin grin grin

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by crackhaus: 7:26am On Mar 04
Kondomatic:
One thing I find very annoying is somebody telling me how to spend my own money that's right inside my pocket.

Boss, you fall hand.

You see that place you buy bottled water for twice the price? Nah slap you deserve.

There was a time I was in Lagos for a seminar, I hanged out with babe and I noticed something about her. She used to come in the evening and leave in the morning [that's actually how I prefer my woman, like the moon. Show up in the evening and disappear in the morning] because of her work but this time she was free.


She likes to show off with my money.


We go here to eat, she will be like TIP this guy.

We go another place, TIP that guy.


The girl is nice TIP her, the gate man is kind TIP him, I was just laughing inside while TIPPING them here and there like a TIMPER.


When it was time for her to go, I brought the amount I usually give her for tfare, counted it so she know it was complete and then removed all the tips.


That was the last time that nonsense happened.
gringrin

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Karleb(m): 7:45am On Mar 04
I think your girlfriend posted her side of the story here some weeks ago.
The no sex part rings a bell.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by crackhaus: 7:46am On Mar 04
angelfallz:
You started insisting that it is high time she became responsible.
You met a woman that is not responsible and you want to convert her to a woman that is responsible? You have time grin grin grin

Lol, trying to convert her is not really the main issue the way I see it. It's okay to want a partner to improve on some of her behaviours which we don't like.

It's the amount of time it took before he finally came back to his senses that I find interesting... I mean two whole years damnit...

With these kinds of women, one needs to start putting their foot down very early in the relationship... somewhere within the first three months of dating.

The problem however is that, it's usually hard for most guys because they're still caught up having those ecstatic feelings of just acquiring a new girlfriend whom they're so attracted to and want to impress at all cost... so they tend to let things slide, not knowing that women are experts at shit-testing their men just to see what they can do/say and get away with. cheesy

And that's what happened here with the OP.

Man was seriously failing his shit-tests from the start, so much so that she has become very comfortable telling him where and how to spend his money while keeping her own safely tucked beneath the zip line of her purse. It's just madness, hers of course...

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by crackhaus: 7:59am On Mar 04
bwambasolomon:
I have a fiancé whom I started dating about two years ago. We work together and we are on the same level, and earn the same salary.
What was her upbringing like?

Was she raised in a less than average/near-poverty/struggling type of home?

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Nobody: 8:12am On Mar 04
Did you tell them that when we are talking
“You are not serious is a big INSULT for you”
Did u tell then that when u say I like trump and I say “me I hater trump because of this and that” it is already an offense and you admitted that maybe it’s true you having issues with me airing opinions because you are boss or what I don’t know? That was one day holyspirit made you admit...so you knew you had the issue all this while but you would be shouting I am the person arguing (I never knew different opinions was argument. I heard it first from you).
Did you tell them a simple conversation or difference in opinion even on a gist is an insult to you?

Did you tell them I think of quality and wen a frying pan was needed I was saying the new expensive ones sef are not good, they burn. Second new is better in this case and we got a second new one? Because it’s not necessarily about cost but most times you won’t even be able to understand the depth of what I suggest sometimes.

Did you tell them I explained something one day that I paid money to so and so person to avoid a problem and you tried to give me another solution to have taken and I was like “me I don’t want wahala oo thats why I did what I did@ and because everything is fight and arguement for you you had stood up stormed out of the house because you felt i said I don’t want your wahala etc when all I was saying is that I didn’t want wahala if d issue boomeranged and so I didn’t even look for other means I just did d surest method in question” did u settle down to listen or because you never patient and always ready to call everything an argument or fight you had kickstarted your nature?

Did you tell them you wanted a car and I said this car is too expensive tell someone who we know imports to bring for you although the person could delay and may change the car you agreed on but I said do a written agreement with him so it would be cheaper for you and that way he won’t do anything funny ? And you would spend less and get a better grade or level like the one I got instead of paying for something lower at the same price as the one you paid for in town. Out of love, did you not turn it to fight and say I am wicked, and louded the issue and dramatised it as being evil.
Did you tell them you lied to me that you don’t drink or smoke?
But you drink and lied from foundation of a relationship to win a girl?
When I realised out of anger I said you lied to me you don’t drink but you are a drunkard.
Did your remember saying my father who doesn’t drink at all and you know fully is the drunkard
You have called me demonic woman
You have called me stupid woman
You have called me very stupid woman
When you were trying to win me and I was saying no no I didn’t want, leave me and you were ever persistent didn’t I tell you I am scared the depth of what you feel is more of obsessive not love?
Then I should to shout I would say cause am not a lier that you should leave me, is it by force etc etc which u refer to today and I do tell you then your pressure was too much and I didn’t like you which is normal to any woman who didn’t initially like a man that kept pressuring her...knocking her gate over and over on different occasions etc.

The list is endless but if we discussing and you don’t understand what I am saying and I am frustrated talking and I say “you no dey understand English” you just flare up that that is a big insult.
Things that aren’t insults you made them insults to defend yourself.
Did you tell them the most times we went to Shoprite then I use to be the one buying things...and you usually pick nothing. So why should Shoprite be so expensive if I buy water “nestle water” and other things from there even before we ever dated and you used to follow me there to win me and I never asked you to pay for me or use you as a toaster?

Did you tell them that you are building and I am also building because we had started the seperate building plans before we started dating?

And the months you spent all your salary not even on the building alone oo. Busy dashing people and at 3rd of the month you were broke and I was like how would we handle the house you said I am there and I held those months because that’s what a good woman would do. I know men can have extended family responsibilities but women too have and it’s still ideal to plan inclusive of extended family.

Did you tell dem that wen you arrived at the counsellor we told them we had a 60k and 40k rule as at then but we just weren’t piling it in the same account and the pastor said ok we should do it as a joint account so no one would feel he is bringing all the money” and we stop spending differently. you told them it’s the pastor who proposed it or he told us that ok you people should just put the money in a seperate account and the wife asked what else is making you angry and you said contributions for repair should be added”.

Did you tell them that when your drivers license expired and there was a delay with joint account , you said you would keep some part of the contribution for where you stay but I must submit all my own contribution to your younger sisters account while you submit just some to her because you don’t trust me with money. The younger sister would now be the one dishing out the feeding money to me who is the one working? While you comfortably keep part of your contribution as a boss. Did you tell them I said you should give her all if i would also have to submit my own all to her since she is the chosen financial manager of our own institution so she can be dishing out money to both of us as at when due since distance is not a barrier to bank transfer so I would also monitor u because you don’t trust me with money and you want to monitor what I am eating when u aren’t even there with me.

Did you tell them you don’t live according to your means and you always borrowing and financing a lifestyle heavier than you inclusive of feeding which is high (because you eat 70-80%) of all the food in the house? Did you tell them you have collected above 14 million naira loan and you haven’t completed any house you are building aside still having normal money people have used to complete their own houses.

Did you tell them you give them babes money and say send me your account number Cus I have seen it but to buy Apple extra for me out of a budget as per my love this one na for u from my pocket? Did you tell then as we came back from your location you had meeting with your babe asking if hostel has resumed and all by 6pm same day?

Did u tell them that I had been using clin-cap face cream, benzoxide peroxide face cream, and you have been using it with me and I have never said this cream is 2000 and the other is 1000 let’s contribute from budget but you bought olaybact for me 400 naira and you were balancing account for me?

Did you tell them I did a soap mix of 13000 naira to 15,000 naira and you have been lovingly using it With me since January and I have never in my life said your contribution for soap but you won’t even do it, if you did sef you would have been asking for money by now.

Did you tell them that even to buy apple while taking me to were you lived loveingly as per this is my new location has to be from the budget and that you couldn’t say babes aside this budget this for you?
Did you tell them I also contributed for the fuel as you were taking me lovingly to your new location? Location you dey go dey come yourself but as I go follow u go know d place I must pay for transport. I for kukuma just enter public transport. But I don’t even have a problem with that since that’s what he wanted. We just accounted for my part.

Did you tell them...that I am not wasteful and you went ahead to do things you wanted to do and started blaming me for it. Like buying a new tv when your mum was around for them...knowing fully well I hardly look at a television and you did it for you and yours?

Did you tell them this girl who doesn’t contribute lovingly gives your sis money and also give your mum at least in the best way I can afford within my means once in a while but you no send me message so that’s my business you are not even seeing it. Na me send myself?

Did you tell them when your mum came I told you on phone that I don’t think you should but extra mattress that I am not at home and you aren’t home and that the kids that joined could stay with your sister in her room and mummy use our bed? Or viceversal since they won’t stay for long? How have I made u spend or I have cautioned you instead in spendings and it has been insults or I am arguing?

When last did you buy me a gift in a year and half? It was a wig when you were still trying to toast me. That was only when you were trying to win my heart.
Did you tell them you don’t do anything for me, and I don’t ask you for money for cloth, hair etc or my own fuel as I am a responsible adult and not a burden on a man which you know yourself. Did you let them know that the food you eat 70% of and the house repair you would do definitely if I am there or not is what you would always come and stand on my head for when we weren’t yet contributing in a joint account. Did you tell them you don’t take care of me and you are just so self centered about the feeding part because you eat more of the food? Yet I was still buying food oo no be say I go out and don’t bring anything to the house. I still buy meat, tomatoes, onions etc but maybe not just up to the person who consumes the 80%.

Did u tell them d day you took me out and water was bought which was like two years ago was a special day I think maybe Valentine or my birthday or something and “I was only asking to be treated special”. As per today na correct day, spoil me na.
Did you tell them that I spoke of buying some thing like good blender or electronic because you need quality one to last. Since the former cheap one spoilt, The cheap juicer bought spoilt first day. Even for my father house like 5 spoilt blender dey and from experience we realised blenders spoil easily and more expensive one last more?

Was there not finally a decision where the expensive “binatone” blender was picked because for some things, quality is important so it lasts?

Did you tell them I met condoms in your other room and you alleged it’s your boss that came to your house to use it? Because you couldn’t tell him no?
Did you tell them that if I want to do something you would use my car and if you want to do something you would use your car and I said love should cover all this there should be no differentiating of car for activities and you can use mine when you want and viceversal?

Did u tell them I said we shouldn’t keep this house n let me go back to my empty house because I kuku get were I dey live na him welcome me come ooo. I didn’t even use to want to visit him initially just so purity is maintained. since you moved to new location. Did I contribute to the rent or not and you said you can’t or won’t receive the contribution so I won’t come and say I contributed to rent in future? Have you paid any extra rent other than the one you paid which covers the year you were present also? Is it that I don’t currently have a place I am staying or that I do and it was empty since I was with you?

The day he said I said drug was too expensive did he tell you he spent all his income that month already by 3rd or so due to poor planning and I used my income all for the month for food. Ofcourse I am sure he borrowed as usual for fuel for his car that month and maybe some extra things like suya etc you may want to eat and that’s why I couldn’t afford to buy that cream or is it even tablet I desperately needed quality type of drug to treat that ailment because it use to be stubborn when it comes but couldn’t afford it that month ?

In addition I forgot. The generator I would tell you to put on when wet had a generator house while some or most Nigerians just make a metal cover or so for their generator. So rain fell and the splash I could look wasn’t much and I would say it’s not like water entered this thing in its house like Dt just few splash on surface. I owned a generator I ran without it having issue before meeting you and while you where toasting me. I didn’t know I am unqualified to run a gen. I stopped touching your gen because it was complain upon complain or I am arguing with you by having a different opinion about ah it’s small splashes. Ofcourse if a gen was drenched would I with my full senses say lets put it on? When Nigerians keep their gen outside with normal cover. The days rain was so much and it drenched, we carried out the gen outside to air.

You would go out and meet the true definition of a Nigerian woman. Take care of her is what a man does, send her money for hair, dress, clothes etc.
And still buy food n do stuff.
You would remember I was never a burden on u
I hope you would have love enough for her to cover taking care of her abi u would start complaining and shouting on her too. I just hope you don’t faint then.

On the other hand I Wld meet the true definition of Nigerian man who knows he is to care at least and would appreciate that I am blessing and a good woman and not the typical African woman wen I also take up things at home. Simple

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Mindlog: 8:23am On Mar 04
Getting hot........so Iamafinegirl and bwambasolomon are the characters in this tales by moonlight!

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Regex: 8:23am On Mar 04
Kondomatic:
One thing I find very annoying is somebody telling me how to spend my own money that's right inside my pocket.

Boss, you fall hand.

You see that place you buy bottled water for twice the price? Nah slap you deserve.


There was a time I was in Lagos for a seminar, I hanged out with babe and I noticed something about her. She used to come in the evening and leave in the morning[that's actually how I prefer my woman, like the moon. Show up in the evening and disappear in the morning] because of her work but this time she was free.


She likes to show off with my money.


We go here to eat, she will be like TIP this guy.

We go another place, TIP that guy.


The girl is nice TIP her, the gate man is kind TIP him, I was just laughing inside while TIPPING them here and there like a TIMPER.


When it was time for her to go, I brought the amount I usually give her for tfare, counted it so she know it was complete and then removed all the tips.


That was the last time that nonsense happened.

This is evil.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by angelfallz(m): 8:24am On Mar 04
crackhaus:

Lol, trying to convert her is not really the main issue the way I see it. It's okay to want a partner to improve on some of her behaviours which we don't like.

It's the amount of time it took before he finally came back to his senses that I find interesting... I mean two whole years damnit...

With these kinds of women, one needs to start putting their foot down very early in the relationship... somewhere within the first three months of dating.

The problem however is that, it's usually hard for most guys because they're still caught up having those ecstatic feelings of just acquiring a new girlfriend whom they're so attracted to and want to impress at all cost... so they tend to let things slide, not knowing that women are experts at shit-testing their men just to see what they can do/say and get away with. cheesy

And that's what happened here with the OP.

Man was seriously failing his shit-tests from the start, so much so that she has become very comfortable telling him where and how to spend his money while keeping her own safely tucked beneath the zip line of her purse. It's just madness, hers of course...

The bolded,
i agree, that it is okay to improve on some behaviours. But, being irresponsible should set off alarm bells. When we talk of home training, being a responsible adult is a bare minimum. There are some behaviours that, i would not try to convert or teach anyone, because you were meant to imbibe such behaviours from home. Remember the woman in question is not a casual girlfriend, it is a woman that the OP wants to settle down with.
How can anyone expect me to start teaching a woman that i want to marry how to be responsible, God forbid! i won't do that. She would scatter my life for me.
IMO crackhaus when a woman is deficient in somethings, you should know immediately that she is not wife material. No time to waste, dump her.

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Regex: 8:25am On Mar 04
I did not realise this is a couples thread.

Who deh share chair here?

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Re: I Broke Up With Her by Regex: 8:29am On Mar 04
Bola146:


Good morning, thank God the man knew on time, broken relationship is better than broken marriage

You call "Two years of foolishness" on time?

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