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URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by igbowoman: 1:33pm On Sep 12
I dont even know why young ladies feel the need to confess up and down to men things they would never know.
Ladies please learn to keep your mouths shut.
Stop telling boyfriends how many men you have slept with before you met them.
Stop telling them when you err
Stop seeking forgiveness up and down
Stop being needy.
Please stop it!!

If you've committed abortions ,tell it to God,repent and do it no more.
You don't need to tell your life stories to boyfriends.
Your past is your past,keep it there.
Stop getting too emotional ,not good for you.
These things only hurt you in the end
Many of these men have procured countless abortions for people,raped women, raped little girls,slept with people's wives and grandmothers,some have slept with their fellow men, paid and slept with prostitutes,done yahoo, were cultists on campus, stolen and done all manner of evil in their past, they don't tell those stories to every girl they meet.
They ask God to forgive and turn a new leaf and move on.
But females will let their emotions take over and be answering questions no one asked them.

This is a timely advice
Ladies please stop tarnishing your image with your own mouths.
Those same boyfriends will be sharing your conversations all over the place even on nairaland.
Zip your mouths
Pass on this timely advice to your friends.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by TarOrfeeek: 1:41pm On Sep 12
RIP to the unfortunate Man that might end up with you.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by bennyflipy(m): 1:50pm On Sep 12
One of those hungry feminists around.
Rubbish

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by yomi007k(m): 1:53pm On Sep 12
What if the man asks a lady that has commited abortion if she has done it before.

You will advise the lady to lie or say nothing?

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Mercychen(f): 2:00pm On Sep 12
As if they disclose theirs.

Some girls need to wise up.

I used to do that in the past but discovered they end up using it against me. So I've gotten wiser.

Now, don't come asking me if I've aborted in the past, that's not what I'm talking about. I don't have such past. Biko.

**Mouths sealed**

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Jeon(m): 2:01pm On Sep 12
igbowoman:
I dont even know why young ladies feel the need to confess up and down to men things they would never know.
Ladies please learn to keep your mouth shut.
Stop telling boyfriends how many men you have slept with before you met them.
Stop telling them when you err
Stop seeking forgiveness up and down
Stop being needy.
Please stop it!!

If you've committed abortions ,tell it to God,repent and do it no more.
You don't need to tell your life stories to boyfriends.
Your past is your past,keep it there.
Stop getting too emotional ,not good for you.
These things only hurt you in the end
Many of these men have procured countless abortions for people,raped women, raped little girls,slept with people's wives and grandmothers,some have slept with their fellow men, paid and slept with prostitutes,done yahoo, were cultists on campus, stolen and done all manner of evil in their past, they don't tell those stories to every girl they meet.
They ask God to forgive and turn a new leaf and move on.
But females will let their emotions take over and be answering questions no one asked them.

This is a timely advice
Ladies please stop tarnishing your image with your own mouths.
Those same boyfriends will be sharing your conversations all over the place even on nairaland.
Zip your mouths
Pass on this timely advice to your friends.



Wahala for who date.
Never share your personal life to anyone especially the devil called FRIEND be it in relationship or not.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by MufasaLion(m): 2:15pm On Sep 12
grin grin grin

I have nothing to say.
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by igbowoman: 2:16pm On Sep 12
Mercychen:
As if they disclose theirs.

Some girls need to wise up.

I used to do that in the past but discovered they end up using it against me. So I've gotten wiser.

Now, don't come asking me if I've aborted in the past, that's not what I'm talking about. I don't have such past. Biko.

**Mouths sealed**

I jiya!!
Keep your mouth shut
Old things are passed away.
In the eyes of God it never happened,so it never happened.
Period.
I am glad you have learned.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by igbowoman: 2:21pm On Sep 12
Some stupid girls will sleep with a new BF and start sharing her life history ,I have a confession to make,honey I have something to confess
He says what
I slept with Abba Kyari in 2012
Are you mad?
What for?
Who asked you?
Because of an infatuation that may not last 2 months.
The man has slept with every girl in the neighborhood including mama Nneka and treated Gono 20 times he won't say pim
And you are opening mouth like fish talking non stop
even telling how much in her account.
Ladies learn to talk less o

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by tensazangetsu20(m): 5:12pm On Sep 12
igbowoman:
Some stupid girls will sleep with a new BF and start sharing her life history ,I have a confession to make,honey I have something to confess
He says what
I slept with Abba Kyari in 2012
Are you mad?
What for?
Who asked you?
Because of an infatuation that may not last 2 months.
The man has slept with every girl in the neighborhood including mama Nneka and treated Gono 20 times he won't say pim
And you are opening mouth like fish talking non stop
even telling how much in her account.
Ladies learn to talk less o

True sha. Women are fucking stupid. It's so hilarious. Imagine using your mouth to sabotage yourself.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by greenie77: 5:17pm On Sep 12
Providing unnecessary information! cheesy

Confessing to a boyfriend, is he a Priest? cheesy

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by waywardpikin: 5:20pm On Sep 12
Thread oozing of misandry.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by waywardpikin: 5:22pm On Sep 12
tensazangetsu20:

True sha. Women are fucking stupid. It's so hilarious. Imagine using your mouth to sabotage yourself.

But it's not a bad thing na. We the irresponsible boyfriends are not complaining.
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by tensazangetsu20(m): 5:23pm On Sep 12
waywardpikin:


But it's not a bad thing na. We the irresponsible boyfriends are not complaining.
As in eh, I have done really terrible things in the past and absolutely no woman can hear of it but you see women boasting openly of having sex with hundreds of men. Foolishness.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by kwaso2(m): 5:29pm On Sep 12
igbowoman:
I dont even know why young ladies feel the need to confess up and down to men things they would never know.
Ladies please learn to keep your mouths shut.
Stop telling boyfriends how many men you have slept with before you met them.
Stop telling them when you err
Stop seeking forgiveness up and down
Stop being needy.
Please stop it!!

If you've committed abortions ,tell it to God,repent and do it no more.
You don't need to tell your life stories to boyfriends.
Your past is your past,keep it there.
Stop getting too emotional ,not good for you.
These things only hurt you in the end
Many of these men have procured countless abortions for people,raped women, raped little girls,slept with people's wives and grandmothers,some have slept with their fellow men, paid and slept with prostitutes,done yahoo, were cultists on campus, stolen and done all manner of evil in their past, they don't tell those stories to every girl they meet.
They ask God to forgive and turn a new leaf and move on.
But females will let their emotions take over and be answering questions no one asked them.

This is a timely advice
Ladies please stop tarnishing your image with your own mouths.
Those same boyfriends will be sharing your conversations all over the place even on nairaland.
Zip your mouths
Pass on this timely advice to your friends.



It's a shame that you are igbo. A big shame. I spit on you

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 5:29pm On Sep 12
Sad but true cry

People want to share themselves but that's not the world we live in. You've got to protect and preserve yourself so don't tell anyone anything that doesn't concern them. Disclose only what will effect the other person.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Catfishing(m): 5:31pm On Sep 12
kwaso2:

It's a shame that you are igbo. A big shame. I spit on you
That is a bleached afonja miscreant hiding under the umbrella of igbo.....believe the transgendered at your peril!!!

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by begoniaa: 5:32pm On Sep 12
Toor.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 5:33pm On Sep 12
Op, you know you've offered great tips when ladyboys start hyperventilating grin

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by ahnie(f): 5:56pm On Sep 12
Lolzzzzzzzzz

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Justbehave: 8:19pm On Sep 12
igbowoman:
I dont even know why young ladies feel the need to confess up and down to men things they would never know.
Ladies please learn to keep your mouths shut.
Stop telling boyfriends how many men you have slept with before you met them.
Stop telling them when you err
Stop seeking forgiveness up and down
Stop being needy.
Please stop it!!

If you've committed abortions ,tell it to God,repent and do it no more.
You don't need to tell your life stories to boyfriends.
Your past is your past,keep it there.
Stop getting too emotional ,not good for you.
These things only hurt you in the end
Many of these men have procured countless abortions for people,raped women, raped little girls,slept with people's wives and grandmothers,some have slept with their fellow men, paid and slept with prostitutes,done yahoo, were cultists on campus, stolen and done all manner of evil in their past, they don't tell those stories to every girl they meet.
They ask God to forgive and turn a new leaf and move on.
But females will let their emotions take over and be answering questions no one asked them.

This is a timely advice
Ladies please stop tarnishing your image with your own mouths.
Those same boyfriends will be sharing your conversations all over the place even on nairaland.
Zip your mouths
Pass on this timely advice to your friends.


Fine but don't ask him for money or any assistance be that strong woman.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by FatherCHRISTMAS: 9:20pm On Sep 12
Some stupid girls will sleep with a new BF and start sharing her life history ,I

A good preek makes em a story teller
A good preek makes em confess

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by ImaIma1(f): 10:18pm On Sep 12
kwaso2:

It's a shame that you are igbo. A big shame. I spit on you


Get the message and stop spitting up and down.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by wunmi590(m): 10:45pm On Sep 12
undecided

Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Graxie(f): 11:16pm On Sep 12
The worst is in marriage, you will see a woman casting all her family members, telling the husband all the details of their past and when yawa gas, the horseband will use it to ridicule her for life.

All these team we don't keep anything from each other, una still dey learn work.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by eazzzy1(m): 12:07am On Sep 13
Women aren’t as bothered about a man’s sexual past as a man is bothered about a woman’s. Not telling or lying when asked can bring hurt to the relationship in future. A man finds out you did things even 10 years before he met you can change his mind towards you 20 years later. Would you rather lose a budding relationship or the family you have invested years to build?

Telling when not asked makes the man open up to you too, it builds trust as you didn’t have to tell him, most men overlook when they are told vs when they find out, telling puts you in a position to craft the story to your advantage. Two people can keep a secret only when one is dead.

If there’s anything I have learnt it is that we live in a small world, the person who did the abortion for you may be your sister in-laws colleagues husband.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by cococandy(f): 3:26am On Sep 13
Many of these men have procured countless abortions for people,raped women, raped little girls,slept with people's wives and grandmothers,some have slept with their fellow men, paid and slept with prostitutes,done yahoo, were cultists on campus, stolen and done all manner of evil in their past, they don't tell those stories to every girl they meet.
Indeed. And they will tell themselves stories to convince themselves that their past means nothing. Only the woman has to be accountable


They ask God to forgive and turn a new leaf and move on.
But females will let their emotions take over and be answering questions no one asked them.

You’re gracious to think they ask for forgiveness. They don’t. They believe sin only applies to women. God exists to uphold their egos and wants. Anytime a woman does something that men are typically applauded for, then it’s time for Jesus to come back and destroy the world because “what an abomination!!”

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by cococandy(f): 3:30am On Sep 13
eazzzy1:
Women aren’t as bothered about a man’s sexual past as a man is bothered about a woman’s

Tell us more. Mmm hmm

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Acidosis(m): 5:16am On Sep 13
If you have to lie to keep a relationship, that relationship will crumble anyways. So you're merely postponing the evil days o.
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by greenie77: 5:40am On Sep 13
eazzzy1:
Women aren’t as bothered about a man’s sexual past as a man is bothered about a woman’s. Not telling or lying when asked can bring hurt to the relationship in future. A man finds out you did things even 10 years before he met you can change his mind towards you 20 years later. Would you rather lose a budding relationship or the family you have invested years to build?

Telling when not asked makes the man open up to you too, it builds trust as you didn’t have to tell him, most men overlook when they are told vs when they find out, telling puts you in a position to craft the story to your advantage. Two people can keep a secret only when one is dead.

If there’s anything I have learnt it is that we live in a small world, the person who did the abortion for you may be your sister in-laws colleagues husband.

Why do you feel a man's past can never hurt a present relationship but only that of the woman's? The belief that a woman's sexual history is only what can ruin a relationship/marriage that the man's history of probably been a cultist or ritualist who have killed people, who have kidnapped, raped and impregnated women that ended with abortion can never hurt a relationship/marriage.

Well, no be today because way back in the Bible times shebi na the woman the men were all after to stone for committing adultery while the man she committed it with was spared. Glad Jesus treated their hypocrisy by replying the men, telling them “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” cheesy and we further read that "when the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest..Hypocrites who believe only a woman has a past!

Best is both come into the relationship with little or no baggage.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by bukatyne(f): 6:06am On Sep 13
@OP:

Since the thread has naturally gotten to men vs women, I will say this:

1. Women do not care about a man's past (especially sexual) like men do about women's past. Even if a man 'confesses' that he has facilitated 50 abortions and slept with 500 women, more women would be willing to continue the relationship than vice versa. More men are willing to marry virgin women & teach them in bed than women. And according to myth, for a man to be good, he should have been with several women. There is a saying that 'every woman wants to be her man's last; every man wants to be his woman's first'.

2. Men & women are different and the area of sexuality showcases it the most; most things sexual, a man facilitates outside his body; for women, it is performed on them. For instance, if a man has paid for fifty abortions, he does not affect him physically nor does it affect his ability to father a child in future. Now compare to a woman who had fifty abortions. Same with numerous sexual partners.
> If a man says he has slept with fifty women, you think STDs, been promiscuous/sharp guy (depending on your ethical leanings) and experience in bed.
> If a woman says she has slept with fifty men, you think an overused body, been promiscuous, abortions (even of she doesn't disclose), if super smart to prevent pregnancies; you think thousands of pills and all sorts taken, you think ability to successfully carry a child to term.
There are two different pictures physically. I stress on physically because the spiritual effects are same (for people who believe sex is spiritual anyways).

I believe living a life where you don't need to hide or modify a colourful past is the best strategy.

Except you messed up on earth and migrating to Mars to settle down in life aka marry & grow up, someone would know someone that knows someone that knows your story.

This age of SM even makes it easy; imagine a lady on onlyfans/another sexual site or wearing pants on IG trying to reformat her past five years later.

That's why I am a fan of young relationships; you both are starting life together.

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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Klass99(f): 6:44am On Sep 13
eazzzy1:
Women aren’t as bothered about a man’s sexual past as a man is bothered about a woman’s. Not telling or lying when asked can bring hurt to the relationship in future. A man finds out you did things even 10 years before he met you can change his mind towards you 20 years later. Would you rather lose a budding relationship or the family you have invested years to build?

This (the bolded in particular) just goes to show that you men cannot handle half the shit you do or dish out. But, we already knew that (some of us though) grin

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