MrMcJay:


In life, don't please others at your own detriment. Always please yourself.
If you satisfy others and things go wrong, they will blame you, forgetting your sacrifices. But if you satisfy yourself, even if things go wrong and people blame you, you will be happy that you didn't suffer yourself for those blaming you.

You are right I stopped pleasing people in 2012 till date I try my best to please God n myself,d rest are secondary.

generalwo:
....... The op never see chon chin....i was earning 13k per month and accommodated my ex and 4 of her siblings for almost a year..... That one na babe o... Not even wife.....we all go dey alright lass lass

After all your spending and expenses on her and her siblings for almost a year, she ended up as an "ex"... I'm sure you're a very wise man... Think about it

Yampotatocarrot:


After all your spending and expenses on her and her siblings for almost a year, she ended up as an "ex"... I'm sure you're a very wise man... Think about it

......i don't know the reason you do good but I do mine because I'm human..... So I'm supposed to marry every of my girlfriend I do good for right? I am sure you have done something good for your ex in the past and you ended up not marrying them.. Does it make you a wise person? Food for thought....

Gerrard59:


That you can do it (which I wonder how with such meagre salary) doesn't mean others can and should do same. Everyone isn't built the same way.

..I'm not trying to mandate him or force him to do it but mehn, calling your in laws gluttons and battalions because they are eating your food isn't right at all no matter how anyone wants to put it....... He even wants to call off a holy matrimony because of food that his wife's family are eating in his house....... And his wife contributes to feeding o.... It's not like he's the only one bringing the food........ That means if na only him dey bring the food, he for call them slaves....... If na woman get money dey call the man family names like this, people go come out begin dey swear for the woman..... See the table now.... A man's in laws labeled battalions and gluttons because they eat frequently in his home.... A home where his wife also contributes to feeding o..... It is well sha....

So the man and woman that had 9 children that they cannot feed gets away without much criticism but the one that wants to have less and provide a good future for the few is being pilloried! Hmm

They did not even stop at 7 but carried on... Useless people!

Some Nairalanders and Nigerians are somehow somehow

Bigdik70inch2:


No joor......
She's from enugu......

Mine is also Ibo from Enugu, but my in-laws are well-mannered people. No stress whatsoever. Also, they (especially mum-inlaw) have been very helpful in terms of the kids when duty calls wifey and I.

BoosBae:
You have sense. God bless you biko. Na man you be. That's if you're a man oh, lol
It's always a privilege to help people. Nobody knows tomorrow.

Iol, am a man oo.

renew4life:
Hmmm !

Sure, love everyone like yourself

Xenry:
This is what happens when you marry from a poor family, you will automatically become a burden bearer for all.

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Tell your wife to feed her family, while you feed yours! Imagine feeding a family of 11 just because you are married to One—that's unfair na!

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Try and relocate if you can. Because with the way they use to feast on your food, they might as well feast on your flesh when the food is no more .

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But they eat too much ooo! Damn!

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I tell you bro, Redpill no fit handle this problem ooo. So you need to Japa!

You made me laugh like jackass inside a banking hall

Ninobraw:
No need for a long story, I got married 2 yrs ago, during our friendship I mean courtship it was very sweet and lovely, we got married 2 yrs ago and I have 1 kid.

The problem I have is that, the girl's family come to greet almost every time and when they come they eat like elephant, anything eatable they eat it, they don't use eyes to see bread tea or butter in my room, they will finish it within a day, I will end up spending a lot during the time, when I noticed that it becomes offen i started telling my wife that I am broke, I don't have money. Although my wife is very nice she earns salary of 40k a month, and do funds and cook many times with her money.

Before now I was it okay, we are like a family, now i just realized that it is making me not think straight within a week oil and cooking things we bought will just finished the cartoon of indomitable that last the 2 of us before 1 month or month plus will just finish within 4 days of thier stay, some time 3 of her family will come once and another set will come again, my wife is the first daughter, the poor parents gave birth to 9 kids all in the name of looking for a boy, so she said although the 2 boys are number 7 and 9 position, her parents should be around man 60s and the woman 45yrs old. so now I am tired of the marriage, I don't know how to talk to my wife about it, that I don't like how thier family do come offend since we got married, my families has never come to sleep over in my place for a night talkless of spending holiday in my place my parents gave birth to only 3 of us 2 boys 1 girl.

Now i am just tired I can't be responsible for someone else burden why give birth to many kids and unable to train them, i plan to have only 2 or 3 kids only, and her family want to make me be like thier father sitting at home doing nothing depending on pension for survival, i have realized that I can't achieve what i should have achieved if i continue life this way.

Before our marriage, we agreed no family members is coming to stay with us, the issue now is they don't stay but come to eat and go, it's a big cheating to me I am tired for real, even if I say I don't have money and she use her own. The money should have be able to do other important thing . She spending is also affecting me a lot, we should have been able to buy land or car or live well, not feeding battalion. I am tired please I need advice on what to do.

Chat me up on 08089456258 I want to know the updates. I lost my phone data some months ago