Maxwell775:
My cousin sister (from my mother's side) who just got admitted into the university have been staying with me for the past 4 months now. I live in a 2 bedroom flat, and my house is just a throw stone to the university school gate.

Due to financial issues she couldn't rent an apartment, so she goes to school from my house. She's 20yrs old, I'm way older than her with abt 10yrs.

Before she started living with me, it was my mother who told her parents that she could stay with me, without my knowledge or permission.

The very first day she was on her way coming to my house, my mother called me and was like her sister's daughter is coming to stay with me bla bla bla.. At first I was upset, atleast she would have informed me. Am not really close to my mom's family people, we have this distance relationship (no hate, no grudges)

Now here is the problem. She likes wearing mini skirts, short gowns and tight trousers or leggings. Infact what she wears indoors is worse, she will put on very hot bum short, crop top and all manner of rubbish!!

Truth be told, I use to have very strong and hard erection whenever she walks. @20 if you see her banging body?? Slim, figure 8, Coca-Cola bottle shape. Her nyash dey clap if she dey walk. I don't wanna be emphasizing on that...But seriously she's tormenting me. Make I no go shift her pant, I don't wanna commit abomination. But mind you, I have a girlfriend.

Nairalanders please, How do I talk to her about dressing decently, without her feeling insecured or impression of a pervert.

davidque:
The devil is applying to rent space in your head. Instead of you to run for your life, you are here asking strangers on Nairaland as if you don't know that your desires are pure evil

Kobojunkie:
Who be the devil in this case? The OP or the 15-year old housemaid?

davidque:

Where did you see Housemaid mentioned in the story

Sunrise258:
Exactly my view. But is it really sinful to do?! In earliest times, cousins marry each other even in the bible. And till today, muslims still marry their first cousins in Arab nations and even, in northern Nigeria.

Kobojunkie:
My mistake.... all these stories are beginning to overlap for me abeg....

I mean is the devil the 20-year-old university studeny cousin, or is the devil the OP who is a 30-year old ?

Stedygrowth:
Op, what you're going through is normal. The response you're experiencing is completely biological in nature, remember, you have not met her before. She, being your cousin's sister, does not in any way, stop from being a woman she is. The problem here is that, there is no conditioning between you two that establish the fact that you guys are sisters, as such, there is a clear prediction that if you have opportunity, you will make love to her.
Based on the above submission, I will suggest you help her find a place to stay. Even if she changes the way she dresses from now on, it will not still change anything, because you have been conditioned already. Until you will not rest. So, to be on the safe side, find a place for her as quickly as possible.
This does not require discipline, it require removing or staying away from the source of the stimulus. If you keep staying, you will do it one day.

Stedygrowth:
Op, what you're going through is normal. The response you're experiencing is completely biological in nature, remember, you have not met her before. She, being your cousin's sister, does not in any way, stop from being a woman she is. The problem here is that, there is no conditioning between you two that establish the fact that you guys are sisters, as such, there is a clear prediction that if you have opportunity, you will make love to her.
Based on the above submission, I will suggest you help her find a place to stay. Even if she changes the way she dresses from now on, it will not still change anything, because you have been conditioned already. Until you will not rest. So, to be on the safe side, find a place for her as quickly as possible.
This does not require discipline, it require removing or staying away from the source of the stimulus. If you keep staying, you will do it one day.

TheManOfTheYear:
Does the laptop power bank come with a solar panel? If yes, how much for the whole package?

candidladyTemp:



God iam ready to trade... Bring back aliyah and lefteye, take this pervert


You are not normal.... Are you guys cursed like em swear for una no no did someone place a spell on y'all

Stedygrowth:
Op, what you're going through is normal. The response you're experiencing is completely biological in nature, remember, you have not met her before. She, being your cousin's sister, does not in any way, stop from being a woman she is. The problem here is that, there is no conditioning between you two that establish the fact that you guys are sisters, as such, there is a clear prediction that if you have opportunity, you will make love to her.
Based on the above submission, I will suggest you help her find a place to stay. Even if she changes the way she dresses from now on, it will not still change anything, because you have been conditioned already. Until you will not rest. So, to be on the safe side, find a place for her as quickly as possible.
This does not require discipline, it require removing or staying away from the source of the stimulus. If you keep staying, you will do it one day.

Emaprince:
so you will allow your daughters to be dressing semi nude infront of your visitors?

Which kind of woke are you trying to form? It shows how much you have failed in their upbringing. Not how much civilised you think you've become. Smh

Stedygrowth:
Op, what you're going through is normal. The response you're experiencing is completely biological in nature, remember, you have not met her before. She, being your cousin's sister, does not in any way, stop from being a woman she is. The problem here is that, there is no conditioning between you two that establish the fact that you guys are sisters, as such, there is a clear prediction that if you have opportunity, you will make love to her.
Based on the above submission, I will suggest you help her find a place to stay. Even if she changes the way she dresses from now on, it will not still change anything, because you have been conditioned already. Until you will not rest. So, to be on the safe side, find a place for her as quickly as possible.
This does not require discipline, it require removing or staying away from the source of the stimulus. If you keep staying, you will do it one day.

Edusouls:
Hei shut up, the girl in question is In fact the worst pevert she is slowly and intentionally seducing his cousin, very soon the inevitable would happen, no wonder the creator abandoned ur species una dey terrible..

candidladyTemp:



God iam ready to trade... Bring back aliyah and lefteye, take this pervert


You are not normal.... Are you guys cursed like em swear for una no no did someone place a spell on y'all

Maxwell775:
As in.. Before she started living with me, I use to wear boxers when I'm home alone But now I dare not except I wanna disgrace myself.

My erection fit tear my boxers. So I do put on jeans or joggers when I'm home with her.

Mercychen:
Next time she dresses provocatively, just shout at her ( like the big bros you are) to go and cover up her body. Simple!

Abovebest:
Cover your face with shame bro

Why will your cousin be tempting you

Imagine your blood sister giving you erection

Ladycewhy:
So if he has a daughter outside wedluck that never lived with him, by your logic he can also have an erection for his daughter as well.

okoroemeka:
One day I was in the sitting room with a friend and my daughter came into the place to plug her power bank as she bent down her pants were clearly visible through the bum shorts what type of nonsense is that i really talked to her seriously on that issue, she can do that in their lodge in school but in my house you must be decent,it is offending to some people and you are talking about erection,you cannot go about semi naked and everybody will be avoiding to look at you even her brothers are complaining bitterly

9japride:
Most comments here are just full of Hypocrisy. Don't you all know that a man is moved by sight? People just make comments just for trolling purpose without being logical. Op you better tell her to dress properly and don't ever feel offended by your statement. The way things are going, it's definitely you guys will eventually have sex. Having two adults of different gender if not your direct siblings in same house is not good especially if one gender is making efforts to look nasty. It's either you give an excuse you are traveling somewhere just to discharge her or you rent another accommodation for her. We are all humans and are prone to temptation. Even some men of God dey fall for the sight of women let alone a regular guy. Na blood dey your body and not water.

Ilekokonit:


Another Good comment.

Allow the hypocrites to carry on their refusal to face the facts on ground.

Instead of giving the guy practical advice devoid of insults, some people are jumping on their high horses and giving sanctimonious holier than thou advice that is devoid of the fact that the OP was not familiar with the wayward cousin to start with.

Nowadays where we read of Pastors being accused of rape and brothers impregnating Sisters, the sanest thing is for the OP not to takes chances with his cousin he was not too familiar with to avoid stories that touch.

Is it not in this same Nigeria that a Redeemed Church Pastors children impregnated themselves with the younger brother impregnating his elder sister ?? or the other case where a 24-yr-old man impregnated his own sister in this same Nigeria
https://www.nairaland.com/1547883/24-yr-old-man-impregnates-sister-calabar

To those religious fanatics who judge everyone but hide under the cover of darkness to practice the same things they condemn publicly, did you even know that Abraham married his half sister Sarah
This is Abraham speaking in Genesis 20:12. NIV - Besides, she really is my sister, the daughter of my father though not of my mother; and she became my wife.

ajog1:
The bolded is it man. They didn't have any childhood experience of innocently playing as relative, and subconscious mental barrier to be irritated by such sensual thoughts. Yet, most of response had been fake-asss response and hypocrisy.

Zulez:
ingrate gender we men are wired like this bcuz of you women's, who cares about woman if not of God that made us like this

toloohthegreat:
Whao! That's your take on a honest outcry....
I think you need to wear glasses and calmly read between the lines.