ststyreal:

They both own the money. What belongs to the husband belongs to the wife as well. They are now one and not two. Calling the wife a thief makes him the husband of a thief as well, you see, does that sound good to the ear? He should rather talk to the wife in the language she would understand rather than painting her a thief.

ATMC:

Exactly.
He insinuated he gives her money for upkeep of the home but that is like giving her money to keep their home...what about money to keep herself, madam has got personal needs to meet, let's say she's jobless.

I feel stealing is an option for especially one who has no source of income.

If op claims she steals from him, one can assume he doesn't give her money, else it would have been stated.

Uyi168:
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Which kain yeye advice be this??

Lots of crazy fellows here

ATMC:

There was something you did not state which is very obvious in this post, op.
You don't give her money.
You tested her by hiding money somewhere and she located it and stole it, test her again but this time, hide the money in plain sight, but give her money before you do it, at least twice...then watch your money in plain sight remain there for a long while.

It's very important to give your wife money, don't provide the basic need in the house and neglect her. Money is a lubricant, at least now that you have the money, give her as much as you can, you won't lack.

But if you do all that's required and she still steals, then it's a quirk.
We all have weird quirks.
You have to accept hers.

ststyreal:
I understand how you feel, especially when you aren't that buoyant but referring to her as a thief just because she took your money, isn't too cool. What happened to the phrase in a marriage that says " the two shall become one". At this juncture, may I ask, if she is working or a stay-at-home mom at the moment? Men, with understanding, know that if you take care of your wife financially and otherwise, there is a blessing attached to it but for her to go about taking your money, means she needs the money. Things are expensive this day, call her and ask what and what she needs as a wife. Don't go about tagging your wife, the mother of your children a thief. Talk to her and let her know why she should meet you whenever she needs urgent money and you as well, don't wait for her to ask before extending a hand to her, no matter how small it is.

Uyi168:
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You assume a lot.

4tomandchi:
I and my wife have been married for 9 years now, we have 3 children Peace (7) Mark (5) and Zion (3). Our marriage has been relatively peaceful like most marriages but not devoid of little differences couples face once in a while. We live modestly and by the grace of God I provide for my family at least their basic needs.

But one thing that is becoming a real issue for me is my wife's habit of stealing money from my pocket, initially when I noticed my money was missing and confronted her she blantantlly denied it and claimed maybe I lost it outside.

Know fully well that that is not the case I decided to test I heed money under my box and she still located it when I noticed that my money was missing and confronted her with fact she denied at first but later admitted to taking it.

When I asked yesterday that what are the 3 things in life she will never? The first on her list was "I will never steal, excluding from my husband".

Her reply has kept me wondering if she will ever stop stealing, I can't leave any money in my pocket peacefully again she doesn't care whether the money is mine or not.

Please what can I do to help my wife I need your suggestions?

SonofGod231:
Padi,This is really not cool.Maybe she needs spare money for one or two things at home.
To know what she really uses the money for..Start giving her the money you come back with to help you Hold/Keep,let her have it in her possession then ask for it the next day or three.She will definitely have no choice but to keep it well or give a reasonable account of how she spent it.
I use to have a cousin sister that lived with me.She can smell any where I keep money and take some and she can deny for Africa.Na so she dey thief my money small small until She stole 45k from 60K I kept in my room probably while I was bathing.I threatened her tire but she no ever release the money.Her mum said it was because I don't use to beat her but from that day, I started giving her every dime I had at home to keep for me.Because she does all the cooking,na from there we go dey deduct things for house and cooking.Dey do plus or minus every day.And if she ever needed money or spare she will ask me first if she can take or not and that was how I solved the whole issue of my money always missing.

Charity4real:
Seems you don’t give her enough money