so many (only) nigerian men have ask me what am doing out inthe night.
These are the same men that ask me for my number

going clubbing when one is married cannot be a regular thing but once in a while its gd to exercise old bones by dancing and it’l also do a world of good to see your wife in something really sexy. It doesn’t have to be a club full of hoes. You could do the jazz club (sounds boring shey) or something milder. And back to the real issue. The lady in question must accept that this man would not sleep at home most of the weekends. No need saying he will change. If she cant accept him like that then she shouldn’t go into the marriage. She should shine her eyes. If he changes it’l be a Bonus but she shouldn’t have her mind set on that

I dont know if it is possible 4 him 2 stop clubbing after his marriage. But one thing I can guarantee is dat he wld wnat 2 continue 4 a while n his wife wld not only have 2 oblige him but may even have 2 accompany him if she wants 2 ensure dat he does not go playing any away match. Wit time however he may stop especially by d time d occupational hazards of being husband/father/breadwinner/ general support 2 extended family begins 2 catch up wit him. Except if he absolutely refuses 2 b responsible.

one thin i believe is SELF DISCIPLINE.if the man makes up his mind not 2 go clubing after he gets married or even b4, cos he is going 2 be a family man very soon, i do not see any reason 4 him to fall back to his vomit.As a married woman i was onces a hell of a drinker,but my better half stoped me cos he never drinks,and by the grace of God i am ok.

Really i don't c anything bad in clubbing once in a month even when u r married.
I have a boss in d office that go clubbing every last friday of the month with her husband and the next monday she's so full of life with full stories of their adventures and when i asked her abt d children she jst told me they got that sorted out with her baby sitter(have 2 kids).So tell me wht's wrong in dat?

am married and infact i still ent to club yesternite
and u know what my wife wakes up to open the gate for me
brothers marry you friend and there wont be problems in this aspect
i go clubing i drink ,i dance and discuss business too
once your spouse knows u well u realy free
i dont take her to clubs but i take her out evne at nite fro some corporate dinners and stuffs
i odnt have a girlfriend and she knows

I beg u guys dont kill me with laughter (olofinjeje take note) lol

what if it was the other way round?

Seriously though, i dont think marriage should be bondage but all things should be done in moderation.

angel101:

I beg u guys don't kill me with laughter (olofinjeje take note) lol

what if it was the other way round?

Seriously though, i don't think marriage should be bondage but all things should be done in moderation.

Abi o dem come talk am as if marriage is jst a way of been imprisoned in a cell with ur wife

I've never been to a club all my life and my BF does not go to club either, so I think it will be a club-free relationship for us both. But I dont see anything wrong in a couple who are used to clubbing to once in a while have some fun.

I Dont think its wise to continue clubbin since Marriage demands Maturity,

What if the guy meets old wrong friends or enemies that are still single, what's he gonna do?

Human behaviour is not MATHEMATICS! Some people don't go clubbing at all but change after marriage.
Just ensure that the basic human qualities are there before you marry the guy. He should be God-fearing; respects you; cherishes you;

@Babalawo
mo wa be be,
Once you go clubbing alone, it's just a matter of time before you find a girlfriend, EXCEPT YOU DON'T INDULGE IN ALCOHOL. One day you will get very drunk and you wake up in a hotel, wondering how you got there, BEWARE!
babalawo mo wa be be, alu bere, Take care.

i believe it is. my frined's husband is a pure example[color=#006600][/color]

What is this big deal about clubbing?

What do you think people do when they go clubbing?

If that be the case, a guy/girl in a serious relationship shouldn't go as well.

When I get married, I still keep some moments of madness for my hubby and I.

Marriage shouldn't be so boring!

he might , but it won't as easy as he thinks so he should start slowing down ounce he thinks he has found mrs.right

babalawo:

and u know what my wife wakes up to open the gate for me
i don't take her to clubs

why not?

ther eis nothing sexy about a 35 and older guy in the club. when there are younger hipper guys there. so the papas need ot go home

Same here, i have never been to a club all my life but if my spouse was the clubbing type and he gave me an invite,i would be at leats inclined to go all the time. . . at least see what all the fuss is about. However i think as time goes by, clubbing with your spouse tends to slow down naturally maybe when kids start to come into the scene but honestly,i dont see nothing wrong with it. It Nigerian men that tend to make a mountain out of a mole hill over non issues, they probably dont want you to go clubbing with them because they know they'll be up to no good!

used to go clubbing a lot before i got married and did for a short while after marriage. like you said when the kids came, i naturally slowed down to a point now where i do not go anymore. I think i've simply just seen it all.

man have to live responsibly after marriage.

There is no maximum age limit or preconditions for clubbing,just make sure you don't drink and drive.And another thing,don't play around,cos you will die helplesslly.

redsun:

And another thing,don't play around,because you will die helplesslly.

ROTFLMAO!!!LOL!!!

Not possible. It is a habit formed and almost impossible to quit. I still club. Not always with my wife but not necessarily with a g. friend. I do not have a problem going with my wife. I love music and dancing though I don't think I can now qualify belly shakes as dancing.

I disagree with that expectation because no one learns to use the left hand in old age.

yeye people dey always give bad advise for here.

So, person don marry (possibly with one or two kids) and him go come dey go night club: some girls for here get problems and dem no go ever settle down. Whether na for drinking or na for dancing to go dey smooch babes, all na bad things for any married man to do indulge in. Why una no fit stay for una home dey plan una lives to make things better and make the future of children better?

Make una look all the people wey say e dey alright to go clubbing after marriage and see how many of dem get husbands.

Na these same ways of thinking make oyinbo people dem no dey ever get settled marriages. You no fit go club just dey watch. You go either to go dance or to drink. You go dance with half naked girls and you go dey tempted or you go drink too much and evil thoughts go enter ya head.

so many (only) nigerian men have ask me what am doing out inthe night.
These are the same men that ask me for my number

Because dem believe say as you dey there, you dey available for yanshing.

Any woman wey dey responsibly married no go dey for club without her man.

Nothing worng with husband and wife going out together when they feel like it

JustGood:

Because them believe say as you dey there, you dey available for yanshing.

Any woman wey dey responsibly married no go dey for club without her man.

Just lie so you still de here. nawaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa


I agree i de irresponsible but i de enjoy.
My name no be suffer suffer Ngozi.
By the way. Na your useless Fellow Bro-das Okoros that think that kind useless thinking

mamaput:


Just lie so you still de here. nawaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa


I agree i de irresponsible but i de enjoy.
My name no be suffer suffer Ngozi.
By the way. Na your useless Fellow Bro-das Okoros that think that kind useless thinking

na wa o

Irresponsible woman say she dey enjoy. You just dey do those things to try and fill the void in your miserable life. Dont come and preach your immoral lifestyle to young Nigerian girls here.

You want make other girls get your kind miserable life.

Iya ndagbe

See this justlie.
If you like blow your mouth till kingdom come. No Nigerian girl here will give you face.

And by the by no be me we de spoil them Nigerian girls.
Na you with your useless okoros Bro_das .

mamaput:

See this justlie.
If you like blow your mouth till kingdom come. No Nigerian girl here will give you face.

And by the by no be me we de spoil them Nigerian girls.
Na you with your useless okoros Bro_das .

How many girls here told you I ever talked to them before?

I am a married man and have absolutely no need for any girl here. I am happy with the way my family is.

I just dont want irresposible women like you to try and mislead young girls on this site. Go and live your miserable life yourself and dont drag younger girls into the same kind of misery. You made your life the misery that it is; so go and deal with it.

Just lie you lie.
You are not married.
And if you are i pity your wife.
Its sunday you should be spending your time with your wife and not on the internet.
Its useless , JUSTUELESS potential sugardaddys like you that spoil young girls.
You wait outside the clubs like hyenas just waiting to pounce on little girls.
You do this while your wives slaves are forced to wait at home with your food and to open the gate for you. And if you are unsucessful and get no prey you go home drunk and beatup your slaves you call wife