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7 Habits That Make You Irresistible With No Competition by zyze: 8:55pm On Jun 24, 2021
Today we’re going to learn about 7 habits that make you irresistible. Now let’s begin

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1. Quiet confidence; not every kind of confidence is attractive.

Arrogance, for example, is a common turn off for both men and women. It’s difficult to take someone seriously when they’re bragging about their success or boasting about their accomplishments.

You don’t want to hear about how much money someone makes or what kind of car they drive, but you do want them to be confident in themselves.

You want them to be proud of their achievements and secure in who they are. This is called quiet confidence

If you’re a quietly, confident person, other people can feel your confidence, even if no one puts a label on it, because you don’t need to be recognized or praised to feel good about yourself.

You’re not desperate for someone else to validate your choices, achievements or triumphs. Instead, you supply that validation all on your own.

In other words, you’re happy with and secure in the person that you are and that happiness creates a strong aura of confidence around you.

So keep your humble brags and success stories to yourself. The most irresistible people are confident without saying a word
2. The social leader

Irresistible people are leaders; not just in the workplace, but in their social circles. They’re not afraid to make the first move.

They’re not afraid to talk to a stranger, to try something new or to take a risk; in other words, they believe in themselves.

They believe in their ability to do what others cannot, and that makes them incredibly attractive.

So if you want to be irresistible overcome your fears, don’t sit on the sidelines, wondering what could be wrong. Don’t hide inside your comfort zone, hoping someone else will make the first move for you because they won’t.

If you don’t take the lead, then no one else will.

If you are not willing to make a change to take a risk or create a connection, there’s a good chance that none of those things will ever happen. This is true in all aspects of your life; in the workplace and pursuit of your goals and in conversations with strangers, irresistible people are trendsetters

They don’t wait for someone else to give them permission to do something they want to do.

It may be volunteering for something when everyone else is too afraid to step forward in every environment. Attractive and confident people believe in themselves, no matter who’s watching and that mindset is irresistible
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3. Imaginary rejection

Before you can take the lead there’s one bad habit that’s going to stand in your way.

You may summon the courage to cross a boundary, overcome a fear or take a risk, but do you believe in your ability to succeed, or do you expect yourself to fail?

Irresistible people don’t expect to get rejected.

They know it’s a possibility. It’s always a possibility, but if they’re going to try something new or risky, irresistible people believe they can overcome any challenge. That belief empowers them to be confident and secure in their decisions.

You may not have the same faith in yourself. You may anticipate failure, but that mindset leads you down a destructive path.

If you don’t have faith in yourself, you may accidentally bring your worst nightmares to life.

In other words, when you expect rejection, then you’re more likely to be rejected and when it happens, you might think I was right to expect the worst.

But the problem isn’t the rejection itself. It’s your mindset, it’s your negative expectation

When you expect to fail, you lower your chances of finding success.

People can tell when you don’t believe in yourself it’s written all over your face.

On the other hand, if you believe you’re capable of anything, people will find your confidence irresistible, but this attractive and confident mindset starts with you.

It’s your responsibility to empower and support yourself so make a habit of believing in yourself and others will follow.
4. The heart of the conversation

When you approach someone you like, you want to make an attractive first impression right off the bat, you want the other person to think WoW!, this is someone I want to get to know.

But how do you make such a strong impression on a complete stranger?

How do you turn those awkward opening lines into an irresistible first impression?

What do you do when you meet someone for the first time?

You engage in polite, surface level, conversation called small talk.

Many people complain about how much they don’t like small talk. They say it’s rigid, formal and uncomfortable.

You introduce yourselves. You talk about the weather, you exchange formalities back and forth, and that’s about the normal small talk, but that’s not why we are here.

That kind of small talk might work in the office or at a conference.

But if you want to make an irresistible impression, then you have to step up your game because standard small talk is boring. If your conversation is boring, then people are going to lose interest.

If you talk about the weather, you’re not going to leave the kind of impression that you’re looking for, if you’re awkward and formal, you’re not going to capture someone’s attention or steal someone’s heart.

Instead, you’ll have a forgettable conversation and make a forgettable first impression.

However, if you want to be irresistible and unforgettable, then you need to turn your small talk into big talk. In other words, you need to use those opening lines to your advantage.

Don’t worry about what you’re supposed to say and create a real connection.

By opening the conversation on a high note, irresistible people leave attractive first impressions by creating those intimate connections in seconds.

They talk to strangers like old friends and they give you 100 of their attention.

In that moment, you’re the only person they care about, and that makes you feel heard and special.

So if you’re connecting with someone new, just skip the awkward small talk, don’t talk about the news or the weather instead get to the good part, establish a meaningful connection right away, because that connection can make you irresistible
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5. The irresistible listener

Irresistible people lead almost every conversation, but they don’t spend the whole time talking.

In fact, irresistible people often keep their mouths shut. They don’t control the conversation by talking the other person’s ear off. Instead, they direct the conversation from topic to topic.

Irresistible people ask good questions and they prompt the other person to tell stories, because the best conversationalists know how powerful a good question can be.

These people are fun and engaging to talk to because they devise interesting personal questions that lead the conversation in exciting new directions.

So if you want to be irresistible practice coming up with great questions, you don’t have to talk for hours.

You don’t have to transform yourself into a bubbly or passionate storyteller, but you do need to take a real interest in the other person and listen closely.

If you’re actively listening, good questions will just pop into your head.

Ask the other person about something you didn’t understand or let them elaborate on something that they’re excited about.

Irresistible listeners use this foolproof strategy on a regular basis, because a handful of good questions can make you the most attractive person in the room
6. Expressing vulnerabilities.

Do you honestly express yourself around other people?

Many of us neuter our personalities in social situations. We tone down our excitement, we stifle our happiness and we pretend like nothing pleases us, but your cool, calm and collected demeanor doesn’t attract others like you think

The truth is people want you to care, they want you to get excited. They want you to show your feelings, because your vulnerability opens the door for a mutual connection.

Irresistible people aren’t afraid to be vulnerable.

They show their emotions, they express their genuine concerns and they take a real interest in the people around them.

They aren’t always the coolest person in the room or the most level-headed, but they’re often the most attractive because they’re vulnerable, approachable and honest.

They’re the kind of people you can be yourself around because they act the same way around you

So express your vulnerabilities. Stop trying to play yourself down.

Irresistible people let their emotions show because it’s those emotions that make you attractive
7. Shifting your perspective.

Can you read people’s moods, body language and vocal tones?

You might think this is a complicated thing to do. If you’re trying to decipher tiny subtle details, it can be.

However, most people send pretty obvious signals that anyone can read as long as you know what to look for. A friend or partner may not vocalize their feelings, but those feelings are often expressed through physical signals, facial expressions and body movements

For example, let’s say you ask your friend how they’re feeling; they say they’re doing all right, but the bags under their eyes, the slump in their spine and the anxious shaking of their leg, tells you otherwise

While it’s important to listen to what someone says, you should always consider the message that their body is sending.

But why does this make you more attractive? What does body language have to do with being irresistible?

Paying attention to other people’s body language gradually changes your perspective in a way that’s irresistible to others.

Before you pay detailed attention to someone else, you have to shift your attention away from yourself.

In other words, paying attention to others teaches you to look outward to observe the people around you and to understand how they’re feeling

Irresistible people are some of the least self-centered individuals you’ll ever meet, they rarely worry about the things they say or the way they look because they’re more concerned with others.

They’ve changed their perspective. They’ve learned to read, understand and connect with the world around them and that skill set makes them irresistible

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Re: 7 Habits That Make You Irresistible With No Competition by Hoodyrich(m): 9:25pm On Jun 24, 2021
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Re: 7 Habits That Make You Irresistible With No Competition by anthonyuncle(m): 11:40pm On Jun 24, 2021
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