You don't even give those guys a chance to start with. They always show their true colours from the start!

Basseti:

Have u tried ignoring his calls? Have u tried changing your number?

There are many ways to shrug off a persistent pest and posting the issue online is not one of them.

Me thinks that
1) You prolly enjoy the fact that he is giving u so much attention. Kinda like an insurance policy if your fiance f&^ks up.


2) Using him as leverage to put pressure on your fiance to do the "right thing".

3) Actually entertaining the thought of life with the man u dont love but with financial stability and prospects of leaving the country as opposed to a life with the man you love with all the uncertainties that comes along with it.

One thing a woman knows how to do so too well is to give the red card to a dude she does not care about. You posting this online suggests me that something is up. You need to have a serious talk with your fiance.

You are soo on point!

be open, why would u marry someone u don't love? let him know that he is wasting his time. tell him u have a fiance

i gree with realuv4u

poster, you don answer your own question. You don't love him. enough said.

you women,so after visiting your office,calling you on the phone,and promising to take you abroad, suddenly,you dont know what to do again,you are confused(considering options).anyway,like i use to tell others.with  or without you ,your finance will do great.its better you have an ok family than to have one that you dont know the origin of the wealth.a word is enough for the wise!!

d guy wan chop that thing wey u de give ur fiance.
so be wise he is not coming 4 any thing serious.

also he want to break u and ur fiance; then collect sweetie 4rm u and then dump u.
thats y he is assimilating all the insults frm u cos e get plan

SHINE UR EYE.

@Poster. I suggest that you talk with Ujujoan . I think she's experienced. However, you can report him to the security agents and as well ask your fiance to handle him for you. Some guys can really be stubborn, thinking they can alwyas get what they want and trust me, if you are not very careful, his persistence may cause you to start feeling something for him. Be careful so he doesnt spoil your happiness. Pray about it as well. I wish you well.

wel stop doing him and tell him


i am sorry but i don't love you the way u love me, end of story

Kristty:

i do not owe him anything cos i never promised to marry him and i did not collect gifts from him, [size=8pt][size=8pt]we only dated for few months before i realized i had no feelings for him[/size][/size] and i told him we had to quit, not becos i was dating someone else, he was the only one i was dating cos i dont play games till now.  i had no b/f for about 8 months so that he wudnt think i left him because of another guy, that was 2005-2006. the whole thing started agian last year wen he called and said he wanted to see me, i told him i was not in Lagos as if i knew wot he wanted to discuss wit me but he actually came to our house and met me. and dat was how it started.

nairalandres, i no chop anything, just that i dont now wot the guy is up to

Really, i don't know why guys would just give any kind of answer to this thread. This is a man like us here that is in the scenario. Put yourselves in the guy's shoes,  what would make you chase a girl who told you she NOW has a fiance?

@Kristy,  Please we would like to have answers to these questions:
1) How long did your relationship with this guy last?
2.)How long did it take you to realize you had no feelings for him?
3)During the period you thought you had feelings for him, did you ever told him you loved him?
4.)What made you realize you had no feelings for him? There is no smoke without fire,
5.) Would you be willing to meet the challenge a nairalander posed to you? To give us the guy's number so that we call him, put it on conference call, then we hear the truth?
6.) How long did it take you to discover that he was/is stingy?
7.) How do one determine a stingy person if not when one make several requests from the same person?

andyanders:

4get the guy. Let him go and look for his own dear
You dont like him, period. Na by force?

Just imagine you,  after making the guy commit all his emotions and resources in her, now you say "na by force"?
If the guy in question is your brother, would have made this comment in support of the girl?

One thing i know for sure is that KRISTTY must have made the guy believe so much in her. You bit the finger that once fed you.

@poster, call him to come to your house and when he comes, cook for him and make him feel comfortable and after that both of you should have a short talk in which you would tell him that you an OGBAN-JE and you have been tested HIV positive for over a year now, and that is the reason why You said you dont want to marry him ( That is if na true u dey tell us),

  Meanwhile,babes una sabi lie and decieve,am seeing a girl now,she loves me and only wants sex  from me and there is another guy that is dying for her, she is just using the guys head because of her school,so that she can get money from him, meanwhile the guy agree say say no sex,
So maybe you did the same thing and now you hav gotten what you want and you want to dump him, TELL US THE TRUTH!!!

@ poster please return all he give you back to him the guy refuse to let you go because he know that he is already invest in you so much