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Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Funkybabee(f): 2:35pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
BoosBae: He's looking for one woman to support her to grow, a woman that has a lot of loads on head already. He didn't think very well before he say I do |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Funkybabee(f): 2:36pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
BoosBae: He's looking for one woman to support her to grow, a woman that has a lot of loads on head already. He didn't think very well before he say I do |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Benzemma(m): 2:39pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Please, don't blame them. Don't see it as cheating or laziness to struggle and feed themselves. As long as they are not asking you for money but just what to eat, have mercy on them. God knows the reason why he allowed the marriage to happen in the first place. You might be their last hope, reason why they keep coming to you. Instead pursuing them, pray to God to always bless your struggle so that you will always have what to give them. It is really difficult for people to feed these days in Nigeria. So if you have the one you eat, talk more of giving others, then you should be proud of your self and be grateful to God for making it possible for you to fend for yourself and others around you. Use it as a prayer point, to be the reason why God should bless you more. See now, you are talking of making money to buy car and live large. But they are people who are even begging God to just provide for them what they will eat in a day. They don't know that there is something called car that human being supposed to have. Am not saying that for you to buy car is being selfish, but don't see it as because they always come to eat in your house, that why you have not been able to buy care or build a house. There is hunger in the country. Be happy that other people are looking up to you, you are their hope for now. I am sure that there will be a reword for you from God. Don't change your character to them, and don't let it bring quarrel between you and your wife. Am just feeling for the family. May God help you and your in-law family. Thank you. 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Benzemma(m): 2:44pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
It shall be well with you! |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Fantazy(m): 2:45pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
okoroemeka: The man is not complaining about his in-laws visits. All he's saying is that the visitations are too often (and they come in battalions) with hungry stomachs always, they devour anything devourable. I don't think there's anyone who will not complain about it, directly or indirectly. Besides, too much of everything they say is not good. And if I may ask; how often do ur own in-laws visit you? |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Benzemma(m): 3:00pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Bola146: Matured advice! Not some people who never know anything in life, trying to make the op hate the family he married from. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Benzemma(m): 3:12pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
I think the best way to go about it is giving them attitude and body language, I wouldn't say it to their faces not to come to your house if I were you, I would just give them attitude towards their eating habit when they visit you, but be smart about it. And you think that will be very helpful? It will make them hate him, because they will not know where he is coming from. And once they hate him, they will be problem between him and his wife. Instead, he should talk to them directly how things has become so hard for him that they hardly eat twice in a day. If they have matured mind, they will understand. Instead of changing character and giving them bod language with angry facial expression. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by chrisj2(m): 3:12pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Why don't you send so e of your own money to help the husband? As you say, givers never lack. So, some of you think he should not progress himself but instead be the benefactor of feckless people? Just because God will give him something in return? SMH! Without growth and improvement, he will not be in a position to continue to feed his in-laws and his own... They agreed not to have family visitors (this is a young marriage anyways) and the man's family does not come. Feeding extra mouths will cost thousands a month - that is money he should not be spending. Quid quo Pro - marriage is not a charity! |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Benzemma(m): 3:17pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Xenry: Enemy of peace and love! If is you, will you do just as you advice on him? |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by iInjureHerYansh: 3:21pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:Most hilarious story I have read on this platform |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Benzemma(m): 3:26pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Slynation: Exactly! |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by toyinsalammy(f): 4:00pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Xenry: U almost killed me with laughter ��� |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Lostchild(m): 4:02pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw I will say to you that women are very selfish creation. They will not tolerate a single person in their husband family but when it comes to their own, no pros. I wanted to open a thread like this to bash out women but I held back because I see that many naitaland women will hate me too much. Your story is the reason why marrying an Ijaw woman is no no go area. I have seen urhobo men who marry an ijaw women, they never enjoy their life anymore because they marry the full family Ijaws families are guilty of this 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by fineberry(m): 4:16pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Yet our society will start gossiping if a man of 30years is not married... Forgetting a lot need to be but into consideration. So many have put themselves into a hell of trouble because of marriage. One of my paternal uncle died last month May because of this marriage of a thing. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Dannyilo(m): 5:13pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Poverty is a bastard. You are shouting because of food. Kai!!! Anyway, I lack what to tell you. So, if it were your family will you stop them from coming to your house because of food? To even think that your wife contributes to the feeding from her personal income amazes me. You are very stingy, that's the blunt truth . |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by renew4life: 5:26pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Funkybabee:Hmmm ! 1 Like
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Re: Tired Of My Marriage by GoldHorse(m): 5:47pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Help them in whatever way you can without hurting yourself too much. See it as a sacrifice. Your wife won't be happy knowing her siblings her hungry. Those hungry children you are looking at today could become something in future and will grow to remember how uncle didn't mind feeding them when they were hungry. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by djon78(m): 6:02pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
sam2dok2020: That is what they don't understand One of my boss friend had this same scenario The woman came from a poor home and married a working class man Infact they were orphans The woman was the first daughter The husband said he doesn't want her family to be coming around It later caused problem between them They had two boys The man was maltreating the wife She later struggled and got civil service Job The marriage later broke down Fast forward to today That woman later rose up to be a director in the federal civil service The woman siblings later got well one relocated to the US and later helped others to move over Today they are all successful and well established They even helped there sister's son come over to the US Today he is a medical doctor in the US The second son works with a multinational here in Nigeria It was during the wedding of the second son the miserable man showed up Looking very wretched Even the woman sibblinngs in the US all came from for the wedding He couldn't even face them These were orphans he rejected when they were nothing Many look at life from the present They judge everything from the now Not knowing that the people you look down on today will be great tomorrow 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by MrObontami(m): 6:05pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
akpunda86: Boy, try to punctuate. It won't kill you. Reading your stupid write-up looks like walking through a jungle. GOSH! 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Mac2016(m): 6:06pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw:Simply relocate. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Sanctecosma(m): 6:37pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
I am telling you
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Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Halo22: 6:44pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
We understand the economic situation in the country, but people should have conscience nah. That man should be generous doesn't mean he should die trying to please his in-laws that are not ready to help themselves. If they were 9 and the guy married one, why won't the ones that are grown engage in one or two things in order to assist themselves and their family. I have been in his shoes sometime ago even as an unmarried man. But mine was my cousins coming to depend on me up to 2 years and it was so burdensome on me, thanks to my landlord then who assisted me in giving everyone quit notice including myself and we all found our ways. I advise the Op to call his wife and reason with her over it, he can also call the elder ones and give them some advice on how to stand independently with that, I believe they will start reasoning on their own. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Joydan95: 6:59pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
fannybaby:I have had stomach ulcer way before I got married last year. She is fond of calling to remind me to eat even now that i’m married, imagine someone eavesdropping on her call, they will think my husband is starving me of food. It’s embarrassing |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Joydan95: 7:01pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
fannybaby:I have had stomach ulcer way before I got married last year. She is fond of calling to remind me to eat even now that i’m married, imagine someone eavesdropping on her call, they will think my husband is starving me of food. It’s embarrassing . |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by akpunda86: 7:33pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
MrObontami: Gosh. He said I'm Gosh |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Mecka: 7:34pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
CSTRR:if the sex is great and the soil is fertile, I don't mind |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by BoosBae(f): 7:49pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Benzemma:You have sense. God bless you biko. Na man you be. That's if you're a man oh, lol It's always a privilege to help people. Nobody knows tomorrow. 2 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by CSTRR: 8:10pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Mecka:That is you. Other men have higher ambitions. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by Jazzman01: 8:14pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Ninobraw: This is a very sensitive issue, I will advice you to be very patient with them. Things cannot continue like that, one day they will stop coming or reduce the frequency drastically. If you are fed up, then I will advice you reduce the quantity and quality of foodstuff you stock in your house so that you can save and whenever they are not around you can eat some quality food or you can always eat quality stuffs outside when ever you feel like. |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by poporinwa: 8:18pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
See your head....you don't know that once you are married to your girl,all her problem becomes yours and your problem becomes hers. If to say na them girl family de feed you....will you come out here to talk trash..my friend use your ATM withdraw money and make everyone happy. See you wey de chop like whale de say someone de chop like elephant. 1 Like |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by MrMcJay(m): 8:20pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
GGirll: In life, don't please others at your own detriment. Always please yourself. If you satisfy others and things go wrong, they will blame you, forgetting your sacrifices. But if you satisfy yourself, even if things go wrong and people blame you, you will be happy that you didn't suffer yourself for those blaming you. 4 Likes |
Re: Tired Of My Marriage by rosalieene(f): 8:21pm On Jun 14, 2021 |
Wahala for who no get indomie for house to chop |
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