Why do some women sleep around? Does sleeping around have anything to do with self-esteem? And finally, why do some people associate female (but not male) promiscuity with low self-esteem?





YOUR RELATIONSHIP

that the first person that you are accountable to is the young lady in the mirror. If the things you do leave you fulfilled and happy, and you can look yourself in the mirror and hold your head up high afterwards, then it is fine.

LOOK INSIDE YOURSELF

The problem comes when you find yourself ashamed of the things that you did. You wake up having lost a part of your soul with each person that you sleep with. That is terrible.

Let us forget for a minute the judgements and stereotypes of society. Let us just talk about you. Let us talk about self-preservation. See, if you were just a sexual being and just a woman who happens to be comfortable with her own sexuality.

RED FLAGS

I honestly think that we need to get past the age where men are allowed to be sexual and to do what they want with their bodies, while women are not. Sadly, that is not what I am getting from your letter. Your message is telling me that after your sexual exploits, you walk away sad and hating yourself.

You also feel ashamed. Those are traits of sexual addiction. Addiction to porn is a big red flag. Chronic self-pleasuring, having multiple partners and cheating on partners are also red flags.

THE SHAME FACTOR

The reason you are contemplating leaving your current university is because you are probably ashamed of seeing and being seen by the people that you have been having sex with. And young men being what they are, they have probably not been very discreet about their exploits with you.

These are all signs of sexual addiction. You need to take a look at where it comes from and seek professional help as soon as possible.

UNDERSTANDING SEXUAL ADDICTION

Sexual addiction manifests itself in two ways: replacing sex for love and pursuing varied or extreme sexual activities that are focused on the sex acts, not on any type of connection between two people. Does all of this sound like you?

You will need to do a lot of soul searching. Most importantly, you need to gradually learn that you can be accepted and loved beyond sex.

DO NOT LOSE HOPE

This could have been caused by a struggle to get accepted and fit into your new environment. It could also be you lashing out and rebelling against your strict upbringing.

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