Nairalander's I really need suggestion

I really want to be a person without emotions anymore..reasons beings that people keep hurting me coz of me being emotional soft..its either they take my kindness for granted or they betray me..it make think his can I get a very hard mind in people? At least that will help me and I wouldn't be hurt by people's actions towards me.....

I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care,love,pity anymore!! For the sake of my mental health ..I need advise abeggg

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Being emotional is not a bad thing at all, it is some what known as one of the best characters of sanguine. You can't stop it because of its advantages will keep drawing you back into it but you can control it as you can use its energy for achieving great things

Men should not be too emotional, leave emotional for women abeg

Oga, you can never stop being emotional but you can learn how to control your emotions. It's just you, bro.

Bigman101:
Nairalander's I really need suggestion

I really want to be a person without emotions anymore..reasons beings that people keep hurting me coz of me being emotional soft..its either they take my kindness for granted or they betray me..it make think his can I get a very hard mind in people? At least that will help me and I wouldn't be hurt by people's actions towards me....


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Bro Just remain who you are, it's not greener this side.
You just need to modify your attitude, just try not to expect anything in return when you do good to people. If the Jews can release Barabas instead of Jesus, then it tells you a lot about human thinking.
God made you that way, if you change you will hurt so many innocent people.

My greatest prayer is when I decide to marry, I should not marry a woman that will use me to correct her past mistakes from men.

You want to stop being emotional while someone like me is looking for a way to start having emotions. Irony of life...

Bigman101:
Nairalander's I really need suggestion

I really want to be a person without emotions anymore..reasons beings that people keep hurting me coz of me being emotional soft..its either they take my kindness for granted or they betray me..it make think his can I get a very hard mind in people? At least that will help me and I wouldn't be hurt by people's actions towards me.....

Stop expecting something in return for the kindness you show others, and you will see that it is not so bad to be a human being- humans have emotions as default setting for good reason..

Kobojunkie:
Stop expecting something in return for the kindness you show others, and you will see that it is not so bad to be a human being- humans have emotions as default setting for good reason..

Not that I do expect something... This is it ,I like being loyal and it hurt when those people u take as either friends or family don't take u same way..thats my problem.. I really don't know he to be hard emotionally

DAVIDMOE:
You want to stop being emotional while someone like me is looking for a way to start having emotions. Irony of life...

Pls let's trade our emotions
But on a serious note how do u do it?

Bigman101:

Not that I do expect something... This is it ,I like being loyal and it hurt when those people u take as either friends or family don't take u same way..thats my problem.. I really don't know he to be hard emotionally

That's the same thing. When you quit having expectations of others simply on the basis that you extended what you consider kindness or friendship their way, then you will begin to experience some peace even when they bolt on you.

Your emotions aren't the problem, instead your expectations are.

bottlewater1:
Being emotional is not a bad thing at all, it is some what known as one of the best characters of sanguine. You can't stop it because of its advantages will keep drawing you back into it but you can control it as you can use its energy for achieving great things

That's why I need help and am very sure after this ,I'll be a different person

bigcee:
Oga, you can never stop being emotional but you can learn how to control your emotions. It's just you, bro.

I want to be less emotional ( no pity,no love,just hatred)

Kingpin1000:


Bro Just remain who you are, it's greener this side.
You just need to modify your attitude, just try not to expect anything in return when you do good to people. If the Jews can release Barnabas instead of Jesus, then it tells you a lot about human thinking.
God made you that way, if you change you will hurt so many innocent people.

My greatest prayer is when I decide to marry, I should not marry a woman that will use me to correct her past mistakes from men.

Oh brother!! Thanks a lot!! You give me hope

I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care ,love,pity anymore!! For the sake of my mental health ..I need advise abeggg

Bigman101:

I want to be less emotional ( no pity,no love,just hatred)

Really?

It seem you're battling an unhealed trauma. Maybe you need to see a therapist, just maybe.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness. Only light can do that.

Be happy and stay positive.

Oya take, manage am

Bigman101:
I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care ,love,pity anymore!! For the sake of my mental health ..I need advise abeggg

I see . It's like you expect too much from people and you tend to emotionally attach yourself to them. So when them F***k, you become disappointed. You might also be suffering from low self esteem. Learn to take care of yourself, love yourself and respect yourself.

Oh brother!! courtesy a alot!! You take me chance

God is emotional, Devil is emotional, sorry you can't stop being emotional.

Bigman101:
I want to be less emotional ( no pity,no love,just hatred)

not good.

Bigman101, man up you're a big man

weblord1900:
Bigman101, man up you're a big man

Bigman na human na

Youngpo413:
not good.

My mental health

AcademicWriter:
Oh brother!! courtesy a alot!! You take me chance

I no understand oh

bigcee:

I see . It's like you expect too much from people and you tend to emotionally attach yourself to them. So when them F***k, you become disappointed. You might also be suffering from low self esteem. Learn to take care of yourself, love yourself and respect yourself.

Maybe

Bigman101:
Nairalander's I really need suggestion

I really want to be a person without emotions anymore..reasons beings that people keep hurting me coz of me being emotional soft..its either they take my kindness for granted or they betray me..it make think his can I get a very hard mind in people? At least that will help me and I wouldn't be hurt by people's actions towards me.....

I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care,love,pity anymore!! For the sake of my mental health ..I need advise abeggg

Pls moderator's help push this topic to front page..

bro.sukin punnny is the only way out sir.only real men suk punnny without emmotion sir & womens will respet u sir.if u suk punnny for 1hour 15 minute non stop..u be like superman & stop crying like woman
sir...THANK ME LATER!!

Bigman101:

That's why I need help and am very sure after this ,I'll be a different person

Well the only help I can offer you is prayer to God and like you said the moment you can control it then you will change which means you will become mature the reason is because finding solution to a problem is like when you are in darkness once light shines on it ...

You emotions respond to happenings and feelings you need to study things and situation like someone playing chess if I play this this will happen if my opponent play this this will happen
You should know end product of situation before reaction then you can choose ( ie control) how you will react .

Another thing is don't be carried away with happenings because you can be trapped in your emotion
Learn how to channel your emotion to things that will make you be a great person in life

Bigman101:
Nairalander's I really need suggestion

I really want to be a person without emotions anymore..reasons beings that people keep hurting me coz of me being emotional soft..its either they take my kindness for granted or they betray me..it make think his can I get a very hard mind in people? At least that will help me and I wouldn't be hurt by people's actions towards me.....

I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care,love,pity anymore!! For the sake of my mental health ..I need advise abeggg

Pls moderator's help push this topic to front page..

Being emotional isn't the issue, u just have to....

Bigman101:

That's why I need help and am very sure after this ,I'll be a different person

By the way which emotion is the most active

Anger or which one?

Take the redpill

Bigman101:
Nairalander's I really need suggestion

I really want to be a person without emotions anymore..reasons beings that people keep hurting me coz of me being emotional soft..its either they take my kindness for granted or they betray me..it make think his can I get a very hard mind in people? At least that will help me and I wouldn't be hurt by people's actions towards me.....

I heard that in any relationship or friendship ,one person go love pass the other...am that person who love the most..eg I meet someone today be it male,female,etc ,I'll take the person like say na family member already and that's emotional, but all of a sudden them go do me something and I'll be like "what" (this person go fit do me this?)
So I am tired,like literally tired..I no wan care,lo

relationship is not by force neither is it for everyone.
mbok,stay single and stay sane,besides you can still hit without being in a relationship,so whats your problem.

Leave emotional for the white folks, it's Unfrica.

bottlewater1:


By the way which emotion is the most active

Anger or which one?

Pity,love,attachment to people, etc