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Ishilove:
Do we call this foolishness or ill luck?

A foolish luck.

Got pregnant for two Sudanese. The first one wasn't enough lesson for you.
Btw, Arabic countries are no go area, u become slaves working for them and end up earning nothing.

infogenius:
Nice article

Very unfortunate. This is the fate and even worse
of several people seeking greener pastures outside their countries especially Africans

Lesson learned.

Make the best out of every situation one finds himself /herself

Are you suggesting Africans shouldn't migrate abroad?

So this kind thing dey happen for Saudi Arabia?arabs are d worst hypocrites!

saphiere:
Hmmm... So sad.

She is very fertile, even fertile than a rat

bepositive11:


You don't know her story

So many ignorant people on this forum. Which normal woman would do what she did?

It's easy for you to seat in the comfort of your home and say that you're angry.

Why do some women stay in abusive relationships? Why do some women do what she did? Because they're looking for love, acceptance, and validation in all the wrong places

YOU DON'T KNOW HER STORY!

Was she abused as a child? Was she raped as a child? Was she neglected as a child? Was she abandoned as a child?

If you walked in the same path of life that she has, you would be in the same position that she is in

You got lucky but she didn't get lucky. Please learn to emphasize with women like her

Instead of shame, she deserves empathy and someone leading her through the right path

. What a sissy! She couldn't divorced the husband get child support and stayed in Kenya to raised her kids she had rather ran away no be only empathy na sissy na like you dey messed things up

bepositive11:

You don't know her story
So many ignorant people on this forum. Which normal woman would do what she did?
It's easy for you to seat in the comfort of your home and say that you're angry.
Why do some women stay in abusive relationships? Why do some women do what she did? Because they're looking for love, acceptance, and validation in all the wrong places
YOU DON'T KNOW HER STORY!

Was she abused as a child? Was she raped as a child? Was she neglected as a child? Was she abandoned as a child?
If you walked in the same path of life that she has, you would be in the same position that she is in
You got lucky but she didn't get lucky. Please learn to emphasize with women like her
Instead of shame, she deserves empathy and someone leading her through the right path

ARRANT NONSENSE!!!
she made a life choice and lost...spare us the crocodile tears.
the above is BS excuses people use to feel sorry for people while i wouldnt care what her path was, i would only judge her actions and the outcome... unless of course you believe that the outcome of being abused/raped as a child is to abandon your husband/children and go wh0ring yourself abroad.
this woman can never get empathy from me, i'd rather give empathy to the man and kids she abandoned selfishly to go enjoy life abroad.

BTW funny how you automatically assume that something was wrong in the past, while we all know that many are just foolishly looking for greener pastures.

Mercychen:


*Smiles** if only you know what I'm currently passing through. You won't stay behind your keypad and be talking like this. But I know with hard work and perseverance, I'll scale through because ive been through worse in the past but in Christ I trusted until I scaled through.

Have you ever been in a situation where fasting became compulsory?

Have you been in a situation where you earn 230 per day just to feed and keep body and soul together?

Before I came out to say such, I know what I've passed through. She even got a job and complained the workload was too much. Then I'll live home from morning only to get home at night with two hundred and thirty naira with smiles of hope that I'll go tomorrow again to make 230.
So, forget!

Financial hardship? Yes, I've been through it too. Glad to know that you're persevering. Keep staying strong

With her case, I'm talking about psychological damage. We can't see the impact of it physically but we can see it through their actions and mistakes as adults

Prostitutes. Porn stars. Teenage moms. And so on. More often than not, these women end up the way they are because of the psychological damage sustained during childhood from abuse, neglect, and/or abandonment

Sadly, not many people know about this. When many see them make horrible choices as adults, they get shamed and insulted not knowing what their story is

corike:
. What a sissy! She couldn't divorced the husband get child support and stayed in Kenya to raised her kids she had rather ran away no be only empathy na sissy na like you dey messed things up

Again, please find out her life story. I bet you, when you do, you'll be more understanding and empathetic

We're all born innocent. What separates us from her? Our life circumstances and experiences

Pathetic!

What I don't understand is why abandon your children and run away to a foreign land? Why not end things on mutual ground and move on with your life without telling the ex husband you intend to relocate.

Now her first 3 children will hate her for good

I know someone that did exact same thing and ran to Dubai leaving 3 children all aged below 10 with the husband

bepositive11:

No, I'm not. I've studied about it

Our childhood determines how we turn out as adults
Think of the people you know. Those who grew up in loving homes end up becoming healthy adults and they end up having healthy relationships

Those who grew up in dysfunctional homes end up becoming toxic adults and they end up having toxic relationships

If you know anyone in toxic relationships, ask them to tell you their story. You'll find out they they've been through some form abuse or neglect or abandonment as a child

That statement in bold is the source of your error.

Our childhood experiences, much like every other experience in life, helps shapes us but it does not determine who our choices or who we become as adults.

Some of those who grew up in dysfunctional homes CHOOSE to become toxic adults, while others instead learn from the experience so they can make better choices as adults.

I also know of persons who are in non-toxic relationships who had a terrible past to begin with. That is to tell you that life is all about choices and lessons learned from all you have been dealt with.

MrBrownJay1:


ARRANT NONSENSE!!!
she made a life choice and lost...spare us the crocodile tears.
the above is BS excuses people use to feel sorry for people while i wouldnt care what her path was, i would only judge her actions and the outcome... unless of course you believe that the outcome of being abused/raped as a child is to abandon your husband/children and go wh0ring yourself abroad.
this woman can never get empathy from me, i'd rather give empathy to the man and kids she abandoned selfishly to go enjoy life abroad.

BTW funny how you automatically assume that somethjing was wrong in the past, while we all know that many are just foolishly looking for greener pastures.

Again, please find out her life story. I bet you, when you do, you'll be more understanding and empathetic

We're all born innocent. What separates us from her? Our life circumstances and experiences

Kaiser20:
Jakpa Team will not like this news at all.

Hahahhahahaha please don't spoil business o

bepositive11:
Again, please find out her life story. I bet you, when you do, you'll be more understanding and empathetic

We're all born innocent. What separates us from her? Our life circumstances and experiences

Her life story does not change the facts she herself has made known which is she made foolish choices over while she was in Saudi Arabia.

What separates us all are the choices we make as individuals, not our past experiences.

Harddiskng:


To be honest and not to sound overly cold, there is nothing sad about a woman intentionally getting pregnant for a man then having expectations that the child would be glue that joins them together. Not once but twice.

I have met a single Nigerian mum with three kids from three different fathers like WTF. I don’t pity her, she had expectations thinking she could get pregnant and the men would have to stick with her cuz who makes the same big mistake three times in a row.

Children are not meal tickets, you bank on to save you from your shitty life only for you to play the victim when shit doesn’t go your way.

That's how the children will grow to be criminals and endenger our society. At least the future please if you want to open leg open it for responsible men,

Sammy07:




The FUTURE is what again?

How does this has to do with the future is female again? Did the females made you useless? Someone was scammed and heartbroken thrice by men and is in pitiable conditions, and you're here, cursing and laughing at her conditions. Lolz. Remember that you have a tomorrow and you don't f**king know how worst it's going to get.

Mercychen:
SMH..
You went somewhere due to hardship and suffering so you could hustle and get a better, you ended up opening your legs and adding more suffering to yourself.

Now, you brought those innocent children into hardship.
I wonder when some girls, ladies and women will have sense and stop letting 5 mins madness take away a lifetime from them.






Im not judgling her. I'm angry with her!

I know she must have gone through a lot. But in that suffering, she finds time to sleep with men??

Lets say the first one was a mistake. What about the second time?
Couldn't she have learnt her lesson from the first one?

First Sudanese came, you open legs. he left.
The second one came, you still open legs with a child already from the first.
. whatever happened to using protection since she can't keep her legs close..

Is the power of D

Kobojunkie:
That statement in bold is the source of your error.

Our childhood experiences, much like every other experience in life, helps shapes us but it does not determine who our choices or who we become as adults.

Depending on what those experiences are, it shapes how we make choices and who we become

Children who experience abuse, neglect, and/or abandonment don't grow up to become healthy functional adults. These are the kid of people who form addictions to people (codependency) or substances

If you didn't experience it, you won't be able to understand

DaddyRochie1642:
Now, she has learnt the hard way,

"All that glitters is not GOLD"

100% sure, she has not learnt any lesson, she will easily get deceived by another man who throw her little money and promised to take care of the kids. It is a serious trouble if a woman has no meaningful skill, rely on what man can do for her and above all lack good home character. For her to have suffered from 3 different men, she sure lack many good women virtues.

Hassanmaye:

Is the power of D

Hmmm...

DoctorDree:
Now it’s from frying pan to fire
7 children to cater for with no money work whatsoever
And I don’t think Kenya government is any way better than Nigeria government

Very stupid she has resolved to blackmail as usual the victim card So that Mr saver will come from heaven and understand her situation and carry the burden aka single mother.

pek:
She is not and actually, she made sense

It didn't make any sense at all.

Unless you can prove that this here lady was programmed from birth to believe that believe that opening her legs to a man meant the same as love, we can't even begin to make sense out of this.

Sadly, the fact that she told her story in the way she did reveals she has and had no such programming to begin with and that this is pure foolishness on her part.

Kobojunkie:
Her life story does not change the facts she herself has made known which is she made foolish choices over while she was in Saudi Arabia.

What separates us all are the choices we make as individuals, not our past experiences.

How do we learn to make decisions? How do we learn to set boundaries?

I'll give you an example. If a child grows up with an abusive parent, they're likely to learn to associate abuse with love and end up tolerating abusive relationships as adults

If this woman grew up in a healthy functional home, she won't be where she is today

uvie66:
was she raped ? no

No but at least sympathize with her Na, you can save her

bepositive11:
Depending on what those experiences are, it shapes how we make choices and who we become

Children who experience abuse, neglect, and/or abandonment don't grow up to become healthy functional adults. These are the kid of people who form addictions to people (codependency) or substances

If you didn't experience it, you won't be able to understand

Again with the unfounded generalizations !
Not all children who grow up under dysfunctional conditions end up dysfunctional adults. I am proof of this.

BluntCrazeMan:
When we say that a certain gender is fish-brain, some people will think that it is an insult.
..
Why would this particular fish-brain allow the same type of people do the same type of thing on her body for two good times?

Sapphire will not like this statement

bepositive11:
Again, please find out her life story. I bet you, when you do, you'll be more understanding and empathetic

We're all born innocent. What separates us from her? Our life circumstances and experiences

instead of focussing on that woman, focus on the poor kids she abandoned,;focus on the husband she abandoned, focus on the 2 extra kids she got abroad while she couldnt even fend for herself.... explain to me how having kids by Sudanese bastard dudes gonna solve any problem she may have?!

again, i dont care about her life, i only care about what she did.... she could have divorce her huisband, put up her kids with her parents/family, then go abroad to try to make a better life for herself...and if/when it didnt work, just come back home. instead she went all the wrong ways about this whole thing.

i can never be understanding with people who do wrong, while we all know what doing right entails. now she has 5 kids and is right back to square one, lets see how she will manage.

Why not report at the deportation centre before having the two kids?

Some of our under graduates return home with same certificates( pregnancy).

princechurchill:
Arabs are heartless if you see what Africans are passing through in their hands it will break ur heart

Why are you obsessed with Arab, when it's clearly a victim from a Sudanese

Tobianojoel:
Why not report at the deportation centre before having the two kids?

good question.
she wanted to cut corners and maybe find ways to be happy abroad in the arms of Sudanese men.... probably forgetting about her 3 first kids altogether.