My fiancee had told me her school fees as a 200 level undergraduate was 102k. I just got a small job that has not paid much yet. I told her i could only afford 50k, but she showed no appreciation. Since then, she has been behaving weired each time we talked on phone. I understand the family might find it difficult to make up the balance, but i wish i had more. Even at that, do you think my inability to pay all the fees justifies this nonchalant attitude towards me? Please advise, because i thought when one receives appreciation for the little good deed, one might be tempted to do more.

Welldone Sir. My advice to you is not to pick up a fatherly role yet when u aint ready for it. You are not even her hubby yet. Let her know the money is just a kind gesture on your part, and that she isn't ur responsibility yet. I also advice you gey smtn to invest ur loose changes into. Investments that will appreciate.

@OP
Na you bring the babe come dis world??

wny not help your self first before you help others??

Don't start what you know you can not continue.

If she doesn't appreciate your kind gesture,That

shows she's an ungrateful element that doesn't deserve

a dime of your hard earn pay-pack.

You poor man. Oh, no pun intended.

Cm give me d 50k na

Dyt:

Cm give me d 50k na

sharp guul. com n take, but u no carry com u no carry go!

She expects you to pay the full bill. Her not showing appreciation is a bad sign as you are not her papa. That kind of lady will try getting it from someother dude, and drop yansh in the process, so watch out.

Sup Amefi

@OP,
Sir,since you started this your job,could you tell me how much you have given to your parents,and siblings?
Don't mean to pry,but am just curious!

Guy, [size=70pt]STOP WASTING D RESOURCES N RUN[/size]

^^^he should try to get the 50k back before running

Mynd_44:

^^^he should try to get the 50k back before running

Na true u talk, get d [size=20pt]50K[/size] by force or by fire b4 u bolt, i dey wait 2 here say u collect d bar, if no b so, guy i go swear 4 u wel wel

I dont know if she actually is in love with you o your money. I dont appreciate evn listening to people like her sorry. Its just too painful for me to listen. Its good enough that u are willing to give her sumthin to lessen her burden on the school fees. Even if you cannot offer a cent, she shouldnnt take it as anything too and should find other ways. If she cannot afford it in the first place, she should not study but to work first. na by force grab other people's money for her own studies abi?  No be you go force her to study

OP

Dogg, i feel really bad for you. she doesnt love yu period.

In other news, while shit like this happens in real live, you

see females up in here creating threads like Why are men stingy??

Broke ass men blah blah

See what a woman is doing now??

@OP, ARE YOU TRYING TO MAKE AN INVESTMENT OF HER?? U guys never learn. I have said it here: INVEST IN A WIFE, AND NOT A GIRLFRIEND. Do not feel you have any sort of responsibility toward a girlfriend. Her parents brought her to de world, and have dat sole responsibility. That's why most of you will continue to be termed mugu, maga, etc, cos u don't hear.

Listen to the wise saying and take the right decision nairaland have said it all

lol @ jobless women who feel money grows on trees and give attitude when they are even blessed enough to be gifted with it.

Mrs, Chima:

You poor man. Oh, no pun intended.

Be nice

OP.

GO and attack banks

tpm:

My fiancee had told me her school fees as a 200 level undergraduate was 102k. I just got a small job that has not paid much yet. I told her i could only afford 50k, but she showed no appreciation. Since then, she has been behaving weired each time we talked on phone. I understand the family might find it difficult to make up the balance, but i wish i had more. Even at that, do you think my inability to pay all the fees justifies this nonchalant attitude towards me? Please advise, because i thought when one receives appreciation for the little good deed, one might be tempted to do more.

Not that it really matters, but are you sure 102k is the tuition fee? private unis pay higher than that and i don't think federal/state unis pay up to that, hope its not an avenue to buy a Brazilian weave too

BTW, need i remind you that you are not her father?, why dont you use the 50k for yourself, siblings or better investments

so when did you propose to her and did you give her a ring or you just have a verbal agreement that you will marry her someday?

you owe her nothing before she ran into you she was in school right? how was she paying her fees
On the other hand what types of promises did you make to her? and are you one of those guys who lives above their means? meaning you fly as heck outside but you can't buy a plate of food. I ask because she wont just feel comfotable asking for a 102k if you never gave her the impression that you can just give it away

Considering we don't know the full basis of your relationship, that's not nice and inconsiderate on her part for being unappreciative of you helping her.  You didn't have to give her anything.  I think you ought to let her know (tactfully) how you feel.  That's alot of money to give someone and then they act like that.  She has a family, she is NOT your wife yet, therefore, you are not responsible for her.  With her behaving this way, I can understand why you would be hesistant about helping her any time soon in the future.  I would be too.  

omega25red:

so when did you propose to her and did you give her a ring or you just have a verbal agreement that you will marry her someday?

you owe her nothing before she ran into you she was in school right? how was she paying her fees
On the other hand what types of promises did you make to her? and are you one of those guys who lives above their means? meaning you fly as heck outside but you can't buy a plate of food. I ask because she wont just feel comfotable asking for a 102k if you never gave her the impression that you can just give it away

omega25red:

so when did you propose to her and did you give her a ring or you just have a verbal agreement that you will marry her someday?

you owe her nothing before she ran into you she was in school right? how was she paying her fees
On the other hand what types of promises did you make to her? and are you one of those guys who lives above their means? meaning you fly as heck outside but you can't buy a plate of food. I ask because she wont just feel comfotable asking for a 102k if you never gave her the impression that you can just give it
away

you took the word right out of my mouth. If i was dating and intending to marry a broke ass, I'll understand and manage with him, unless of course i don't know he's broke in which case I'll continue with the incessant demand. The guy has not told us the whole story.

eridah2007:

@OP
Na you bring the babe come dis world??

wny not help your self first before you help others??

Don't start what you know you can not continue.

If she doesn't appreciate your kind gesture,That 

shows she's an ungrateful element that doesn't deserve

a dime of your hard earn pay-pack.

2blunt:

Guy, STOP WASTING D RESOURCES N RUN

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I LOVE MY NIGERIAN BROTHERS!!

WE ROCK!! KEEP IT UP BROTHERS!! 

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Ungrateful dependent person

No comment still further notice.

poster awwwh u are nice o

now tell dat albino to start hawking guguru to afford d rest , ingrate na her type dey jam guy wey collect instead of give in d future

Idowuogbo:


now tell dat albino to start hawking guguru to afford d rest , ingrate na her type dey jam guy wey collect instead of give in d future