I dated a guy for four years, I never loved him. I started dating him when i was 18 but we broke up when i was 23. all through our courtship, we never had sex. I never felt anything for him. I was just in that relationship because the two families were familair. i had alot of things that pissed me off about him. by the time i grew to make my own decisions, time had really been invested in the relationship so i decided to marry him. Thank God it never worked out again even though we already started planning marriage.

Now, coincidentally, we work in the same office, I see him everyday.He is getting married to my coleague who happens to be my friend. his wedding is next month and he hadnt yet invited me but his wife to be has.

What do you think, should i attend or not.
Am not trying to feel important or jealous either cos am not atall, but i feel i should get an invite from him personally since he sees me everyday. Just tell me what you feel.

op
re u sure u never gave him Womanliness?
Cos am finding it difficult 2 believe ur film sorry story.

@ OP I would attend with a close friend and go have fun. He's moved on and so have you --- so nothing wrong.

Op
The question is does his wife to be know of your past with him?

M M M:

op
re u sure u never gave him Womanliness?
Cos am finding it difficult 2 believe your film sorry story.

Whats so hard to believe in that? I have done it before and the guy and I are friemds till date.

@OP
Stay in your house if you dont get an invite from him.

@poster
the important question IS: why would you want to attend their wedding?!

@poster
okay so your family were/are close
keep it break!
i tell you what?
whether you cared for him or not
respect yourself and stay away
what do you think would happen if the wife he is marrying and her friends happen to see you there?
come see big humiliation oh
if your family are attending, that's their call
its not your duty or moral obligation to be there
pls take a holiday or go visit your friend
leave the city if needs be
don't get involved
that way you wont get disgraced for all the wrong reasons

Surprisingly - I agree with 190

Stay away

What is the point?  Why would you go?  Why would you think twice about this on ANY LEVEL?

Me, personally - the day would come and go and a week or two after the wedding is over - would I even remember the occasion was coming up.  He would have been married  before I even recalled that he was GETTING MARRIED.

My pedicure and manicure, teeth whitening, book reading, swimming, shopping, short and long term goals would have crowded out anything on an event level that involved him and anyone he knows.

DO you - he shouldn't be a thought or a memory.

The bible says "Rejoice with those who rejoice" and "Mourn with those who mourn" (Romans 12:15). A wedding is a beautiful thing (I'll assume).

So pls swallow your pride and Ego and go for the wedding. Since you didn't have any form of Carnal Knowledge with him, No koso~~ Free Jollof Rice and Moin-Moin remember? 

Your reward is in heaven. Are you a christian? ---Even if you ain't, GO!
 

Make sure your Gele/Damask is the mightiest and the most noticeable at the wedding .

I would still go and show him support. More than likely he didn't want to invite you directly, but he told his fiance to invite you.

I have an ex that I'm still cool with but I wouldn't go out of the way an invite him to my wedding. I woudn't want to take the chance that it would be uncomfortable. He would probably show up anyway and I would be happy that he was supporting me. I think he would be happy if you went, and you would have a nice time.

Op
The question is does his wife to be know of your past with him?


Yes she does because she came to me to seek my opinion when he was asking her out. I had to tell her about it and aslo told her every good thing i knew about him. She is still grateful for that.

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op
re u sure u never gave him Womanliness?
Cos am finding it difficult

I dont want to reply rudely to you. I beta keep what i have to say in mind. I need candid opinion here and not shit, i wld be glad if you keep off this trend.

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@ OP I would attend with a close friend and go have fun. He's moved on and so have you --- so nothing wrong.




Even without his invite despite he sees you everyday?

:-x :-x :-x

op
am sorry,
but since ur parents will go 4 d wed u can go with them.