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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Qurungu: 9:07pm On Dec 29, 2021
AGurlnoname:
cheesy the worst thing that can ever happen to you, is going through a man's browsing history, videos, hidden vault on his phone and WhatsApp chat.

Men are hypocrites.

Don't worry don't give up on love, you'll soon find the right one.

It’s a big lie. There are good men and women out there.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Bouncin(m): 9:08pm On Dec 29, 2021
Op please dont call that guy a man again. He's a disgrace to manhood. I wonder why person go leave succulent breeezzz and creamy p**ssy go de nack bone,walahi e de tire me to believe.
Anyways thank God you discovered on time. Just move on with your life. A real man will definitely come your way. Honestly men are good people and are highly considerate. They re never like women, take it or leave it. So please dont compare us grin

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Bimpe29: 9:10pm On Dec 29, 2021
The devil truly pushed you to the good part of the road.

Hard luck anyway.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by billyG(m): 9:10pm On Dec 29, 2021
Ejaculating gender Kwa?I have seen d female gender ejaculate too spilling Fluid all over when i touch an emergency button.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by HRSweetness(f): 9:10pm On Dec 29, 2021
trailblazar:

Nah not bullying -You ignorantly jumped on a somersaulters post to defend it, sweetling, you had it coming. Keep your validation to yourself as long as you are aligning with a somersaulter. Next time look very well before you leap.

You are an ignorant homosexual who pathetically thinks he can bully anyone who doesn't approve of his pervasive lifestyle.

To think that you have the nerve to come at me for reacting to someone else's post when you're doing the exact same thing!

Typical of your ilk. Always allowing your delusions cripple your intelligence.

Next time, carefully pick your victims.

It's your deluded audacity for me. angry

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Boniwhite: 9:11pm On Dec 29, 2021
BRATISLAVA:


If she complains, you will ask why she can't stand by him to prove she can endure the Nigerian men requirements of suffering. Now she did, he is a cruel gay guy and how could she not know all these years.

Either way, you would condemn her.

Too bad you have nothing to say about one of your ejaculating gender brhoes.
E be like sai na you be feminist patrol officer, NL chapter

cos all you do is roaming the whole cyberspace, looking for thread that bash men. Then you start spewing venom,& saying terrible things against men
the other day you literally crucified the uber guy for defending himself from a woman attacking him!

what do u want exactly?
men should lay on the flour for women to walk on?
every day you keep bashing men, were you abused as a child?

you are a bitter soul
SHAME ON YOU!!!
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Nobody: 9:12pm On Dec 29, 2021
Sterope:
Your 'true life story' reads like a fiction undecided

Exactly my thoughts.
Especially from a debuting writer. Lol!
But it was Interesting Shaa!
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Igolonwaanyi(f): 9:13pm On Dec 29, 2021
Elporo:
Sorry, can't relate. I have long accepted gay people as humans. If we have to live with Feminists - that want to destroy men, why not the rainbow people.

As for your 2 years; Men have given far more to women and got nothing back.

Like you said you still attract boys. Hopefully, you won't be heading to Shiloh anytime soon.

And just so other people know. Nigerian women are fatter than Nigerian men, in or out of marriage.




Feminists do not want to destroy men. I don't know where you get the idea from. You really do need to read up on feminism, it'll do you lots of good.

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by blaquebelle: 9:15pm On Dec 29, 2021
Wow. Homophobic much!
Well, I admit I don't understand the concept of being attracted to someone of the same gender but nothing can deny that it happens. Whether people pretend or not, it doesn't change what people are attracted to. You don't have to hate them so much. Just avoid them if their lifestyle is different from yours.

I understand ops anger Sha, this kind of betrayal is more shocking
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by 989900: 9:17pm On Dec 29, 2021
McOluOmo:
[s]U are so pained cuz he is not good in zi oza room grin..... Who marriage eep? After all marriage favors pucci gender more than men.


Tell us sey na the guy disvirgined you....make thunder kee u dia. [/s]



Guys wey no get girlfriend get peace of mind.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by blaquebelle: 9:19pm On Dec 29, 2021
deavicky:
did u read the post? Or you have an already existing problem with my gender?.
That's the OP. Ofcourse she has a problem with your gender now grin
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Nobody: 9:19pm On Dec 29, 2021
HRSweetness:


You are an ignorant homosexual who pathetically thinks he can bully anyone who doesn't approve of his pervasive lifestyle.

Next time, carefully pick your victims.
You are angry. Oya come and beat me over a fictitious story. Lmao. I cannot join you to play with sand. Ciao grin
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by madridsta007(m): 9:21pm On Dec 29, 2021
GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.





I am sorry you went through this. Thank God it happened now and not when you married him. This is very common these days.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by liya11: 9:21pm On Dec 29, 2021
osazsky:
I just pray it's the normal 2500 naira wedding ring..cuz I go kill u


What does a gay guy need a wedding ring for you slowpoke!

Before he could at least be able to use it for marriage with he's fellow guy in nigeria maybe in the decade plus coming, lol

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by HRSweetness(f): 9:21pm On Dec 29, 2021
trailblazar:

You are angry. Oya come and beat me over a fictitious story. Lmao. I cannot join you to play with sand. Ciao grin

Send your address.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by jornwhite: 9:23pm On Dec 29, 2021
Benwems:
You ladies should try dating true Christian men not guys that are in the world. But such guys would be boring to date.



pastor no dey cheat, choirmaster no dey fornicate or are xtains not human ... their us a reason God said his judgement will start from inside church

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by AfroKnight: 9:28pm On Dec 29, 2021
irunoko:
e pain am grin tongue tongue

This doesn’t make sense. Are you slow or something?
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by naturefellow(m): 9:30pm On Dec 29, 2021
trailblazar:

To me, it looks like response to pain stimuli because you didnt address a single line contributed by the elder. You may need to use your metrics for stupidity on your contribution.
golden rule of SM:
Shut up, if you have nothing meaningful to contribute.
But you folk can't help it!

Talmbout elders, age does not guarantee wisdom!
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Kaypick2: 9:30pm On Dec 29, 2021
GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention




from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.



So sorry about ur predicament, but thank God you discover that…… just take heart the right man will come at the due time. Just believe



Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Nyascobar1414: 9:31pm On Dec 29, 2021
Orr lamentations...
You have no right to bash that man...
He is gay...
And you a hoe.. Yea a hoe..

After fornicating, in Gods eye you are not different from the man...

If you were a virgin, they could have been no problem with the 4mins stuff...
You want to frustrate an innocent man with your big waaawaawaa pussy....
Go back to the manchos that took your hymen..
Bish

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by GetMeRight: 9:32pm On Dec 29, 2021
Elporo:
Sorry, can't relate. I have long accepted gay people as humans. If we have to live with Feminists - that want to destroy men, why not the rainbow people.

As for your 2 years; Men have given far more to women and got nothing back.

Like you said you still attract boys. Hopefully, you won't be heading to Shiloh anytime soon.

And just so other people know. Nigerian women are fatter than Nigerian men, in or out of marriage.



A redpiller spotted! Thumbs up though
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by donprinyo(m): 9:33pm On Dec 29, 2021
any man too interested in his looks is gay
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Nobody: 9:33pm On Dec 29, 2021
HRSweetness:


Send your address.
lol. Okay. Before that, let me just say i have a pet peeve with helinues types. They're wont to play both sides of an argument -if you can, go to the politics section, you will see its nonsense if it has not deleted it, so yh, when i see its posts it feels like iv seen a rat.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Odera2016: 9:35pm On Dec 29, 2021
GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.
You want to start doing women now?



Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by CsRockefeller(m): 9:36pm On Dec 29, 2021
LilMissFavvy:
You are a bastarddd and a scumbaggg, fuckkk your goddamedd anus you cursed gay* SOG. Someone wasted two years, and had a broken engagement. Plus all the money she spent on the wedding expenses, yet all you can think about is a motherfuckkkg ring. Majority of you guys on NL are maddd

Don't take most guys here seriously. I've been reading some comments and to be sincere, most guys here are sick in the head.

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by JesuEruOluwa: 9:37pm On Dec 29, 2021
GurlFriend:
If you are gay, why do you want to ruin an innocent woman's life?
It is the same foolish you that will snoop on the man, gossip and torment him that he's single.
Even after you guess he's gay, you will keep telling him to get married or throw subtle shade. This is just the beginning.

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Boniwhite: 9:39pm On Dec 29, 2021
Ladyhippolyta88:
LMAO, OP called them the "ejaculating gender" new word learnt today


grin grin grin
& women are mensturating and bleeding gender
the gender that is like okro. Fresh in the morning wrinkle in the evening
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Imustreturn(m): 9:40pm On Dec 29, 2021
GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.



can i send you a mail? Don't mind been a friend
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by GetMeRight: 9:40pm On Dec 29, 2021
AGurlnoname:
cheesy the worst thing that can ever happen to you, is going through a man's browsing history, videos, hidden vault on his phone and WhatsApp chat.

Men are hypocrites.

Don't worry don't give up on love, you'll soon find the right one.

If you are going to generalise, women are not any different. Many women keep a lots of nasty things on their phone without even trying to hide it
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by HRSweetness(f): 9:40pm On Dec 29, 2021
trailblazar:

lol. Okay. Before that, let me just say i have a pet peeve with helinues types. They're wont to play both sides of an argument -if you can, go to the politics section, you will see its nonsense if it has not deleted it, so yh, when i see its posts it feels like iv seen a rat.

Okay, so you channeled your disdain for the guy towards me?

Meanwhile, I don't remember monikers I argue with, I only remember monikers I have interesting conversations with.

So, if I argue with you on a thread and see a post by you in another thread that resonates with me, I'd flow with you. I don't take things on here personally.
Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by Eviana(f): 9:42pm On Dec 29, 2021
Wow,
This OP really hit home for me.
The most devastating thing, I believe, that can happen to a woman in a perceived heterosexual relationship, is finding out that you are living a lie. That the man whom you shared your heart with (and perhaps even conceived children with) is not heterosexual at all.
Awhile ago I had a conversation with a friend about what she thought would be more devastating: A. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a woman OR B. finding out that her significant other (male) has been cheating with a man?
She said A.
I was shocked cause I couldn't believe that she chose "A".
Her rationale was that she has no chance when it comes to the man being gay and cheating with a man...but if cheating with a woman, she would always wonder what the woman whom he cheated with had, that was better than her.

I, vehemently, disagreed with her....and she had to remind me that it was her opinion and choice.
The conversation ended.

Looking at this from a purely secular/non-religious viewpoint, I would have to say that both parties are victims.
Victims in the sense that because of societal, cultural dictates, (especially in a "religious" country such as Nigeria), there is no safe place for those whom believe that they are homosexual, to openly practice and live their lives.
So because the practice of homosexuality is forbidden and allegedly punished by law in Nigeria (and many black African countries), the only way the homosexual person can live is through underground/hiding. So the homosexual, in turn, marries a heterosexual in order to keep up appearances and the expected cultural norm.
So now an innocent person is brought into the deception and even conception of children.
It becomes such a tangled web of lies....until it finally bursts open (because the homosexual can no longer hide his true feelings) and all is exposed...leaving emotional devastation so deep and hearts so broken and feelings so embittered that it almost becomes irreparable.

I am a born and raised Christian and have commented on many threads in the Religion room pertaining to homosexuality and the Bible.
This OP happens within the church as well. In fact, a large homosexual population exists in the church, but it is kept "hush-hush."
I cannot condone the act, simply because God condemns the act.....as He condemns a plethora of other sins.
I don't personally believe that same-sex attraction is just as cut and dry as saying a person was "born that way." So many other reasons have been cited as reasons why the attraction has developed.
Clearly and most importantly, the Bible cannot be contradictory, and it is impossible for God to be a liar---so the answer is plain for those who are confused and sincerely pray for the truth.

I do, however, believe in freedom of choice.
I believe that people should not be ostracized, beaten or killed because of their choice of lifestyle.
For me as a Christian, heterosexual woman, I can support the freedom of choice YET disagree with that person's choice and NOT harm, discriminate against or ostracize him/her.
I happen to live in a country where homosexuality is not only celebrated, but rewarded...which is a gazing-stock and shunned by the majority of developing nations such as Nigeria. Also which is probably why Bobrisky is such a phenomenon there.

I think, however, where the majority of African countries have a big issue is how they choose to address the issue. Is it a governmental right to exact certain laws which are extremely harmful to individuals who clearly aren't physically causing harm to another person, but whose lifestyles aren't the norm? Is homosexuality on the same level as murder, robbery, kidnapping etc., in a governmental sense?
Clearly, in many black African nations, it seems to be.
Every human being should be regarded as a human being...complete with freedom of choice and rights.
Until Nigeria is ready to truly address the issue in mature, serious manner, these types of stories will continue to forever be the narrative.

So many layers to this issue...so many.
I'm sorry for delving off of the topic in a sense.

My prayer is for the OP (if this is a true story) and anyone going through this type of situation (cause I guarantee that there is someone else reading this thread who is) to heal by going to God in prayer---first and foremost.
If not a spiritual person, I would suggest that you call out to Him anyhow. Yell and scream if necessary,
Tell Him you're not sure He exists and then dump your cares on Him.....cry it out.
Then perhaps seek Christian counseling as a practical way to help you through the devastating crisis.
I cannot NOT suggest some form of religion because it really is the only way to get true healing.

Ms. Eviana

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Re: How My Ex Humiliated Me On Christmas Eve by JesuEruOluwa: 9:45pm On Dec 29, 2021
GurlFriend:
I see a bunch of threads here created by guys who see nothing good in the women folk, but if I start writing about the evils that men commit, the mods may move the thread to the literature section.

My Experience

I am pretty, well kept and groomed and at an age where although I may not be a spring chick, I am still young enough to attract attention from guys in their early 20s who have no qualms about toasting their elder sister's age mates. I have had my fair share lovers but I am currently sworn off men till such a time I recover from the trauma of my latest experience in the hands of the 'ejaculating gender.'

My now ex, let's call him Kingsley was supposed to be a godsent. He is fair, heavily bearded, handsome and a single father. He is also terrible in bed. TERRIBLE. He doesn't last more than 4 minutes, and once he reaches the four minutes mark, he spurts his disgusting seed into the condom and goes limp for the rest of the time with him. Even if I squeeze and massage his small member like bitter leave, he will remain limp like golden penny noodles.

That did not stop me from giving two years of my life to him because I genuinely loved him and felt I could cope with the terrible sex; man shall not live by nacks alone. I had met his family, he had met mine, we were literally 5 and 6. We fixed the wedding for January 8 next year. I'm looking at the stupid IV as I'm typing this.

So we closed for the year at my work place on December 24th and I decided to spend the evening with him. We had agreed that no more nights over till the wedding since it was barely a month away, so we might as well start living right before God. None the less, I had closed by 2pm, I didn't look forward to spending the whole evening in my hot apartment alone so I, against better judgement went to his place and let myself in. His line of work doesn't give him the luxury of closing early like me, so the apartment was also empty but he has a generator and AC.

I settled in, began watching movies on his laptop. I don't know the devil that pushed me to leave the film I was watching to start snooping through his files. In my two years of dating I have never gone through his phone or PC because if you cherish your peace of mind, never snoop through your partner's devices otherwise you will see things. What you are looking for, you will find it.

He has this folder in his laptop called 'Don Quixote.exe' which I see all the time. I asked him what it was some time back and he casually said they are program files and if I mess with them, I will disorganize his laptop. The same devil I had earlier mentioned pushed me to open Don Quixote, and behold, what did I see?

Gay porn. Man nacking man. Woman nacking woman. My fiance is gay, I think. Or bi-sexual. I don't know. My hands are shaking again.

I'm so hurt. Photos upon photos of homosexual and lesbian contents. But this is not where the story ends.

After the initial shock of these disgusting photos, I was confused, shocked, disappointed. I quickly shut down the laptop, prepared dinner (Indomie) and cried myself to sleep on the bed because I'm a very emotional person. I took Lexotan so I could sleep.

Around 10, I think, Kingley came back. He didn't know I was in the house because I left the lights off. He, however didn't come back alone. He came back with a guest. A male guest. I know this dude is his lover because I know him from the office and I have always been suspicious of his sexuality. What kind of masculine man wears purple skinny jeans and wiggles his bum when he thinks no one is watching? I also saw a TikTok video of this guy dancing, wiggling his bum and twirling his dreadlocks?

That is the colleague Kingley brought home by 10 in the night.

Anyway, Kingley walked into the bedroom, saw me and the guilt written all over his face made me ask him who was in the parlour with him after hearing another male voice. When he couldn't give a coherent answer, I went to the parlour and saw Uncle Purple Skinny jeans. Now added to the gay porn I discovered in his laptop, you will not blame me for having a meltdown. I yelled, screamed, cussed, threw his ring into the toilet and flushed it. I ordered Uber to my parents house that night and spent 25th chopping breakfast with tears.

Two years, with a bi-sexual man. Or maybe he is gay himself. I don't know. He has been begging me not to expose him to his family, but it's too late. I have told my family and they intend to formally let his family know that their daughter cannot marry a 'confused' man, as my father says.

What do men want?! Two years of my life, plus all the wedding expenses, gone down the drain. I am so heart broken and humiliated.

I don't want to say men are scum because I have a wonderful father and loving brothers, so I will leave it. I'm done with men.



When you will not let them rest. More people would still fall victim until people are not victimised for remaining single.

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