So I have been with this guy for almost five years now, first and only man I have slept with. I have been suspecting he has been cheating with his so called ex, swears he is in love with me, promise me things and never fulfills them..
I saw some things lately when he slept off while texting her as he was drunk and my heart broke into a million pieces.
I have been suicidal for a while now and I really don’t know how to put myself together cause I have sacrificed a lot for this relationship even aborted his child after forcing me to...
He is supposedly expecting a child with this so called ex cause they have stylishly been sleeping with themselves and he strongly thinks it is fine ... She is of ripe age for marriage and I am not but she is putting pressure on him because she thinks it is time for her to get married knowing fully well he is with me.....
Is it a crime to love someone with your whole heart and what can I do now?

OyinNurse:
The tin wey pain me pass na the innocent child that was snuffed out just like that. So you have mind to kill what you cannot create; you will surely give account. As for the oda matter, you are experiencing the pains of unrequited love; move on.

So I have been with this guy for almost five years now, first and only man I have slept with. I have been suspecting he has been cheating with his so called ex, swears he is in love with me, promise me things and never fulfills them..
I saw some things lately when he slept off while texting her as he was drunk and my heart broke into a million pieces.
I have been suicidal for a while now and I really don’t know how to put myself together cause I have sacrificed a lot for this relationship even aborted his child after forcing me to...
He is supposedly expecting a child with this so called ex cause they have stylishly been sleeping with themselves and he strongly thinks it is fine ... She is of ripe age for marriage and I am not but she is putting pressure on him because she thinks it is time for her to get married knowing fully well he is with me.....
Is it a crime to love someone with your whole heart and what can I do now?

Sirqt5:
had she kept the pregnancy she will end up a single mother

OyinNurse:


Our culture teaches us that the shame and disgrace of having a child out of wedlock is much and there is nothing compared to it. That is a lie. The mind-blowing guilt of abortion is even more unprecedented. I can't imagine what it is like but I have spoken to women that have lived with the guilt for decades and will likely feel the pain till they die. The OP showed that she fears man more than she fears God because she aborted to please a mere man who betrayed her in the end. She lost both ways and that is so sad.

So I have been with this guy for almost five years now, first and only man I have slept with. I have been suspecting he has been cheating with his so called ex, swears he is in love with me, promise me things and never fulfills them..
I saw some things lately when he slept off while texting her as he was drunk and my heart broke into a million pieces.
I have been suicidal for a while now and I really don’t know how to put myself together cause I have sacrificed a lot for this relationship even aborted his child after forcing me to...
He is supposedly expecting a child with this so called ex cause they have stylishly been sleeping with themselves and he strongly thinks it is fine ... She is of ripe age for marriage and I am not but she is putting pressure on him because she thinks it is time for her to get married knowing fully well he is with me.....
Is it a crime to love someone with your whole heart and what can I do now?

Sirqt5:
this isn't about having a child out of wedlock but about having a child for an idiot who doesn't want the baby or you missed the part where he forced her to abort? it's obvious dude won't show up during pregnancy, or help her monetarily to care of or raise the child. better for her to abort in the early stages than for her to suffer and bring a child into the world to suffer join. now's the time to work on herself. she's still young, she can pick herself up.

So I have been with this guy for almost five years now, first and only man I have slept with. I have been suspecting he has been cheating with his so called ex, swears he is in love with me, promise me things and never fulfills them..
I saw some things lately when he slept off while texting her as he was drunk and my heart broke into a million pieces.
I have been suicidal for a while now and I really don’t know how to put myself together cause I have sacrificed a lot for this relationship even aborted his child after forcing me to...
He is supposedly expecting a child with this so called ex cause they have stylishly been sleeping with themselves and he strongly thinks it is fine ... She is of ripe age for marriage and I am not but she is putting pressure on him because she thinks it is time for her to get married knowing fully well he is with me.....
Is it a crime to love someone with your whole heart and what can I do now?

OyinNurse:


Excuses as far as I am concerned. Did the innocent child ask to be conceived? They called for the child by having unprotected sex and the child should not be the one to die for their irresponsibility. If a woman knows that she is young and still has much to accomplish in life then she should act responsibly. There is no excuse for murder. If the father won't accept the child, the woman should man up and do the needful for her baby. If she can't or won't raise the child, I guarantee you that their are millions of barren women that would adopt that child with eager gladness. Choosing to end a life to save face or save your own skin is selfish, irresponsible and evil. For God's sake, have the baby and give it to a couple that are desperate for a baby and will raise the child with love. As a mother, make a selfless decision and do what's in the best interest of the child, and that decision should not be murder.