Please Nairalanders help me. I am the only child in my family, so I have adopted all nairalanders as my brothers and sisters. I want you to help me untie this godian knot that has given me sleepless night. please.

My girlfriend and I both live and work in Abuja. we need to start saving up for our wedding, and we need to start cutting cost. I asked her to move in with me to reduce overhead expenses. Her house rent is 800k and mine is 1.2m. but she has refused to move. I can't move in with her, it's an abomination.

Her excuse is that she loves me when she does not see me everyday. The answer seems kind of weird to me. she said her love for me would drop significantly if she moves in with me. that she likes her independence. Should I take this as a red flag or let it slide?


She even suggest that as a couple, our love life would be strong if we live in different house, That I can come and visit her and go back. that it would strenghteen our love. to avoid see finish.

How can we maintain this lifestyle assuming we married

Can this girl be a wife material?


lalasticlala mynd44 seun Dominique ishiluv

She moves in with you now and you come give her belle, now you come notice say she be bad girl, you come notice say she no good as you been dey see am before.

Now you come con tell am mek she pack comot for your house for midnight. She no get house again. She no get side boyfriends again. She carry belle so toasters go run away from her. You want to ruin her beautiful life with your selfishness.

If you want her, go and marry her. Simple marriage is bae.


Meanwhile, you can grow £20 up to £1000 in six weeks. WhatsApp the number on my signature to know how

Oh God!!

U both should not get married....

interesting...
But I don't think both of u re ready 4 marriage yet...ur girl isn't ready 2 give up her independence yet... probably a spoilt brat still going through d hoeing phase...
as 4 u Mr man...u don't sound like a man dt can b man enough 2 enforce his will nd get things done his own way like a real man..
probably a spoilt brat(only child) too...
so u folks js gotta grow up 1st B4 thinking of marriage cus marriage aren't 4 kids...
Bella ciao...

You are still a breast sucking kid. You need to grow up before going into any relationship. Pele

RIP to love. I gave up along time ago "6 April'
Why should she move in with you when you haven't yet put the ring on it?

SmellySperm:
RIP to love. I gave up along time ago "6 April's
Why should she move in with you when you haven't yet put the ring on it?

hey man, I have proposed and she has accepted.

Na "legendary" wah o!

Sebastine1994:


hey man, I have proposed and she has accepted.

Jesu mi o! It is well with your soul in Jesus name Amen! Pele

Sebastine1994:
Please Nairalanders help me. I am the only child in my family, so I have adopted all nairalanders as my brothers and sisters. I want you to help me untie this godian knot that has given me sleepless night. please.

My girlfriend and I both live and work in Abuja. we need to start saving up for our wedding, and we need to start cutting cost. I asked her to move in with me to reduce overhead expenses. Her house rent is 800k and mine is 1.2m. but she has refused to move. I can't move in with her, it's an abomination.

Her excuse is that she loves me when she does not see me everyday. The answer seems kind of weird to me. she said her love for me would drop significantly if she moves in with me. that she likes her independence. Should I take this as a red flag or let it slide?

How can we maintain this lifestyle assuming we married

Can this girl be a wife material?

Let me ask you, WHAT WILL HAPPENE WHEN YOU FINALLY MARRY HER AND YOU PEOPLE ARE LIVING TOGETHER? That means her love for you will DIE na.

Bola146:

Jesu mi o! It is well with your soul in Jesus name Amen! Pele

but I love her

Sebastine1994:


hey man, I have proposed and she has accepted.

Then you both should proceed to the court and cap it. Simple.

Sebastine1994:


hey man, I have proposed and she has accepted.

Acceptance isn't anything. If you really want her then marry her then she'll all be yours coz I no too trust that thing called love anymore

So that you fit de torture her kpekus steady abi



Be kiaful oh

[s]Her excuse is that she loves me when she does not see me everyday.[/s]

So what happens when you marry her and she sees you everyday?

Her excuse is a sign she is not faithful to you. Staying with you will spoil her paroles. Just saying. Ue your head.

Moving in with you as a girlfriend, It's fine if she disapproves.

but not living together as a wife?? Na which kind ideology be that one?

So when you start bearing children, you'll now start diving how you place the children; "they'll stay with me on Monday, you take them on Tuesday"

Then she'll hardly be performing wifely duties. You'll likely get a maid in replacement and then temptations will set in and you may end up sleeping with maid.

on the other hand too, you not being around her may lead her to yielding to temptations of men and bringing them in as she likes.

Oga, about her saying she'll extend that idea into the fold of marriage, you better disagree with her seriously before it becomes serious.

You both should stay in your separate houses and do a small wedding.

move out of that 1.2m house to a cheaper one to save cost..!
Will you agree to that too?

If you can pay 1.2 for rent while she pays 800k for hers then both of you can join hands in handling your weeding expenses.

Both this ur thread be like one of those concocted stories..but watin I know sha

Sebastine1994:


hey man, I have proposed and she has accepted.

But you have not yet married her.

If she moves in with you and you start fúcking her everyday you will eventually get tired of her before the wedding then start looking for one useless excuse to discharge her!

Part term husband !!!

Visiting lecturer I know I don't know we are having Visiting Kiddo husband

Womanizer:


But you have not yet married her.

If she moves in with you and you start fúcking her everyday you will eventually get tired of her before the wedding then start looking for one useless excuse to discharge her!

I am a gentleman. I am not like that

Sebastine1994:


I am a gentleman. I am not like that

Story!

Komolafe89:
Part term husband !!!

I think that is the word for this insanity

SmellySperm:
RIP to love. I gave up along time ago "6 April'
Why should she move in with you when you haven't yet put the ring on it?

Love is extinct..

There’s nothing like love in this our generation. The feeling of lust is what’s joining people together these days, nothing like love at all..

Sebastine1994:


but I love her

Would you advise your daughter or sister to move in with a man who has not yet married her officially?!

If fathers day dey hungry u to celebrate next year..do It the right way.

Kobicove:


Would you advise your daughter or sister to move in with a man who has not yet married her officially?!

why not, so long as he has proposed

Both of you are not fit and mature for marriage,go and grow up first.

What do you guys gain from concocted stories? Are they paying you guys? How much? From your former post it's says you're married already.

GeneralPula:


Love is extinct..

There’s nothing like love in this our generation. The feeling of lust is what’s joining people together these days, nothing like love at all..

The bolded

@Op, marry only who wants to marry, not anyone you are forcing into marriage...

This lady is still not ready,her independent mind set still contends her

Trex4:
What do you guys gain from concocted stories? Are they paying you guys? How much? From your former post it's says you're married already.

oga are you a child or a stalker. this is a platform for sharing problems. do you want me to hide problems. Haba. apply wisdom, it may not be my problem but my friends, I can seek advice for my friends too.

live and let's live