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When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by donogaga(m): 9:03pm On Jun 08
When single ladies choose to cohabit with men, yielding to free sexual servicing, domestic chores and the likes, what exactly goes through their minds?

This is love?
This will make him marry me?
I am married and this is my duty?
This is what it takes to hold a man?

Which?

More importantly, why is it difficult for women to see this at this point.
Chances are many are reading this now telling themselves "no, this is not me. My own case is different. We are in love."

Okay then. Love.

What is love? What to you is love?

We cannot understand, you think.

Welcome to the journeys that led to the pregnancies that led to undesired marriages that became toxic and ended up in very hurtful divorces having one person bearing almost all the physical, financial and social cost of it as a single parent.

Welcome to the realities many of us currently live but then, maybe we don't understand.

If he truly loves you, he'd do the needful and marry you right. Don't be mistaken. When the right one comes along, he'd do away with all the excuses he's giving you and marry her. Unfortunately, many learnt this lesson the hard way.

The choice is yours.



https://www.facebook.com/100047151253398/posts/322131562701883/

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Rocktation(f): 9:13pm On Jun 08
I can't say I don't agree.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Shellsploit: 9:19pm On Jun 08
Almost every lady dey find where to choke head put. Na make we dey make Pant no dey wear us cheesy

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Divoc19(f): 9:25pm On Jun 08
Not all men like the marriage idea.
And she may just be madly in love.

Me can't blame anyone for their actions.

Nobody wishes bad for themselves.

They may just be ignorant.

donogaga:

If he truly loves you, he'd do the needful and marry you right. Don't be mistaken. When the right one comes along, he'd do away with all the excuses he's giving you and marry her. Unfortunately, many learnt this lesson the hard way.

The choice is yours.



https://www.facebook.com/100047151253398/posts/322131562701883/

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by ogeodi(f): 9:28pm On Jun 08
We call it abuja marriage. Living like married but officially single. Some say wen I move in with him he'll see the good in me and later fall in love.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Kalapizim(m): 9:50pm On Jun 08
My girlfriend and I hardly see because of work for both of us so she comes over on Thursdays till Saturdays.

This arrangement works fine for us.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Kalapizim(m): 9:51pm On Jun 08
Ok
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by HRHQueenPhil(f): 11:20pm On Jun 08
It's their of this three
1. I love him so much and his place is comfortable
2. Am super broke and he both love each other
3. He keeps fighting me and getting upset when I return home, let me rather stay
4. Am suspecting he cheats and will abandon me, so let me seduce him with food and sex so he won't stray

That's abt it grin

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Vision101(m): 4:47am On Jun 09
@Kalapizim
My girlfriend and I hardly see because of work for both of us so she comes over on Thursdays till Saturdays.

This arrangement works fine for us




@me
What do you usually do when she comes?

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Vision101(m): 4:50am On Jun 09
@HRHQueenPhil
It's their of this three
1. I love him so much and his place is comfortable
2. Am super broke and he both love each other
3. He keeps fighting me and getting upset when I return home, let me rather stay
4. Am suspecting he cheats and will abandon me, so let me seduce him with food and sex so he won't stray

That's abt it ;



@me
You are exposing your gender. They will sue you. Get a good lawyer.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Obakashdee(m): 6:50am On Jun 09
Lol
What are you typing sef?

It’s simple, free house, no need to pay house rent especially in Lagos
Free house and they’ll be free to do anything l, that’s the main reason every other Thing is secondary

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by debbydams(f): 7:49am On Jun 09
ogeodi:
We call it abuja marriage. Living like married but officially single. Some say wen I move in with him he'll see the good in me and later fall in love.
see the good indeed,men are scum,I can't impress any man sha nd I do whats convenient for me,,nd I can't move in with a guy that has not marry me oo..I v a lot of guys as friends nd I know most things about them, only few of them are God fearing,most of them are scum oo...

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by debbydams(f): 7:58am On Jun 09
HRHQueenPhil:
It's their of this three
1. I love him so much and his place is comfortable
2. Am super broke and he both love each other
3. He keeps fighting me and getting upset when I return home, let me rather stay
4. Am suspecting he cheats and will abandon me, so let me seduce him with food and sex so he won't stray

That's abt it grin
lol u are right but nothing can keep a man that want to cheat o,
I came to visit my friend, she is so nice nd her bf use to cal her every seconds, video calls nd all that..I'm not jealous tho because I know men are scum..so yesterday her bf came to take us out because she has bn sick, we came back late nd he decided to sleep over.
I was playing with my phone while she's trying to cook for him can u imagine this guy Is asking me out telling me he will give me everything I want I left the room it was when my friend came in before I could sleep in peace..this a guy that showed my friend love nd my friend can vouch her kidney for this guy oo..I now believe that men are scum..the worst part is the guy promised her marriage,,he has even introduced her..men men chai

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by blazepascal(m): 9:15am On Jun 09
Single ladies you people are really trying.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Macsjebs(m): 9:16am On Jun 09
I just tire, May God help us all

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Tonyspecial(m): 9:16am On Jun 09
What's this about FREE SEX who dey give and who dey collect?

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by WibusJaga: 9:16am On Jun 09
Low self-esteem & Desperate ladies; just to colonize the man & mark their territory so as to scare away potential female competitors. cool

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by PeaceJoyLove: 9:16am On Jun 09
Poverty is the reason topics like this come up. Poverty is why a woman chooses to live with a man.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by tunapawizzy: 9:17am On Jun 09
As long as the society preaches that being married to a man is the ultimate success/achievement in life, women will always do whatever they think will make a man marry them. Everybody wants to be successful and if the society defines marriage as ultimate success what do u expect a lady to do.
Whether cohabiting will make him marry you is a different issue all together, i wont blame anyone for trying that, it has worked for some and if you dont try something how will you know if its gona work for u or not.
BTW what do u mean by 'give men free sex' ? the woman no dey enjoy d sex? abi shes supposed to get paid for sex

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by rawtouch: 9:17am On Jun 09
grin

it's a parasitic symbiotic relationship

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Walkee: 9:17am On Jun 09
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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Kingsuave(m): 9:17am On Jun 09
Bros which way na, why are you crying more than the bereaved? grin

No come spoil our tickets ohh undecided

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by abobote: 9:17am On Jun 09
Desperate people don't usually think of the outcome, and most of these are not usually planned, the just happened. I cohibbited with an ex for almost two years , and it ended well even though we didn't marry. We are both married to different people and still talk once in a while

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by obembet(f): 9:17am On Jun 09
Hmmmmm
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by ABANGWABOI(m): 9:17am On Jun 09
grin grin


Op na Fool..
Those men that Camp them in their homes are feeding them and paying all the girl(s) bills..
Personally, I prefer not cohabiting cos you spend more when you do so and still get same sex you get when you don't..
Op you be Ode..

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by sgtponzihater1(m): 9:17am On Jun 09
If the guy is comfortable ladies like comfort. I was staying in a cubicle and no girl stayed

My job in Delta that year gave a 1 bedroom flat with internet, free DSTV subscription. We had almost 24hrs light, and kitchen was modern upgrade, and I made sure there was food and drinks. And the babe slept over one night, and the day her sister offended her, she insulted her back and came to stay without even informing me. Thank God I fell out with my boss on account of pay, and had the opportunity to cut loose.

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Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by ipobarethieves: 9:18am On Jun 09
cool
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by Pricelessruby(f): 9:18am On Jun 09
100% right
donogaga:
When single ladies choose to cohabit with men, yielding to free sexual servicing, domestic chores and the likes, what exactly goes through their minds?

This is love?
This will make him marry me?
I am married and this is my duty?
This is what it takes to hold a man?

Which?

More importantly, why is it difficult for women to see this at this point.
Chances are many are reading this now telling themselves "no, this is not me. My own case is different. We are in love."

Okay then. Love.

What is love? What to you is love?

We cannot understand, you think.

Welcome to the journeys that led to the pregnancies that led to undesired marriages that became toxic and ended up in very hurtful divorces having one person bearing almost all the physical, financial and social cost of it as a single parent.

Welcome to the realities many of us currently live but then, maybe we don't understand.

If he truly loves you, he'd do the needful and marry you right. Don't be mistaken. When the right one comes along, he'd do away with all the excuses he's giving you and marry her. Unfortunately, many learnt this lesson the hard way.

The choice is yours.



https://www.facebook.com/100047151253398/posts/322131562701883/
Re: When Single Ladies Choose To Cohabit With Men, What Goes Through Their Mind? by fourboys: 9:18am On Jun 09
Free sex this early morning Una no get work??

Good write-up though the way our girls dey rush prick these days stil dey wonder me

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