Iyaebe:
Abegii,there's no justification for this.Sex outside marriage bad

Smh...Anyway it is an Individual thing.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He is only clowning around due to the gift..
Looking at human psychology people say things to make you feel great....

You are more likely to be praised when you offer someone a gift so don't be decieved by mere words..

He is speaking from a traditional and moral angle which anyone can say..don't take his words..
Be yourself and do what you want cos only you know what you want for yourself..

am impressed by your advice here looks like someone has upgraded, hey! Kiddos

socialmediaman:
You are responsible for achieving one of many possible destinies on your path (based on your choices, decisions, other factors), however, the woman you marry and live with has everything to do with what choices and decisions you make in life. I'll give you a simple example

You have a very big presentation tomorrow, and you need to stay awake tonight to study and make final prep. You're about to go and study, but there's an argument between you and your wife. After the argument is resolved, there is sex to wrap things up, and you're exhausted... till tomorrow morning. You didn't prepare, and your presentation is a flop!

You can call the woman evil all you want, but it was your choice to avoid the argument and sex, knowing you have a presentation the next day. It's on You, however, if your wife had cared about your presentation, she could as well have been supportive and given you a break. That's why they say a woman can make or break you. It's not because she has power over you, it's because she has a reset key you may need frequently

Nice. If you have any meaningful engagement, do not give-in to anything that could resent your wife else, she'd mess things up. Women are necessary evil. Once I tell my wife I'm going for an interview, I've gotten the result already even before going. One thing could lead to another and the whole thing would be flopped. The moment I stopped telling her things , I began to see meaningful progress. Not because she's possessed. That's the way they are . I was traveling out of the country in 2015 and she Knew how early my flight was. She dragged me all of a sudden to have sex with her. Eventually, I missed my flight that morning . I felt so bad when i returned home. She wasn't even feeling any worried or bothered about it.

Love your wife dearly but don't be a woman wrapper. There are some critical decisions, including that of business you don't share with her. Rather, share with God. Most women would even impede you from giving the right offering to the men of God or church. That's when she'd present some old expenses you've not fulfilled, just to discourage you.

betcliq:
Today one Elderly Man that's in late 80s came to my shop in the morning to patronize me . He was happy with me he bought a bottle of Hot drink and I offered a small bottle of dry Gin in appreciation and a New year gift.
He uttered some words of prayer for me , lastly he told me I'll be great in my business that I will grow in heights . He advised me to be very careful in choosing a girl to marry that I shouldn't pregnant a girl before going to see the parents and pay for bride price that I shouldn't even have sex with her , that a woman I marry will determine if I'll be more successful or encounter challenges in Life . I just dey reason the talk since morning.

This is spiritual I'm From Igbo and I strongly believe in Tradition this got to do with tradition think deep.

What do you guys think about it

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It would have been nice if you did a field sobriety test on him. Who knows? The hot drink he bought could be a refill. In other words, it could have been alcohol giving you some advice.

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A man of 80 must had been born around 1940 couldn‘t have advice you otherwise.

Obviously, their world then was quite different from the world of today. Hence, that advice is NOT for all these 21century indomie generation slayers, most of whom have had series of abortions, drugs taking and consequently, damaged wombs!

Some have become so obsessed with using some artificial sex iterms. Some even uses Cocumbers for self satisfaction.
I don‘t want to talk much before some feminists in the House come after me, therefore
I take a stroll...

What an elderly person sees sitting down, a young man cannot see it standing. The words of elders are words of wisdom.

betcliq:
Today one Elderly Man that's in late 80s came to my shop in the morning to patronize me . He was happy with me he bought a bottle of Hot drink and I offered a small bottle of dry Gin in appreciation and a New year gift.
He uttered some words of prayer for me , lastly he told me I'll be great in my business that I will grow in heights . He advised me to be very careful in choosing a girl to marry that I shouldn't pregnant a girl before going to see the parents and pay for bride price that I shouldn't even have sex with her , that a woman I marry will determine if I'll be more successful or encounter challenges in Life . I just dey reason the talk since morning.

This is spiritual I'm From Igbo and I strongly believe in Tradition this got to do with tradition think deep.

What do you guys think about it

Apart from the prayers , nothing is special here.

socialmediaman:
You are responsible for achieving one of many possible destinies on your path (based on your choices, decisions, other factors), however, the woman you marry and live with has everything to do with what choices and decisions you make in life. I'll give you a simple example

You have a very big presentation tomorrow, and you need to stay awake tonight to study and make final prep. You're about to go and study, but there's an argument between you and your wife. After the argument is resolved, there is sex to wrap things up, and you're exhausted... till tomorrow morning. You didn't prepare, and your presentation is a flop!

You can call the woman evil all you want, but it was your choice to avoid the argument and sex, knowing you have a presentation the next day. It's on You, however, if your wife had cared about your presentation, she could as well have been supportive and given you a break. That's why they say a woman can make or break you. It's not because she has power over you, it's because she has a reset key you may need frequently

Who are you fella n why are u directly talking to me?
The example u quoted as if u are with me.
To be frank, either u have sex or not, either u pregnanted her or not, if u like buy woman the whole universe, the one that's your chosen and blessed wife will support u.

Woman is a black market or online market u can never predict the content sometime the package may not show a true reflection.

betcliq:
Today one Elderly Man that's in late 80s came to my shop in the morning to patronize me . He was happy with me he bought a bottle of Hot drink and I offered a small bottle of dry Gin in appreciation and a New year gift.
He uttered some words of prayer for me , lastly he told me I'll be great in my business that I will grow in heights . He advised me to be very careful in choosing a girl to marry that I shouldn't pregnant a girl before going to see the parents and pay for bride price that I shouldn't even have sex with her , that a woman I marry will determine if I'll be more successful or encounter challenges in Life . I just dey reason the talk since morning.

This is spiritual I'm From Igbo and I strongly believe in Tradition this got to do with tradition think deep.

What do you guys think about it

Forget about the ignoramuses commenting at the first page. What the man said is right. How far you go in life has a huge connection with the woman you marry. Are you aware you can have connections and your wife make you lose them? Your wife can make you lose a job, she can make you have a distorted psychology because of her actions. There are too many ways a wife can affect your destiny. I don't even want to talk about the spiritual side!

Don't marry a woman you can forgive.

heniford2:
am impressed by your advice here looks like someone has upgraded, hey! Kiddos

Thank you so much for the compliment I really appreciate..

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He is only clowning around due to the gift..
Looking at human psychology people say things to make you feel great....

You are more likely to be praised when you offer someone a gift so don't be decieved by mere words..

He is speaking from a traditional and moral angle which anyone can say..don't take his words..
Be yourself and do what you want cos only you know what you want for yourself..

In psychology, there's something called reciprocative marketing. When you give someone something, they feel indebted and will do anything to return the favour. In this case, the man shared his perceptive about women which he believes to be true.

HenryDion:


In psychology, there's something called reciprocative marketing. When you give someone something, they feel indebted and will do anything to return the favour. In this case, the man shared his perceptive about women which he believes to be true.

Thank you so much for this..you sound intelligent..

I so much love this kinda conversations..

But later you'll still call the girl hoe if she ended up not marrying a man she slept with.....right?

okoroemeka:
the old man is partially correct except on the sex part,you must test who ever you want to marry sexually to see how compatible the union will be,if you like sex a lot then it will not make sense to marry a frigid sexless woman

betcliq:
Today one Elderly Man that's in late 80s came to my shop in the morning to patronize me . He was happy with me he bought a bottle of Hot drink and I offered a small bottle of dry Gin in appreciation and a New year gift.
He uttered some words of prayer for me , lastly he told me I'll be great in my business that I will grow in heights . He advised me to be very careful in choosing a girl to marry that I shouldn't pregnant a girl before going to see the parents and pay for bride price that I shouldn't even have sex with her , that a woman I marry will determine if I'll be more successful or encounter challenges in Life . I just dey reason the talk since morning.

This is spiritual I'm From Igbo and I strongly believe in Tradition this got to do with tradition think deep.

What do you guys think about it

TWO DRUNK MEN

The old man is 90% correct, because before marriage make think you are in love, even when you are not.sex covers the flaw of each of you.

betcliq:
I just tire oo Man, what he told me is just opposite of my plan. I have wanted to get a girl pregnant before going to see the parents.

That means the message was clear. Do what the old man has said d to you.

Young men should not be too quick to jump into marriage. Prepare yourself and make sure you are capable of handling family responsibilities before marrying. Forget about sex and build your life first.
Don't marry because you don't want to miss that girl. One man said the beautiful ones are not yet born and that is true. More beautiful women are coming. Don't rush.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He is only clowning around due to the gift..
Looking at human psychology people say things to make you feel great....

You are more likely to be praised when you offer someone a gift so don't be decieved by mere words..

He is speaking from a traditional and moral angle which anyone can say..don't take his words..
Be yourself and do what you want cos only you know what you want for yourself..

This boy girl why do u always go against what is right?
What that old man is saying is notting but the truth From the religion and traditional perspectives.

betcliq:

Nope bro isn't about the gift . What he said about marriage is somehow a fact in Igbo land is not proper to got a girl pregnant before going to see her parents.

Why is it not proper?

Is it not proper because the community said so or is it not proper because it is inherently bad?

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Looking at human psychology people say things to make you feel great....

You are more likely to be praised when you offer someone a gift so don't be decieved by mere words..

For such a tiny gift, not many people will just start praising you.
By the way, what that man said is not praise, but strong words of advice.
Take it or leave it, the kind of woman you marry can make or ruin you.
On pregnating a lady before seeing her parents, I've since advised myself against that.
Old people like to advice young people on the area they are not doing well. Maybe that guy is the type carry women carelessly.

gentlegenius:

For such a tiny gift, not many people will just start praising you.
By the way, what that man said is not praise, but strong words of advice.
Take it or leave it, the kind of woman you marry can make or ruin you.
On pregnating a lady before seeing her parents, I've since advised myself against that.
Old people like to advice young people on the area they are not doing well. Maybe that guy is the type carry women carelessly.

Yeah you are very right...
I was only addressing his likely reasons for saying that..

Arewa247:


This boy girl why do u always go against what is right?
What that old man is saying is notting but the truth From the religion and traditional perspectives.

We are saying the same thing tho..

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He is only clowning around due to the gift..
Looking at human psychology people say things to make you feel great....

You are more likely to be praised when you offer someone a gift so don't be decieved by mere words..

He is speaking from a traditional and moral angle which anyone can say..don't take his words..
Be yourself and do what you want cos only you know what you want for yourself..

Wait are you serious with this comments?

Qatar2022:

Wait are you serious with this comments?

No I am joking..
See question

Not a bad advice
BTW he's 80+ so I assume he's more knowledgeable about life more than you especially in marital affairs.

betcliq:
I have wanted to get a girl pregnant before going to see the parents.

Men only want to do this when they are in relationship with a lady they don't trust. Maybe you never knew her when she was a teenager and you are not sure what she was doing with her body before you met her. You think she might have dated many guys, had sex countless times and commit abortion on some occasions. She might tell you about her past but you think there's a lot more she isn't telling you.
Anytime a guy says he want to pregnate a lady before marrying her, I always tell him this truth: YOU ARE NOT SURE IF HER WOMB IS STILL INTACT... So it is either you are dating a retired prostitute or you are dating a lady you don't trust. Either way, YOU ARE TAKING A SERIOUS RISK!

FERNANDEZISBACK:

That was why I said he is speaking from that angle which anyone can say..it all revolves around human psyche..

You are more likely to give him a gift when next he comes cos why he told you something which you believe in...
Mind games..

Op never listen to this person, a lot of Nigeria youths are wayward because when they hear this kind words they think it's because of that gift they give the man makes him say all those words. I'm telling from experience, i obeyed and it works for me perfectly

Qatar2022:

Op never listen to this person, a lot of Nigeria youths are wayward because when they hear this kind words they think it's because of that gift they give the man makes him say all those words. I'm telling from experience, i obeyed and it works for me perfectly

Did I say he should disobey?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He is only clowning around due to the gift..
Looking at human psychology people say things to make you feel great....

You are more likely to be praised when you offer someone a gift so don't be decieved by mere words..

He is speaking from a traditional and moral angle which anyone can say..don't take his words..
Be yourself and do what you want cos only you know what you want for yourself..

Damn! just damn! This is how you are supposed to be impressing me but you got stuck on that feministic bull crap

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Did I say he should disobey?

Read what you said it really point that the man say all that because of gift. Sometimes it doesn't happen that way,