I have a friend who is dating this guy that cheated (with several gals) on her during the 1st yr of their relationship without her knowledge. 3 yrs later, he decided to confess to her and told her that he wont misbehave again. They have been dating now for about 4 years but she is so confused. The thing is that,she said the last two yrs of the relationship has been great. She said he finally became the guy she had always wanted. the first 1and 1/2 years were not as great according to her. but she just keeps wondering if he would revert to his old self when they r married and is just pretending now so he can marry her or maybe just being at his best behavior now until he finally locks her down(marriage). She tells me that sometimes she thinks he is the best thing that ever happened to her and the next thing she know she is thinking of meeting another guy.

what do y'all think bout this?

are u sure u are not the girl?

Thats my best friend. why?

what would she have done if he never told her anything and she never found out?
that is what i think she should do.

@poster

IF he hasnt shown any philandering ways lately, i think she should hang in there

GUYS ARE USUALLY PRATS AND DO NOT APPRECIATE YOU, OR BEGIN TO SHOW APPRECIATION UNTIL YOU HAVE BEEN WITH THEM A WHILE AND THEY ARE ASSURED YOU ARE THEIRS ALONE AND YOUR NOT GOING ANY WHERE,

maybe thats why he has changed, and since the change is for the better, she had better stick to him, because he too will not be going anywhere, especially if he WILLINGLY CONFESSED, thats the ultimate sign of remorse

@poster
If a guy confesses d truth 2 u, just know that he's damn serious especially regarding situations of r/ships. Besides, he's been behaving nicely, so why the fear that he might one day go back.

Advice ur friend to start thinking positive.

My advice is exactly what others has been saying, since the guy is treating her well and she has noticed that he is no longer cheating on her. I will advice your friend to stick to him!

Anybody is entitled to change behavior for the better (hopefully) or the worse (far too often), so this guy very well could be a "new man."

However, an old saying notes that "a leopard cannot change his spots."  It sounds to me as though this lady knows she should look elsewhere for the love she seeks, but is fearful of doing so. 

She might wish to overcome her fears.

Nairalanders... She needs help

PHBABE:
I have a friend who is dating this guy that cheated (with several gals) on her during the 1st yr of their relationship without her knowledge. 3 yrs later, he decided to confess to her and told her that he wont misbehave again. They have been dating now for about 4 years but she is so confused. The thing is that,she said the last two yrs of the relationship has been great. She said he finally became the guy she had always wanted. the first 1and 1/2 years were not as great according to her. but she just keeps wondering if he would revert to his old self when they r married and is just pretending now so he can marry her or maybe just being at his best behavior now until he finally locks her down(marriage). She tells me that sometimes she thinks he is the best thing that ever happened to her and the next thing she know she is thinking of meeting another guy.

what do y'all think bout this?

If she is really in love, let her continue

Those fear she is having about him getting married to her and still cheat on him, will definitely happen

All she should be worried about is, let him care for her while he is doing those rubbish and let her not witness any of them when he is cheating

What you don't see can't keep reflecting to you

Kukuma say it's you nobody will flog you, I hate pretenders....