hoeyeadoe:

Certainly not so far in my life have I imagined that it might be difficult  to decide between two men- I've always thought making decisions was likened to brushing one’s teeth (you always have an option).

I have two wonderful men in my life - one was my ex and the other, is my current. I left my ex 'cos I wanted to see what the outside world had to offer. I met my current 'cos he was supposed to be  the first specimen- told my friend it would last 2 weeks but it's lasting almost 2 years already.

My ex is back because he's met with a number of pastors & prophet-ess (UNSOLICITEDLY) and they've told him that it will be best if I'm part of his life. He is a sweet guy(occasionally), writes for me (really really like) but my pastor said ‘nay’ (spirit led encounter).
My current bf is very desirable -  never met a guy as HOT as him in reality- easy going, cool, collected although inseparable from him first family ( they are the first to know if he's going to get a new car, but I think I can deal with that) but my pastor said ‘yes with a selfish clause’ (spirit led encounter).Anyways, they're both asking for my hand in marriage and I'm as confused as the Libyan rebels when they saw that they had nuked their own plane, partly due to indecision as to which of these men I should be with and partly due to my semi- anti marriage vibes.
Does anyone have a useful/helpful/reasonable suggestion as to how to reconcile this dilemma?

justwise:

Stop taking advice from your pastors, they are your problem.

Godmother:

Well said. Nobody has a direct line to God. Listening to them is what got you confused in the first place

Does anyone have a useful/helpful/reasonable suggestion as to how to reconcile this dilemma?

You don't deserve any of the two guys. You ditched the last one to go experiment with the world aka go sample other dyks - hey I'm not calling you a ho or smth. The current one dated you for two years and proposed, instead of accepting or refusing, you are considering your ex's proposal (aka ex's dyck again). But I'm a good mood right now and I wouldn't call you a slut or anything of the nature. The ex is dumb to come back. The current probably doesn't know what is going on else I doubt he will stick around for long.

Oh yeah, I'm supposed to advice you. My bad, I forgot. My advice is as follows: If you are ever in a jam btw two guys and can't choose, choose none of them. If any of them is the one for you, you wouldn't even be thinking about it.

I think you still need more experimentation or seeing whats out there in the world.

You don't even deserve either of them
You left your first boyfriend because you wanted to test other waters, I hope you get flushed down the toilet with your own tears!

hoeyeadoe:

Dear Moderator,

is there a way I can delete some people's comment on my post- like the ones I find really silly. I don't like useless talks but useful suggestions and would like to delete the irrelevant comments on my post. Thanks.

hoeyeadoe:

Certainly not so far in my life have I imagined that it might be difficult  to decide between two men- I've always thought making decisions was likened to brushing one’s teeth (you always have an option).

I have two wonderful men in my life - one was my ex and the other, is my current. I left my ex 'cos I wanted to see what the outside world had to offer. I met my current 'cos he was supposed to be  the first specimen- told my friend it would last 2 weeks but it's lasting almost 2 years already.

My ex is back because he's met with a number of pastors & prophet-ess (UNSOLICITEDLY) and they've told him that it will be best if I'm part of his life. He is a sweet guy(occasionally), writes for me (really really like) but my pastor said ‘nay’ (spirit led encounter).

My current bf is very desirable -  never met a guy as HOT as him in reality- easy going, cool, collected although inseparable from him first family ( they are the first to know if he's going to get a new car, but I think I can deal with that) but my pastor said ‘yes with a selfish clause’ (spirit led encounter).

Anyways, they're both asking for my hand in marriage and I'm as confused as the Libyan rebels when they saw that they had nuked their own plane, partly due to indecision as to which of these men I should be with and partly due to my semi- anti marriage vibes.

Does anyone have a useful/helpful/reasonable suggestion as to how to reconcile this dilemma?

Mrs.Chima:

Pastor is not a God figure nor can save you from anything. A pastor should be a person you can talk to like you talk to your mother or father BUT if you are religious the first THING you need to do is confer with your GOD and ask him what you should do.

Pastors are sinners just like you and will have some errors in their judgement. They are only designed to give you advice on what they FEEL is right or wrong and not necessary what you need to hear or know.

I know a few people who will harm others if they talk about their pastors or even question what their pastors are saying which to me is a form of idolatry which it is against the Ten Commandments in the Christian religion.

tiwatowa:

Very simple.av it in mind dat u r not getting younger.leave your pastor&try another pastor.stay away frm sins&pray to GOD