Exodora:

Who said it won't not be granted .
There is one that happened in my community , the idiot denied be responsible for the girl's pregnancy so some couples who have been childless too care of the girl and adopted the child.
Having seen how cute and healthy the boy is cause the woman that adopts him is a nurse , the fool came back only to claim the child but then it was already late cause he got the couples arrested but they won in all the places he too them to.
The child is 8 years now all eyes is on him now.

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

Loveknitting:



Thanks for this.

Most Nigerians, knows little or nothing about alot of important stuff, which is the cause for the horrible, judgmental and pathetic comments here.

Ecne:


You don't know much yourself, honestly.
Do you know the number of women that ran away with their child(ren) then later start claiming the fathers were irresponsible?

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

Sonfethopia:


The law will tell the man he did not take permission from the read dad.

The dads permission is very much needed.

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

App222:



I did not authorize anybody to adopt my son. Never.

Pls Nigerians, what kind of wickedness is this that this evil lady wants to do with her man? Pls return my son to me.


I am the father of the boy you're talking about and I never authorized anybody to adopt my son and will never authorize or allow anyone adopt my son.

There are 2 things that made me to know from your story that I am the one you're talking about.

They are:
1. You said it's 4 years now that you've been together. This corresponds well to my story. 
2. You said the child is a boy. This also corresponds well. 

I am a very responsible man and I'm not irresponsible as you claimed. That must have been the lie you were told by the lady. She's a liar and has always been a liar.

She actually ran away with my son since then. Ran away to an unknown destination with my son and packed all my properties away with her. Properties worth a lot of money.

That was after she planned to kill me and assassinate me and I ran away from her to save my life. So she later after one year, ran away with my son and said she would give him to her new man friend, even after I had already planned to enroll the boy in school to register him in a school but she denied me access to the boy till today. I've not seen the boy till today. 

Her dad doesn't even know where she lives. She's a complete liar, a pretender, a Jezebel and a green snake under green grass. You're a dead man if you marry her, mark my word.

She now turned round and said she had registered him in school and that I should be sending school fees in order to be extorting money from me continuously, just like she was extorting money from me while we were together and she ended up wrecking me financially and collecting all the money I had.

How can you ask me to send you school fees for a school I don't know? Location I don't know. Class I don't know. 

Mr man, you want to marry a Jezebel and a manipulator, you are digging your own grave by marrying her. 

Return my son to me, I want to put my son in school so that he can be trained properly with good morals. I don't want him to be taken to club every night as she takes him to club to do evil things. This is a very wicked and evil lady. You want to marry a devil, continue.... nobody will tell you when you will begin to regret it. 

You people will never know peace until you return my son to me. He's not your son, he's my son, so you're a child thief for wanting to adopt my son when I the father I'm still alive and I've not seen my son for 4 years now. 

Return my son to me or else..... 

ABANGWABOI:



If the Sperm easy why don't yall females donate it to yourselves..
All this pained Feminist wannabe sef

holocron:


...or why looking for father for the son of a donated sperm. Classic case of reaping without sowing

App222:



I did not authorize anybody to adopt my son. Never.

Pls Nigerians, what kind of wickedness is this that this evil lady wants to do with her man? Pls return my son to me.


I am the father of the boy you're talking about and I never authorized anybody to adopt my son and will never authorize or allow anyone adopt my son.

There are 2 things that made me to know from your story that I am the one you're talking about.

They are:
1. You said it's 4 years now that you've been together. This corresponds well to my story. 
2. You said the child is a boy. This also corresponds well. 

I am a very responsible man and I'm not irresponsible as you claimed. That must have been the lie you were told by the lady. She's a liar and has always been a liar.

She actually ran away with my son since then. Ran away to an unknown destination with my son and packed all my properties away with her. Properties worth a lot of money.

That was after she planned to kill me and assassinate me and I ran away from her to save my life. So she later after one year, ran away with my son and said she would give him to her new man friend, even after I had already planned to enroll the boy in school to register him in a school but she denied me access to the boy till today. I've not seen the boy till today. 

Her dad doesn't even know where she lives. She's a complete liar, a pretender, a Jezebel and a green snake under green grass. You're a dead man if you marry her, mark my word.

She now turned round and said she had registered him in school and that I should be sending school fees in order to be extorting money from me continuously, just like she was extorting money from me while we were together and she ended up wrecking me financially and collecting all the money I had.

How can you ask me to send you school fees for a school I don't know? Location I don't know. Class I don't know. 

Mr man, you want to marry a Jezebel and a manipulator, you are digging your own grave by marrying her. 

Return my son to me, I want to put my son in school so that he can be trained properly with good morals. I don't want him to be taken to club every night as she takes him to club to do evil things. This is a very wicked and evil lady. You want to marry a devil, continue.... nobody will tell you when you will begin to regret it. 

You people will never know peace until you return my son to me. He's not your son, he's my son, so you're a child thief for wanting to adopt my son when I the father I'm still alive and I've not seen my son for 4 years now. 

Return my son to me or else..... 

Ishilove:

Pocohantas, there are fathers and there are sperm donors. A man who abandons a child at age 4 months is a sperm donor. She might as well have gone to a sperm bank to pay for artificial insemination. The only claim he has to that child is his sperm and nothing else.

Babinski:


Parental rights can be terminated on the basis of abandonment. If the father has not seen the child in at least 6 months and doesn't fulfil obligations to the child, it can be inferred that he has abandoned the child and doesn't have parental rights. If these steps are taken and adoption then perfected, the runaway father has no rights to give any permission or consent and cannot nullify the adoption later.

Bornsinner7:
I'm a little bit confused if na man abi woman you be.. the he,she,her, him got me confused

Why does she want it that way?? There must be a reason.. she tryin to make you own the kid so that her baby papa would have nothing to do with the kid anymore..

[/b]Nothing wrong in adopting the kid but shine your eyes well.. it took Melinda gates 27years plotting her graph..

Akv666:
Good day guys,

So I've been dating a single Mom for almost 4years now and we're ready to tie the knot, but recently she came up with a suggestion of me adopting her son legally. Her baby daddy has actually been irresponsible right from start, nigga last saw his son when he was 4months old and he hasn't even bought ordinary diaper for the boy right from when he was delivered.

Now I'm being skeptical about taking him up legally, please i need advice from you guys, no insult please.

Sammy07:
So by the time he comes back for his son after spending on him, Una go be looking like dundi?

Anyways, nothing better than ur child, there will always be sentiment when he grows up with ur Children.

pimper24:

Your postulation has no legal basis. There's nothing like runaway father. Training someone else's child (a living conscious person) is a mere act of charity, though could crystallise into ownership if not proven otherwise by such biological parent however irresponsible. In other words, there's no way the biological father cannot claim the child if he wants or does not want to pay or compensate you for your alms. But if the child reaches majority and asserts your paternity, matter don finish cos at that age whoever he says is the father becomes the father and nothing more. Generally, people do this for charity and posterity. Fortunately, the child often grows up to adore you forever and that has always been the case. BTW, most of those foster or step children often grow up to be great.
AGAIN, child however, has the absolute decision to make if he reaches majority i.e 18 years in Nigeria, England and the rest.

App222:
I did not authorize anybody to adopt my son. Never.

Pls Nigerians, what kind of wickedness is this that this evil lady wants to do with her man? Pls return my son to me.


I am the father of the boy you're talking about and I never authorized anybody to adopt my son and will never authorize or allow anyone adopt my son.

There are 2 things that made me to know from your story that I am the one you're talking about.

They are:
1. You said it's 4 years now that you've been together. This corresponds well to my story. 
2. You said the child is a boy. This also corresponds well. 

I am a very responsible man and I'm not irresponsible as you claimed. That must have been the lie you were told by the lady. She's a liar and has always been a liar.

She actually ran away with my son since then. Ran away to an unknown destination with my son and packed all my properties away with her. Properties worth a lot of money.

That was after she planned to kill me and assassinate me and I ran away from her to save my life. So she later after one year, ran away with my son and said she would give him to her new man friend, even after I had already planned to enroll the boy in school to register him in a school but she denied me access to the boy till today. I've not seen the boy till today. 

Her dad doesn't even know where she lives. She's a complete liar, a pretender, a Jezebel and a green snake under green grass. You're a dead man if you marry her, mark my word.

She now turned round and said she had registered him in school and that I should be sending school fees in order to be extorting money from me continuously, just like she was extorting money from me while we were together and she ended up wrecking me financially and collecting all the money I had.

How can you ask me to send you school fees for a school I don't know? Location I don't know. Class I don't know. 

Mr man, you want to marry a Jezebel and a manipulator, you are digging your own grave by marrying her. 

Return my son to me, I want to put my son in school so that he can be trained properly with good morals. I don't want him to be taken to club every night as she takes him to club to do evil things. This is a very wicked and evil lady. You want to marry a devil, continue.... nobody will tell you when you will begin to regret it. 

You people will never know peace until you return my son to me. He's not your son, he's my son, so you're a child thief for wanting to adopt my son when I the father I'm still alive and I've not seen my son for 4 years now. 

Return my son to me or else..... 

pocohantas:


It is foolhardy and against natural law and order to do such when the man is still alive, irrespective of how irresponsible she claims he is. I am very concerned that she suggested it and you considered it.

Th irresponsible man remains her child's father. She can get (sole) custody, but erasing the man’s name is WICKEDNESS.

DON’T DO IT!

Take care of the child like you would for your own and it should end there.



He is a sperm donor, agreed. My concern is the child. That child isn’t a property that she will keep transferring to any new man she is with. Before OP came along, the child had a name and it was fine.

They already have sole custody of the child, thanks to the irresponsible sperm donor- It should end there.

What if her and OP divorces tomorrow? She will manage his name till she gets a new man and changes it again?

I know some relationships/marriages can end sourly that you just don’t want to have anything to do with the other person again, but for the sake of child(ren), I always advise they apply caution.

Icesnow:
If u r not married, u have no right to give this advice. Some men are and their families are evil that u would not want to have anything to do with them. Any irresponsible father has no right to that child.

Richy4:
If you were in love with the mom... and the step son is gonna be living with you, who will he see as a father figure?...If you treat him the way you will be treating your own son, is there really a need for that?.....in my opinion that's enough....

OP, the question I have to ask you is this, If you have a baby mama somewhere and you heard that a man who intend to marry your baby mama was planning adopting your child, would you be happy? even if you were not present in the child's life... If your answer is no,

Then tell her that you cannot do that to a fellow man like you irrespective of their differences which was in the past...That if someone should do that to you, that you will not like it...Just assure her that whatever a father will do for a son to be successful, that you will do that for the boy.. that your word is your bond....I understand she wants to secure the future of the boy but it doesn't work that way.. You don't need going into any legal procedures...

chatinent:


If you have had premarital sex afore now, you have no right to judge.

This is sb’s happiness.