Any guy in that age group has nothing to gain from the relationship.

Apart from sex.

There is nothing else the guy gains.
No one can drop any good reason why a guy in that age bracket should be in a relationship.

There is nothing the girl does for you that you cannot do for yourself.
There is no companionship the girl gives you that you cannot gain from female friends or FWBs without the stress.

Instead, when you're in a relationship, you're her comforter. You're the one she brings her drama too. The relationship costs you money and there is the risk of her cheating on you.

Open Challenge - who can say one tangible thing that a man gains from being in a relationship with a Nigerian babe.

Note: "You will need someone to marry" is not a good reason.

Dated a UK based naija girl when I was 22, best relationship I ever had, so OP not everyone must agree with your opinion that's why its called an OPINION

my guy up had aid it all...

my guy up had said it all...

thats not true,there are lots of good tins one can gain apart from sex,you just need to find the right person. i think companionship is one of those good tins

Lee99:
Dated a UK based naija girl when I was 22, best relationship I ever had, so OP not everyone must agree with your opinion that's why its called an OPINION

that's right

Lee99:
Dated a UK based naija girl when I was 22, best relationship I ever had, so OP not everyone must agree with your opinion that's why its called an OPINION

so what do you gain? That's the question

temitope27:
so what do you gain? That's the question

A lot.
Exposure
I became open minded
Financially bouyant too
She brought out a side of me I didn't know I had
She was everything and more
Too bad we couldn't make it to marriage cos I was too young at the time.... BTW she was older with 6 years so do the math.

Lee99:
Dated a UK based naija girl when I was 22, best relationship I ever had, so OP not everyone must agree with your opinion that's why its called an OPINION

U just said a U.K based Naija girl. Op, is talking abt typical Naija girls.

Lee99:

A lot.
Exposure
I became open minded
Financially bouyant too
She brought out a side of me I didn't know I had
She was everything and more
Too bad we couldn't make it to marriage cos I was too young at the time.... BTW she was older with 6 years so do the math.

I think you gain because she's mature, cos she's already 28 when u started dating

Truvelisback:
U just said a U.K based Naija girl. Op, is talking abt typical Naija girls.

I believe the thread says guys between 20-28 gain nothing from being in relationships, it doesn't specify if it's nigerian based or diaspora

Lee99:

I believe the thread says guys between 20-28 gain nothing from being in relationships, it doesn't specify if it's nigerian based or diaspora

You're one guy with one story.

Plus your babe was UK based & 6 years older.

You case is an outlier.

This op was typing this with inspiration of Holy Spirit..... Generally men don't gain anything from dating

fourboys:
This op was typing this with inspiration of Holy Spirit..... Generally men don't gain anything from dating

So why bother if there's no gain?

OP you have said it all
i swear if nor be konji i for nor da talk to any girl self
na dis my relationship make me open eye say guys are suffering in silence in relationship,to end am now na wahala...we gain nothing... my boss once told me, if not for child he wouldn't have married.

AutoChick4U:
So why bother if there's no gain?

Because they do it for sex.

Some do it for companionship.

Some do it because they want to be ready to get married in the future.

But none of those reasons are tangible things they gain from a relationship.

davealvaro:

OP You've said it all.
I swear if no be konji, I for no dey talk to any girl sef.

Na dis my relationship make me open eye say guys dey suffer in silence for relationships - to end am now na wahala.

We gain nothing.

My boss once told me, if not for his child, he wouldn't have married.

My guys are suffering in relationships because they no get self-respect.

They don internalise the idea say to tolerate rubbish from woman na sign say dem dey mature.

Your boss know wetin im dey talk about, the things wey e don see for marriage combined with the fine girls wey dey throw themselves on am outside, dey make am reason somethings.

Make I learn, am still young.

WackyJ1:


Because they do it for sex.

Some do it for companionship.

Some do it because they want to be ready to get married in the future.

But none of those reasons are tangible things they gain from a relationship.

Its everything. Na ojukokoro thats making everyone money conscious

Date a lady older than you. You will mature faster

Lee99:
Dated a UK based naija girl when I was 22, best relationship I ever had, so OP not everyone must agree with your opinion that's why its called an OPINION

You Sha didn't answer his question ...
And I think OP was referring to a typical based Niaja babe...

Guys do gain alat in a relationship d puzzle dey bleeped an sucked every day wat wil u call dat? Is dat not gain? Huh some prefer fucking dan having money

I know a 28 years old guy that's legally married with two kids,own his own business and doing VERY WELL.

PS. He has his own building on the island.

Lee99:
Dated a UK based naija girl when I was 22, best relationship I ever had, so OP not everyone must agree with your opinion that's why its called an OPINION

You're talking in past tense.

OP: 1
Antagonists: 0

InfinityFabric:

You're talking in past tense.

OP: 1
Antagonists: 0

Must he have a sad story to tell?

Those commenting... typical misery loves company crew...

Boogyman557:
Holly Gram OP if u no DATE how u 1 take WISE 4 d game.. So u want make MUMU MEN full everywhere ABI... Abeg just allow me SMOKE my WEED dis HOT afternoon.. My KALA de cool INSIDE my AP... I de my FRONT YARD so... WTF MAN

You this kid!
Try to cool down and learn how sensible people speak on public forums and stop disgracing your family members. The lowlife you're trying to imitate is currently in EFCC custody. And if you're not careful, you may be in similar situation very soon for unlawful possession of firearms.

When their mates are hustling to buy Fendi, they'll be battling with STD, which brings frustration into the situation and worsen the condition of his emotion leaving him no option that to face depression.


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