I wish someone would address what the man would like. Sometimes we women think we know what turns a man on and he still steps out on you. Or he sees the little things you do as a "girl thing"

I wish someone would address what the man would like.  Sometimes we women think we know what turns a man on and he still steps out on you.  Or he sees the little things you do as a "girl thing"

give him a massage

so many times i have try without success to introduce my wife to this site in order to spice up our marriage all to know avail, her attitude to some nasty things we used to do before we came together has change but i will still keep on pushing until she see the reason at least we are in it for better and for worse.

These are all really nice stuff posted on this reply.
It just brings a tear to ma eye that mine didnt last long due to situations beyond ma control.

I just feel the best thing to spice up your marriage is to let your man know that he is the only one in your life, the most important being in your life.

Respect him, encourage him and show him your support in everything he does.
If you are gonna argue with him, argue behind closed doors not inf ront of his friends cause that definately undermines his manliness.

Tell him he lloks nice when he looks nice and when all thats done, the bedroom will take care of itself.

Never cease to let him know that there is no better world without him.

Let not the job nor the kids or even relations come between you.

Never be too tired to say yes to his yearnings.

Stroke him gently like your baby, of course he is.

Offer him a shoulder to lean on especially when he is burdened.

Give him a bath once in a while. And keep the flame of love burning regularly through regular love making _{even when you don't feel like doing it}

Married men, please come in and contribute to this thread!

keep the mother inlaw away

yours or hers?

Am learning from this oooooooooooooo

Where are the married men? What makes you guys happy? We need you!

Luish:

Where are the married men? What makes you guys happy? We need you!

Na true talk oooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Married men and young guys,we really need you here,what turns you on and what do you really want?

thumbs up for all the contributors in this thread.

I believe that ladies should study their hussy in order to identify his soft spots.

Giving your hussy the strongest assurance that he is the only sunshine in your(wife) life turns him on. Not only in words but also in deed.

Ladies should equally be willing to study the sexual drive of their hussy, and give him the very assurance that he is performing, if he is not doing too good, you let him know it with a deep felt love that gives him the strength to do more, and above all boosts his ego as a man

this i believe spices up the marriage the more.

One night while your husband is relaxing on a bed go ito the bathroom and take off your cloths then say i got a surprize for you then walk out then he will be happy.

Maximax:

thumbs up for all the contributors in this thread.

I believe that ladies should study their hussy in order to identify his soft spots.

Giving your hussy the strongest assurance that he is the only sunshine in your(wife) life turns him on. Not only in words but also in deed.

Ladies should equally be willing to study the sexual drive of their hussy, and give him the very assurance that he is performing, if he is not doing too good, you let him know it with a deep felt love that gives him the strength to do more, and above all boosts his ego as a man

this i believe spices up the marriage the more.

i think men are truly insecure especially when it comes to their women. so i totally agree that you need to let your husband know when he truly satisfies you and what he is doing right. it'll give him a boost of confidence

Hi Ladies,

I am married with a lovely and glorious daughter so i am better qualified for this discussion.

The most important factor is to understand the strength and weakness of  your man and invest your time and money, to make up for for the weakness and always appreciate him for the strength.

Appreciate him when he showers u with love - when he buys u something,savour your good food and even when 'he hits you hard' .

Make your abode a home not a house - Husband long to go home .This always make him remember he has to be home for the comfort he feels in the home.Encourage him to always forge ahead and you always be there for him.

Ladies, if your personality is far from romance please begin to learn how to be romantic.Due to your role as 'tension remover', you need romantic lifestyle to be able to function effectively.You must know how to turn your hubby to a baby and that you cannot achieve if you aren't romantic.

Don't ever turn down any opportunity you have to go out with him especially when he requests.If you turn his offer down, you want him to ask questions like - why can she go out with me?Are my not handsome? Is she keeping something away from me?.All these questions can never be answered but give room for suspicion.

Adore him with all your body- this gives confidence to the man. There are times i look at my wife and certain level of confidence builds up in me and i say to my self 'this sweet, beautiful and lovely woman is mine alone'. Imagine how this alone can close a man's eyes to husband snatchers.

Ladies,endear youselves to GOD ALMIGHTY.He alone upholds marriage.

For marriage counselling,send to akindeledaodu@yahoo.com

AKINDELE

some people have gone too far to spice up their marriage and end up in tears. some people have married only to find out that they made the wrong choice. you try to walk but something keeps holding you back. you are forced to love , and live with someone who is your worst nightmare. you tried so hard to convience people around u that you just can't do it, the first thing in their heads is that you probably have another one out there ,far from the truth though. you are simply not happy and can't imagine spending the rest of your life in misery. Good luck though to all of you who opt to spice up marriage as someother people tried it and it didn't work. Don't be discouraged, people are different. what didn't work 4 u might be the answer to other peolpe's problems.KEEP TRYING !! .

Sorry, but next time don't marry a jerk. If your hubby is that bad, he must have been quite bad before you got married. You're supposed to open your eyes before you get married and close one afterwards.

Seun, What an ignorant thing to say, Some people change you know?
Anyways be yourself and don't change the man/woman he/she fell in love with! Simply put

@Topic

The best way to spice up your marriage is to give it a break by "cheating" just a little!!!!!!! That way you know what you are missing and what you are not missing!!! No matter how you spice it up with one person, it really does not get any better. Just try a different flavor once in a while

_{-----------without hurting the other partner you know--privately!!!!}

what really works for us is when we talk about those courtship days and the funny things that happened then. We had a relatively long one, so relieving those memories always brings back the good times and give us room to seek improvements in all angles.

Well, I have spiced mine--y'all should go and spice yours as you deem fit!

@ almondjoy

To spice up is not about hiding secrets from your hubby as you do.Accept my sympathy on your head for the kindof marriage you are in.

I will help you to get the services of a councellor to help you to really spice up your marriage.

You jobless cyber bird.

is almondjoy married? if so, to who? a man or a woman?

omena555:

is almondjoy married? if so, to who? a man or a woman?

Almondjoy is married to a man actually. It is just that she is very unhappy in the marriage and she wants everyone to be unhappy and secretive to his/her spouse as she is.

She really needs to be ignored.

Frankies:

@ almondjoy

To spice up is not about hiding secrets from your hubby as you do. Accept my sympathy on your head for the kindof marriage you are in.
I will help you to get the services of a councellor to help you to really spice up your marriage.

You jobless cyber bird.

omena555:

is almondjoy married? if so, to who? a man or a woman?

Frankies:


Almondjoy is married to a man actually. It is just that she is very unhappy in the marriage and she wants everyone to be unhappy and secretive to his/her spouse as she is.

She really needs to be ignored.

He he he he he he he he he he he!

Thank you! At least "Frankies" the all knowing nitwit knows I am "unhappily married to an unfortunate man".   As you can see, this thread has been cleaned up and about 8 pages of it deleted.  Please face the topic and do not give the administrators more work to do. 

I may be unhappy according to Frankies, but unlike him--I do not masturbate to spice things up.

Like I said--I have spiced my boring unhappy marriage, go and spice yours!

I am married and i can tell u the MAJOR things we men want .

If u are married or a single lady and u want to keep ur relationship or marriage sweet there are two major P word u have to hold very very close to ur heart and mind .

1 : POWER , a man wants power . he want to be the actual head of his home or relationship . so for a woman ,u have to make him feel he is in absolute control . A man , if he cant be the president of his country , the governor of his state or the CEO of his company , he want to be all that at least in his home . A woman can get the best of his man if she gives him that feeling that he his the man . never raise ur voice at ur man . a woman can get what ever she wants in a relationship if she first submit .

2. PEACE , A want wants absolute peace . Out there might be rough , the job , work, education , extendend family but the home or relationship should be the refuge , where a man longs to go after every had days job. Never ever nag him . if u want to have something or wants to make ur point clear , do it with a lot of wisdom . Someone said once in the thread that u wake u man up in the middle of the night to tell him how much u love him . That is very very ver wrong . never wake ur man up in the middle of the night when he is getting all the rest he can after a days job .



Those are the major P words . However, to spice up the romantic side , its simple . ladies try as much a possible to maintain that girlfriend kind of life . dress like a girlfriend ,talk like a girl friend and keep the kids away sometimes . if u behave like a girlfrend , he will always remember to threat u like one i.e taking u out and buying u gift and satisfy ur sexual needs .
U might want to say how do i behave like a girlfriend .

Difference between girlfriend and wife .
, wife always talk about the kids and reminds the man about the house financial responsiblity girlfriends, no kids and no home
, wife relax too much and feels he is mine forever why worry girlfriend trys to keep the man cos of competion outside
, wife has tendency to grow fat , girlfriends keep trim
, wife dont bother to look attractive to the men . girlfriend always try to remain as attractive as possible
, wife allow the kids to take more of their attension , girlfriends , no kid



well those are my points . it works for me but i wish my wife can read this so that we can have even better marriage . u will say why cant i tell her all these . the truth is it is alot better if she discovers herself . u know there are somethings u wont find easy telling ur wife especially telling her what to do when it comes to things like this .

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sorry before i forget, to butress my point on the POWER[b][/b] aspect . if u as a lady, u knows more ( smarter or more intelligent) than ur husband or guy or u are more educated or got better paying job , never ever show it to him or flont it at his face . Never tries to outshine him in a converstation of arguement . if u do , he will find a way of quiting the relationship if u not already married or finds solace outside if already married .

niceman:

sorry before i forget, to butress my point on the POWER aspect . if u as a lady, u knows more ( smarter or more intelligent) than your husband or guy or u are more educated or got better paying job , never ever show it to him or flont it at his face . Never tries to outshine him in a converstation of arguement . if u do,

he will find a way of quiting the relationship if u not already married or finds solace outside if already married.

Is that right?

That is very right . that is why most of all these lady high flyer dont get hooked on time or never will cos they dont know that to catch a man or make him stay ,u have to really submit to him .

remind her how much u love her . Men dont need much of that but women do more than u can ever immagine .