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Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by pkang: 5:23pm On Mar 24
I met a new girl and we arranged to meet today. We scheduled to meet by 1pm and by 1:25pm I haven't seen her so I called. I got the response, sorry o I no fit come.
Nothing new here as a typical naija babe, they don't keep to time.
I no vex either because I need enter market go see my sales. Also, her excuse seems genuine as she is not independent.
She also said that I should be calling and while we talk she can pay me a surprise visit one day.
Guys, how do I keep up with this communication as I no sabi call woman they talk apart from come over.
I dey mature and realize I need to talk the talk. Not talking is responsible for my 95% breakups.
Meeting a woman no be too much problem but talking the talk na where my problem dey.

Guys, put me through on this.

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Cleanworld(f): 5:29pm On Mar 24
Start talking to her like a friend gradually nature will take it course don't force it. It's not everyone that knows how to rap and some will like you just the way you are..


Be you.
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Xenry: 5:29pm On Mar 24
I can't stress my brain to read this post, Asswear. tongue

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by saucerence(m): 5:30pm On Mar 24
Just call her to check up on her and say you rili missed seen her beautiful face in wounderland#
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by nwaezeemmanuel(m): 5:55pm On Mar 24
Her not showing up is a very big sign she may not have high interest in you. She has no excuses, you could have given excuses too.

On communicating, you don't have to talk too much. Find a balance between listening and talking. Guys that are smooth don't really say anything extraordinary or magical. They'd use her responses to expand the convo, and try to be at least interesting.

I care for you, and advise you don't end up being her gist partner forever. That surprise visit may never happen, and she could just be stalling and avoiding meeting up with you.

Good luck.


pkang:
I met a new girl and we arranged to meet today. We scheduled to meet by 1pm and by 1:25pm I haven't seen her so I called. I got the response, sorry o I no fit come.
Nothing new here as a typical naija babe, they don't keep to time.
I no vex either because I need enter market go see my sales. Also, her excuse seems genuine as she is not independent.
She also said that I should be calling and while we talk she can pay me a surprise visit one day.
Guys, how do I keep up with this communication as I no sabi call woman they talk apart from come over.
I dey mature and realize I need to talk the talk. Not talking is responsible for my 95% breakups.
Meeting a woman no be too much problem but talking the talk na where my problem dey.

Guys, put me through on this.
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Nato008(m): 6:12pm On Mar 24
u cracked me up jaree....u should be calling her, because the sound of her voice prints money abi

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Greystone(m): 6:17pm On Mar 24
Xenry:
I can't stress my brain to read this post, Asswear. tongue

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by OlayemiAshraf(m): 6:29pm On Mar 24
Call her and tell her that you dream about her....if she asks that what do you Dream about ..... create a fictional love story ..... Try it .... I usually do that every time ..... And it' work .... Folake , zainab , favour and seven other has fall for that format grin grin
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by pkang: 8:56pm On Mar 24
nwaezeemmanuel:

Her not showing up is a very big sign she may not have high interest in you. She has no excuses, you could have given excuses too.
You could be right though. I do recalled calling her in the morning around 8 am and she sounded somehow. I had the doubt if she would come. I called again at 12:25pm and she didn't pick the call. I knew she wouldn't come and never wanted calling her back but I just thought maybe she would have given the excuse that I didn't call at that very time.
I won't be pained if she never come to me. My lack of communication is my major problem. It has ruined so many relationships for me because I always become cold and blank at some point in the conversation.
I will take your advice to heart. Thank you.

OlayemiAshraf:
Call her and tell her that you dream about her....if she asks that what do you Dream about ..... create a fictional love story ..... Try it .... I usually do that every time ..... And it' work .... Folake , zainab , favour and seven other has fall for that format grin grin

Sure I will try this.

101 ways to get a lady grin

Nato008:
u cracked me up jaree....u should be calling her, because the sound of her voice prints money abi

She didn't made it mandatory though.
When she said she won't be coming. I asked her when would she be coming. She inquired to know my duty for this week and next which I told her. Then she told me won't I be calling her again? It doesn't mean I have to call her all day. Maybe once a while which has not been my thing. And I wouldn't want to be calling her only when I need her because a girl once told me, "your call na only when we go see?"
Anyways, her voice no dey print money.grin

Xenry:
I can't stress my brain to read this post, Asswear. tongue

Sorry for trying to make your brain overwork.

Thanks for contributing anyway.

Cleanworld:
Start talking to her like a friend gradually nature will take it course don't force it. It's not everyone that knows how to rap and some will like you just the way you are..


Be you.

Thank you plenty.
Your advice is great too.

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Cleanworld(f): 9:52pm On Mar 25
pkang:

You could be right though. I do recalled calling her in the morning around 8 am and she sounded somehow. I had the doubt if she would come. I called again at 12:25pm and she didn't pick the call. I knew she wouldn't come and never wanted calling her back but I just thought maybe she would have given the excuse that I didn't call at that very time.
I won't be pained if she never come to me. My lack of communication is my major problem. It has ruined so many relationships for me because I always become cold and blank at some point in the conversation.
I will take your advice to heart. Thank you.



There might be two issues with you which you may try to google it up.


is either you have High function Asperger or High functioning avoidant personality disorder

check and see which one is related to you problem and try working on it. CBT works for all mojor disorders.

Good luck



Sure I will try this.







101 ways to get a lady grin



She didn't made it mandatory though.
When she said she won't be coming. I asked her when would she be coming. She inquired to know my duty for this week and next which I told her. Then she told me won't I be calling her again? It doesn't mean I have to call her all day. Maybe once a while which has not been my thing. And I wouldn't want to be calling her only when I need her because a girl once told me, "your call na only when we go see?"
Anyways, her voice no dey print money.grin



Sorry for trying to make your brain overwork.

Thanks for contributing anyway.



Thank you plenty.
Your advice is great too.
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by SixKeys: 9:56pm On Mar 25
Let her understand the kinda person you are. don't force things!




#Keys
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by SixKeys: 9:56pm On Mar 25
Let her understand the kinda person you are. don't force things!




#Keys

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by SmellySperm(m): 10:19pm On Mar 25
lol op you're just like me... na only come house I Sabi cheesy

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Belafonte(m): 10:46pm On Mar 25
pkang:
I met a new girl and we arranged to meet today. We scheduled to meet by 1pm and by 1:25pm I haven't seen her so I called. I got the response, sorry o I no fit come.
You should have been considering deleting her number from this point. She knew she wouldn't make but didn't respect you enough to inform you beforehand? she clearly wanted to toy with you or was just inconsiderate. candidate for number deletion

Nothing new here as a typical naija babe, they don't keep to time.
woman all over the world are like this. flaking isn't unique to Nigerian women. oga woman wants to see you, she will cross the 7 seas to see you.

I no vex either because I need enter market go see my sales. Also, her excuse seems genuine as she is not independent.
reasonable

She also said that I should be calling and while we talk she can pay me a surprise visit one day.
okay, if there was ever any doubt that she doesn't deserve one more second of attention from you, this comment of hers has confirmed she shouldn't be worthy, but I don't know how much value you place on your self and time, so...

Guys, how do I keep up with this communication as I no sabi call woman they talk apart from come over.
you can learn it to improve yourself

I dey mature and realize I need to talk the talk. Not talking is responsible for my 95% breakups.
Meeting a woman no be too much problem but talking the talk na where my problem dey.

Guys, put me through on this.
find women who don't like talkative men
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by TheCalculator: 12:49am On Mar 26
pkang:
I met a new girl and we arranged to meet today. We scheduled to meet by 1pm and by 1:25pm I haven't seen her so I called. I got the response, sorry o I no fit come.
Nothing new here as a typical naija babe, they don't keep to time.
I no vex either because I need enter market go see my sales. Also, her excuse seems genuine as she is not independent.
She also said that I should be calling and while we talk she can pay me a surprise visit one day.
Guys, how do I keep up with this communication as I no sabi call woman they talk apart from come over.
I dey mature and realize I need to talk the talk. Not talking is responsible for my 95% breakups.
Meeting a woman no be too much problem but talking the talk na where my problem dey.

Guys, put me through on this.
Just get urself these and be utterly irresistible: https://www.nairaland.com/5376666/french-designer-oil-perfume.; go out occasionally and meet many more girls just as you met this and you wouldn't be given such conditional friendship/relationship

Cheers mate
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Mcslize: 4:18am On Mar 26
To make a girl visit you faster, use something called a bait. That bait will spike her curiosity and interest to put everything aside just to visit you.

I met a girl last year December. Before she visited I have already been giving her some good vibes like how I will go and get chocolates and ice scream ready before she comes as I told her I will spread the chocolates on her lips and lick them off. That boosted her curiosity and was like who is this guy? She has never met a daring guy like this. I must visit this guy.

In fact I was going to use it to set her lips blazing. She got so curious. Fortunately, she loves chocolates and she personally told me to get some ready till she comes. That if I don't see chocolate, I should get the ice scream.

The next day she came. I couldn't even go get it. I simply told her I couldn't get it cuz I couldn't go out. I just sweet mouth her again and gbam everything went down well.

But we've broken up sha cuz she was later getting too addicted and becoming nagging. I simply ghost her. The nagging aspect was a turn off.

Always use a bait if you want any lady to visit you so quick and use sweet words and mystery to increase her interest if not if it just plainly some casual talks, she will never show up.

Now another one is on my neck. I have been looking for ways to make her dislike me. But she is falling in love madly. She tried picking up quarrels with me some days ago and I was like halleluyah, this was what I have been waiting for. I changed it for her by giving her that silent mode. She called and called and called, I didn't pick. She almost blew my phone off with calls. She started texting me so you wanna leave me now? grin

I told her she caused it na. I just felt pity for her and picked her call the next day.

When dating any girl, remove emotions. They don't care whether you love them or not. Your love for them don't count. It is the one they have for u that counts.

So, always use a bait. For her to be telling you to still be calling her and don't even know when she will visit you, such a girl is about using u to play ball. Strategize and make up a bait to make her come. But from.all.indiciations, you've not really done much on her to see any good reason to visit you.

Get down to work. Vibe, increase her curiosity, boost her interest. Na she go carry her own legs come your house the next day irresp chive of whatever she is doing.

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by Theboy21(m): 5:51am On Mar 26
Op and i are synonymous, not making calls makes me lose some number of girls, but it's bad tho, my last ex felt sick over a week without my knowledge cos i only chat & she ain't online and i didn't care cheesy cheesy She later kicked my ass out cheesy cheesy so a nigga moved to the next available chickens cheesy cheesy

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by mosdii(m): 7:20am On Mar 26
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by SeunDobo(m): 9:29am On Mar 26
pkang:
I met a new girl and we arranged to meet today. We scheduled to meet by 1pm and by 1:25pm I haven't seen her so I called. I got the response, sorry o I no fit come.
Nothing new here as a typical naija babe, they don't keep to time.
I no vex either because I need enter market go see my sales. Also, her excuse seems genuine as she is not independent.
She also said that I should be calling and while we talk she can pay me a surprise visit one day.
Guys, how do I keep up with this communication as I no sabi call woman they talk apart from come over.
I dey mature and realize I need to talk the talk. Not talking is responsible for my 95% breakups.
Meeting a woman no be too much problem but talking the talk na where my problem dey.

Guys, put me through on this.


Nigerian girls are scammer worst than yahoo boy ..if she wan come see you ...she go come ... she don't just want to come ni I hate nonsense
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by DannyG8(m): 3:06pm On Mar 26
OlayemiAshraf:
Call her and tell her that you dream about her....if she asks that what do you Dream about ..... create a fictional love story ..... Try it .... I usually do that every time ..... And it' work .... Folake , zainab , favour and seven other has fall for that format grin grin
OlayemiAshraf:
Call her and tell her that you dream about her....if she asks that what do you Dream about ..... create a fictional love story ..... Try it .... I usually do that every time ..... And it' work .... Folake , zainab , favour and seven other has fall for that format grin grin
OlayemiAshraf:
Call her and tell her that you dream about her....if she asks that what do you Dream about ..... create a fictional love story ..... Try it .... I usually do that every time ..... And it' work .... Folake , zainab , favour and seven other has fall for that format grin grin
tell me more
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by blinking001(m): 3:34pm On Mar 26
mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them
Gbamsolutely
Re: Guys Help Me Out On This Issue. by SeunDobo(m): 2:24pm On Apr 02
pkang:
I met a new girl and we arranged to meet today. We scheduled to meet by 1pm and by 1:25pm I haven't seen her so I called. I got the response, sorry o I no fit come.
Nothing new here as a typical naija babe, they don't keep to time.
I no vex either because I need enter market go see my sales. Also, her excuse seems genuine as she is not independent.
She also said that I should be calling and while we talk she can pay me a surprise visit one day.
Guys, how do I keep up with this communication as I no sabi call woman they talk apart from come over.
I dey mature and realize I need to talk the talk. Not talking is responsible for my 95% breakups.
Meeting a woman no be too much problem but talking the talk na where my problem dey.

Guys, put me through on this.


see wetin dey bother this one

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