SmartMen:
...I explained to her that I need to raise money for my friend so that he can start something and after that, I will get her the phone.

Zzor:
The only issue I have with your story is saying no guy will buy her phone without wanting anything from her,there are guys who can buy expensive stuff for free even if you turn them down,I'm not talking about Lagos boys ooo those ones have their brains in front of their foreheads(who still do Lagos boys anyways).You already know what to do,life isn't as hard as people take it and a lady who truly loves you won't have her eyes elsewhere or receive gifts from other men.fati2001 a tribalistic mod biasedly ban me

SmartMen:
Hi,

I want to share something because I noticed that some men often act confused when they should take serious actions or know when to walk away.

So, I have this girl that I decided to ask out and possibly work things out with. All have been going well, she very responsive and communicative, energy level is 50-50, you know that kind of thing.

Her phone was stolen and I actually planned to get her another phone BUT a friend who was good to me in the past has been idled after he lost his job. I explained to her that I need to raise money for my friend so that he can start something and after that, I will get her the phone.

Last week, I texted her to let her know that I have not forgotten and that I will do something about it next month unfailingly to which she said okay and told me she would use the money to get a phone of her choice. Because of the financial demand on me, I thought to get her something she could use temporarily for internet and social media use and by end of the year, I will get her some great.

I was surprised when she messaged me on WhatsApp and I inquired if she has gotten a WhatsApp phone she said yes. I asked how did it happen (cos we just talked about the phone ish last week) and she said she got some contributions of a sort. I said and you didn't tell me? she said it happened unexpectedly.

Discerning minds know another guy bought the phone for her but when I mentioned it she asked if I was interrogating her and that it is a gift.

Whoever it is, is asking her out or hoping to ask her out and we all know no guy will do something like that for FREE without expecting anything. I have decided to just withdraw and let her have the guy.

I may be overreacting but I have grown past the stage where I play this kind of battle trying to win any girl to my side. I made a decision that I have absolutely nothing to prove to any girl anymore. If you wanna stay, stay. If you want to play games, you are on your own. There is no point trying to fight over a girl or trying to prove you are the better choice and all those nonsense.

I thought I should share this just in case there is a guy here who might be in dilemma and confused when the best thing do is MOVE!

PrimadonnaO:
What's the issue exactly?

You're pained she was able to get the phone when you were putting her on hold?

And all these assumptions you've created, you're the only one it's affecting. You realise that, don't you?

Magnoliaa:


Let him be giving himself headache. Mtchew.

The only issue I have with your story is saying no guy will buy her phone without wanting anything from her,there are guys who can buy expensive stuff for free even if you turn them down,I'm not talking about Lagos boys ooo those ones have their brains in front of their foreheads(who still do Lagos boys anyways).You already know what to do,life isn't as hard as people take it and a lady who truly loves you won't have her eyes elsewhere or receive gifts from other men.fati2001 a tribalistic mod biasedly ban me

SILENTandSMART2:
Forget the fact that every man buy something for a girl in return for something , dat means you're among those men , so shameful


I can't count the number I've bought things for girls who need it without looking back , don't let what you're going through disturb your brain, think big in order to become big in life

As for the case of your girlfriend nobody can conclude cus we don't know her mind because it has happened to me before I want to get redmi note 9 pro for one girl but i told her dat she should chill till the end of the month , she called me and tell me dat she has gotten new phone .

She said she can't wait till the end of the month she can't do without internet connection i smiled and hang up , poor her she didn't know dat i gat bigger plan for her because i didn't tell her the kind of phone i wanna buy for her , she bought spark 6 so chill brother and study what is happening , your girlfriend might be innocent , don't spoil things for yourself.

Cutehector:
See what poverty has done to you, now ya wailing.

lkillbrokehoes:
Good! now you can get a life, I would have payed him to ban you for 20 years, nonsense.

SmartMen:
I chose to help a friend... if that makes me poverty, so be it.

The only issue I have with your story is saying no guy will buy her phone without wanting anything from her,there are guys who can buy expensive stuff for free even if you turn them down,I'm not talking about Lagos boys ooo those ones have their brains in front of their foreheads(who still do Lagos boys anyways).You already know what to do,life isn't as hard as people take it and a lady who truly loves you won't have her eyes elsewhere or receive gifts from other men.fati2001 a tribalistic mod biasedly ban me

SmartMen:


Man, you got that right. I wanted to get her RedMi .... I have given girls money without expecting anything in return and this include girls I wanted to date too...some of them I no bang. no b say I no sabi...