HRSweetness:
OP, could you kindly clarify, what is the correlation between your advice and the story you shared?

Hideki:
I have this piece of advice to share with young ladies. Never forget where you are coming from and do not over estimate your self worth. Just because someone from the office is giving you a lift home or someone from the office is footing your expensive lunch bill then you begin to think that is reality and your boyfriend should keep up with the standard.

A close friend travelled to east for an assignment and he met this beautiful lady ( I love pretty ladies too). Let me cut to the chase, they started dating. A couple of times, my friend invited her to my apartment and we will have dinner together (my wife inclusive).

My friend being a spendthrift, takes overtly good care of this lady. Flight to and fro from Lagos. Expensive gifts and all. The lady works in a MFB in the east and she is from a humble home (according to what I saw when my friend and I visited).

I once teased her that it is economical for her to board a bus back to east since she is on leave and will not resume work the next day. She said NO that bus is quite stressful, the number of hours on the road and she may develop a headache. (See pako oo?...I just concurred...)
The thing is, good life is good. Only that ensure you are making your own money so that you don't have a big fall. This lady resigned/got fired from her job board a flight to Lagos and got an apartment all expense paid by the boyfriend.

Unfortunately my friend's parent did not approve of the lady. There was a bit of drama but He succumbed; cos his family was his source of wealth. He has relocated abroad after the whole issue.

I saw this lady few days ago at a popular market close to the estate where I reside She has a store where she sell stuffs but she has changed.

Finally I will advise my daughter to take this advice: Attain a standard yourself before you set that standard for your partner.

Hideki:
I believe it is right in front of you.

Michelle55:
Who understands this story? Please explain to me because I no go school reach that level. Thank you!

HRSweetness:
OP, could you kindly clarify, what is the correlation between your advice and the story you shared?

Yusufisraelj:


When someone is trying to upgrade you to a level where your own income cannot sustain that spending, jejely come to your level, especially in relationships where nothing is guaranteed.

As the guy left how did she faired? Some people just like the fake life to show that things are working. She never grew to the level where the guy was pushing her into, equally the guy wasn't willing to allow her grow into those levels, it was largely a transactional relationship. From OPs story her life went from first class to economy within a short period, what does that say?

I'm I saying guys shouldn't spend on their ladies? No, no sane man will over spend on his lady even if he is well to do, they want such ladies to be able to manage their wealth someday, so they allow them grow into taking certain responsibilities.

It was obvious the wealth wasn't largely the guys own hence the heavy spending without proper foresight to groom the lady for management of large sums. Bkos it has shown that his decision can be largely influenced against his will and choice and the lady couldn't keep up with the new standard.





Like seriously?

Nicely elaborated! One chilled beer for you, bills is on the house

aroundtheearth:
Relationship or marriage, it's always a good idea for a woman to have her own money/income, without depending solely on a man. You don't know the future and need to have your own cheddah.

havilla:
What are ladies exactly to learn from this story? It's clear to see that the op had a problem with the way his friend was spending on that girl and opened this thread to mock the poor girl. Get a life pls and leave young ladies alone.

obumsway:
I just pity people like you

musicproducer:
sorry bro, u just told a story nothing here to pick advice from

havilla:
What are ladies exactly to learn from this story? It's clear to see that the op had a problem with the way his friend was spending on that girl and opened this thread to mock the poor girl. Get a life pls and leave young ladies alone.

aroundtheearth:
Relationship or marriage, it's always a good idea for a woman to have her own money/income, without depending solely on a man. You don't know the future and need to have your own cheddah.

Yusufisraelj:


When someone is trying to upgrade you to a level where your own income cannot sustain that spending, jejely come to your level, especially in relationships where nothing is guaranteed.

As the guy left how did she faired? Some people just like the fake life to show that things are working. She never grew to the level where the guy was pushing her into, equally the guy wasn't willing to allow her grow into those levels, it was largely a transactional relationship. From OPs story her life went from first class to economy within a short period, what does that say?

I'm I saying guys shouldn't spend on their ladies? No, no sane man will over spend on his lady even if he is well to do, they want such ladies to be able to manage their wealth someday, so they allow them grow into taking certain responsibilities.

It was obvious the wealth wasn't largely the guys own hence the heavy spending without proper foresight to groom the lady for management of large sums. Bkos it has shown that his decision can be largely influenced against his will and choice and the lady couldn't keep up with the new standard.




Like seriously?

Jenny1010:
More reason why so many guys are locked up inside bottle

Hideki:
You need to sharpen your comprehension skills

musicproducer:
why, cause truth is spoken here.

don't except an okay all the time.

Hideki:
I wasn't expecting an " okay" what is up there is detailed enough for an 18yr old to understand.

havilla:
What are ladies exactly to learn from this story? It's clear to see that the op had a problem with the way his friend was spending on that girl and opened this thread to mock the poor girl. Get a life pls and leave young ladies alone.

Hideki:
The lady in the story had a job and was earning. However she quickly lost touch with reality and that is the message I wanted to pass across

havilla:
[s]What are ladies exactly to learn from this story? It's clear to see that the op had a problem with the way his friend was spending on that girl and opened this thread to mock the poor girl. Get a life pls and leave young ladies alone.[/s]

Yusufisraelj:


When someone is trying to upgrade you to a level where your own income cannot sustain that spending, jejely come to your level, especially in relationships where nothing is guaranteed.

As the guy left how did she faired? Some people just like the fake life to show that things are working. She never grew to the level where the guy was pushing her into, equally the guy wasn't willing to allow her grow into those levels, it was largely a transactional relationship. From OPs story her life went from first class to economy within a short period, what does that say?

I'm I saying guys shouldn't spend on their ladies? No, no sane man will over spend on his lady even if he is well to do, they want such ladies to be able to manage their wealth someday, so they allow them grow into taking certain responsibilities.

It was obvious the wealth wasn't largely the guys own hence the heavy spending without proper foresight to groom the lady for management of large sums. Bkos it has shown that his decision can be largely influenced against his will and choice and the lady couldn't keep up with the new standard.




Like seriously?