Zzor:
Lesson learnt that's if he has truly learnt his lessons judging by the heading of his post

Zzor:
I don't like it when a guy has money before and doesn't have again, its a big turn off, since you started the relationship based on money please try and continue having that money so as to avoid problems

averageguy:


So, I don't agree with a relationship being transactional (basically sex for money). But, I've seen guys lead with their perceived wealth so often and then act surprised that the lady only wants you for that reason.

If a lady didn't like you before, then you showed her your account, bought her gifts, did nothing else different and afterwards, she said yes to your advances, why exactly do you think she is saying yes to you?

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Kaymicheal852:
I'm very confused, please what should I do

I'm.soomeone who have decided that I'll never be a womanizer ,most of guys I grow up with or in my street womanize but I grow up seeing my dad not being able to provide for us and I make a vow that I'll always dedicate all my hard earned money to my wife and kids I have had two failed relationship in the past(they are both a single mother,the first cheated and I realise I can't marry a single mother and I dump the other , though we are friends from primary and secondary school,but lots of things attached to being single mother that I can't handle
So my next relationship is going to be a single girl that have never have child ,I don't judge and I don't really care about any girl past but I don't tolerate cheating,I met this girl on Facebook and she looks familiar,she later told me she knows me and tell me about my mom and brother and sister so that makes us to get along quickly,we are from the same street and I know girls and guys from my street are bad but not all of us though (I'm exposed but decide to be different because I have big dreams )
I have make my first million but I don't show off ,we had sex the second time of my new girl visiting and I always give her what she asked for ,I delay it sometimes and I giver her half sometimes and she knelt down and appreciate me ,she is almost perfect, beautiful,nice shape and curves ,and caring but not that respectful ,she have some ego , though nobody is perfect,I open up to her and she realised I have money and I have some landed properties as well ,I'm opening my new salon and I have promised to help her open here too (she is a hairdresser) I buy her clothes and phones as well and I move to a better expensive apartment because of her ,I also checked her phone and I realise lots of guys wants her (she flirts ) and she have some ex like 6
But after fee months,I started getting low of funds because I have invested more than I have thought and we stays at my place like four days a week but her behaviour start to change as I can't give her so much like before and we quarrel someone's and she became more less respectful and I know she is cheating,I look into her phone and I see conversation with a guy ,like a hook-up and have sex and she collected 3k ,I want to send her out but she begged me ,she is a poor girl,her mom is old her dad is dead,she is the one giving to her mom from what she gets from any money she gets and I stop her working at a bar when we meet ,I put myself in her shoes but she shouldn't still have sex for money since she is in serious relationship with me now and I have given her 50k twice in the past and 2k per week for food ,1k for bike anytime she comes over (3 to four times a week )and I always have foodstuf at home so we share the cooking between us and she always wash my clothes and plates ,I love her and I forgive her but recently I realise the same guy send money to her 4k after she nags on that guy ,I think the guy don't want to pay after the sex and you can only talk to someone like that after he refuses to pay you after your hard labour , although she promise she won't cheat again but I think she is still doing it ,she have a housewife vibes and she won't let me go anytime I tried to dump her but she is not loyal and she acts like a good digger ,I try to eliminate the fact that she cheats and I still her help I recently give her 50k to rent shop and I want to sell a plot of land and give her 100k out of the money so she can have a shop and start making money but I can't ignore the fact that she will always cheats for money anytime I'm low on funds even if we get married,I always pity her and I'm eager to help her although she doesn't ever denied me of having sex with her but she always tell me we are not married and use still have freedom to do as she pleases and she doesn't feel really guilty about the fact she cheats for money (like a olosho) i do have the gut to dump her but I don't want to overlook the many good qualities she posses but for money she can be very desperate

Kaymicheal852:
I forget to add this one to it
I went to.her church one Sunday,a week after she first cheated and the pastor called me out and told me I have a lady in my life that I wanted to dump ,and ask me what she did and I told him she really hurt me alot ,then he told me I should not dump the lady that she is a helper and she is benevolence , it
do seems like a conspiracy though she is part of the choir and the church is big and the pastor is rich and have good prophecy record and ,I noticed it how she always take care of her mother and how took care of me when I had a surgery and I was sick for more than a month
I still think she is not worth keeping if she is not loyal but dumping her is easier said than done because she can be very dangerous and desperate,and I just turned 24 two weeks ago
I'm not that stupid and please don't be too quick to judge me , please put yourself in my shoes and give me your honest opinion,that's why I'm here please

OlayemiAshraf:


You'll just open mouth ..waaaaaa like whale that swallowed Jonah

Zzor:
I don't like it when a guy has money before and doesn't have again, its a big turn off, since you started the relationship based on money please try and continue having that money so as to avoid problems

Zzor:
Was he not the one who initiated money into the relationship? he should try and keep up please

Kaymicheal852:
I forget to add this one to it
I went to.her church one Sunday,a week after she first cheated and the pastor called me out and told me I have a lady in my life that I wanted to dump ,and ask me what she did and I told him she really hurt me alot ,then he told me I should not dump the lady that she is a helper and she is benevolence , it
do seems like a conspiracy though she is part of the choir and the church is big and the pastor is rich and have good prophecy record and ,I noticed it how she always take care of her mother and how took care of me when I had a surgery and I was sick for more than a month
I still think she is not worth keeping if she is not loyal but dumping her is easier said than done because she can be very dangerous and desperate,and I just turned 24 two weeks ago
I'm not that stupid and please don't be too quick to judge me , please put yourself in my shoes and give me your honest opinion,that's why I'm here please

Zzor:
You are right,I didn't just like how he was fronting money for the girl at the initial stage,that's the reason for his present situation and he needn't be told to know the right thing to do,she's not for keeps.

Kaymicheal852:
I'm very confused, please what should I do

I'm.soomeone who have decided that I'll never be a womanizer ,most of guys I grow up with or in my street womanize but I grow up seeing my dad not being able to provide for us and I make a vow that I'll always dedicate all my hard earned money to my wife and kids I have had two failed relationship in the past(they are both a single mother,the first cheated and I realise I can't marry a single mother and I dump the other , though we are friends from primary and secondary school,but lots of things attached to being single mother that I can't handle
So my next relationship is going to be a single girl that have never have child ,I don't judge and I don't really care about any girl past but I don't tolerate cheating,I met this girl on Facebook and she looks familiar,she later told me she knows me and tell me about my mom and brother and sister so that makes us to get along quickly,we are from the same street and I know girls and guys from my street are bad but not all of us though (I'm exposed but decide to be different because I have big dreams )
I have make my first million but I don't show off ,we had sex the second time of my new girl visiting and I always give her what she asked for ,I delay it sometimes and I giver her half sometimes and she knelt down and appreciate me ,she is almost perfect, beautiful,nice shape and curves ,and caring but not that respectful ,she have some ego , though nobody is perfect,I open up to her and she realised I have money and I have some landed properties as well ,I'm opening my new salon and I have promised to help her open here too (she is a hairdresser) I buy her clothes and phones as well and I move to a better expensive apartment because of her ,I also checked her phone and I realise lots of guys wants her (she flirts ) and she have some ex like 6
But after fee months,I started getting low of funds because I have invested more than I have thought and we stays at my place like four days a week but her behaviour start to change as I can't give her so much like before and we quarrel someone's and she became more less respectful and I know she is cheating,I look into her phone and I see conversation with a guy ,like a hook-up and have sex and she collected 3k ,I want to send her out but she begged me ,she is a poor girl,her mom is old her dad is dead,she is the one giving to her mom from what she gets from any money she gets and I stop her working at a bar when we meet ,I put myself in her shoes but she shouldn't still have sex for money since she is in serious relationship with me now and I have given her 50k twice in the past and 2k per week for food ,1k for bike anytime she comes over (3 to four times a week )and I always have foodstuf at home so we share the cooking between us and she always wash my clothes and plates ,I love her and I forgive her but recently I realise the same guy send money to her 4k after she nags on that guy ,I think the guy don't want to pay after the sex and you can only talk to someone like that after he refuses to pay you after your hard labour , although she promise she won't cheat again but I think she is still doing it ,she have a housewife vibes and she won't let me go anytime I tried to dump her but she is not loyal and she acts like a good digger ,I try to eliminate the fact that she cheats and I still her help I recently give her 50k to rent shop and I want to sell a plot of land and give her 100k out of the money so she can have a shop and start making money but I can't ignore the fact that she will always cheats for money anytime I'm low on funds even if we get married,I always pity her and I'm eager to help her although she doesn't ever denied me of having sex with her but she always tell me we are not married and use still have freedom to do as she pleases and she doesn't feel really guilty about the fact she cheats for money (like a olosho) i do have the gut to dump her but I don't want to overlook the many good qualities she posses but for money she can be very desperate

Mrscarter:



Even so. A relationship shpuld definately not be all sbout money.
Everyone wants someone who is their own whom they can love unconditionally n trust n to have faithfulness and loyalty.
You dont want a man that only wants sex from you right? Or just cos he wants ur body n not you for who u are? U wouldnt like the feeling of being used yeah?
Well its the same for men with money.
Who taught u to think this way zzor?
Life and relationships isn't all bout money.
Youll realize one day money can never buy you the things that really matter in this life. No matter how much of it you have.
Everyone likes money hun but its not everything.
It cant stop death it cant buy real happiness or true love or loyalty or faithfulness. It cant stop pain. It cant make someone love you. It cant give u children or make sure theyre healthy.
It can aid these things but not ensure them.

Kaymicheal852:
I'm very confused, please what should I do

I'm.soomeone who have decided that I'll never be a womanizer ,most of guys I grow up with or in my street womanize but I grow up seeing my dad not being able to provide for us and I make a vow that I'll always dedicate all my hard earned money to my wife and kids I have had two failed relationship in the past(they are both a single mother,the first cheated and I realise I can't marry a single mother and I dump the other , though we are friends from primary and secondary school,but lots of things attached to being single mother that I can't handle
So my next relationship is going to be a single girl that have never have child ,I don't judge and I don't really care about any girl past but I don't tolerate cheating,I met this girl on Facebook and she looks familiar,she later told me she knows me and tell me about my mom and brother and sister so that makes us to get along quickly,we are from the same street and I know girls and guys from my street are bad but not all of us though (I'm exposed but decide to be different because I have big dreams )
I have make my first million but I don't show off ,we had sex the second time of my new girl visiting and I always give her what she asked for ,I delay it sometimes and I giver her half sometimes and she knelt down and appreciate me ,she is almost perfect, beautiful,nice shape and curves ,and caring but not that respectful ,she have some ego , though nobody is perfect,I open up to her and she realised I have money and I have some landed properties as well ,I'm opening my new salon and I have promised to help her open here too (she is a hairdresser) I buy her clothes and phones as well and I move to a better expensive apartment because of her ,I also checked her phone and I realise lots of guys wants her (she flirts ) and she have some ex like 6
But after fee months,I started getting low of funds because I have invested more than I have thought and we stays at my place like four days a week but her behaviour start to change as I can't give her so much like before and we quarrel someone's and she became more less respectful and I know she is cheating,I look into her phone and I see conversation with a guy ,like a hook-up and have sex and she collected 3k ,I want to send her out but she begged me ,she is a poor girl,her mom is old her dad is dead,she is the one giving to her mom from what she gets from any money she gets and I stop her working at a bar when we meet ,I put myself in her shoes but she shouldn't still have sex for money since she is in serious relationship with me now and I have given her 50k twice in the past and 2k per week for food ,1k for bike anytime she comes over (3 to four times a week )and I always have foodstuf at home so we share the cooking between us and she always wash my clothes and plates ,I love her and I forgive her but recently I realise the same guy send money to her 4k after she nags on that guy ,I think the guy don't want to pay after the sex and you can only talk to someone like that after he refuses to pay you after your hard labour , although she promise she won't cheat again but I think she is still doing it ,she have a housewife vibes and she won't let me go anytime I tried to dump her but she is not loyal and she acts like a good digger ,I try to eliminate the fact that she cheats and I still her help I recently give her 50k to rent shop and I want to sell a plot of land and give her 100k out of the money so she can have a shop and start making money but I can't ignore the fact that she will always cheats for money anytime I'm low on funds even if we get married,I always pity her and I'm eager to help her although she doesn't ever denied me of having sex with her but she always tell me we are not married and use still have freedom to do as she pleases and she doesn't feel really guilty about the fact she cheats for money (like a olosho) i do have the gut to dump her but I don't want to overlook the many good qualities she posses but for money she can be very desperate

Zzor:
You are right sha but hmm lol

Ikea81:


you are dating girl that do 3k hookup. loooooool. God no advice for you.