Jamieb:


I've been in this shoe and I can relate to it. You caught fire so quick while she's yet to fully accept you into her life as a friend.

The funny thing now is, the friendship can never return and things can't be same again. Anything you're doing now would be interpreted as you trying to date her. Just count your loses and move on

Hmmmm

I have experienced this so many times that it made me not to accept friendship with a girl that I have feelings for.


I had an experience dating a Nairalander online for 5 weeks.

Immediately she started to withdraw, I found out and help her do it better

FloatingSeed:
Many will interpret this from different angles and either way, there will still be something to learn from it. Insults too will fly here and there and if it makes me get the thought out of my head, no qualms.

I will concentrate on things I did wrong which I feel is responsible for the present occurrence.

We met 3 months ago online and we started talking . We talked everyday, chat,video, calls name it. She wasn't up for a relationship according to her. Come January, she came down to my side so we can see for the first.
For the first time in my live, I felt at ease with someone I was meeting for the first time. No tension, no pretence.

While copying a code I typed on her phone, I checked through her pics. Why I did that I still can't explain it cos it's something I've never done before nor will day.
I talked about a pics I saw and she flared up about why I had to check her phone. I apologized and everything was back to normal.

She went back the 4th day and communication was still okay till 2 weeks later when I caught feelings for her.
Perhaps my brain was beginning to misinterprete a lot of actions as I feel she's beginning to withdraw . The final straw came when she said we need to talk. Sure we had a high tempo talk which centres on what she feels my friends were doing. You guys get the normal guys whining a lady your guys is speaking with. The normal when are we seeing you again, we are bringing yam stuff ooo.

Like, I'm giving them the impression we are dating while we were not. Right after the talk, in a bid to just end it and get over my emotions I told her I like her and wants to take things further with her.
Of course, her guards shot up and she said it again that she's not looking for a relationship and she's not God, .

I know she has trust issues due to heartbreak from her ex and to be candid I blame myself for getting caught in the wind so fast and not allowing the frenship time to evolve naturally.

If I call her we talk normally but that strain of coldness is still hanging. Chat is even worst, no live in it at all. For the firs time in my life, I actually want to give love a chance but it seems I already messed up everything and there is no redemption.
How best can I possible savage this.
I already anticipate a mix of insults, name calling etc. But then, meaningful advices would still come handy.

Love is a game. It is an illusion. It is a game of manipulation. Take friendship as a good thing. Do your best to stay through as a friend. You'd be surprised later she'll tell you this cliche, "it's not that I don't like/love you but I don't want my heart to be broken again... I have trust issue."

Ọmọ, it can hurt sha ooo. Ati first you just catch the vibes and everything seems so perfect. The next moment everything comes crashing down so fast and worst off, you can't even pinpoint where things went wrong.

ThaThinka:


I love you. Are you happy now?

Thank you I love you too

mitchelle16:

Thank you I love you too

Ha, after all this time! When the love don almost expire.

Ok o, so what do we do with the love now?

mitchelle16:
All I have to say is someone should come and love me please

I'm here baby girl

ThaThinka:


Ha, after all this time! When the love don almost expire.

Ok o, so what do we do with the love now?

Make we use am do doremi

FloatingSeed:


Thanks chief. I've cut of communications for now and I won't get in touch until you reach out

Ofcos U meant until she reaches out. Me, I have done my part to advise you. Nothing more from my side for now