My friend I have seen life through this same mirror before...my case is just like yours where pictures were displayed... The parents of the lady actually fought with me when I tried to approach them later...been that I didn't act timely in that regards... My dear do you know that somethings happened for us to see into the future... Now this lady had remarried three times to different men... I think she has short propensity to stand love... please please n please... There's always a wait and see situation in life... It you feel heartbroken... Try and learn something new... Like handiwork.. it will redirect your minds and project you for a new reality... Remember you cannot see your face in a troubled water... Like I said wait and see she will still come to tell you more stories...also remember... to love something doesn't mean you have to own it.. just like you love to live in this world but you can not own the entire world no matter how you desire it deeply... As for your parents... If they are so kin about you getting married then the should go and bring the one they betrothed to you from birth just like our vice president.. osinbanjo ....if there are no provision for that.. just take you time and arrange yourself... Stop all this infantuations ... Rest and think... Surulere..

My advice for you is to elope with her or if you have money to carter for her, you can go ahead and marry her....

However, the best advice is that if you truly love her as you claimed ,which I know you really do love her...please kindly walk away from her life....

NasoLifeBe!!!

If person check well u go be Biafra ppu....na Una dey get this kind of issue.

how much is in your bank account that you're forcing yourself in DNA palava that your destiny keep pushing you away from?



she will kill herself after double dating with you and you believed her? her dad was threatening her mom for her to bring husband home and you also believed her?


a lady that lied to you that her so called new man was her friend which turnout to be lie, you're still here asking for advise



if you're any of my siblings, I swear I will disowned you, you're an extra tyre, despite splashing that to your face yet you're still not getting it?



you're such a dumb guy, if you don't work on your psychological traits on time, this kind of fate might repeat itself

First come, Best served.

O.P there is nothing like love. It's just about interests.

Yoruba would say...jawo mbę. Move on and get serious with your life and business. All will be well. Women matter should be least on your priority list guy

Dis one na secondary school love . Very soon op n the girl eyes go clear

Wetin nairalanders no go see for nairaland

She is confused and so are you.

You not matured enough to marry

Marriage na must sef

I hate rubbish..

Your money short, his money long..

The summary of the litany of love story you post here is that you love the girl but don't have money to make her your girlfriend.

Just go and look for capital and start business like 5years later you will ready and marry someone who is ready.

Don't go and be obstacle in the life of that lady.If you truly love her let her go and marry.You don't have money yet.

In fact marriage is even simple the main issue is if she is pregnant for you can you take care of here and the baby.

I love you I love you without money backing I'd rubbish

1) I suspect that you didn't grow up with a father figure.
2) Let this girl go, she's not for you.
3) Stop letting others dictate your life.

Pathetic.

My take home - main husband, side husband

Marriage is not do or die. You have more to loose in marriage than a lady. If an opportunity slip off your hands then wait for the next one.

All the best!

Lucasmuyiwaa:
Please don't mind my grammars but I will try my best to make readers understand what I'm trying to say.

I met my girlfriend at the time I was being disturbed by my parents to bring a wife. But then I was not really ready for marriage and this girl I met during that time happens to be the girl I love most.

I showed her how much I love her and I know she really loves me too. I've tested her love for me many times and I can proof how much this girl loves me.

To cut the story short, we had a misunderstanding couple of months ago and it lasted for two weeks befre we settled it. What really caused the fight was a guy that I feel like they were having a relationship and I confronted my girlfriend. She said they've known each other befre she met me and they weren't dating anymore though the guy has been trying to come back to her but she just decided to keep him as friend according to what she told me.

So this particular guy again I saw him coming to ask of her in her house when I was there and I did not feel good seeing that guy. I had to leave and didn't pick the girl call for some time and she stopped calling me too. Though I know I'm gonna call her back when Im done angry and I was even expecting her to call me more and maybe I would eventually pick but I didn't see her call for a week.

So I started feeling somehow when she uploaded that particular guy pick on facebook and tagged it "my love." She uploaded it both on whatsapp and facebook so that I caN see it because I stopped checking her whatsapp status. When I couldn't feel okay anymore I decided to end the fight jokingly with her and it worked then I asked her after few days of settlement why she had to put that guy on her status but she said she did it because she saw where I also put some girls on my status and me putting love emoji so she retaliated with that because it hurt her.

We settled the fight and we agreed never to get mad at each other again. But just of recent I heard it from her sister that the guy I always see with my girlfriend has come to their house to see her parents and I shoudnt even waste my time with her or tell her. I was not okay when I heard that story and coudnt believe until I asked my girlfriend if she's hiding anything from me but she said No.

After asking her so many times she finally told me to ask her whatever I heard and I told her. She answered yes and I was shocked. I asked her why she had to do that and she explained how her dad had been insulting her at home to go and marry and even transferred the aggressiveness to her mother if she fails to bring a man befre this year though, she always tell me everything her father is doing with her at home and always cry when telling me but I keep telling her to please have patient that we will go to see him very soon.

So the second thing she said was that when we had a misunderstanding for some weeks and we didn't talk she believed I've done with her and she can't wait to loose both ways even though she loves me more than the guy. Now the guy had gone to see her parents but my girlfriend said its nothing that she can't get married to the guy and that meeting is nothing, so I fell relaxed and asked her what we are going to do. She told me to impregnate her and then she will go and tell her father that she is pregnant for another guy and not the guy that came to see him. We had sex but unfortunately she didn't get pregnant. So she decided to tell her mom what's going on and how much she want me and her to marry. So the mother took her to her father and told her everything my girlfriend said that it's not the guy that came to see them is her husband that the main husband is coming to see them but the father changed it and got upset with them that why and what's the meaning of that nonsense, if she doesn't love the guy that came to see them why did she introduced him to them.

She recorded all the insults the father said and played it for me. I was so shocked and this girl started crying to the extent that I had to take her out that day to feel happy. She said she doesn't want to marry that guy but that guy had come with his parents to see my girlfriend parents.

Now I don't know what to do because my girlfriend said she will kill herself if we don't get married which can't even happen. Whenever I tell her to please let peace reign that she should go ahead and marry the guy she will get mad and would never talk to me anymore until I beg her. And sometimes when I jokingly tell her that I will also go and see another girl parent so that I won't loose at both ends she kneel and start crying not to even do so. She always tell me to put mind at rest that we would get married but I don't see it working at all because those guys parents will be making preparations day by day. My girlfriend tells me most things the parents say and I always feel bad.

Plz ineed ur advice because i'm confused. The only thing that could help us was the pregnancy but when she did the test she was told she wasnt pregnant. Now she is regretting her actions because she never knew all these could happen. She's confused too because she cried everyday because of all these.

mr man if you are not ready to marry this girl, please let her go. She is just stringing you along, playing stupid smartness. if you are ready, go and meet her parents, she would be all yours. if not just be expecting her wedding card.

U never even do introduction not to talk of paying bride price and u are calling someone ur wife to be,na everyone partner she be cus u never marry.

Dot let anybody decisive you! If you dot have money dot marry dot.

If not you are entering ever lasting poverty

Funny enough am in such situation right now.

But if you love her fight for her go see her parents no matter what happens.

Also in just two weeks she decided to bring someone else home it's simply means they have been dating.


Finally if you love her no matter what happens her happiness matters the most.

This girl is using Koni Koni to practice polyandry. O.P the writing is on the wall. The girl has shown you, you are dispensable. Haha! Just a couple of weeks of not talking, she don carry another guy go do mini introduction!? Whatever decision you make, watch your back with this woman

A man should know if he is ready for marriage or not. I don't think marriage is the next thing for OP. It could be hurtful but I would suggest you let her off your hook completely.

she had to put that guy on her status but she said she did it because she saw where I also put some girls on my status and me putting love emoji so she retaliated with that because it hurt her

I really don't think I have some strength left for all this relationship brouhaha.

The peace of mind that comes with singlehood ehn

I felt I was going mad trying to understand this write up.

Summary: Your off and on girlfriend will be getting married to another man because he beat you to it.

Verdict: You got served.

Postscript: Be more proactive next time.

The parents no sabi you na
Like the old man rightly said, that's really nonsense o

Oga abeg free the poor girl!!. What da hell is your problem? U are not serious with ya self,let the girl be and stop being such a cry baby... Somebody u claim 2 luv so much,ordinary introduction is hard 4 u haba!.
what if u marry her and she still sleeps with this guy? Just let her be since she is torn btw 2 men,what if she is also decieving the other guy too.
U can't eat your cake and have it u know? U wan marry woman wey get spare battery? Ha!! guy in case u don't knw the marriage can't last, because it will lack trust. And trust is a major building material in marriage.

SUCKCESSFUL:

Introduction you no do, Belle sef you can't give.

Na wa o

Even if you don't have money, just package yourself with small gift and two of your relatives to go meet the girls family in a respectable manner.
All the excuses you gave above are so childish and you sound so immature to keep any lady at all.

Well, bro let her go and marry the Other guy, leave all these Cook and bull stories she is telling you, I am victim of same scenario.

Damn!!
So some 9ja men still dey plan to marry

lol, am i the only one thinking this guy should go find out why he cant impregnate a girl abi the girl dey use pill ni which suppose done finish this long story.

plus i don't think you are matured enough to marry(either you have money for it or not). This is because i dont see why you are scared of meeting the girls family(with funny excuse of what he will say) even the mother that seems the softer link you have not approached and you are here disturbing social media.

Even after marriage their are times you will need to stand against your in-laws decisions affecting you in ways you don't like how will you handle that when you cant stand them face to face now that you owe them nothing.

Love is not enough reason for marriage neither is riches.. but maturity,boldness and responsibility minded