shawnfamous:
There was this close friend of mine in school then. This guy came to my lodge and found a girl he said he liked, so as my fellow guy man I told him how good the girl was to me and how promiscuous she was at the same time. He said he just wanted to have his way with her, I asked this my said friend when he started becoming a playboy, he just smiled.
If I tell u that same week, they were already dating u wouldn't believe. I told this guy everything good and bad things about this girl because he was my Paddy.
Even when some guys come to straff her at home, I would inform my friend. Only if I had known. I thought it was me and my friend against her, little did I know I was at their middle.

So my paddy and I had issues over a little arguement, that was how doom started with me.
The girl came to my block, said everything the I said about her, that she used to moan like this, that she bathes outside when the shower is not running. That she flirts a lot.
Everything she said I told my friend are so true. In fact, accurate. I really said them. I was looking like a slowpoke, this time I was smiling like a better slowpoke when being confronted. She shouted so loud, everyone gather but never calmed her down. The story was interesting to them. Especially when she said she has multiple boyfriends and she screams because their dick is so big unlike mine. This time I smiled more cheaplessly like a bigger slowpoke because people in the house were starting to mk fun of that.
The girl then ask that I pay her all the money I was owing her straightaway, that was about 17k then.
Where do I get that money straightaway? I told her I can't do transfer that in the evening I would withdraw and give to her, She agreeeeed and left after much pleading by blockmates. All through this time I had utter no words because I couldn't defend my self.
I went in with strong head and tears almost clouding my eyes. I started calling, looking for 17k to give her. After the stress of getting the money complete, I went in the evening to request for her account number, she insisted that I must give her cash. This time, i was very mad and I didn't want much embarrassing moments, I just treked to the campus ATM to withdraw the money.
On getting back I heard their noises outside the gates, this time my friend was with her. As I handed her the money, she counted and gave my friend some amount there and he left. That scene alone touched me. This guy comes to my lodge but no be me e seyt find come. Imagine, banny wey I introduce give my guy. The times I saw this guy, I saw guilt all over his face but he tried So hard not to send me.

Now after graduation, they are no longer together.
I was happy so I tried being friend with this girl again so I could get back to my friend, it didn't work, but I understand.

One 31st night, I saw someone knock on my door, and behold it was my friend accompanied by our friends.
Immediately I saw him, I burst into tears, he ran to hug me to confort me. As he came close, I grab him neck go wall, I be wan punch am but my friends calm me. We talked, Everything was settled after much pleading, I went out with them that night.
But the next times I saw him, he still irritated me, I don't hate u anymore but I don't want to have a single thing to do with you. He would hit my head and expect to react the way I used to when we were friends, no way. He tried his best to be friend sha. But e no work. Now we just see and greet with our heads.
That's my type of forgiveness.

I have learnt a lesson now, even if u wan marry prostitute, I no go ever advice u. I would even give u 10 reasons why u should marry her.

MrBrownJay1:
forgiveness is not something that you should give lightly, because many say "sorry" but dont mean it (and depending on the issue, sorry wont solve/change shiit)... so it is perfectly fine to not being ready to forgive, unless you are 110% sure that this person has repented and it matters to "you".

forgiving someone that doesnt deserve to be forgiven is a waste of life.

also, there are actions out there that should NEVER BE forgiven... IMHO cheating/murdering/raping/ is some of them.

MrBrownJay1:
forgiveness is not something that you should give lightly, because many say "sorry" but dont mean it (and depending on the issue, sorry wont solve/change shiit)... so it is perfectly fine to not being ready to forgive, unless you are 110% sure that this person has repented and it matters to "you".

forgiving someone that doesnt deserve to be forgiven is a waste of life.

also, there are actions out there that should NEVER BE forgiven... IMHO cheating/murdering/raping/ is some of them.

shawnfamous:
There was this close friend of mine in school then. This guy came to my lodge and found a girl he said he liked, so as my fellow guy man I told him how good the girl was to me and how promiscuous she was at the same time. He said he just wanted to have his way with her, I asked this my said friend when he started becoming a playboy, he just smiled.
If I tell u that same week, they were already dating u wouldn't believe. I told this guy everything good and bad things about this girl because he was my Paddy.
Even when some guys come to straff her at home, I would inform my friend. Only if I had known. I thought it was me and my friend against her, little did I know I was at their middle.

So my paddy and I had issues over a little arguement, that was how doom started with me.
The girl came to my block, said everything the I said about her, that she used to moan like this, that she bathes outside when the shower is not running. That she flirts a lot.
Everything she said I told my friend are so true. In fact, accurate. I really said them. I was looking like a slowpoke, this time I was smiling like a better slowpoke when being confronted. She shouted so loud, everyone gather but never calmed her down. The story was interesting to them. Especially when she said she has multiple boyfriends and she screams because their dick is so big unlike mine. This time I smiled more cheaplessly like a bigger slowpoke because people in the house were starting to mk fun of that.
The girl then ask that I pay her all the money I was owing her straightaway, that was about 17k then.
Where do I get that money straightaway? I told her I can't do transfer that in the evening I would withdraw and give to her, She agreeeeed and left after much pleading by blockmates. All through this time I had utter no words because I couldn't defend my self.
I went in with strong head and tears almost clouding my eyes. I started calling, looking for 17k to give her. After the stress of getting the money complete, I went in the evening to request for her account number, she insisted that I must give her cash. This time, i was very mad and I didn't want much embarrassing moments, I just treked to the campus ATM to withdraw the money.
On getting back I heard their noises outside the gates, this time my friend was with her. As I handed her the money, she counted and gave my friend some amount there and he left. That scene alone touched me. This guy comes to my lodge but no be me e seyt find come. Imagine, banny wey I introduce give my guy. The times I saw this guy, I saw guilt all over his face but he tried So hard not to send me.

Now after graduation, they are no longer together.
I was happy so I tried being friend with this girl again so I could get back to my friend, it didn't work, but I understand.

One 31st night, I saw someone knock on my door, and behold it was my friend accompanied by our friends.
Immediately I saw him, I burst into tears, he ran to hug me to confort me. As he came close, I grab him neck go wall, I be wan punch am but my friends calm me. We talked, Everything was settled after much pleading, I went out with them that night.
But the next times I saw him, he still irritated me, I don't hate u anymore but I don't want to have a single thing to do with you. He would hit my head and expect to react the way I used to when we were friends, no way. He tried his best to be friend sha. But e no work. Now we just see and greet with our heads.
That's my type of forgiveness.

I have learnt a lesson now, even if u wan marry prostitute, I no go ever advice u. I would even give u 10 reasons why u should marry her.

Opeyemiextra:
There was this friend of actually went to consult an herbalist because of me and I didn't know. When I eventually found out, a lot of damage had been done considering I kept updating her on the situation of things.

I still find it difficult to believe up till today and I was so hurt I took her matter to God. Later I just started releasing her from my mind but it was difficult.

daben1:
Have have you ever found yourself in a situation where you find it hard to forgive someone, especially when those people or person that wronged you asked for forgiveness? Share you experience and what happened

MufasaLion:


I don't know what really happened to you, but I think maybe you just weren't doing things the right way. It might not be the herbalist shit.

Opeyemiextra:


I know what I'm doing and she indirectly confirmed it. I usually don't really believe these things before until recently.

MJBOLT:

"I do not forget and I do not forgive"
Undertaker (2003)