I need mature married people to advise or rather help.
The problem goes thus; Whenever I set my eyes on a dark skin or brown in complexion woman, I become weak to sex. This dont happen when I'm with a woman fair in complexion. Although, I have never cheated on my wife, but I fear it may happen one day.

Is this normal?

Walatip397:
I need mature married people to advise or rather help.
The problem goes thus; Whenever I set my eyes on a dark skin or brown in complexion woman, I become weak to sex. This dont happen when I'm with a woman fair in complexion. Although, I have never cheated on my wife, but I fear it may happen one day.

Is this normal?

What type of weakness?
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Walatip397:
I need mature married people to advise or rather help.
The problem goes thus; Whenever I set my eyes on a dark skin or brown in complexion woman, I become weak to sex. This dont happen when I'm with a woman fair in complexion. Although, I have never cheated on my wife, but I fear it may happen one day.

Is this normal?

What complexion is your wife?

She was dark in complexion, but changed after 3 years in marriage. She's now fair

Solofresh2:
What complexion is your wife?

Walatip397:
She was dark in complexion, but changed after 3 years in marriage. She's now fair

So what are you looking for in a fair woman that your bleaching wife does not have?

Walatip397:
I need mature married people to advise or rather help.
The problem goes thus; Whenever I set my eyes on a dark skin or brown in complexion woman, I become weak to sex. This dont happen when I'm with a woman fair in complexion. Although, I have never cheated on my wife, but I fear it may happen one day.

Is this normal?

This isn't a question of normalcy. You are indicating that you are lacking in the self-control department. What you need is to get some before you completely run out and cheat on your wife.

Face front. Stop looking anything that will make you want to have sex with them. Avoid porn.

It's a struggle I'm battling with.
The truth is "I need help"

Kobojunkie:
This isn't a question of normalcy. You are indicating that you are lacking in the self-control department. What you need is to get some before you completely run out and cheat on your wife.

I don't usually get sexually arouse with (my now fair wife) compared to when we were newly married.
I noticed we were struggling then, but God has really blessed us right now. My friends insists that's why her complexion changed

Solofresh2:
So what are you looking for in a fair woman that your bleaching wife does not have?

J don't watch porn. I do preach against it

chatinent:
Face front. Stop looking anything that will make you want to have sex with them. Avoid porn.

Walatip397:
It's a struggle I'm battling with.
The truth is "I need help"

Self-control has to do with gaining power over your mind and thoughts , that instead of letting it run you. It takes discipline and resolve.

I don't watch porn. I do preach against it

chatinent:
Face front. Stop looking anything that will make you want to have sex with them. Avoid porn.

Thanks.
But the question is how ?

Kobojunkie:
Self-control has to do with gaining power over your mind and thoughts , that instead of letting it run you. It takes discipline and resolve.

Walatip397:
Thanks.
But the question is how ?

When your mind trys to wonder towards that which you don't like, change the channel or focus to that which is instead of worth.

It's kind of like mental context-switching. You keep doing this as many times as it will take and as long as it will take for your mind to no longer wonder towards that which you don't want it to think on.

The best advice I can give is to cut off your penis

Stop Murking mahn


Stop sleeping late at night(ya too dey press phone)

Thanks. But the answer is how ?

Alright, thank you.
I will put this into practice

Kobojunkie:
When your mind trys to wonder towards that which you don't like, change the channel or focus to that which is instead of worth.

It's kind of like mental context-switching. You keep doing this as many times as it will take and as long as it will take for your mind to no longer wonder towards that which you don't want it to think on.

Haaa. Lol

WildPrimate:
The best advice I can give is to cut off your penis

You are funny

EzegeNdiigbo:
Stop Murking mahn



Stop sleeping late at night(ya too dey press phone)

Walatip397:
Alright, thank you.
I will put this into practice

It is not easy to do but with discipline and commitment, you can conquer any thing, including many other vices you may think of.

I appreciate you Sir. Thanks

Kobojunkie:
It is not easy to do but with discipline and commitment, you can conquer any thing, including many other vices you may think of.

Walatip397:
I need mature married people to advise or rather help.
The problem goes thus; Whenever I set my eyes on a dark skin or brown in complexion woman, I become weak to sex. This dont happen when I'm with a woman fair in complexion. Although, I have never cheated on my wife, but I fear it may happen one day.

Is this normal?

Walatip397:
I need mature married people to advise or rather help.
The problem goes thus; Whenever I set my eyes on a dark skin or brown in complexion woman, I become weak to sex. This dont happen when I'm with a woman fair in complexion. Although, I have never cheated on my wife, but I fear it may happen one day.

Is this normal?

ok so u saying yor wife marry dakskin man becoz a brown man lookin inside yor eye...correct?...bro, are ok? (no oofensese)

Walatip397:
I don't usually get sexually arouse with (my now fair wife) compared to when we were newly married.
I noticed we were struggling then, but God has really blessed us right now. My friends insists that's why her complexion changed

You see let me tell you something.Is not like am married oo but i tell you my take on this.
As a man, your main reason for marrying shouldn't be sex or pressure.I do tell people that if you can't control your sexual urges as a man then you not ready for marriage.If you do then you can never settle down with one woman because as time goes on, you won't be sexually attracted to your wife anymore and this can only result to cheating or marrying more women.
As a man looking for marriage,breast and yansh should not be your priority.Your priority should a companion.i mean,a woman as a friend,a woman you feel you can share the rest of your life with.This yansh and buttocks will fade away and your wife will now be like a diminishing product to you.
So I your case now, you need to move closer to your wife and do crazy stuffs together, watch porn together, let her look sex appealing to you when you both are home.
If you can't do this things, you will definitely cheat on her.

You are very correct. Mind you, we started from the university and we dated for 8 years before getting married. We were and still best of friends till now.
I will keep fighting the urge sha. I appreciate your help

Solofresh2:
You see let me tell you something.Is not like am married oo but i tell you my take on this.
As a man, your main reason for marrying shouldn't be sex or pressure.I do tell people that if you can't control your sexual urges as a man then you not ready for marriage.If you do then you can never settle down with one woman because as time goes on, you won't be sexually attracted to your wife anymore and this can only result to cheating or marrying more women.
As a man looking for marriage,breast and yansh should not be your priority.Your priority should a companion.i mean,a woman as a friend,a woman you feel you can share the rest of your life with.This yansh and buttocks will fade away and your wife will now be like a diminishing product to you.
So I your case now, you need to move closer to your wife and do crazy stuffs together, watch porn together, let her look sex appealing to you when you both are home.
If you can't do this things, you will definitely cheat on her.

Walatip397:
You are very correct. Mind you, we started from the university and we dated for 8 years before getting married. We were and still best of friends till now.
I will keep fighting the urge sha. I appreciate your help

You welcome and good night!

Righteousness2!

you are highly needed

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Thanks.
I'm just confused

InTheCloudySky:
It's too bad she bleached her skin, when it was her dark skin that attracted you to her. This is the reason why you now can't keep your eyes away from dark skinned women - naturally, they're your preference. You would have to accept your wife as she is, because she cannot go back to being dark-skinned.

Walatip397:
I don't usually get sexually arouse with (my now fair wife) compared to when we were newly married.
I noticed we were struggling then, but God has really blessed us right now. My friends insists that's why her complexion changed

There's no justification for someone that bleaches her skin. Don't let her friends decieve you with their words.

Yes, it's true people change especially their skin after they get more comfortable financially but it will only glow and be more attractive not that you will transform to light skin from dark skin.

Anyways, there's nothing you can do other than focus on your wife and find a way to find her more appealing to you sexually. Also, talk to her about her skin. There are many skin care product she can use to make her skin better rather than bleaching and exposing herself to health risks.

Thanks man
God will helpme

MufasaLion:


There's no justification for someone that bleaches her skin. Don't let her friend decieve you with their words.

Yes, it's true people change especially their skin after they get more comfortable financially but it will only glow and be more attractive not that you will transform to light skin fork dark skin.

Anyways, there's nothing you can do other than focus on your wife and find a way to find her more appealing to you sexually. Also, talk to her about her skin. There are many skin care product she can use to make her skin better rather than bleaching and exposing herself to health risks.