It is hard enough finding love and even harder to find one and being unable to do nothing about it, oh the travesty! Like you are trying to make ends meet, barely having two coins to rub together, minding your business and boom you meet this beautiful woman, you “stalk” her on social media, she is living quite the life, you like her contents, comment on a few of her posts. She does not post pictures of any guy, surely that must mean she is single, right? Maybe not, maybe she is the kinda girl who loves to keep her private life private. But you are stuck anyway; you love everything about this woman you have never met before, you like the look in her eyes, it tells so much about her personality, she has a smile that could light up any room and lighten any kind of storm, you are trapped and you know it!

You DM her, hey you cannot be obsessing about a person and not even talk to her, what would it hurt, it is not like you expect anything to come out of it, it is the social media for god sake and she might be miles away, so no harm done! Wrong!!!

You DM her and she replies almost immediately, unprecedented!! That almost never happens; there is a ping pong of communication, a positive sign and then you go, “we should hang out sometime” and she says “cool”. Few weeks later with a few notes in your account and pocket, you are both off to the movies and it was not all bad and yes she was everything you thought she was; lively, full of life, funny and naughty, yes this is it!!


Few weeks later, your bank account is back to its normal self, you ought to ask her out on another date but your bank account thinks differently, you make do with shallow conversations and soon you begin to drift apart, that small hope you had nurtured for week that this might be something begins to fade away and fast, she no longer replies your messages and you know why, you took too long to go on a second date but it isn’t like you didn’t want to but your financial status isn’t exactly conducive for dating.


A lot of struggling young men find themselves in this situation and many have decided to save themselves the hurt by not attempting to date, at least till they are financially able to do so. Forget all that talk of women seeing your potentials and being willing to lug it out with a hustling man, LOL, story for the gods!! An average woman is seeking comfort and when you cannot promise her that, she is off to the next guy, it is not hate, it is the truth. Life is about the survival of the fittest. Truth be told, not many guys want to be broke and not many want to pull anyone down into the murk with them, so they prefer to wait a bit, till they are just okay but if you are lucky to meet a woman while you struggle, it is a plus, an added motivation to keep plugging away at life’s obstacles.


It is difficult being broke; you gotta understand that, you meet SO MANY amazing people but you consider them “outta your league” and you are stuck wondering if you met your “the one” and chalked her off as out of your league!! The thought scares you but the romantic in you wants to believe that when she comes along, she will stick it out with you but…


Romance is expensive, especially in this social media evolution, from Facebook to Tiktok, people flaunt relationships and holiday getaways, not many people would admit this but it gets to them, many more are tailoring their expectations of life based on those posts and as such expectations are placed so high, that reality begins to skewer.

Even broke men have lofty dreams too, they are humans after all, and they do not plan on remaining broke forever, so they dream, hope and strive, hoping to mold that dream into reality but it isn’t always that easy and so for the interim, most broke men choose to stay on the sideline, watching people get in and out of relationships, hoping to get picked, waiting for their time to shine and while they do that, they keep liking posts and leaving comments, one of them ought to get the much needed attention, their chance will come, their luck will change. They have chosen not to try and get hurt in the process, they have become ardent watchers, and they have become digital stalkers.


And so every Saturday, they watch as a woman they thought was it walks down the aisle with another man, they shake their head in despair and try again! No harm in that.

Broke men do not deserve love, they know that and most have accepted it as status quo, until it isn’t.

Summary in four words:
Don't date if broke.