I can assure you that your marriage have at least a 50% chance of failing or suffering if you don't marry as a sexually disciplined person and an 100% plus chance of hitting the rocks irretrievably if you are not god-fearing before you marry. Looking at the society today, only a virgin can come across as god-fearing and sexually disciplined. But where are they?

It seems finding adult virgins in this age and time (using Nigeria as case study) may be as difficult as finding stars in a bright sunny afternoon.

It is obvious that sexual consciousness is at an all-time high with little or no restraint or moderation in the engagement and expression of sexuality.

Everyone just wants to have an untimely taste of the sacred act whether or not they're prepared, and it is with this realization the stance of Virgins (the rare gems of modern moral society) comes to mind.

I've come to realize that everyone, one way or the other, are attracted to virgins? (especially female virgins). They're either seen (most especially to marriage optimists, spiritualists etc) as potential maidens of blessings; or as coveted helpers for marital partnership; or as possible vessels for spiritual fortification and operations.

As a virgin, you'll discovered that the moment you tell people (maybe friends) that you're one, they either tell you how virginity is no big deal or they rubbish it, discredit it and persuade you to lose it.

The truth is that a woman's chastity (before and after marriage) determines so many things for her, her future spouse, her household and her world. If for nothing, she at least does not add to the number of the depraved or morally damned of the society.

No man/woman can claim not to understand the purpose of virginity. We can only choose to deny the blessedness of it. And definitely, virginity applies to both men and women only that it's necessity and efficacy is more pronounced, evident and welcomed in women.

Virginity is a Virtue!. It is a sure sign of being Virtuous and good-natured.

Naturally and Complementarily, nonvirgins don't deserve virgins (male or female) and there are noble and spiritualized reasons why!

(Sex may be the only difference though between a virgin and a nonvirgin but the implication of being or not being a virgin is best felt or understood during the cause of one's marital journey)

✓Let me say first and foremost. Marriage between a virgin man and nonvirgin woman is not advisable. Except the man is more than willing to overlook her past (a will not induced by emotions), or except God expressly demands he does (as with Hosea) or except the woman is fully and truly reformed and transformed (which still doesn't change the past).

My saying this is for reasons that will most likely be discover only after marriage which could be detrimental/fatal.

Note: the bond created through sexual completeness and that created through sexual compatibility are two entirely different aspects of marital bonding

✓To buttress the above, it is more tolerable for a virgin woman to marry a nonvirgin man than for a virgin man to marry a nonvirgin woman.

Experience they say is the best teacher, and Observation is the best experience

The rate at which people (young and old, married and unmarried) engage in sexual vices and the threat it poses against the psychology and marital hopes and fulfilments of Virgins inspired my writing this.

Know first that virgins are people who have never had sex nor engage in other sexual acts apart from the actual sex. If you are one, this piece is for you and also to all.

AS A VIRGIN, WHY MARRYING ONLY A VIRGIN SHOULD BE A NECCESITY OR A PRIORITY FOR YOU

1) Sex best consummates the bond (spiritual, physical and emotional) which is whole and wholesome between two innocent or sexually unattached individuals.

So, sex with or between nonvirgins (especially one with past multiple sexual encounters) creates superficial soulties and mere sexual connections without ensuring deep and wholesome emotional and spiritual bonding.

2) Virginity till marriage ultimately allows two pristine couples to truly become one and whole. It is that seal of activation that allows marriage partners to truly 'leave to cleave'.

3) A nonvirgin's inbuilt essence (or innate grace) is no longer in the same state of completeness or wholeness as that of a pristine virgin. This means the originality of nonvirgins have been tampered with making them to operate at a wavelength different to that of virgins.

At the point of losing one's virginity, the feeling of having lost something important or treasurable is usually commonplace. This is a celestial way of getting you to know you're no longer operating under special grace. It is not just the hymen now (for ladies)! You just know you've lost something! Something so vital.

4) Virginity prevents the ill feeling of not being your spouse bragging rights and in turn creates this feeling of absolute sexual satisfaction and fulfillment between two virgins.

A Male virgin greatly desire and delight in the prospect of marrying his female kind because he considers virginity a precious gift. With this, marrying a female virgin aptly saves hopeful male virgins from the cruel feeling of knowing they weren't the first to touch and know their partners. Victims of cases of such regrets abound.

Genuine female virgins are not left out in this regard. They crave being the only one with whom their partners experience the first thrills of mutual and sexual bond and the deepest possible expression of love.

5) A female virgin who is also virtuous is twofold more valuable than any nonvirgin woman. Only she can be the best and the right one for another male virgin (who is highly valued and successful).

No personal quality, gift or qualification can makeup for the lose of a woman's virginity. And a good virgin woman would easily be the choice of any man born of a woman.

6) When two virgins marry, they're better positioned naturally, mentally and morally to uphold and teach morals, spiritual and traditional values like chastity, decency and purity to their children. Based on their own moral history, it will be easier to cooperatively pass on to their offspring godly and goodly principles and doctrines.

Non-virgin spouse may not seriously aid the sexual purity and moral chastity of their children. That's why couples who encourage their grown kids to have boyfriends/girlfriends were most likely into immorality themselves when they where young.

Evidently, only couples who passed the test of keeping their virginity till marriage will have well enough the experience and moral standing to instil the right values into their children and help them remain sexually pure till marriage.

7) I'll say again, full spiritual, emotional and physical bond can truly and only be forged between two virgins without much of an effort in marriage.

This is not the case with two nonvirgins in relationship (or a virgin pairing a nonvirgin). A lot of effort (coupled with frustrations and trial error approaches) will have to be invested to build geniune trust, love and loyalty especially, when one of the partner have had a history of excessive sexual exposure, abuse or heartbreaks.

Only a virgin can truly commit unreservedly to a partner. Better still, two virgins are best suited to complement and complete each other as both are original, whole, raw and untainted, unhinged, unattached, untampered, unhindered and pure.

All men who seek marriage hope for submissive wives, and Naturally, with Virginity comes Submission

9) The feeling most men (especially virgin men) have about a potential partner who is not a virgin is sometimes obnoxious, suspicious and conspicuous. It is just always assuming, insecure and sometimes judgemental. And this is especially when the lady involved is of very questionable past. With a virgin lady, such feelings are nonexistent.

Therefore, marrying a virgin will give no odd feeling. Even in marriage, there will be no emotional or psychological repulsions existing between the couples over their past. Only a virgin gives such sense of security and assurance.

10) A certain peace of mind comes with marrying a virgin (as a man and as a woman). The undue mental comparisons from past intimate relationships and or the marital miscalculations (such as cheating in any form; missing and seeing the need to reconnect with an ex; or using past sexcapades or sexciting experiences as a yardstick for current relationships) will not come up.

If we're to go by the natural order of things then, only Virgins should marry each other. This age makes it more of a necessity that consideration.

The question is "are there Virgins to be married to?!"

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Though I AM NOT JUDGING ...

But NL ladies that have loose theirs will either skip the thread or rain curses on the Op..


Attack the message and not the messenger..

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Though I AM NOT JUDGING ...

But NL ladies that have loose theirs will either skip the thread or rain curses on the Op..


Attack the message and not the messenger..

I'm covered. Thanks.

The introduction of FEMINISTIC ideology forcefully changed or ruggedly broke the restraint that had helped keep the sexual and moral moderation of our women in the past intact or under check, and acceptable

note: A woman has next to almost absolute control over sex. She stirs the lust. She has the power to command sexual attention. She epitomizes sexuality in full allurement. Now, the level of corruption in this generation is unprecedented and unsurprisingly, the objects of modern sexual symbolism, fetishization and publicity are women.

If it was left to me, I'll advise that any lady who loses her virginity before marriage shouldn't be wifed or paid bride price on, or ''should be maritally excommunicated'' as was like in the past (when Virgins were honoured and loosed women were punished/disgraced for lacking discipline)...

Maybe this would check the steady rise in modern day promiscuity from women and help reduce men's vulnerability to sexual temptations, and by full extension, any man caught having carnal knowledge of a woman order than his wife could be banned or castrated. But should I say that, it would put a whole lot at risk.
A choice notwithstanding has to be made based on current realizations and realities.

Choosing to keep oneself pure is sacrosanct. And I have stated reasons why everyone except the married should consider celibacy.

What therefore are the banes, effects, aftereffects and consequences of indiscriminate sex which fuels the high sexual count and female prostitution (irrespective of gender)

1) Unnecessary but unbreakable soulties are formed, and this makes pair bonding with a single partner impossible or difficult. There's also amoral (love) instability or emotional and sexual mood swing that the individual will constantly experience in relationships.

2) For a lady, she becomes a sex addict, a scumbag or sperm-tank into whom lots of men have vomited and eased their raging lust. This creates temperamental crisis in her personality

Once engaged in prostitution it becomes an impossible habit to stop. When it gets full blown, it defines the sexual orientation and character of the person by which she herself measures her attitudes and lifestyles. At this stage, she can only wallow in the altitude of immoral addiction.

A woman who engages in sex without love interest knows she's being used as an entity for sexual satisfaction. This creates in her an impression of being either an amorous caregiver (for those deliberately into harlotry) or she feels used (for those randomly into fornication).
...With this, she's most likely to develop either inordinate affections or misandrous and fascistic perceptions (that is violent and domineering)

This is because she's been emotionally and sexually connected with different men of different status, genes, and personalities.

Scientifically, a woman carries for life the DNA of every man she ever sleeps with. Now imagine marrying a woman with over a hundred, over a thousand men's DNA in her system

This means she's simply carrying the existence of all her sex partners with her and this creates in her an abnormal sexual openness, competitiveness and vulnerability.

That's why I was so impressed when I saw a comment (by redpillanalyst) on the thread about a NLer whose wife suddenly turned violent...
That comment was apt...

3) Such becomes a carrier and giver of badluck, and this is further emphasized below

4) There's a spiritual activation that allows a mix of destiny and curses (personal or ancestral/generational) when two people sleep with each other. They will both now share together every spiritual connection linking their separate existence, and can almost never feel complete again by themselves.

If this connection is multiplied or done with several individuals, such gradually becomes just a piece of his/her whole self and loses an innate sense of worth and purpose.

This is particularly worst for women because you surely feel to have lost virtues. Any body you ever sleep with shares a covenant with you. A part of you is forever (for life) with them and a part of them is forever with you

(Not many will understand this spiritual operations but any who engages in the taboo (sex before marriage) will surely experience it but realization may come either immediately or much later)

5) Marriage for such people is never satisfying or accomplishing. There will always be this feeling of marital unfulfillment and with this comes the high risk of marital issues, strife and divorce.

6) People who lose their (virginity) rite of passage into marriage are very prone to cheating or unfaithfulness and they're very vulnerable to immorality when temptations arise

7) A woman or girl who loses her virginity carelessly or deliberately is deglorified, made worthless and made empty. Her self worth is greatly tainted.

Character and Virginity are the true identifying marks of a woman of substance. A woman with great character and self worth

Personally, I have come to realize that people who sleep around become financially, mentally, morally and spiritually diluted and pauperized without even knowing it

And it is also not surprising that women who sleep around professionally, codedly or cheerfully are secularly and domestically irresponsible. They don't know how to properly care for their children (study that your randy female neighbour). They are lazy, are leeches, are lousy and are intellectually deficient.

9) Promiscuous people are emotionally damaged and tend to try and create such consciousness in others. They are victims of their own poor choices and decisions and in other to escape reality, they revert into harmful practices and take up unfriendly and hateful ideologies. narcistic Feminists, Femifascists, Red pillers in lieu MGTOWers, etc all come to mind.

10) One thing sex does (fornication or other sexual perversions) is to open you up to strange demonical and diabolical connections and transmissions.

You being possessed by lust or your being a nymphomaniac (extreme love and uncontrollable appetite for sex) could be is as a result of your engagement in sex the wrong way.

You probably slept with somebody that has slept with somebody who is carrying sexual vileness in them. As long as people keep sleeping around (the sexual chain) whoredom keeps being recycled and rekindled raising to high levels sexual pollution in our society

Sex should only and only be for the married

10) Finally, there's karma/retribution for indiscriminate sex. Since it is a sin against your body to sleep around like a dog which defiles divine law, the price always comes handy.

By means of a whorish (Promiscuous) woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress (married harlots, sugar mummies, etc) will hunt for the precious life...
A LovePeddler (prostitute) is a deep ditch (a dumpsite that swallows up anything good/bad); and a strange woman (that who's not your wife) is a narrow pit...

The above clearly means that once you indulge in sex the wrong way, you will become stripped of masculine honour and authority (the repercussions are not always immediate but they're there in no longtime). In other words, you're deglorified, dishonoured, weakened, made empty and rendered lacking in substance.

This can explain why we have so many morally weak men and women in our surroundings: the perverts, pedophiles, harlots, rapists etc who have little or no sexual self-control.

This will explain why our society have so many unfulfilled young men and women who find it difficult to be mentally productive and have now resort to crime and fraud as the only sure way of success.

With this, it wouldn't be out of place to say that 35–40% of human problems today stem from poor sexual choices

Also, that married woman who wants an amorous relationship with you or the prostitutes you go seeking pleasures with strips you of dignity and only makes you empty and worthless. How can a man of worth go sleep with a public dog? Is that the size of your value?

And for a woman, you become an entity carrying curses, carnage, badluck, diseases and death (the ultimate consequence), and there's evidently no guarantee you can meaningfully and positively contribute to a partner's greater good if you luckily or deceptively find one. In fact, such a man will crash-land in life for your sake.

Virgins! You're the biggest Honour

A virgin is described as a wall on which a palace of silver will be built upon. This is because, the ability to remain a virgin till marriage is no ordinary feat neither is it a test anyone can just pass. You have to be disciplined and determined.

In marriage, a virgin's testimony is always like this: "I am a wall (sealed and never been entered), and my breasts like towers (never been ravished or mounted): then was I in his (my husband's) eyes as one that found favour". A virgin (virtuous in decision and character) is highly favoured. She's too precious to be mistreated by any man (husband). And should such be mistreated, there are eternal and grievous consequences.

Virgins are unique and special. That's why immoral people lure or coerce their virgin friends or neighbours into loosing their virginity.

No woman can know or truly experience the honour that awaits her in marriage until she marries as a virgin

Benefits of Virginity

1) Total satisfaction and fulfillment (sexual acts inclusive) comes with marrying a virgin and marrying as one.

Let nobody deceive you.

No body teaches anybody how to have sex. You learn and know the act naturally.

Take for instance, Adam was not taught what his peepee is used for and how he was to use it?. Hence, we would wonder how he fathered his descendants.

Besides, everyone were once virgins. We all knew how to have sex by having sex (practicing or practicalizing it), and since practice makes perfect, with time and several engagements and experience, the act was understood and perfected.

Nobody should deceive anybody with Virgins being sexually docile or 'greenhorns'. Statements made to this effect are a calculated ploy to make Virgins feel sexually inferior, Or it may be to console or make feel-good those who have shamefully lost their virginity by painting to them a very false sense of (so) maturity and exposure.

2) Virgins are the least prone to marital unfaithfulness. In fact, a godly virtuous virgin (male/female) will never (I repeat. Never!) cheat on their spouse. by God's grace there are living testimonies.

It is unthinkable for you to want to have extra affairs. You've lived before marriage and never fell into sexual temptations how will it be that it is after marriage you now want to go wreckless? It doesn't work like that too often.

3) Virgins most likely (take note) have good character naturally. Someone who keeps to sexual purity can never or may never be a wack behaviorally. Sexual self-control has a way of imparting other aspects of a person's life characterwise.

4) The capacity to truly love and bond sexually is only truly with Virgins.
Marry one to find out

5) With a virgin partner, you're most likely to enjoy marital bliss. Submissiveness (which is one of man's greatest demand from a woman) will not be difficult to get from your Virgin.

There will be no fear of paternity fraud, no DNA issues with regards to kids. No fear of possibly marrying an infertile or sexually damaged woman. No uncertainty about her sexual past and relationship history... etc and etc.

6) Finally, God blesses those who don't defile the bed before marriage. This blessing on Virgins ultimately reflects in the life of their spouse and the world around them.

Mary's choice to preserve her virginity not only brought long lasting honour to her, but also everlasting freedom to man.

It truly pays to keep your virginity.

A TERRIBLE OBSERVATION:
A common observation I've had that keeps geometrically progressing rather than declining is how sex-crazed the society is today I made this conclusion deductively, using as case study the random meetings I have with young people domiciled in different part of the country. A larger percentage of boys and girls (estimated to be between 14 to their early or mid 20s) have lost their virginity one way or the other. You can hardly find an 18 year old virgin not to mention a 25 yr old virgin Even sisters! young sisters in the church are no more virgins. This wasn't the case few years back. It was possible to find a 35 year old virgin sister. Times are indeed rapidly changing .

Funny enough, most of the females lost theirs even before they reach the age of consent (18) and a few others naively lost theirs as soon as they experienced full-blown puberty (13, 14, 15) and hormonal changes which they confused to mean sexual maturity. Victims of rape are excluded from this observation

It just seem everyone (whether married or not) are cheerfully and courageously having sex.

And of more concern it seems in the southern part of Nigeria, girls or ladies are under immense pressure from randy spoilt boys to get messed up or defiled.
It's a pity keeping virginity or maintaining chastity in this part of Nigeria is really a herculean, collosal or almost impossible task especially for ladies. I saw a similar observation by a NLer sometimes ago.

This is the effect of what a highly sexually overcharged, highly licentious, very sexualized and lust driven and amorously polluting enviroment can cause.

Even if you're born again and you happen to live in such an environment, you will burn again if you're not prayerful, disciplined and have rugged self-control

Uncontrolled appetite for Sex, Money and Women (sex by extension) are the greatest tragedies of this age.

Virginity is an important part of the foundation of an happy marriage. Trust me. Let's not be deceived. Truly, God casts our past into his river of forgetfulness but as humans on our own, our past are a reflection of our today which will be the result of our tomorrow. There's nothing to overlook on our own side as humans because "... every man shall bear his own burden" and "we are to owe no man anything". In earnest, you don't owe your virginity as a man/woman to a nonvirgin neither do they owe their looseness to you.

Whoever you marry is for life, and you both share all about yourselves (physically and ancestrally, past, present and future) together.

It could be easier for two nonvirgins to get married and be happy but the same may not be the case for a virgin and a nonvirgin I'm speaking naturally.

Both are most likely morally, emotionally, spiritually and sexually not on the same wavelength. If such a union is forced on religious grounds or on love grounds (regrets such as the above) usually surfaces particularly if it was the man who was a virgin before marriage and had hope to marry one[/b].

Women! Virginity is so important to a man (Virgin men especially) and if anything, they alone rightly deserve and have the right to demand for virgin wives

There's a reason why our forefathers run background checks and family history when choosing a suitor for their children. A major criteria is also virginity.

There's a reason for all these. It is to ensure the best possible partner is brought into the family lineage. This has a way of imparting generations.

Some ladies today after sleeping around will go to church to look for good men. Likewise bad men looking for good women. Who are you deceiving. God cannot be mocked. The more reason it is advisable to run proper check particularly on the sexual past of a potential partner because this generation is fast loosing it. How can you have good character automatically but your sexual past is gory. Strange balance!

Personally, I made virginity a major criteria for my future spouse and I never reneged. I did prayerfully support my desire of a virgin though; and God was not unfaithful to me, maybe not because I had kept myself but because he knew it is the best for me. I also prayed he kept my future spouse chaste and decent even without knowing who she was.

This should be the mindset of today's men. This way you won't go about defiling women or encouraging immorality.

Marrying a virgin should be a choice not a must, but it should be encouraged. This way perhaps our society can be reined in and liberated from the shackles of sexual looseness, that is the pollution fast ravaging the land.

To all the ladies (privileged to see and read this post) who have the mindset of getting married to a good responsible man after leaving very promiscuously. And to all the men (god-fearing) who allow themselves to be carried away by bodily endowments without conducting proper background checks on their potential spouse. This is for you to consider...

"My wife gave hers’ (virginity) away before we married….we’ve been married for 45 years and I still feel the pain and loss of what should have been ours. To this day, I have become a man forever soulfully separated from the one I love and hateful for what I’ve become. Women have NO idea of the power and impact they have in a mans’ life. I wouldn’t wish this hatred on anyone."
(A comment from Liam November 22, 2020 on a Forum for Singles)

In case you're amongst those saying "Who virginity help". Then avoid marrying men and women of Virtues and don't marry a virgin. Leave them for their kind.

True rite up thanks. True rite up thanks.

Thanks for bringing this write up here...
We live in a perverse world where we can't be ourselves afraid of the world turning and judging from left to right.

Your write up is an eye opener for everyone concerned irrespective of your belief or not.


God bless you

Your are making sense
But ur write up is extremely long

This sounds like a sermon. While I believe chastity is good for both genders. The feminists have said virginity is a social construct and the size of hymen can be as wide as your elbow it does not mean a thing and soon evolution will eventually remove hymen from part of female anatomy to mute y'all toxic males that don't want women to have freedom.

Let's be realistic guys. It's 2020 and everything is global now. It's hard for women to resist all the cock-carouselling opportunities out there.

We will not be going to back to those era of cock blocking and cock counting these females. If she has been run-through like Lagos - Badagry Express Way just hold her tight and hope it works.

You will find 7 unicorns before you see find an untainted woman before marriage.