How do you handle a situation whereby your former Girl  is using your family against you simply because she 's from the same tribe with you and the Innocent new girl is not.

She wasn't that keen about you while the relationship lasted but immediately she was butted out, she started blackmailing you among your family members and unfortunately enough, most of them believed her and vowed never to allow any girl from another tribe into your family link, except her.

That's just my case.

Help me out.

i will continue to say this : Marriage should not be based on ones tribe, country or religion


simple : communication! communication!

sit your family down make them realize that you have made your choice and you are sticking with her!

they are not the one in the relationship/s or who will end up marrying her(the instigator)or the new girl

if they still insist ! " give them a wide berth" by the time you have your 1st child with your new wife they will come around!