Born2Breed:


What are you waiting for? Advice him. Omniknowest!

darediamond:


See E go better endlessly for u!!

goshikid:


You self try invite your mama make she come stay make the equation balance

bro4u:

Person wey no get work Dem give him mom inlaw 20k monthly

Valobit:
for once i agree with this moniker

UGLYSALT:
Okay Our Daughter is 4 Months Now !!! ..... This Woman no wan Go !!!

Abi na 20k Pocket Money i dey Give her every Month for my House !!!

Please you Guys should tell me what to do !!!

She Came for OMUGWO oooooo .... Before you wake up in the morning , This woman don already.... ON DSTV Dey watch African Magic Showcase , With a Bottle For Cool Drink !!!


Biko am Tired , what should i do !!!

goshikid:


You self try invite your mama make she come stay make the equation balance

goshikid:


You self try invite your mama make she come stay make the equation balance

HitRun post=110208707[b:
]I respect people. I expect to be respected in return. If you do not respect me, I will put you in your place, gently but firmly, irrespective of who you are - father, mother, siblings, spouse, parent in-laws, other in-laws, friends, and other associates.

While my mother in-law can stay in my house and enjoy freedom to do as she pleases, she 'no fit do pass herself for my place'. I will tell you directly! Which one is tell your wife to tell her mother; I will tell her myself! Imagine my MIL comes and knock on my door to come to the sitting room to advice me...lol. What I will tell her that day, she will never forget it in her life.[/b]

I do not see the relevance of dropping the information on money you give to your MIL in your post. I can infer you do not have the aura of being in charge of your house, and instead of facing the main issue, you are deflecting by bringing money into the equation. Oga, money without a commanding maturity is USELESS!

Finally, If our accommodation arrangement is comfortable enough, if my MIL wants to stay for 1 year, I don't mind. What is the big deal there?

Sewasaunt:
Op, talk to your wife. Sit her down and really talk to her, no one should make you uncomfortable in your own house, you even offered to help. If it was your mum, she probably wouldn't be that comfortable and would also want her gone as fast as possible.

It is really weird and funny to me though that not many people are bashing the Op, contrary to if a woman had written this about her own in law. It is truly a man's world.

I'll bet you don't even stay in the house 24/7 with them and you are this pissed, now imagine a woman/new mum staying with her mum in law or even her own mum 24/7 and having to take whatever she sees like that as per how Nigerians reason.

No one will consider the new mum or talk about how different her views on child rearing may be from her own mum or mum in law, nothing about privacy and alone time, some mothers will bring potful of herbs for a newborn and the wife will just be there confused as to how to fight for herself or the new baby.

May I not be jobless and purposeless enough to spend my older years sitting in my son's house for months to tend a new born.

Help during the first weeks when you can and when that help is needed most and move on with your life abeg.

UGLYSALT:
Okay Our Daughter is 4 Months Now !!! ..... This Woman no wan Go !!!

Abi na 20k Pocket Money i dey Give her every Month for my House !!!

Please you Guys should tell me what to do !!!

She Came for OMUGWO oooooo .... Before you wake up in the morning , This woman don already.... ON DSTV Dey watch African Magic Showcase , With a Bottle For Cool Drink !!!

She No Wan Go Again !!!

I Don tell her Daughter and wetin my wife tell me is ..... "IF SHE GO NOW ..... HOW WILL I BE BATHING OUR BABY" ..... I Don tell her that I Can Bath Our Baby .... She is insisting that she must stay !!!

Here is WHERE The Problem dey ooooo , Read below.

Una know say .... them talk say if woman born , All her curves will come out .... I Think say na Joke oooo

As my wife Born Last 4 Months .... Chaiaa ... come see soft body and Curves ....

But do you know that her Mother Told her Not to Give me Kpekusss Untill Our Baby is 6 To 8 Months !!! .... SINCE THIS WOMAN Born . I NEVER NACK HER oooooooo , and she dey flaunt all those Curves for my Face !!!

Her Mother Can Give Advice for Africa , This woman will come to my room , KNOCK and ask me to come to the LIVING ROOM !!!
She will start Giving all those village advice !!!
weah dey vex me ..... Make i no dey keep friends , Make i dey drink 1 beer in a week , That i chop too much suya , That i should be going to Morning Mass (Church everyday) .
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Biko am Tired , what should i do !!!

Mercychen:
This set of generation is the most disrespectful.

Mothers would come for Omugwo and stay at least six months in those days and the husband will be all respectful and thankful. Now, nobody wants our mothers to do their Omugwo as they wish in peace because of one nonsense or the other.

See how you mentioned her watching African magic as if she's a slave who has no right to do so.

Learn to show respect to elders so you too can get there.

saphiere:
You are ungrateful.

Mercychen:
This set of generation is the most disrespectful.

Mothers would come for Omugwo and stay at least six months in those days and the husband will be all respectful and thankful. Now, nobody wants our mothers to do their Omugwo as they wish in peace because of one nonsense or the other.

See how you mentioned her watching African magic as if she's a slave who has no right to do so.

Learn to show respect to elders so you too can get there.

Skyview01:


Marry first and live with your mother in inlaw for 6 months. Its very easy to give opinions when you are not wearing the shoe.
At some point, i almost punched my MIL in the face.

My mom will not half of the shit my MIL triedin my house.

She will never stay in my house ever again.

zomoears:


Only ladies will speak this way, and only because it’s their mother! 6 months? Ok, my mother must come too, and stay six months, in the same room as your mother. Then they will do duty roster for cooking and bathing and cleaning. And every time your mother wakes me up to advise me, Oya, my mother will wake up too and advise you. No sleep for anybody.

Nonsense!

I kind of agree with you on the disrespect part. But respect begets respect. I define my space. Solution? Instal a TV for her in her room so she does her thing.

Finally, the concept of omugwo is a traditional “mentoring program” for new mothers, to help them cope with circumstances they are exposed to for the first time. There should be no calendar attached to it. I hear you say 6 months like it’s a written law.
Once the new mother can cope, leave. Don’t be a nuisance. And don’t make the new mother dependent on you so she won’t want you to leave. That is manipulation. Rather teach her what to do and trust her to get it right. Then leave her to live her life.

Mercychen:
This set of generation is the most disrespectful.

Mothers would come for Omugwo and stay at least six months in those days and the husband will be all respectful and thankful. Now, nobody wants our mothers to do their Omugwo as they wish in peace because of one nonsense or the other.

See how you mentioned her watching African magic as if she's a slave who has no right to do so.

Learn to show respect to elders so you too can get there.

FuckSilly:

Very senseless, FOOLISH and irrational post. I wonder who raised you people....

Don't she have work that she has to stay for six months for some nonsense omugwo?

A useless old fool woman will leave her husband for many months to fend for himself all because she wants to do omugwo for her children... How selfish and stupid is that?
Any omugwo that lasts for more than 2 months is GREED! And in that two months, she must go back and forth to also take care of her husband or other children.
ANY WOMAN THAT TRIES ANY NONSENSE LONG OMUGWO WITH ME IS A GONER!

Mercychen:


I'm not talking about the ones who come to deliberately cause trouble. The ones who are really there to help out.



I didn't say 6 months is a written law. I was only citing the longest women used to stay back in the days and no one complained or made it a big issue.

goshikid:


You self try invite your mama make she come stay make the equation balance

goshikid:


You self try invite your mama make she come stay make the equation balance

Mercychen:
This set of generation is the most disrespectful.

Mothers would come for Omugwo and stay at least six months in those days and the husband will be all respectful and thankful. Now, nobody wants our mothers to do their Omugwo as they wish in peace because of one nonsense or the other.

See how you mentioned her watching African magic as if she's a slave who has no right to do so.

Learn to show respect to elders so you too can get there.

Skyview01:


Trust me, most of them are controlling and they want to dictate and manipulate you right in your own home.

I lived with my MIL for more than 6 years and i made up my mind she will never sleep in my home anymore.

If you want to maintain relationship with close family members, never let them live in your home otherwise you will grow to despise each other.

Jaculze:
una own no dey pass sit her down lol

monex:


or your daughter's house

Mercychen:



We all are not perfect.

Sewasaunt:


Truly, no man is an island and no one is perfect but sometimes you need to create boundaries- good boundaries for yourself, your health, your marriage, your mental health and future.

I am talking from experience and it's been years but I am still trying to shake out resentment I built in just a few weeks.

I still struggle to call my mother in law and I certainly don't look forward to having her come to help nurse another baby.

I still remember my Dad telling me to walk properly and be a strong woman (barely 12 hours after child birth and having several stitches in my perineum).

I know they love me and maybe that's how they expressed their love and concern for me at that time but it's not the kind of love I wanted nor needed.

I'd rather just wing through it with my hubby and a paid help next time to reduce house chores so I can focus on myself and family

HitRun:


Go back to school and learn to read. Fool

Kinzo0917:
yout poor parents are fools. Ogede