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My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by GODmyHOW: 10:48pm On Apr 11, 2021
My younger sister got married December 2019. Before the marriage I advice her not to marry the man due to his background. The same advice was given to her by our mum. She so much believe that God would change him when they get married. Since they got married, the husband has turned her into a punching bag. I cannot say I warned her and then foiled my hands. He might kill her. What should I do? I need your advice on this please.
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Jashub: 10:52pm On Apr 11, 2021
As it stands it's only your sister that can deliver herself from the hands of that man, and the first step in doing that is to flee from his house. After that, she would need to seek the counsel of a humanitarian lawyer who will stand in the gap.

And if she fails to do that, then she should be ready to become more than a punching bag
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by dawnomike(m): 11:02pm On Apr 11, 2021
GODmyHOW:
My younger sister got married December 2019. Before the marriage I advice her not to marry the man due to his background. The same advice was given to her by our mum. She so much believe that God would change him when they get married. Since they got married, the husband has turned her into a punching bag. I cannot say I warned her and then foiled my hands. He might kill her. What should I do? I need your advice on this please.
Either you arrest him with your sister's consent or just look away...
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Abascoh: 11:07pm On Apr 11, 2021
There are many women's right group out there, project Alert is one of them you can contact or you get in contact with a lawyer called Abiola Akiyode Afolabi if you are in Lagos. That Man's name will be changed to sorry after they are through with him and they won't collect even one kobo from you.
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Franzinni: 11:18pm On Apr 11, 2021
Bruh dis is what you can do if you have the balls for it ...

Get a group of guys ...4 or so order them to go to thier house with balliklavas aka skii masks and baseball bats they should pull the guy out of his bed and take him for a ride...if you know what I mean ... Now you will be by a lake with a metal chair, a couple of roles of duct tapes, a good size bucket ... Metal will be better, and a large bag of cement.

They bring dude out the car and you ask him to punch a rock till you see his knuckle bones poking out the skin .. if he refuse, cut the top piece of his ear off ... Hell comply ... Then... Oh wait a minute ... I just gave you the synopsis of my short film ...


But back to the question on your sis bruh don't let some homosapien take her away from y'all for life over some domestic violence ... Call family meeting and let him swear to amadioha that he will never lay his finger on her again. Then also ask your sis to stop pushing his beast mode button . Or better still ...

You then order the 4 guys to beat his wife beating ass while you mix up the cement in the bucket ... I know you wondering what the cement and bucket is for ... Well I'll just say ... He might be going for a deep dive to clear his mind ... Permanently... Hahahahahahaha I think I need to take my meds ... It's 11:11pm psychopath hour!!!



Nah play o

Report to the authority not police o, find NGOs they go carry the matter like autogele!!

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by lilvicky68(m): 11:26pm On Apr 11, 2021
Go and marry your sister's husband sister and beat her too..
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by mariahAngel(f): 11:34pm On Apr 11, 2021
GODmyHOW:
My younger sister got married December 2019. Before the marriage I advice her not to marry the man due to his background. The same advice was given to her by our mum. She so much believe that God would change him when they get married. Since they got married, the husband has turned her into a punching bag. I cannot say I warned her and then foiled my hands. He might kill her. What should I do? I need your advice on this please.


If you were my brother, in spite of what might've happened, I'd want you to help me out of that hell.

Guy! Go shake that bastard up! Show am say your sister get brother!

For the guy to even dare to lay his filthy hands on your sister, knowing she has a brother means he has no regards for you.

See! For where any of my brothers dey, them never born that bastard well!
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by chatinent: 11:34pm On Apr 11, 2021
What happened?

Some women push men to the wall.
I'm not justifying it, but what happened!

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by mariahAngel(f): 11:38pm On Apr 11, 2021
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chatinent:
What happened?


Some women push men to the wall.

I'm not justifying it, but what happened!
[/s]

Here he comes with the "I'm not justifying it blah blah blah!" Bullsh!t!

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by OKOATA(m): 11:38pm On Apr 11, 2021
There was a man like that I know who usually beat his wife, this foolish guy would beat his wife for anything. He's always jealous if he sees any man around his wife even if the man is the blood brother to the wife, it was not until someday like that I didn't see the guy for a while, shortly after I saw him a few days after and I heard he was beaten black and blue by some guys in that area. He was coming back from work in the night and some guys waylaid this idiot, beat him with his face swollen like 500Naira Pof-Pof. They warned him not to beat his wife again that the screams of his wife disturbs the neighborhood and it was true because this guy one day even use a pestle to hit the woman on her feet she couldn't walk for days, well that was the last I heard he beat his wife until I moved away from that area. Guy go and get some boys, buy them some weed and let them beat this idiot well he won't do that again.

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by chatinent: 11:53pm On Apr 11, 2021
mariahAngel:
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Here he comes with the "I'm not justifying it blah blah blah!" Bullsh!t!

Bullshit is manure. Yawns.


By the way, I'd have supported arresting the man until a lady accosted me few days ago trying to set me up, and lied to onlookers I was beating her.

This singular event gave me a two-way thought. Some ladies deserve their treatment.

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by HONESTFACT101(m): 11:56pm On Apr 11, 2021
So in esscense you and your mother dislike your in law

Anyway that's not my biz

but complete your story now you make it sound as if the same way the man thirsts for water that us the same way he leaves to beat his wife

Also since they were never cat and dog before marriage then what is the bone of contention

if this points are unprovided then I will lay no insult on the man......signing out
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by punisha: 12:49am On Apr 12, 2021
Franzinni:
Bruh dis is what you can do if you have the balls for it ...

Get a group of guys ...4 or so order them to go to thier house with balliklavas aka skii masks and baseball bats they should pull the guy out of his bed and take him for a ride...if you know what I mean ... Now you will be by a lake with a metal chair, a couple of roles of duct tapes, a good size bucket ... Metal will be better, and a large bag of cement.

They bring dude out the car and you ask him to punch a rock till you see his knuckle bones poking out the skin .. if he refuse, cut the top piece of his ear off ... Hell comply ... Then... Oh wait a minute ... I just gave you the synopsis of my short film ...


But back to the question on your sis bruh don't let some homosapien take her away from y'all for life over some domestic violence ... Call family meeting and let him swear to amadioha that he will never lay his finger on her again. Then also ask your sis to stop pushing his beast mode button . Or better still ...

You then order the 4 guys to beat his wife beating ass while you mix up the cement in the bucket ... I know you wondering what the cement and bucket is for ... Well I'll just say ... He might be going for a deep dive to clear his mind ... Permanently... Hahahahahahaha I think I need to take my meds ... It's 11:11pm psychopath hour!!!



Nah play o

Report to the authority not police o, find NGOs they go carry the matter like autogele!!




too much of foreign movie is bad for the health.
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by punisha: 12:57am On Apr 12, 2021
get evidence...if ur sister would cooperate.

truth is only word some men hear is violence...

i once pulled my fathers gun on him way back in 1998 and he never laid hands on my mom again till he passed away.

would have asked u to go to pick some small boys and tidy his fvck up but this matter is delicate...
the evidence is enough to rattle him if adequate authorities are involved.

just make sure your sister is in sync or they fit use u settle quarrel.
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by beautyhd: 4:28am On Apr 12, 2021
My dad told us a story about her sister that married a very quiet man to an outsider but a beast inside the house.
He was always beating my aunt and nothing was done until my dad and his immediate junior took some soldiers to her state without her knowledge. They visited the man at work and from work the man was taken to the hospital and that was the end to the beating but there were other forms of maltreatment which could be easily ignored.

The said sister was their most senior.

At op, I believe you got the gist.

A Friend of mine has a husband that maltreated her badly,cheated on her and even had children outside. He beat her only once cos she responded in like manner to the beating by pumelling the guy.

The husband told her one day that he can maltreat her and get away with it cos she has no brothers that can fight for her.

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by frozen70(f): 4:36am On Apr 12, 2021
GODmyHOW:
My younger sister got married December 2019. Before the marriage I advice her not to marry the man due to his background. The same advice was given to her by our mum. She so much believe that God would change him when they get married. Since they got married, the husband has turned her into a punching bag. I cannot say I warned her and then foiled my hands. He might kill her. What should I do? I need your advice on this please.

If your sister is tired of the beating, let her Come home

Marriage is not bye force and doesn't determines happiness

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Mindlog: 5:03am On Apr 12, 2021
chatinent:
What happened?


Some women push men to the wall.

I'm not justifying it, but what happened!

If same man was pushed to the wall by Nigerian policemen or just cadets in the Nigerian Army, how will he respond to the provocation?
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by GboyegaD(m): 5:25am On Apr 12, 2021
Take some military men to his home to give him stern warning that when next he hits her, he will be dealt with properly in return.

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by mariahAngel(f): 10:05am On Apr 12, 2021
beautyhd:
My dad told us a story about her sister that married a very quiet man to an outsider but a beast inside the house.
He was always beating my aunt and nothing was done until my dad and his immediate junior took some soldiers to her state without her knowledge. They visited the man at work and from work the man was taken to the hospital and that was the end to the beating but there were other forms of maltreatment which could be easily ignored.

The said sister was their most senior.

At op, I believe you got the gist.

A Friend of mine has a husband that maltreated her badly,cheated on her and even had children outside. He beat her only once cos she responded in like manner to the beating by pumelling the guy.

The husband told her one day that he can maltreat her and get away with it cos she has no brothers that can fight for her.

There are so many cowards like that.
Maltreating your wife because you know she has no male in her life to defend her.
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Munzy14(m): 12:22pm On Apr 12, 2021
mariahAngel:



If you were my brother, in spite of what might've happened, I'd want you to help me out of that hell.

Guy! Go shake that bastard up! Show am say your sister get brother!

For the guy to even dare to lay his filthy hands on your sister, knowing she has a brother means he has no regards for you.

See! For where any of my brothers dey, them never born that bastard well!
heyyyy honourable be calming down o...two wrongs never make a right...

Na water them the use quench fire...cheesy


ya gawa Kwanu, di guy kugbuo ya? okwa burial a gbaa..grin


If i be him, i will talk to my sister...and talk sense into her...Ma ya banye worse...But i know my younger siblings might be overboard and eliminate him..Then the sister will now cry u have killed her hubby o furu n'anya...Husband and wife matter is somehow na style dem deh use handle am...

My cousins kept beating their sister's hubby...I mean if they are driving, see am, they will double cross...drag him out and engage him...But after all the sister still Atttack them...They left them till they settled their issues and are living together till date.

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by mariahAngel(f): 12:56pm On Apr 12, 2021
Munzy14:

heyyyy honourable be calming down o...two wrongs never make a right...

Na water them the use quench fire...cheesy


ya gawa Kwanu, di guy kugbuo ya? okwa burial a gbaa..grin


If i be him, i will talk to my sister...and talk sense into her...Ma ya banye worse...But i know my younger siblings might be overboard and eliminate him..Then the sister will now cry u have killed her hubby o furu n'anya...Husband and wife matter is somehow na style dem deh use handle am...

My cousins kept beating their sister's hubby...I mean if they are driving, see am, they will double cross...drag him out and engage him...But after all the sister still Atttack them...They left them till they settled their issues and are living together till date.


I can't stand weak men who lay their filthy hands on the women they should protect! Not even in movies can I stand to watch such.
I've always said it; Women are delicate!

Love does not hurt, it protects.
Some cowards take advantage of the vulnerability (when they are in love)of others to hurt them.

You can't just stand by and watch your own suffer and die because she says "she's in love"
In that situation, she can't help herself because she's trapped. That's where those who love her comes.

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by SavageResponse(m): 3:09pm On Apr 12, 2021
GODmyHOW:
My younger sister got married December 2019. Before the marriage I advice her not to marry the man due to his background. The same advice was given to her by our mum. She so much believe that God would change him when they get married. Since they got married, the husband has turned her into a punching bag. I cannot say I warned her and then foiled my hands. He might kill her. What should I do? I need your advice on this please.

You sister is very foolish, how can she expect a grown man to suddenly just change habits that are already a part of him?

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Kobicove(m): 3:17pm On Apr 12, 2021
dawnomike:
Either you arrest him with your sister's consent or just look away...

There's no point seeking her consent cos she will never give it, he should just go ahead and deal with him!
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Kobicove(m): 3:19pm On Apr 12, 2021
Franzinni:
Bruh dis is what you can do if you have the balls for it ...

Get a group of guys ...4 or so order them to go to thier house with balliklavas aka skii masks and baseball bats they should pull the guy out of his bed and take him for a ride...if you know what I mean ... Now you will be by a lake with a metal chair, a couple of roles of duct tapes, a good size bucket ... Metal will be better, and a large bag of cement.

They bring dude out the car and you ask him to punch a rock till you see his knuckle bones poking out the skin .. if he refuse, cut the top piece of his ear off ... Hell comply ... Then... Oh wait a minute ... I just gave you the synopsis of my short film ...


But back to the question on your sis bruh don't let some homosapien take her away from y'all for life over some domestic violence ... Call family meeting and let him swear to amadioha that he will never lay his finger on her again. Then also ask your sis to stop pushing his beast mode button . Or better still ...

You then order the 4 guys to beat his wife beating ass while you mix up the cement in the bucket ... I know you wondering what the cement and bucket is for ... Well I'll just say ... He might be going for a deep dive to clear his mind ... Permanently... Hahahahahahaha I think I need to take my meds ... It's 11:11pm psychopath hour!!!



Nah play o

Report to the authority not police o, find NGOs they go carry the matter like autogele!!


Which movie did you see this in? grin
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Munzy14(m): 3:53pm On Apr 12, 2021
mariahAngel:


I can't stand weak men who lay their filthy hands on the women they should protect! Not even in movies can I stand to watch such.
I've always said it; Women are delicate!

Love does not hurt, it protects.
Some cowards take advantage of the vulnerability (when they are in love)of others to hurt them.

You can't just stand by and watch your own suffer and die because she says "she's in love"
In that situation, she can't help herself because she's trapped. That's where those who love her comes.

Trapped, i don't think so...A lot things causes domestic violence...Nwaanyi nwere ike gawa ije agwo, di ya jide ya, boom ya esu...ma o wu di akwa wa iko, nwaanyi Kwuo..oguh esu

Give 5 individuals one problem, and watch them handle it differently..That's how humans are wired.

Some ladies beat their hubby...cheesy

whoever is enjoying a peaceful marriage, doesn't know the big enjoyment they are having..

I still will never ever support beating of a partner in any way...whether normal relationship or marriage or even friendship....

Silence in the midst of chaos is golden...Walking away when adrenaline don rise is priceless..

No perfect union...Na tolerance and understanding be the real deal.

Women should equally help matters...Country bad now...Small things the provoke people...Ufodu umu nwaanyi gwa gi okwu eeh...Obi agbawaa gi...cheesy

o wuhu onye o wula nwere self control o...Ufodu obi di ka matches...cheesy igba pim oku esu..
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by VTJN(m): 4:18pm On Apr 12, 2021
chatinent:
What happened?


Some women push men to the wall.

I'm not justifying it, but what happened!
Absolutely nothing warrant a man to hit a woman

No excuse whatsoever for that

Any man who hit a woman should be put behind bar for life
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by chatinent: 5:26pm On Apr 12, 2021
VTJN:
Absolutely nothing warrant a man to hit a woman

No excuse whatsoever for that

Any man who hit a woman should be put behind bar for life

You've not meant many women.
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by VTJN(m): 5:34pm On Apr 12, 2021
chatinent:


You've not meant many women.
nothing whatsoever

Society frawn against domestic violence,

To me personally the worst a woman can do is to bring in a man to your matrimonial bed

That doesn't still warrant me hitting her, what happens to divorce or separation?

Nothing to justify domestic violence!

It is not good!

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Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by mariahAngel(f): 6:33pm On Apr 12, 2021
Munzy14:

Trapped, i don't think so...A lot things causes domestic violence...Nwaanyi nwere ike gawa ije agwo, di ya jide ya, boom ya esu...ma o wu di akwa wa iko, nwaanyi Kwuo..oguh esu


Give 5 individuals one problem, and watch them handle it differently..That's how humans are wired.

Some ladies beat their hubby...cheesy

whoever is enjoying a peaceful marriage, doesn't know the big enjoyment they are having..

I still will never ever support beating of a partner in any way...whether normal relationship or marriage or even friendship....

Silence in the midst of chaos is golden...Walking away when adrenaline don rise is priceless..

No perfect union...Na tolerance and understanding be the real deal.

Women should equally help matters...Country bad now...Small things the provoke people...Ufodu umu nwaanyi gwa gi okwu eeh...Obi agbawaa gi...cheesy

o wuhu onye o wula nwere self control o...Ufodu obi di ka matches...cheesy igba pim oku esu..

Okwu gbasara olulu di na nwaanyi ehn...

Onye na-agabehu agahu a mali ihe no na ya. Ike gwuru.
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Munzy14(m): 6:53pm On Apr 12, 2021
mariahAngel:


Okwu gbasara olulu di na nwaanyi ehn...

Onye na-agabehu agahu a mali ihe no na ya. Ike gwuru.
owu nu ya...cheesy

o siri ike...Ihe o wula gbasara nwoke na nwaanyi...

if you found yourself in a long relationship, i ga a ghota.

Ma ya fodu for better for worse....grin ebe resources di limited...ahu ga a na gbakashi nke nwaanyi...
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by mariahAngel(f): 7:06pm On Apr 12, 2021
Munzy14:

owu nu ya...cheesy

o siri ike...Ihe o wula gbasara nwoke na nwaanyi...

if you found yourself in a long relationship, i ga a ghota.

Ma ya fodu for better for worse....grin ebe resources di limited...ahu ga a na gbakashi nke nwaanyi...

Ha! Ihe awudikwa nkwa ha kwere anyi mgbe anyi no na nwata o
Nkwa ha kwere anyi wu "happily ever after" o grin

Onye tinyecha ishi, ihe o ga huzi wu ihe na o tuwaghi anya.
Inukwa I gbu nwaanyi I luru-alu ilu... Ashi gba!
Re: My Sister Is Being Beaten By Her Husband. How Can I Help Her? by Munzy14(m): 7:54pm On Apr 12, 2021
mariahAngel:


Ha! Ihe awudikwa nkwa ha kwere anyi mgbe anyi no na nwata o
Nkwa ha kwere anyi wu "happily ever after" o grin

Onye tinyecha ishi, ihe o ga huzi wu ihe na o tuwaghi anya.
Inukwa I gbu nwaanyi I luru-alu ilu... Ashi gba!
hahahaha...okwa ya.. e nwere ndi bi happily ever after o...E ji kwala ndi online a judge others.


I choro i me enjoy nke gi, lewe nke mma gi, soro her footsteps in the main areas and as well learn from her mistakes...It will shape u for urs...

Same thing should be applicable to guys si from decent homes whose parents are living happily ever after.

Even though some ladies get craze, it is still in the place of a man to keep his home...


In all u pray to get ur own...maka ufodu luru nke ndi ozo...the result bu oguh na mgba....grin

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