Relationships are great, there's no denying that. One thing we hear from women often though is that they don't understand what they've done wrong with their love life, and they find themselves single again. 

Well, believe it or not, there are some very common mistakes women make that kill relationships, and in this article I'm going to share with you the five biggest ones,

Number one. Being clingy. If your entire day revolves around your man, whether it's texting him insistently checking up on social media and calling to share what you ate for lunch, then we have a problem. Expecting your man to communicate with you constantly to always be by your side, or to rearrange his life to see your needs are clear signs of cleanness. That said, sometimes clingy behaviour isn't as obvious, and instead it takes the form of being emotionally needy. When this happens, women find themselves upset when their guy doesn't involve them in all their plans, or they need daily reassurance that he still loves her and find her attractive. This kind of desperation is far from attractive, and it doesn't take long for men to grow sick and tired of it. The number one reason why men fear commitment and getting into relationships is because they don't want to lose their freedom. This is why when you act clingy, it doesn't take long for him to find the door. Oftentimes, this sort of behaviour starts off mildly and can easily be overlooked, like wildfire though it can quickly evolve into something much bigger, and when that happens more often than not the relationship goes up in flames. Instead of letting your emotions get the best of you. It's important that you learn how to be your own person. This means having your own interests and activities outside of the relationship. To do so, keep busy with friends, pick up a new hobby or take a class you've always been interested in. Focusing on other areas of your life will not only keep your head clear and attitude positive, but will also give your guy a chance to miss you when you're not around. This is one of the best ways to keep the spark alive between the two of you, but it's not possible when you act clingy. 

Number two. Acting insecure, hand in hand with being clingy is acting insecurely. Allow me to explain how this happens and why it's so unattractive. Think for a moment about the early days of your relationship, you probably felt like a million bucks around your man, and the buzz you shared was infectious. Over time though, you may start to feel those initial butterflies fade and when they do, it's not uncommon for feelings of doubt to come creeping in. If this happens, you might find yourself over analysing or looking for small changes or reasons why you think your man is losing interest in you and the relationship. Unfortunately, this is a vicious circle situation, because if you're bugging him about these things, then he's bound to get bored of her insecurities and leave. Overcoming insecure feelings can be tough, but the first step to doing so is recognising these tendencies in yourself. In fact, you may even think the questions you ask about his female co workers or comments you make about his dating history are justified, but to him, they're much heavier and scream and secure. Of course, you'll have days where you feel less than awesome. We all do. But when those insecure feelings come creeping in, it's important that you keep them under wraps, and don't unleash them on your man, a good tip for getting into a positive confident headspace, is to make a point to stop focusing on the past or the future, and instead learn to enjoy the moment. Instead of looking for reasons why your man wouldn't want to be with you. Tell yourself that any guy would be lucky to have you.  

Number three. Acting abusively. Some people believe that it's okay to take their daily frustrations out on their partner. But that couldn't be farther from the truth. Sure, you might get upset with your guy from time to time, but there's never a good reason or excuse to verbally, emotionally or physically abused him, this kind of behaviour is a guaranteed relationship killer. Maybe we thinking I'd never do that, and believe me, that's what most women say. what so many fail to realise, though, is that their words do more damage than they think. So to them is simply venting is actually belittling and harmful to their man to complicate the situation even further, most time guys won't share the way you've said has upset them, and instead they choose to bottle it up. Since we all like being around people who make us feel good if you're doing the opposite and constantly putting your man down, calling them names or criticising him, then you're going to be the last woman on earth, he's going to want to be with. To prevent this from happening. Think before you speak, and keep your words kind. 

Number four. Control issues. If you're constantly calling the shots, telling your man how to act, or trying to fix him, then he's going to make a run for it. If he feels he has to compete to get his voice heard or like he has no control over the relationship. It's only a matter of time until he calls it quits. Since relationships are about to people coming together to create something special, if only one of you is laying down the law, then the relationship will become a ticking time bomb. The scary thing with control issues is that they aren't always obvious. In fact, you may be controlling without even realising it or mistaken these tendencies as winning because he cares about you. It sounds dumb, but something as simple as being the one who chooses the show you watch, or what you eat for dinner on a regular basis, all stems back to control issues. To avoid this, be sure that you're asking for his input and taking his preferences into consideration, even if the two of you barely agree on anything. Relationships are about give and take, so be sure you're playing a role in both parts of that. It can be tough to change behaviour that's become such a strong part of your personality. So if you notice controlling tendency in yourself, then talk to your guy about it openly admit that you realise you have a habit of being power hungry and tell him that you want to work on it, letting him know that you recognise his behaviour is a first step to overcoming it. Plus, who knows, talking about it sooner than later, maybe the saving grace that prevents him from leaving you.

Number five. Cheating. Everyone has a different idea for what constitutes as cheating. So right from the beginning of your relationship, or now if you haven't already done so, it's important that the two of you set some boundaries and establish what is cheating. This may sound unnecessary, but you'd be surprised by what some people consider it to be, and prevent this kind of heartache, you have to first know since cheating is the ultimate betrayal, it can be hard to bounce back once a partner has been unfaithful to avoid the situation completely make a point to be completely transparent with your man, and let him know about the uncomfortable situations you may find yourself in. For instance, let's say you were the girls and a handsome stranger tries to put the moves on you as much as your man may not want to hear about other guys coming on to you, hearing it from you is so much better than hearing from someone else he knows who may have witnessed it go down. Lastly, remember that double standards do not exist in a healthy relationship. So if you're behaving one way and have different expectations for your man, then the relationship is going to crumble. Instead, make a point to be fair and treat him, and the relationship, the same way as you'd like him to, at the end of the day, men want to be with the kind of woman who brings something positive to their life. No one who sucks the life out of them. If you're acting like a leech putting them down, trying to call the shots or sneaking around behind his back, then you're going to lose him.

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