I met a guy, and the Chemistry was shocking, I have always been someone in control of my feelings but this caught me off guard.
He felt the same way and asked me for a relationship, Luckily for me though i still had some sense to check out some information on him and i discovered he ws married.
He came to see me yesterday and i told him as much as i have feelings for him I cant go out with him because he is married.
My sisters if I tell you that this is easy on me i am lying. I cant work, I cant think, for once in my life I seem to loose control of my sense of reasoning, every minute i feel like picking up the phone to call him but i will not. I am not a saint but i know the last thing i will do in my life is go out with a married man.
Please I need encouragement, Nairalanders please dont let me fall

what the doritos are you talking about, you already know what the right thing to do is so do it. you don't need any encouragement from us. If you pick up that phone and call that man we'd all be disappointed in you.

my sister leave this man alone.we don want u to bcam a second wife.ey r many guys out er waiting for you.pliz don fall 4 that man.because his wife will deal w u and trust me u wil loose your teeth if she beat u lol.anyway if i wr u i will remove and delete the man's number in your phone and u won't call him.my dear we don want u to be a second wife!!!!!! okay ? find your own true love 

Likewise

Thank you so much, I know the right thing to do and am doing it, I just need encouragement because this is the first time something like this is happening to me. I just need to hear it from you people

Lexyhearts:

my sister leave this man alone.we don want u to bcam a second wife.ey r many guys out er waiting for you.pliz don fall 4 that man.because his wife will deal w u and trust me u wil loose your teeth if she beat u lol.anyway if i wr u i will remove and delete the man's number in your phone and u won't call him.my dear we don want u to be a second wife!!!!!! okay ? find your own true love

Even if i no hear anybody i go hear your own , thank you.
I cant delete his number because we partner with thier organisation, however I will get someone else to handle any meeting I will need to have with him for now till i get over it. However I will have to attend group meetings

@aisha2

u r now talking.u choose e great idea.keep it up.GOOD LUCK ,GOD HELP U

@poster,
Sometimes taking the right the decision is always but you'd better
take it bcus there is nothing like the right thing, right is just right.
as Nairalanders has been saying we want to come to ur wedding and comfortable
not to come there and be experiencing the nagging of the first woman so plz
ja for the man.

You are a principled person and I praise you for it. I think some ladies have to learn from you

Lexyhearts:

my sister leave this man alone.we don want u to bcam a second wife.ey r many guys out er waiting for you.pliz don fall 4 that man.because his wife will deal w u and trust me u wil loose your teeth if she beat u lol.anyway if i wr u i will remove and delete the man's number in your phone and u won't call him.my dear we don want u to be a second wife!!!!!! okay ? find your own true love

ditto!

StephenP:

ditto!

whatz that

I concur with you.

okay .thats gud

aisha2 forget dat married man and be patient, your God-sent guy is on his way,its only a matter of time.

Thanks all of you, now i know that am not alone.
God Bless all of you, You understand what i am going through. it is not as if i am desperate, this just caught me off guard.
I always control my feelings but with all the advice i recieved here i will stick to my resolve
Thanks once agian

Did you w*t lol

doncaster:

Did you w*t lol

meaning what please.

@poster,

Thumbs up for you for putting devil to shame!!! 'cos if to say e happen now you for say na devil work LMAO
Please make this victory re-sounding and stick to both your gun and cutlass, ok? You will be glad at the end that you did not get involve. Guess what? 've had a close shave with a married woman before and I almost gave in o! It was not easy though, but I was really HAPPY with myself that I walked away at point Zero. So, keep afloat and don't allow devil to cheat you.

Thank you all very much. I was able survive without calling him yesterday and for me the first 24 hours are usually the most critical. I believe its half over.
@Boondoggle,
thanks, usually people who have not been through this will not understand how it feels, I use to feel Ii could never happen to me but this proved to me that no human being is perfect.
they say a problem shared is half solved but now i say a problem shared is 90% solvede.
I cant say thank you enough

@poster

I really appreciate your courage, and u sound so much like somebody that knows what she is doing.Keep it up girl! How i pray that most people would learn from u and for once go for what they really need and not just fall for anything.
U are surely a candidate for the top, meet me there!

You have fallen already . . . . . . . . . . . lmao

@Arshy
Thank you so much

Nice One Aisha.

yeah.

I wann 2 know u jus because of ur principle.

Ciao

k0be:

what the doritos are you talking about, you already know what the right thing to do is so do it. you don't need any encouragement from us.  If you pick up that phone and call that man we'd all be disappointed in you.

Don't be selfish, man. It is a matter of choice.

This is a very simple issue. Ask urself if u want to marry a married man and if the answer is YES, then in increase the tempo of the relationship and if the answer is no, halt the relationship.

There is no magic about it.

I wish u well in ur choice

Its a good thing u've got ur sense's, even after loosing control of yourself.

You are on the right track babyy.

Keep the flag flyin.

@ GODSGIRL

AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And Amen, Thanks for the prayers. Thank you all so much you all have given me confidence.
Went for a meeting in his office today and I could not believe how calm i was, he tried to make me uncomfortable during my presentation but God gave me grace and strenght. I maintained a profesional attitude through out the meeting, he tried getting me alone but i made sure i was always surrounded by my collegue who did not know what was happening.
Thank you all you made it possible. But please keep praying for me to to completly get over this, so that i will be able to be alone with him when i have to and not feel anything because i cannot keep delegating others to go for meetings with him or making my collegue accompany me. It will seem strange

okay aisha

we will always pray 4 u

It's good if you can break the bond that attract you to him as long as you dont want to go with him. it doesnt matter if he's married or not,the issue is you dont want a married person.

arshy:

@poster

I really appreciate your courage, and u sound so much like somebody that knows what she is doing.Keep it up girl! How i pray that most people would learn from u and for once go for what they really need and not just fall for anything.
You are surely a candidate for the top, meet me there!

My sister, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak!!! but that is not an excuse o.
We should all learn to look beyond the immediate gratification of SIN and fix out mind on the guilt  that always follows it. And, also pray and ask for His grace.
Goosh! IT IS NOT EASY. .  .at times I feel like running out of myself!!!   Even great Apostle Paul said that the good he wanted to do, he do not, but found himself doing what he did not want to do. Then he cried out "Who will deliver me from this body of SIN"  but by His grace we have overcome

@ godsgirl,
where 've you been?  

Kinda like your prayer. How do you pray this kind of prayer? quietly, aloud, once, continuously, and when? anytime?