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I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by BuharFulani: 6:14pm On May 04
Good evening.

Please your matured advice is needed. Please read through.

So I met this fine girl after about 6 months of continuous chatting, calls and video calls on WhatsApp.

We were both admitted to the University this year. So we are in 100l.

I spoke with her and she agreed to date me. Personally, I knew she lovd me and I love her just as much.

We had sex a couple of times. We always use protection. But one day the condom got torn and I deposited in her.

Well I gave her postinor 2 the next day. Just a few days back she told me that as she was washing her clothes in the morning, she suddenly felt the urge to throw up and she vomited.

I asked her if she was feeling ill or anything but she said she was OK and nothing is wrong with her.

I decided to buy one of those pregnancy test strip for her to test herself. She did and she told me she saw two lines. One faint.

I told her that might be pregnancy but she said she will like to retry it again some other time. So we are giving it a few days.

But here is the thing: I cannot afford to have a baby at this time. I am not financially stable to have a baby and that is the major issue.

First off, I'm an orphan who depends on relatives for my school fees and feeding and get money for clothes with hustle.

I've been thinking about this since and till now, I just don't know how I would be able to take care of a baby. If it was when my parents were alive, I would have love to have the baby and keep with my parents but I don't know of any relative who would accept a baby or even provide money for the upkeep.

The girl is still very young. And we are both starting our school. I think at the moment abortion will be the only way out.

Sometimes I look at her and just hate myself for making her so unhappy by putting her in this sort of position.

Though I've not discussed this with her but I think she will agree if I say abortion or even ask her to keep the baby so long as I would be man enough to face the outcome.

So now, it's either me running away with my tails between my legs or rising to take responsibility for the new baby.

P. S I'm a medical student. So side hustle is a thing that is not very feasible right now.

Please your mature advice would be appreciated.

Update:

She later called me that she was just playing about the positive. It's actually negative.

That girl sha. Na the second time she de play this kain play.

Thanks to everyone especially at Offpoint1
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by SUPERPACK: 6:16pm On May 04
If you are not ready to father a child why go around having sex any how. That is why I do advise people to stay away from premarital sex, sex is not food, its not water and neither a source of eternal peace. Even if she aborts it you will still score another goal again in no distant time. Please stay away from premarital sex the only long term gain in it is regrets, pains, depression and forced marriages.

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Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Xenry: 6:17pm On May 04
Another one! grin grin
Guy you don finish. grin
You should have just kept your little man in your trousers and save yourself from this wahala. wink
Chai! You decided to use weak condoms and you didn't even know that condoms are cheaper than pampers. grin
Like I said before, u don finish. Leave school and go village, ur village people are proud of you!
"Daddy, oyo-yo" is on the way! grin

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Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Xenry: 6:17pm On May 04
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Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by LeeSantos(m): 6:20pm On May 04
Comment reading bus-stop o wa oh. conductor i want to get down here.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by OlayemiAshraf(m): 6:22pm On May 04
Ehyaaa ....let's wait for the elders grin

Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Romanoff(f): 6:23pm On May 04
Why is it that it is mostly those who are not ready for babies of even capable of caring for babies that go skinny-dipping?
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by gaius01(m): 6:25pm On May 04
Arrrrrrrh

Some post on Nairaland I don't seem to get.

• You are in 1OO Lv
• No dad, No mum only Relations who are sponsoring you in school.
• Not financially Stable

if am were to be in your shoes only no. 2 will create a wide proximity between me and premarital sex.

You went ahead to sleep with a lady without consulting us (Nairalander).

And you are here seeking advice on what ground? What do you expect us to do, to back you on abortion ? undecided

Please accept your fate, start hustle, tell your Relations that you will like to stop school because soon you will be facing a whole lot of responsibility.

So you don't wanna be responsible but you want to have an irresponsible sex abi?

Don't go and kill someone daughter in the name of abortion because you will forever live with that mark unless you confess to her parents.

All this related post on Nairaland do disgust me. lipsrsealed undecided lipsrsealed

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Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by AmancalledGod: 6:29pm On May 04
I would have given you a very good advice, whereby you will know how to go about it without having any issues with your girlfriend, but your moniker is discouraging me.
which one is Buhari Fulani
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by BuharFulani: 6:33pm On May 04
AmancalledGod:
I would have given you a very good advice, whereby you will know how to go about it without having any issues with your girlfriend, but your moniker is discouraging me.
which one is Buhari Fulani
4get moniker and talk abeg.

Na something wey don make no sleep for days naim I being come here
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by BuharFulani: 6:35pm On May 04
SUPERPACK:
If you are not ready to father a child why go around having sex any how. That is why I do advise people to stay away from premarital sex, sex is not food, its not water and neither a source of eternal peace. Even if she aborts it you will still score another goal again in no distant time. Please stay away from premarital sex the only long term gain in it is regrets, pains, depression and forced marriages.
The did has been done sir.

What do you advice now?
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by kestolove95(f): 6:42pm On May 04
if you abort you have killed, and God will ask you.....so don't let d devil use u
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Lalami3232(m): 6:54pm On May 04
100L don begin deposit for woman sacred temple grin.
Only God know how many children that geh go abort before she finish NYSC. Now I see why my gender must impregnate before dem marry women, cus plenty no get womb again. Imagine 100L don dey carry belle and laslas, dem go abort am with one quack medicine/doctor.
The day I go see say I born girl pikin, I go cry pass when my papa die grin

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Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by BENRAZY(m): 7:07pm On May 04
Alaye so as condom burst u decided to score goal na, na mumurity the worry u,u are even thinking of abortion my question is do u hv money for it, better go begin hustle
E get y
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Offpoint1: 7:15pm On May 04
Op, Nigerians are found of judging people for same sins they're committing/guilty of.
Most will condemn and judge you, almost all of 'em aren't virgins.


First you need confirm she's truly pregnant or YOU'RE RESPONSIBLE, cause from the narrative... Something isn't right.
Vomiting isn't the first sign of pregnancy, it should be at least 2 months or 3 before the vomiting part depending on individual.

Op mistakes happens, we are all humans void of perfection.
What lies before you, it's a tough situation that can make or destroy your life/dreams.
From all you've written, you lack what it takes to carter for yourself, take more of a baby.
You're being supported, once they found out about the pregnancy they'll cease all support and your life will move into a new phase.

My advice: To me abortion is the greatest sin, the greatest sin is having a kid you CAN'T raise.
You've read alot of stories here on nairaland, 80% of youths are frustrated, there many in their 20s and 30s who have no directions. Many are responsible for the vices in the society today... Do you know where the problem came from? Lack of parental support and guidance.

You have a dream, but no one to support it because your parents can't barely feed themselves. Many aren't dead because of the fear of suicide and what lies beyond, many are depressed and tired of life itself.

Most of those thugs/prostitute you see on streets today are from parents who lack the financial capability to raised them.

It's better you don't birth them, than birth them without financials... You've added one more problem to the society.


What to do:
Let her parents know she's pregnant, let your Guardians know she's pregnant. Seek their support to raise the baby in their care or to terminate it. Their respond determines if you'll keep it or abort it. Don't let no one force you into marrying anyone.


DON'T go for secret abortion, things can go bad... If your final decision is abortion, seek professional help and don't go for quack docs and MOST importantly both of your parents should be aware.

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Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Kvng6464: 7:28pm On May 04
if u dey think say anybody go tell u how to go about the abortion u go old ooo, fool u want to kill a baby abi?
brain less fool, u want to kill a baby
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by MufasaLion(m): 8:31pm On May 04
Xenry:
Another one! grin grin
Guy you don finish. grin
You should have just kept your little man in your trousers and save yourself from this wahala. wink
Chai! You decided to use weak condoms and you didn't even know that condoms are cheaper than pampers. grin
Like I said before, u don finish. Leave school and go village, ur village people are proud of you!
"Daddy, oyo-yo" is on the way! grin

You got rollin' bro. You just murdered the upcoming father

grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by oladipupo38880: 11:13pm On May 04
Comment reading bus-stop o wa oh.
conductor i want to get down here.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by SmellySperm(m): 11:18pm On May 04
go ye into the world and multiply grin

no be me talk am oh,it is written cheesy
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by LordDarius(m): 11:19pm On May 04
Funny OP... Asking for matured advised as if his matured... You think because you have prek and balls you can be doing anyhow, see you now, see her now... But of you are madt... 1. 100L
2. Orphan
3. No side hustle
4. Senseless
5. Murderer ... (Abortion)
6. You no well...
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by JeffSiberstein: 11:27pm On May 04
What advise are you looking for. No 1 or 2. Bros you know the answer already. Either way you are taking a risk. so if you take a risk and get into trouble, abeg you with God nor mention my name.....
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by LikeAking: 2:13am On May 05
Allow her to give birth, I will train the child for you.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Ajibade123(m): 9:03am On May 05
you don dy knack since 100 level wehdone sir
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by BuharFulani: 11:00am On May 05
LikeAking:
Allow her to give birth, I will train the child for you.
Thanks.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Offpoint1: 11:55am On May 05
BuharFulani:


Update:

She later called me that she was just playing about the positive. It's actually negative.

That girl sha. Na the second time she de play this kain play.

Thanks to everyone especially at Offpoint1
I knew it wasn't pregnancy from your narrative...

Whichever way, be careful.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by danietohbadt(m): 12:02pm On May 05
1. You're an orphan

2. You're not ready to be a father

3. You depend on relatives for support

And you went ahead to DEPOSIT in her.

Oiiin, you've done well, you will soon withdraw what you deposited Okay.

On a serious note, if you don't have money, stay away from ladies.

Channel all your energy towards making money and you'll never regret making that decision.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Ayemileto(m): 12:13pm On May 05
If you're not ready to father a baby, you have no business having sex.

If you abort this, you'll still abort more, and by the time you both graduate from school, your abortions might be in double figures already.

You guys should keep ruining your own lives, you here.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by Doradorwa(f): 2:07pm On May 05
I'm not in support of abortion... Too much emotions is attached and that kind of thing the girl will constantly blackmail you with the experience.... But if you are ready for abortion just get Mesofem and dry gin... You are good to go.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by mechanics(m): 10:23pm On May 09
If you knew you were not ready for baby, you shouldn't have entered her london.
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by dudesexy111: 10:40pm On May 09
Ode why when condom burst why you no pull out and wear another one you just pour Akamu next time pull out with your condom to avoid story that touch
Re: I Think My Girlfriend Maybe Pregnant And I'm Thinking Abortion [Updated] by zolajpower: 4:38am On May 10
BuharFulani:
Good evening.

Please your matured advice is needed. Please read through.

So I met this fine girl after about 6 months of continuous chatting, calls and video calls on WhatsApp.

We were both admitted to the University this year. So we are in 100l.

I spoke with her and she agreed to date me. Personally, I knew she lovd me and I love her just as much.

We had sex a couple of times. We always use protection. But one day the condom got torn and I deposited in her.

Well I gave her postinor 2 the next day. Just a few days back she told me that as she was washing her clothes in the morning, she suddenly felt the urge to throw up and she vomited.

I asked her if she was feeling ill or anything but she said she was OK and nothing is wrong with her.

I decided to buy one of those pregnancy test strip for her to test herself. She did and she told me she saw two lines. One faint.

I told her that might be pregnancy but she said she will like to retry it again some other time. So we are giving it a few days.

But here is the thing: I cannot afford to have a baby at this time. I am not financially stable to have a baby and that is the major issue.

First off, I'm an orphan who depends on relatives for my school fees and feeding and get money for clothes with hustle.

I've been thinking about this since and till now, I just don't know how I would be able to take care of a baby. If it was when my parents were alive, I would have love to have the baby and keep with my parents but I don't know of any relative who would accept a baby or even provide money for the upkeep.

The girl is still very young. And we are both starting our school. I think at the moment abortion will be the only way out.

Sometimes I look at her and just hate myself for making her so unhappy by putting her in this sort of position.

Though I've not discussed this with her but I think she will agree if I say abortion or even ask her to keep the baby so long as I would be man enough to face the outcome.

So now, it's either me running away with my tails between my legs or rising to take responsibility for the new baby.

P. S I'm a medical student. So side hustle is a thing that is not very feasible right now.

Please your mature advice would be appreciated.

Update:

She later called me that she was just playing about the positive. It's actually negative.

That girl sha. Na the second time she de play this kain play.

Thanks to everyone especially at Offpoint1
Sorry I want to ask you this question. Re u a bandit or a Boko Haram member ?
I asked this question because they re group known for killing innocent souls without any provocation.

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