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Re: Confused! by Nobody: 1:03pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
realtalk19: May everything that makes you happy never turn to sadness, thanks so much for this input and believing in me, I'm surely moving, it's not just as fast as it should be, still in a stranger's house since two days ago, I'm on my feet working things out. |
Re: Confused! by realtalk19: 1:06pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Lizzyangel: You really need to start planning your exit and ask for help from as many people you can so u can get enough funds to cater for u and ur kids alongside accommodation. Ur husband is taking advantage of your fear so you wunt make a move. You need to be brave and take the bull by the horn with wisdom for you and ur kids sanity ND safety. |
Re: Confused! by apatheticme(f): 1:10pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
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Re: Confused! by Nobody: 1:19pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
apatheticme: Ma'am with your comments so far, it's glaring you don't read this post through and through. I'm not a useless lady, neither am I lazy or dependant on him as I've been the only one footing the bills and upkeep of the home with my private school teaching salary, yet he'd abuse me physically, emotionally, and verbally, once he's opportuned to have some money, he'd be behaving like Yahoo boys , philandering around with girls in hotels which I'd still be the one to bail him out once caught....I saw all the red flags since the onset but kept hoping with a good woman by his side, he'd change, he graduated from beating and abusing me into sending me and my baby girl out at night to sleep in an uncompleted building, a baby I had through CS, from that night, April 15th, I decided to drop every commitment I've had in our *situation* cos e Neva pay my bride price, this led to everyday insult as I no longer cook Everytime as I used to do, and other errands I'd gladly do, I stopped them, what brought about this thread was how he threatened me on 1st July to be prepared for hardship and more abuses, me being an ambivert ,had to come here to seek for advice, this he saw and sent myself and kids out since 2days ago, not caring about our wellbeing. The accusations against me by some Nlanders was that I created this post in order to beg for money, due to the fact that I once begged during lockdown for money while I was pregnant, not working but trying to cover up my lazy husband then, the help I got from here was used on babythings and hospital bills last year. No wonder Yorubas will say : "imi kinkin eti awo, toju ba kuro nibe, okan ko le kuro" "A little stain of poo on a plate, if washed away, the mind won't let go of the earlier stain" |
Re: Confused! by Ishilove: 1:20pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
apatheticme:You sound just like my mum, wise woman that she is |
Re: Confused! by Nobody: 1:22pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
realtalk19: I'm on it ma'am. Thanks for your concern. Kindly help me to ask Mstick reasons why he/she carry my matter for head like gala....make e salaye wetin I do am, cos I'm confused at his/her attacks on this thread. |
Re: Confused! by pocohantas(f): 1:34pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
bjprodint1: Lmao! Be like all of una sabi catch cruise sha. 2 Likes |
Re: Confused! by Ishilove: 1:45pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Ulunne777:I don't even bother anymore. Some people just looove their chains |
Re: Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 2:05pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
bjprodint1: Again? And so soon too? Urgh! |
Re: Confused! by pocohantas(f): 2:06pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
mariahAngel: How soon is good enough, Maria? |
Re: Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 2:12pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
pocohantas: In most cases, never! She thinks she has it bad, she should wait until she's saddled with more children from another man... |
Re: Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 2:19pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
apatheticme: What I have come to understand and made peace with is that not all women will be alphas, just like not all males are alphas. Omg! A guy just created a thread on romance section asking if there's anything wrong in calling his married ex to come cook for him! Omg! The lady not only agreed, she also went with him to the market to buy the ingredients! I swear, I'm so pissed right now! |
Re: Confused! by pocohantas(f): 2:20pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
mariahAngel: So you are saying she shouldn’t marry again? mariahAngel: You are joking?!! Ahnahn. This lady no rate her husband at all o. Chai, poor man. What she doesn’t know is that the guy wouldn’t respect her husband either, no matter what she says about him. |
Re: Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 2:25pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
pocohantas: Not until she has established herself at least. She owe it to herself. You are joking?!! See for yourself https://www.nairaland.com/6633785/it-wrong-married-lady-cook#103351658 Not only did she disrespect her husband, she disrespected herself also. |
Re: Confused! by pocohantas(f): 2:34pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
mariahAngel: You are right. The problem is a lot of women in that category are either looking to hook up with men that can cater for them and their kids or just to pepper their EXes. But if she meets someone she genuinely loves, then she can go for it. In her case, she strikes me as someone that just wants to show her EX that she could get someone better than him. See for yourself Omo, I am speechless. Maybe she no value herself na, she for try value the husband. 2 Likes |
Re: Confused! by mariahAngel(f): 2:53pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
pocohantas: It's risky o! She should calm down. You know when one rushes to correct a mistake, one might get it wrong again and make matters worse. What if she gets pregnant again? And for another man too? Wahala! Omo, I am speechless. Maybe she no value herself na, she for try value the husband. I didn't even know where to begin! |
Re: Confused! by apatheticme(f): 3:00pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
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Re: Confused! by apatheticme(f): 3:17pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
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Re: Confused! by apatheticme(f): 3:19pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
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Re: Confused! by apatheticme(f): 3:23pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
mariahAngel: . 5 Likes |
Re: Confused! by apatheticme(f): 3:24pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Ishilove: My sister, I nor get choice oh, I gats resemble wise women oh. We sure need more wise women around these days! The streets nor dey smile! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Confused! by apatheticme(f): 3:26pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
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Re: Confused! by Nobody: 3:39pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
What happened to leaving the children with him to care for. Nigerian women and their oversabi,if I should leave a husband (God forbids) I will so drop all the kids with him to look after,why should I be the one to carry the kids along,lai lai that one can't work for me ooo.I have strong and valid reasons for doing so. |
Re: Confused! by bjprodint1: 3:45pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
LadySarah:Am not marrying this year,but when am finally settled,i will get married.i only wrote about marriage to expres d fact that only good news will come from me.No more regrets and pity.i am positive.i wish i can share my new look,but am trying my best to be quiet here,but i cant cos am adicted to Nairaland and i find peace here. |
Re: Confused! by thorpido(m): 3:48pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
apatheticme:No I didn't.Those words up there are your words ........'men are a necessary evil'. 1 Like |
Re: Confused! by thorpido(m): 4:11pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Rozcol:I have thought about this many times.Why should the burden of caring for the kids be on the woman in cases like this? Maternal instincts maybe but if the man had to be left with the child/children sometimes,I guess they won't think of sending mother and kids away everytime. 2 Likes |
Re: Confused! by NoToPile: 4:23pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
mariahAngel: Hiann, Make I go find the thread. |
Re: Confused! by lovelybugs(f): 4:27pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
thorpido: As nice as this sounds, a lot of men can't be trusted with their own kids. They'll end up dumping them at relatives homes as unpaid house boys and girls, to be molested by whoever pleases. A mother who loves her children would never leave them to go through that. That's why most women are at a disadvantage. Na who care pass dey loose for marriage matter. 1 Like |
Re: Confused! by Jethrosam(m): 4:27pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
Cuttycool:,my sister it a long story,but i give thanks to God |
Re: Confused! by thorpido(m): 4:29pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
mariahAngel:Hmmmm,the husband was obviously a second option. |
Re: Confused! by thorpido(m): 4:33pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
lovelybugs:I know this is the main reason.It is what it is sha. I've seen a few cases of women who took the hard decision of leaving the kid/s with the father. 1 Like |
Re: Confused! by pocohantas(f): 4:51pm On Jul 04, 2021 |
thorpido: If the man is responsible and was involved in their welfare, it would be easier. Not the ones that would go dump them with grandma in the village. Anyway, apart from maternal instincts, I have noticed Nigerian mothers like to put themselves through some unnecessary suffer. Maybe it helps them with the emotional blackmail (after all I did for you). As far as the man is responsible and has the means, I will leave the kids for him! Rozcol: 3 Likes 1 Share |
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