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Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Raalsalghul: 1:07pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Mercychen: Well, Wife is still the title regardless if she was a wayward lovepeddler, a decent virgin or a combination of both? My point is that verse of the bible is one I don't agree with, perhaps we should have an adjective or a pronoun before that word Wife seeing as a lot of people swallow it verbatim. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:11pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Urbanchampion: Abi Na, God no go shame us 4 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Nobody: 1:14pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: You want to add to the word of God? I no dey o. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:14pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Tonero5200: Yeah I knew it must be Yoruba, we always like to show off in parties and wedding Dude you got good in laws and wife tbh, what they did shows that they and your wife will always cover up for you when the time comes. Have a happy married life. 12 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by NarcissistKing(m): 1:16pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
If you are financially buoyant, make sure you do something substantial also irrespective of the intentions behind their generosity. |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Raalsalghul: 1:16pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Mercychen: Just saying! 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:19pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Tonero5200: You're over thinking things honestly, most Yoruba weddings are done by the bride's family and is not seen as a big deal, so stop stressing yourself over nothing. 18 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by NarcissistKing(m): 1:20pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
CryptoClub2018: At the bolded, you don't know that. I support marriages like that but it's not ideal if the husband is not contributing something substantial because most rich families will disrespect you with anything! You need to look past their generosity towards you and your family. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by eddynaira125: 1:20pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Bros u be evil person, instead of you thanking God for help, u are here embarrassing God for the love he show to you 11 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Martini101(m): 1:24pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
My only worry is the eight bags of rice. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:25pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
NoToPile: You get am very very well, they always take it personal with the yams if it is not complete or tiny, I wonder why, and all other things can be excused o, you can imagine Are you Yoruba? 6 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by mastermaestro(m): 1:27pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Tonero5200: Quit worrying. Those from the West say it's a cultural thing. Well I don't know about that because I am not from that part. I would tell you not to worry. When all my four sisters go married at various times, my dad spent money on their wedding ceremonies as though it was his own wedding. Cow, drinks, reception and other stuffs, besides what my in-laws did. That's who my dad has always been. Once he sees you as family, he offers his full support wholeheartedly expecting nothing in return. Years have gone by, my in-laws have no regrets over the 'unsolicited' assistance they got during their weddings to my sisters. Good in-laws make life easy for you. Just enjoy your life, and please do not betray the love they've shown you. 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by babyfaceafrica: 1:27pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
I would have preferred they set you with the money spent on the wedding. Wedding is just a day, why spending heavily when they know you aren't buoyant? 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Urbanchampion: 1:29pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Biglittlelois: My brother , imagine with the OP's 2 bags of rice and one cow, reception would be midway, and there won't be rice to serve guests. 4 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:30pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
NoToPile: Thank you, Op is not a serious person cos I wonder what the fuss is about? 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by irijuola: 1:34pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
NoToPile: That's why it's called 'igbeyawo'. Don't read meaning into it. They are the main host. You people came to their house and church for the wedding ceremony. It's normal. My dad will do the same thing. 12 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:35pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
babyfaceafrica: It is always other tribes that talk like this You see that Op already hates the fact that His wife's parents spent flamboyantly for their daughter's wedding, does he seem like someone that will collect one naira from his in laws? Someone that feels emasculated. Parents that has enough to spend cos they are happy for their daughter, how is that a problem? What has Op's pocket got to do with how her parents spent theirs on their daughter? 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by irijuola: 1:37pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
NoToPile: True. The siblings of the bride's parents from the village and abriad will contribute towards the success of the wedding. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by NoToPile: 1:38pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Biglittlelois: @ bolded yes. The yam issue is always very personal, maybe because it's not always wrapped and everybody can see how it looks max is for them to place them in big basket but eyes can still see it. Some even overlook the quantity ,one person mentioned that it's better to bring 20 pieces of healthy looking yams than 40 pieces of malnourshed yams. 7 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by mastermaestro(m): 1:40pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
babyfaceafrica: It's not a big deal for rich in-laws. Good in-laws do their best to beautify their children's wedding ceremonies. Money is the paintbrush here. Unless such in-laws have openly belittled him, the spending is neither unusual nor abnormal. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by babyfaceafrica: 1:41pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Biglittlelois:Assumptions. Anyway I hope he has a good job sha, I wouldn't support a lavish wedding when the couple needs money. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by babyfaceafrica: 1:43pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
mastermaestro:True, I am more concerned with after wedding than the wedding itself. |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by flames007(m): 1:47pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
First off, you should be extremely grateful for the kind of family your wife comes from; they're selfless and supportive. Make sure you let that man know you're saw what he did and you're really grateful to him. Now to your question: Yes! oh yes you should be worried. Right now there's nothing you can do to add like a bajillion naira to your account, but what you should do is to restrategize and see to it that very soon, you're bouyant enough to not need his help. Cos if you don't he'll keep on babying you until you become the woman of the house. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Biglittlelois(f): 1:48pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
NoToPile: Good to know Now I see your angle at the bolded, that display of yams at the traditional wedding is a thing of pride for the Ile Iyawo when it is big and plenty, I never saw it this way some even go as far using ribbons as bow tie on each yam to make them look colourful, I've seen such display in most wedding parties these days, my people and flashy ariya ehn 6 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by kelvin1191(m): 1:49pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
I commend your inlaw, not the type that will give you list of millions of naira without contributing a penny. But note; The day you raise your hands on that girl, quarrel with her or decided to send her parking, sorry go be your name. Your case is for better for worst! 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by RightToReject(m): 1:50pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Hypocritically sanctimonious and ethnocentric elements everywhere. So, it's now normal and not a taboo to spend a good amount of money performing a marriage rite/ceremony - regardless of whether it is the groom or the bride's family that made the expenses, provided that they have it. It's now a thing of pride and joy that demands commendation and celebration. 8 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Tonero5200: 1:50pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
flames007:Thanks, this really helped. 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by mastermaestro(m): 1:55pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
babyfaceafrica: Yeah I get your point sir. Well since his in-laws haven't been disrespectful to him, I don't think they will now. So long as he is not dependent on them for his daily upkeep, he is good. He just needs to treat their daughter nicely like every good husband. The only part he silently mentioned in his one of his replies was that his girl likes quarrel. Let's take that her little baggage which he can manage. The long and short is that he didn't beg for the assistance he got. Whatever assistance they rendered was not even to him in the real sense, but for their own pleasure and ego. Abi them carry the 8 bags of rice give am? He met his own budget. Simple. So it is none his business really. He is a man running his own house now. He should enjoy his life, love his wife and be the oga. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Tonero5200: 1:56pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
kelvin1191:We don't pray for that. But this majorly my fears. On the reception, I was a little bit unbalanced. Because the picture was clear, that her father did almost everything. (Extra drinks, surplus food and the likes) Everyone could tell, even my own people that came for me. 2 Likes |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by Truvelisback(m): 1:57pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Bro, be very glad and be grateful to God. Na money nai make many men no fit marry and dey fear marriage, especially this hard time of the country. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by babyfaceafrica: 2:06pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
mastermaestro:Nice points 1 Like |
Re: Her Parents Sponsored Our Wedding, Should I Be Worried. by NoToPile: 2:06pm On Nov 14, 2021 |
Biglittlelois: Exactly. 2 Likes |
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